That's bad luck, particularly with all the travel and planning you'd put into it. To be honest though, I know the WGs on UKE moan about bad punters but like you I always send an email detailing what I want, as often as not things listed in the likes, often actually written in the description, only to find when you get there and mention one of the requests and they look at you like some sort of ogre.
One of my things is that I like to share a shower before we get started proper, it's always in the email with things like CIM, 69 etc, and I always say that none of the requests are deal breakers but let me know if there are any issues and then I'll know what to expect. I've never had one reply suggesting that any of the requests are off the menu but it's probably only a 50/50 chance of getting a shared shower, "because of my hair" the usual excuse, like they were bald two days before FFS! I don't demand things that are against their wishes, but putting things in the likes and confirming that it's okay in an email should be enough to make you confident you'd made the right choice.