Yes I am the 40 year old virgin (+5) about to take my first punt

[alabama1]

Good luck in your endeavours, but once up pop it there's no going back. I've been a regular for 10 years now. But best advice I can give you is do your research always get the best rated SP's. Also be careful it can get an expensive hobby and some girls are very manipulative, just have the confidence to say 'no' or if a situation doesn't feel right just leave!

On here of course, not AW. Out of interest, could you give an example of a WG being manipulative ?

[Jazzy99]

"I don't think I could get addicted to the lifestyle of punting..." I'm not sure about this part, once you realise you can get sex on-tap from girls of every shape, size, colour, age and creed way above your league.

[Fush]

I wasn't going to reply as it keeps the thread active, but since it's at the top, I might reply anyway

Think of it this way.  How much might you spend on a date with a civvy?  Tickets to an event, meal, drinks, taxi, etc.  Given inflation its going to be a couple hundred for a full night out these days and that comes with no guarantee of a shag at the end of the night, or any kind of ongoing commitment.  At least this way you know exactly what you're getting (mostly).

That's a good point.

Good luck in your endeavours, but once up pop it there's no going back. I've been a regular for 10 years now. But best advice I can give you is do your research always get the best rated SP's. Also be careful it can get an expensive hobby and some girls are very manipulative, just have the confidence to say 'no' or if a situation doesn't feel right just leave!

Thanks. I know what you mean about research, as I have been disapointed before. Just because a lady is in your area on a day your available doesn't mean she is the right choice. Also now realise to sometimes take others reviews with a pinch of salt, what they like isn't necessarily what you like, and they may be after different things. Equally with ladies without face pics, just because they are attractive to the reviewer, doesn't mean you will find them attractive.

"I don't think I could get addicted to the lifestyle of punting..." I'm not sure about this part, once you realise you can get sex on-tap from girls of every shape, size, colour, age and creed way above your league.

I do see your point, although while I've sampled a little of this, I don't think I've been going above my league enough if that makes sense!

[ohsnap]

first time reading this thread - read the first post then saw you have done 5 reviews! welcome to the dark side haha. Glad it worked out

[Fush]

first time reading this thread - read the first post then saw you have done 5 reviews! welcome to the dark side haha. Glad it worked out

Thanks! It's certainly been eye-opening, just wish I had got it 'out of the way' earlier as could of took advantage of a number of civvy opportunities I didn't pursue. Wallet is definately much lighter now though

[ForkEscort]

Thanks! It's certainly been eye-opening, just wish I had got it 'out of the way' earlier as could of took advantage of a number of civvy opportunities I didn't pursue. Wallet is definately much lighter now though

to be fair mate, it'd probs be even lighter had you started with the civvies earlier and i'd wager you'd have had a lower success rate when compared to SPs. 

the number of civvies that i've dated short-term probably adds up to a larger money and time investment than what i've spent on escorts over the same period and the romantic and emotional connection has probably been about the same in most cases i.e. fairly minimal for the most part excluding all LTRs i've been in. 
may skew more toward a "better" (more genuine or whatever) emotional/romantic connection with the civvies fwiw but imo and in my experience, SPs are probably more efficient if you're just looking for a shag and the connection, false or not, that comes with it.

the ratio of successful civvy shags is way worse (for me and probs for most people) than the ratio for SPs.  i cannot speak for all but i have fucked/had a sexual experience with 100% of the SPs i've spent money on - wish i could say the same for the civvies as i generally do not date for the "fun" of it (way more enjoyable ways to spend time than small talk over a social activity imo) but it's probably not even 50/50.

not saying that there isn't any value in civvy engagements or that i don't enjoy them - just, if what you're after is/was primarily physical, i'd say with some confidence that SPs are a more efficient and, if you stay in control of it, more cost-effective pursuit over time.

maybe this is a self report and i should work on my dating techniques

[Fush]

Appreciate your thoughts ForkEscort, thanks

[pomp]

On here of course, not AW. Out of interest, could you give an example of a WG being manipulative ?

I personally had a experience of a SP sending me threating messages hence 'manipulative' part after giving her a negative review on here (;

[Son of the Desert]

Just came across this thread which really cheered me up. 

I'm so pleased that you've finally been able to discover the pleasures of having sex and that generally you've had a good time having it. I lost my virginity to an escort over 30 years ago in the days before the internet.  How I would have loved the opportunity to take such advice as the guys on here have offered. 

I'm at the other end of the sex journey now but still learning.  What I learnt all those yerars ago was that it's much easier to build a relationship with a civvie once you've had that first time experience with an escort so you're not desperate to go to bed with any female who even looks at you and you'll be confident that if you do get asked to take the plunge, you'll at least know vaguely what to do.  Mind you from what you've said, you seem to be getting pretty experienced now which can only be to your advantage in civilian life!  Just enjoy the women you meet whether paid for or otherwise, don't feel obliged to fuck or punt to any sort of schedule, just as you feel the need, if it's not a great punt, just take your pleasure as best you can but if it is a great one (usually because the girl has enjoyed herself as well, i've found) store it away as one of life's great experiences.  Don't be afraid to widen your boundaries but remember it's you who is important.  She's offering you sex without strings in exchange for cash.  she'll enjoy the money.  Make sure you enjoy her body.

I'll make sure to follow your reviews as they really take my thoughts back a long time...

[Fush]

Just came across this thread which really cheered me up. 

Thanks

It's good to think we live in an age when all this is possible. While I've mentioned that I should have lost my V-Plates a long time ago, the world would have been a different place then and it would have been tougher. Rather than a great experience for my first time it could have been behind the bike sheds or whatever at secondary school, or some drunk chic at a bar or whatever.

At least (I hope anyway) like you said this will help me in my civvy life as well. At least I feel I can join now if the conversation in the workplace turns to sex. I used to hate a people chatting about their experiences and trying to think of something to come up with if it came to me. While these experiences may have been escorts, which is nothing to be ashamed about, at least I can now join in and relate.

Thanks for the other advice too, all useful and for others who might come across this thread too.

[BillT]

While these experiences may have been escorts, which is nothing to be ashamed about, at least I can now join in and relate.

DO NOT under ANY circumstances, tell a single person in real life you have seen an escort.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!

Not even your Doctor!

Its catastrophic to your social life and even potentially your work life. Ive never spoken of my visits over the years. But Ive seen guys who have, and it never goes well.

[daviemac]

DO NOT under ANY circumstances, tell a single person in real life you have seen an escort.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!

Not even your Doctor!

Its catastrophic to your social life and even potentially your work life. Ive never spoken of my visits over the years. But Ive seen guys who have, and it never goes well.

Staff at the GUM clinic need to be told you see escorts when you go for your regular check up, likewise your doctor if it's relevant to why you are seeing them

As far as the rest goes, it very much depends on your personal circumstances, as a naturally private person I don't talk about punting but it wouldn't be a major issue if it came out.

[Munter84]

DO NOT under ANY circumstances, tell a single person in real life you have seen an escort.

Agreed. If pressed, just say it was a casual Tinder hookup. For some reason no-strings-attached sex is socially acceptable, just as long as money doesn't change hands.

On UKP we talk about punting without batting an eyelid but don't underestimate how "funny" people in wider society get about paid sex. It could seriously scupper a workplace for you, or a future relationship.

Not even your Doctor!

I would tell a sexual health professional. My normal GP? Nope.