Will I stop punting?

[LeedsGent]

Like many on here I started punting do to the lack of action in the marital bedroom.  I generally go for the GFE, I really don’t like mechanical service.  Naturally before I found this site I had a few poor punts.  I quickly ended up on Seeking and found my current SB.  She is great and perfect for me (I would marry her if it was an option) which is why I don’t punt often.  I have learned that as much as I was missing sex, I also need a connection.  I now know that ultimately, I cannot be happy with punting and sugar babies.  I intend to get a divorce and look for something better in a traditional relationship.  Lets say that, I am in a long term relationship with someone younger, hotter, great in bed and I am getting plenty.  I would I still want or need more?  I would like to think that if I am happy I would not contemplate it.  Does anyone have any experience?

[DastardlyDick]

I would start off by working out the financial implications of a divorce - as a minimum you're looking at the cost of a home for yourself or the ex.

[LeedsGent]

I have planned this carefully and part of the reason I have not gone yet.  I am hopping to be poorer but happier.  A trade-off I am happy to make.

[Chazz]

In answer to your original question LG,

"No".

 

[Adoniron]

I have planned this carefully and part of the reason I have not gone yet.  I am hopping to be poorer but happier.  A trade-off I am happy to make.

My divorce cost me a lot of money.

It was worth every penny.

[deg_dilemma]

My divorce cost me a lot of money.

It was worth every penny.

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Exactly. I never quite understand why guys stay with the wrong woman for the sake of money. I'm sure they must have their reasons, but I have seen friends suffer for years (some 20 years+) by staying in a very horrid, stressful, sexless marriage just because they didn't want to split the finances.

[Charliehutton]

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Exactly. I never quite understand why guys stay with the wrong woman for the sake of money. I'm sure they must have their reasons, but I have seen friends suffer for years (some 20 years+) by staying in a very horrid, stressful, sexless marriage just because they didn't want to split the finances.

Then again, if it wasn't for sexless marriages, we might not have much of a forum.

[big-al93]

You might, while things are going well, but every relationship has it's ups and downs and you now know how easy it is to get a transactional encounter.

As they say you can't put the genie back in the bottle.

You will probably compare every potential partner to your SB also, so may struggle to settle down into a new relationship. Might be a good idea to check if you can give up the SB before leaving your wife?

[LeedsGent]

You are right about the genie, which is why I am asking the question.  My concern is that I find someone I really like, we get on well and are having great sex, I would like to think that I could be faithful.
I am not conflicted about leaving my wife or worried if things will be better after the split.  I cannot imagine reconciling with my wife in 12 months.  At least if I am single, I have options to look for someone new.  I will be comparing every new relationship to my SB.  I am planning to continue to see her whilst looking for my next long-term relationship.  I am hoping that whilst I am getting sex from her, I won’t be desperate and settle down with the first lady I date. 

[macman26]

Like many on here I started punting do to the lack of action in the marital bedroom.  I generally go for the GFE, I really don’t like mechanical service.  Naturally before I found this site I had a few poor punts.  I quickly ended up on Seeking and found my current SB.  She is great and perfect for me (I would marry her if it was an option) which is why I don’t punt often.  I have learned that as much as I was missing sex, I also need a connection.  I now know that ultimately, I cannot be happy with punting and sugar babies.  I intend to get a divorce and look for something better in a traditional relationship.  Lets say that, I am in a long term relationship with someone younger, hotter, great in bed and I am getting plenty.  I would I still want or need more?  I would like to think that if I am happy I would not contemplate it.  Does anyone have any experience?

Mate problem is that so many women would lose interest sex all their hormones dry up or they go on birth control which has a similar effect...  then you left in a position that you are now trust me this happens!!!   They want babies. They will shag your brains out. Years and years of no sex.. 

Personally, the best advice is to find I could arrangement three or £400 a month couple of times a month with some communication and trust... also remember she will be doing other people as well so you need to be happy with that and don't get too attached. 

The moment you feel any attachment to her other than a business arrangement or the signs that she is attached to you - you say goodbye to her...

Also make sure if an arrangement site she's got birth-control sorted or you've had the snip

[LeedsGent]

Personally, the best advice is to find I could arrangement three or £400 a month couple of times a month with some communication and trust... also remember she will be doing other people as well so you need to be happy with that and don't get too attached. 

I have a fantastic arrangement at the moment, which I am happy to continue. I am hoping for more.

[Davey80]

I think its a real conundrum. I have what is now a zero sex marriage but still a loving relationship.

So there is no prospect of passing any STI/STD and I am a very cautious punter - e.g. no DFK and no OWO.

In my mind I have compartmentalised this hobby to something like 3D live porn (how I justify it to myself anyway).

But if I was also having sex with someone I loved? I’d stop this in a heartbeat.   

[Plan R]

  I salute anyone who's been through or about to go through a divorce and still wants emotional intimacy with a woman.
By 50ish, the fairer sex had beaten all those romantic notions out of me, Now its strictly business - sounds like a line from The Godfather 

[LeedsGent]

I am hopeful that I can get a fit girl who likes sex as much as I do, someone I love to spend time with out side of the bedroom.  It is the only thing keeping me going at the moment.  I may be being very ambitious.  At lease I am now old enough and wise enough now to know what I want.  It may take me a while to find the right person, I don’t intend to settle this time.  I will just enjoy the journey.

[Chazz]

I am hopeful that I can get a fit girl who likes sex as much as I do, someone I love to spend time with out side of the bedroom.  It is the only thing keeping me going at the moment.  I may be being very ambitious.  At lease I am now old enough and wise enough now to know what I want.  It may take me a while to find the right person, I don’t intend to settle this time.  I will just enjoy the journey.

The very best of luck to you sir!
 

[Bum Lovin Criminal]

I think its a real conundrum. I have what is now a zero sex marriage but still a loving relationship.

So there is no prospect of passing any STI/STD and I am a very cautious punter - e.g. no DFK and no OWO.

In my mind I have compartmentalised this hobby to something like 3D live porn (how I justify it to myself anyway).

But if I was also having sex with someone I loved? I’d stop this in a heartbeat.  

Afraid to say you may be fooling yourself.   Once that punting bridge has been crossed, it's been blown up, bombed and burnt to the ground along with our ability to

be ever satisfied with a monogamous relationship.  Mistress punting will forever be sat rent free in your mind like Sharon Stone flicking her legs with no knickers on.

Just like the thread..."Once a punter"....we "always a punter"..

[Coco96]

I think this information should always be viewed when making a decision on women.

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[The_Don]

I think this information should always be viewed when making a decision on women.

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[Mr Sinister]

Afraid to say you may be fooling yourself.   Once that punting bridge has been crossed, it's been blown up, bombed and burnt to the ground along with our ability to

be ever satisfied with a monogamous relationship.  Mistress punting will forever be sat rent free in your mind like Sharon Stone flicking her legs with no knickers on.

Just like the thread..."Once a punter"....we "always a punter"..

Exactly, once you get exposed to this world and what goes on around it there's no such thing as "quitting", as long as you're healthy to get it up and fuck you merely take a break

[PumpDump]

Lets say that, I am in a long term relationship with someone younger, hotter, great in bed and I am getting plenty.

Eventually she will become like every wife, not hot anymore , not interested in sex anymore, and you are back to square one but older and very poor because wife #1 took everything. Plus only rich fuckers like Jeff Besos can score young hot girls after they leave wife #1.

[victor989]

Separating from my wife after 30 years of marriage was the best thing I ever did, even
with selling the home and going 50/50. I am no longer interested in relationships but
prefer to punt freely, which i can now do.

[maybe]

I think this information should always be viewed when making a decision on women.

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an excellent link! cracked me up

[maybe]

Eventually she will become like every wife, not hot anymore , not interested in sex anymore, and you are back to square one but older and very poor because wife #1 took everything. Plus only rich fuckers like Jeff Besos can score young hot girls after they leave wife #1.

I feel this is the truth of the matter. Once the initial spark dims a bit after some time (4-12 months?), you may end up where you are now.

[Doc Holliday]

Eventually she will become like every wife, not hot anymore , not interested in sex anymore, and you are back to square one but older and very poor because wife #1 took everything.

May I ask if that is based on your personal experience?

I feel this is the truth of the matter. Once the initial spark dims a bit after some time (4-12 months?), you may end up where you are now.

If you begin a relationship and the spark dims after just 4-12 months then surely you wouldn't proceed to marriage?