Any newbie tips to prepare for an appointment?

[sweetsoo]

Hi folks

First post here, and I'm hoping i can benefit from your collective wisdom!

I've booked an appointment with Amazing Anna External Link/Members Only

By all accounts, she deserves her name, and she looks gorgeous.
I really want to make the most of my time with her, and that's where I'd like your help!

Is there anything I can do to prepare for our date which will help make the experience pleasant for both of us? Is there anything you usually do before a date?

Of course, the basics are a given:
 - Be clean
 - Be nice
 - Be respectful

Got those covered.

My main worry is that I'll be too nervous in the company of such a lady.
This is only my second ever date with an escort, and the last one didn't go entirely smoothly.
I was nervous as hell, and the girl did her best, but although I had fun, I wasn't able to finish.
Does this happen to any of you guys? How do you deal with it?

Thanks all!
 

[delta69]

take a deep breath and read this External Link/Members Only

[stevedave]

Take a deep breath and shag her, that's why you're handing over the cash.

She'll know the score, just crack on pal.

[sweetsoo]

Thanks Delta. 

Yes, I've been back and forth over that page (and this forum) many times in the last couple of weeks.
It helped get me to the point where I could book my first punt last week, and finally to book time with the stunning Anna.
I really didn't think my nerves would let me get that far!

[madmania]

External Link/Members Only

That's a top resource - to be honest I'd check out all the main articles in the punting wiki it's a great guide to everything you should know (and things to look out for)

In regards to not cumming, don't worry it's common. The girl won't care as long as you don't get visibly frustrated. If you have fun then that's all that matters.

Not to judge you but it's a common thing with guys who don't get much sex - as their hand is the only thing their dick knows they find it hard or impossible to cum when they first start having sex, either first time ever or first time in a while. If can be even more the case with a wg/stranger because you skip everything and fast forward to sex which can make you uncomfortable in their presence.

Key thing is relax. Next is don't have a wank for at least a week before your appointment, and that's minimum the longer the better. And cut porn because it's more visual stimulation than you get irl. Final thing is if sex isn't working then oral/hand relief is more likely to get you results.

As with everything in life practice makes perfect so take baby steps if you have to - go from you wanking, to her wanking you off, to oral and then onto sex.

Before you know it you'll be wearing a gimp mask and inhaling her shit whilst you are suspended upside down by your balls like the rest of us

[sweetsoo]

Take a deep breath and shag her, that's why you're handing over the cash.

She'll know the score, just crack on pal.

Sage advice indeed

Hopefully the little fella downstairs is taking it on board...

Cheers!

[sweetsoo]

Not to judge you but it's a common thing with guys who don't get much sex - as their hand is the only thing their dick knows they find it hard or impossible to cum when they first start having sex, either first time ever or first time in a while. If can be even more the case with a wg/stranger because you skip everything and fast forward to sex which can make you uncomfortable in their presence.

Hit the nail squarely on the head with this....

Key thing is relax. Next is don't have a wank for at least a week before your appointment, and that's minimum the longer the better. And cut porn because it's more visual stimulation than you get irl. Final thing is if sex isn't working then oral/hand relief is more likely to get you results.

Yes, I'll keep this in mind. Thanks! Unfortunately, I'm about 6 days too late to abstain for a week so one wank-free day will have to do...

Before you know it you'll be wearing a gimp mask and inhaling her shit whilst you are suspended upside down by your balls like the rest of us

Ha! Can't wait!   

Thanks MadMania. You are a true oracle!

[AnthG]

My main worry is that I'll be too nervous in the company of such a lady.

Just remember and keep at the front of your mind. The girl doesn't care how good you are, how big you are, how funny you are, or anything else.

She cares that you pay the right money, and you do not act like a twat during the booking. Anything else she does not care. She really doesn't care one bit.

If you remember this, it will help reduce nerves somewhat.

[NervousJ]

I'm only a few months in mate...

The hardest part I found was making the journey and waiting in the car until  it was time to make the long walk...

Tbh, once you are through the door you're basically home and dry, I think that's the hardest part. It felt a bit awkward at first knowing what to do, but a good working lass will know this, let her earn her money and take control until you get into it....

It's dead easy to forget you are there for a bit of fun and to shag her senseless....I've never suffered with stage fright, but I'd say good advise to lay off the right hand for a couple of days...better to come quickly than not at all I'd say...

Good luck and enjoy....

[PleadInsanity]

One thing i would say is to think about what you want during your time and convey that info to her at the start, she will likely ask what you like, don't be shy, tell her.

Good luck

Oh and don't forget to give a review afterwards

[somefun]

I presume you noted that generally on here Romanian's often disappoint.  There are exceptions, but don't be fooled by her AW feedback, there is a lot of cross pollination of profiles - look how many times dick head as provided feedback to anna and how many times he gets feedback from the same girls that are Romanian.  There are three reviews on here but two are from people with few posts  / reviews so be careful this girl is not a sure bet as a first punt.

A girl collecting AW feedback as quickly as this is sometimes a winner but often a sign of fake feedback.

[punk]

[quote author=sweetsoo link=topic=119782.msg1369510#msg1369510 date=147932963

Of course, the basics are a given:
 - Be clean
 - Be nice
 - Be respectful

Thanks all!
[/quote]

Wash your cock and bell end.

[catweazle]

Just remember and keep at the front of your mind. The girl doesn't care how good you are, how big you are, how funny you are, or anything else.

She cares that you pay the right money, and you do not act like a twat during the booking. Anything else she does not care. She really doesn't care one bit.

If you remember this, it will help reduce nerves somewhat.

This. You're not a boyfriend/fiance/lover. You're the Barclaycard payment, the deposit on next month's Benidorm trip or the new iPhone 7.

[webpunter]

And dry it on her curtains ..

Wash your cock and bell end.

[punk]

And dry it on her curtains ..

Excellant advice.

[sweetsoo]

Thanks chaps. This is all great advice which I will keep in mind.
I'll be sure to report back after the fact 

[NervousJ]

Always to check you have your phone, car keys wallet and anything else you have in your pockets, just before you leave...l

[pewpewpew]

Be on time. Give her the money before she asks. Avoid Romanians, at least until you have had a few good experiences. Read her profile thoroughly. If there's something you want that's not on her likes list you can always ask but don't be upset if she says no. Confirm the services you want and the price/time before handing over the cash. Some less scrupulous girls have all kinds of shit as a like but when it comes to it it's all extra £20 darling, your 5 inch cock is too big for that darling, my friend made the profile for me darling etc

Can't be bothered to read up but someone already said getting in the door is the hardest part. This is true. It's nerve racking but once you're in you're in the right place and will be ok. Just remember, although you mentioned it being a date a few times, this is strictly business, for you and for her. Don't be fooled by a GFE. You want whatever you want from the experience and she wants money so don't worry about offending her or making sure she enjoys herself to the detriment of your own enjoyment or anything (unless that's actually what you want from a punt), just be honest about what you want and it's her job to make it happen.

Good or bad leave a review here. It really does help lower the number of bad experiences for all of us

[webpunter]

OP - we await your 1st review.  We'll then be pleasantly surprised that you're not having xtra time off after half-term

[mrhappypants]

OP - we await your 1st review.  We'll then be pleasantly surprised that you're not having xtra time off after half-term

+1

[Silver Birch]

Be on time. Give her the money before she asks. Avoid Romanians, at least until you have had a few good experiences. Read her profile thoroughly.

Whoops! That's a non-starter with his chosen wg then 

[OakTree]

Is there anything I can do to prepare for our date which will help make the experience pleasant for both of us? Is there anything you usually do before a date?

At the end of the day it is only a fuck you're going for. Don't fall into the trap of overthinking it all. It really is just a fuck.

Once you see it for what it really is, nervousness soon dissipates.

[kamu]

- Be clean
 - Be nice
 - Be respectful

Be clean and "act" nice and respectful. Be assertive and watch out for typical prozzie tactics to rip you off. These are wg's not your everyday civvie so as long as you pay your money, are clean and pleasant and dont expect a service they dont provide should provide you with a satisfactory service.

Most importantly stop being a walloper, pay your money and enjoy yourself without worrying about stuff that isnt worth worrying about otherwise your just throwing money at them for nothing!

Dont forget to review!

[NervousJ]

And if she's fucking hanging or a belly down to her knees, don't be afraid to walk... It's something I'm learning, there's a few these past two months where I wish I had and saved my £60...

[Gordon Bennett]

And if she's fucking hanging or a belly down to her knees, don't be afraid to walk... It's something I'm learning, there's a few these past two months where I wish I had and saved my £60...

She's exactly as per her profile/photos. OP will have no worries on that front.... Presume he knows she's 6' tall though - quite a sight when she slinks towards you in her lingerie to greet you. She gave me a slow and fluffy GFE just as I wanted so our nervous newbie has probably picked the right sort of lady to pop his escort cherry with.

SO SORRY! I'VE COMPLETELY MIXED UP MY AMAZING ANNAS!!!!!! I SAW AMAZINGANNA NEAR BLACKPOOL....... DIDNT REALISE THIS WAS A DIFFERENT ONE!

[PleadInsanity]

When is this soirée taking place,soon?

[sweetsoo]

Good morning gents!

Thanks once again for all of your advice.

I did meet with Anna, and had a wonderful time with her.
My own hangups and issues remain, but Anna dealt with them well. She seemed keen for me to be able to relax and enjoy myself. Hopefully I'll get better at this the more ladies I visit.

I will post a review, and will link to it here once it's done. It will likely be fairly brief, and from the unusual perspective of a nervous newbie, but it will certainly be positive!
For now, I'll say that she is the lovely lady in the profile pics, and her description of herself is accurate. She has a great personality, and the way she spoke matched the way the profile was written. Her services are as advertised, and she is very good at what she does.

A thoroughly enjoyable experience!

[PleadInsanity]

Glad it went well Sweetsoo

[Rockhead]

Nice one sweetsoo!

If you continue to have problems 'finishing', there's a whole wealth of advice and discussion on this thread: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=82996.0

That said, I thought madmania summed it all up very well in his post.

My main pre-punt thought is not to go in with any specific expectation of your own performance i.e. whether you cum three times or not at all, just get as much enjoyment out of it as possible.

[sweetsoo]

Cheers Rockhead! I've had a look at that thread and the advice seems good. Will give it a try!

I've posted the review, but managed to post it in East Midlands instead of East of England by mistake!
Does anyone know if it can be moved to the correct area?

link: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=120063.0

[madmania]

Good morning gents!

Thanks once again for all of your advice.

I did meet with Anna, and had a wonderful time with her.
My own hangups and issues remain, but Anna dealt with them well. She seemed keen for me to be able to relax and enjoy myself. Hopefully I'll get better at this the more ladies I visit.

I will post a review, and will link to it here once it's done. It will likely be fairly brief, and from the unusual perspective of a nervous newbie, but it will certainly be positive!
For now, I'll say that she is the lovely lady in the profile pics, and her description of herself is accurate. She has a great personality, and the way she spoke matched the way the profile was written. Her services are as advertised, and she is very good at what she does.

A thoroughly enjoyable experience!

Glad you had a good time man congrats on plucking up the courage and going at it.

As said before forget your performance and make sure to get what you want and enjoy it. Glad Anna was accommodating to your needs.

Maybe only bit of additional advice is once you find a girl who puts you at ease keep seeing her - the more familiar you are the easier it will be every time. That way you don't start from square one after every punt 

Be careful about EAS though, no judgements but some of the things you say border or not recognising the difference between a GF and GFE. As long as you realise this is ultimately a business transaction you won't end up hurt. It's better in the long run

[sweetsoo]

Thanks Madmania.

Yes, I do think familiarity might help, and I certainly intend to book another session with Anna next time  she's in my neck of the woods.

I'll also heed your advice about not getting attached, but I don't think that will be an issue. I have zero interest in having an actual partner. Seeing an escort seemed like an excellent way for me to get the fun parts of the GFE, with none of the hassle of having to actually share my life with someone. Very happy with my freedom, thanks 

I think some of the words I choose are partly due inexperience. You mentioned my use of the word date for example, which I'd seen used on adultwork, and on some escort's profiles, so had carried it over to my post. Partly also due to my own tendacny to avoid directly talking about intimate stuff. I'd much rather say "date", or "appointment", than "prostitute fuck-fest" 

I can certainly see how one could become drawn into the fantasy though, so I'll be sure to keep an eye on myself.

Cheers!

I can certin

[sweetsoo]

So, the review hasn't gone down too well. Think I'll leave the reviewing to the pros in future...

[NervousJ]

Ha ha ha, don't take it heart mate... I first read it, and generally it starts off ok, it just starts to go wrong when you say I won't go into what we did...

That's what I think anyway, Im new to this reviewing game, but generally try to follow what others have written. The more info the better, which helps others if they want to visit said girl...

Best advise, is get back out there and try again, and do another review.....


Well done for taking the first step through the door though...I know how tough it is....

[PLeisure]

Ha ha ha, don't take it heart mate... I first read it, and generally it starts off ok, it just starts to go wrong when you say I won't go into what we did...

That's what I think anyway, Im new to this reviewing game, but generally try to follow what others have written. The more info the better, which helps others if they want to visit said girl...

Best advise, is get back out there and try again, and do another review.....


Well done for taking the first step through the door though...I know how tough it is....

+1

Sweetsoo - there's no such thing as a "professional reviewer" on UKP. Did you consult the Punting Wiki (links below)? There's a dedicated post on writing reviews.
Declaring "I'll leave this to others more qualified" - or words to that effect - places you in an even more vulnerable position for harsher criticism.
fwiw, the comments you've received have been intended as constructive. Draw from that and try again. Everyone's first attempt at most things were awkward... swimming, bicycling, punting. You're no different.

Bottom line: this isn't a cheap hobby. Clients need to know their hard-earned ca$h is being directed to the most suitable providers, hence the demand for realistic information on a WG's service.