Punting has made me care less about civvy women. Dating seems like a lot of effort and the last woman I bothered with cost me a lot of money but never even got close to serious enough for sex before I'd had enough of her leeching ways.
This. I mean, in an ideal world I'd be that guy from the start of Belle du Jour's first book, the one who is dating the nympho MILF that first hires/seduces Belle into having a threesome with her. But IRL I have proven to be the male equivalent of the fat chick with the bad hair, skin, eyes and attitude. I last tried dating 2013-15 and found to my surprise that I'd gained enough social skills to actually get dates, if I spent a million years sending out messages online/asking women face-to-face first.
But after slogging through all that, all the dates themselves were without fail a failure (i.e. things progressed no further), regardless of how I thought they went, and I've not bothered since. Now, I was shagging prossies throughout that time, so I wasn't desperate for sex, more companionship. In any case, the minute I stopped asking civvies out 2016-17 I had a couple of ones who sounded interested (probably because when we met I showed no interest in them, which must have been a novelty) and even boffed two of them. From that I concluded once more that women are erratic and have all the power in dating, and that if I absolutely must operate in a society that heavily constricts men's sexuality (and does so more each year with this #MeToo shite being just the latest moral panic about men), I'd rather shag a prossie. At least that way I know how much I'm getting screwed by. Or not, as is usually the case when you're dating, and have invested far more effort and time than you do into a punt.
Not everyone's situation will be the same as mine, as all sorts punt, with all sorts of prospects. Doubtless for some punters, a bit of P4P is just the occasional treat (and indeed, I knew an American who could pull women quite frequently, having even had his then-wife's best friend's booty on a platter) rather than the main way they get laid, etc etc. And I would certainly say that punting helped me get better in bed and out of it with civvy women. But you have to understand that in my case it is from a very low base, and doesn't generally mean more than I've reached the social development stage that most people my age passed through 5-10 years ago.
Still, it's the married guys who could still pull civvies but who are trapped in a dead bedroom that I feel sorriest for, as if they have an affair the judicial system with RAEP them right up the arse, without lube. Yet they are expected to either blow up their marriages or live a life of secrecy and deceit. No wonder marriage rates have collapsed across the West with that kind of deal.
