Do you think punting has made you braver, in general?

[DouglasReynholm]

I haven't started a general thread in years and I couldn't find an existing one about this by searching.

I'd say: yes and not just with punting. I think it's the experience of defeating the fear every time in the early days. I've never run from a punt! Not that that's a big deal.

I remember when I started punting regularly in January 2018 I'd lose my appetite before a punt and go to it with an empty stomach. These were just normal punts with AW SPs, not threesomes or anything unusual. I could not stop thinking about the punt the day before, often wondering if Sergei would be there with a .33 in his pocket! Had a few dreams about climbing out windows down drainpipes - some of them were funny though, like Confessions of a Taxi Driver.

Now it's like going to the shop. A knocking shop. I kind of miss feeling scared, funnily enough. & Despite being over 40 and single I'm less worried about approaching women, because whatever happens I can rent one and I won't be needy. Punting seems to be very good for my health.

[ShadowProclamation]

For me punting has many parallels with job interviews. You research a job (or SP) you want, but may need to apply for several before a meeting is set up. You then need to plan how to get there and what time to set off. You get washed and scrubbed up on the day. Then you need to find the place and get there in good time. On the way a toilet visit may be required as the caffeine and nerves start to kick in. Once in the interview or meeting, it can go great; okay; or badly. Afterwards you go to a cafe or pub to reflect on what just took place. I felt less fear, the more interviews I went to. The same with punting. Has it made me braver? Not really.

[scouting]

I think repeated exposure to any experience builds confidence in it. I've now been punting for 20 years, in the early days I was somewhat intimidated and was too shy with the lady. That didn't last long     Never had the nerves you describe regarding the meet, but was much more nervous of being found out. These days it's as straightforward as calling in at the local shop, other than the shower first. I probably enjoy myself more than ever, probably because of the confidence I've gained.

I reckon I've probably spent in the region of £40k. Would have cost more if I had continued clubbing looking for a fuck.

[bangstick]

I used to look forward to it, sure thee's the apprehension if it's one you haven't been to before, but yes the getting yourself ready and prepared just like a decent interview or meeting.

I've got some health issues to sort out first and then it'll be my first time in many many years but that's probably a month away as things stand.  The anticipation just added to the thrill for me.

[GoodLookinGuy]

I'm quite chilled about it now. I remember the early days walking up to a parlour, nervous as hell, I could feel my heart racing with nerves and excitement but also being wracked with guilt about it. Now the nerves and the guilt is gone, it's just an enjoyable experience.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Do you mean braver in punting or in life in life in general? If the latter then no, not at all, as not sure how punting experiences and life in general can be related 

Not sure whether braver / scared is the right word that you become over time... I think confident would be closer, but I get where you are coming from OP

I loved the early days of punting and the nervous excitement... which is the phrase I would put to it.

As you say, that wears off over time as you become more confident.

[Mr Garmin]

I would say that it's boosted my confidence with girls no end.

In my 20's I was shy and awkward and didn't know what to say to them and I definitely missed out on quite a few opportunities.

Probably a result of age, experience & demographics, but I'm no longer intimidated and have way more female friends (platonic) than ever before.

I think that knowing that a really good shag with an attractive girl in her 20's or 30's is just a phone call and £150 away means that I can adopt a take it or leave it attitude.

If only I'd known this 30 years ago

[southern punter]

This afternoon I ordered myself a fetish/kink wardrobe so I can attend a night next weekend and try to build some kink scene stuff into my civvie life.  Can't imagine I'd ever have taken such a step without exploring my sexual tastes via punting.  So there is that.  I still need to find the bravery to actually put it on, go there and talk to people mind you

[Hornydevil666]

I actually find the getting naked part the most awkward part, is she judging my fat bastardness, or ugly mug etc but I know I reality she has 100x worse than me and is really only interested in my paperwork, so get over it pretty quickly. 🤫

[Iceman90]

It’s certainly made me more confident with civvys. And there’s never that fear of the girl you’re dating blocking or rejecting you because you can book an absolute stunner for sex at anytime.

[Stevelondon]

Yes I am now as brave as a lion in a field of sheep. Nervous sheep mind you but you get my drift.

I can walk up confidently to people in the street and just say hello for no reason.

Not the done thing in London. I heard one mum say to her young child as she grabbed her hand and hurried away from me,
“Don’t be scared my heart, he’s probably a northener”

[Chazz]

I don't know if I'm any braver, Mr Reynholm, but certainly after a decade of punting I now longer give a flying fuck about things that used to worry me. As a younger man I was much more timid and keen to conform to social norms. Nowadays you can measure my concern for such bollocks in microgivashitz.

[Chazz]

Yes I am now as brave as a lion in a field of sheep. Nervous sheep mind you but you get my drift.

I can walk up confidently to people in the street and just say hello for no reason.

Not the done thing in London. I heard one mum say to her young child as she grabbed her hand and hurried away from me,
“Don’t be scared my heart, he’s probably a northener”

Hehe! I moved away from "that London" 20 years ago, and when I visit I forget that it's not the done thing to start conversations with random strangers in the street. I usually remember just as they start to recoil in horror as if I've just threatened to stab them rather than simply exclaiming, "Ayeup mi duck"!

[Dylanbob]

I think it's a double edged sword.

One the one hand - you have confidence because it means you can be with a hot young 20yo whenever you want.

On the other you sometimes don't bother because it means you can be with a hot young 20yo whenever you want.

[simon07]

Punting has definitely increased my confidence and my ability to chat with hot women in civvy street. If the women is not keen to share rapport, not an issue. I have had lots of hot women over the last nearly 20 years.

My issue is as i get older and my prostate messes me about, i wonder how long i can be that self assured?
I often ask what would Mick Jagger do (though he has fame and tons of money)?

[jesse4585]

Not braver as such, if anything my flaw has always been leaning a bit towards recklessness.  But punting massively increased my confidence with women. I'd try chatting them up as a teen but get tounge tied or stutter even though I didn't normally do that even at job interviews etc.  But a couple of dozen punts in the 90s sorted me out. Didnt even need to be punt once in my 30s or most of my 40s due to finally getting success with civvies, mostly a LTR.

[8MillionDollarMan]

It's made no difference to me in general.

[R-man]

Not for me, no. I used to be chronically shy and although mostly gotten over it, like the OP did, I get pretty nervous before a punt (more about logistics and safety etc than the actual shagging lol) and really need to unwind after; I usually go to a cafe, get a brew and just chill for an hour.
Strangely, I'm absolutely fine while in the actual meeting. Then I end up thinking about it for a few days after as it fades from memory.

It's one of the reasons I don't punt all that often, because I'm an over-thinker. 

Can't see this changing as it will probably be an occasional hobby for me.

[summernirvana]

I'm very shy and introverted.

But when punting I become assertive and very low inhibition.

I have no problem walking when I detect bait & switch practices, walking past hotel reception knowing full well the staff probably know I'm there for a fuck when I'm coming or going.

I also rather enjoy the hunt, the search for a service provider that fits my criteria (natural looks, slim, location and rates), the logistics of working out how to get there (I take public transport mostly), knocking on the door, chit chat before and after punts - which I often find some service providers are easy to get along with.


It's like I ephemerally become my own version of Tyler Durden at times.
It's a good escape valve, a holiday for the body and mind for someone like me.

[Darren101]

Ditto to the above. Introvert.  I've become less shy to women

Not good with the whole meeting people thing or relationships. Not been in one for yonks but now I won't feel nevous around beautiful women thanks to our little hobby. Always hated being called shy when I was young.

[Colston36]

I haven't started a general thread in years and I couldn't find an existing one about this by searching.

I'd say: yes and not just with punting. I think it's the experience of defeating the fear every time in the early days. I've never run from a punt! Not that that's a big deal.

I remember when I started punting regularly in January 2018 I'd lose my appetite before a punt and go to it with an empty stomach. These were just normal punts with AW SPs, not threesomes or anything unusual. I could not stop thinking about the punt the day before, often wondering if Sergei would be there with a .33 in his pocket! Had a few dreams about climbing out windows down drainpipes - some of them were funny though, like Confessions of a Taxi Driver.

Now it's like going to the shop. A knocking shop. I kind of miss feeling scared, funnily enough. & Despite being over 40 and single I'm less worried about approaching women, because whatever happens I can rent one and I won't be needy. Punting seems to be very good for my health.

No. It removes the courage required when trying to get a woman you don't pay. The bonus is you can ask a pro form things that many women find too filthy, bizarre or extreme - a chief reason I like whores.

What kind of health do you mean? Mental? Physical? I guess it's better someone pays than rapes or forces.

[DouglasReynholm]

I did mean life in general, life apart from punting because getting braver at punting is bound to happen. You're sure to lose the nerves you had when you started, if you keep at it. In the beginning I went to a few scary places, [worst were in Luton] I'd found the girls on sites like Locanto I think it was called - and even Friday Ad?! I joined UKP after a month or so of punting and realised AdultWork was much more reliable than VivaStreet and the others. And obviously the reviews were worth their weight in gold. 

I think it's a double edged sword.
One the one hand - you have confidence because it means you can be with a hot young 20yo whenever you want.
On the other you sometimes don't bother because it means you can be with a hot young 20yo whenever you want.

You should put that in one of your songs Bob, they haven't been much good lately. I'm too old to chat up hot 20 year olds, because I don't want to be the guy that chats up women young enough to be his daughter. I would shag them though! Hot 30 year olds, no problem.

Hehe! I moved away from "that London" 20 years ago, and when I visit I forget that it's not the done thing to start conversations with random strangers in the street. I usually remember just as they start to recoil in horror as if I've just threatened to stab them rather than simply exclaiming, "Ayeup mi duck"!

Yep. I used to work there, never lived there, never would. Foreign country, they do things differently there. Southern women outside London can be approached, but they like you to do it designated areas: bars, pubs, clubs and in the evening rather than the day. I've never chatted anyone up in Waitrose, it just doesn't feel right. Maybe I should try.

[Munter84]

Getting into punting has been a learning experience, and it feels good to have conquered my fear of something that was initially incredibly daunting.

Has that carried over into other aspects of my life? Hard to say, but I would guess only slightly, if at all. I don't believe my personality or attitude toward risk or failure has massively changed in the last 3 years or so. Other events in my life have had a much bigger influence. I deliberately keep punting very separate to everything else.

[standardpostage]

Not braver, but, a bra (remo) ver 

[DouglasReynholm]

& Speaking specifically on whether it's made me braver approaching civilian women, I'd say yes because rejection by them just means I go and book an SP. I take it better than most men anyway; I always think, well, it's not like they can decide who they fancy any more than I can.

I'm quite chilled about it now. I remember the early days walking up to a parlour, nervous as hell, I could feel my heart racing with nerves and excitement but also being wracked with guilt about it. Now the nerves and the guilt is gone, it's just an enjoyable experience.

I kind of miss that fear! The danger is always genuine though: punting isn't fully legal and Sergei really might be there with a .33! Going to a new girl at a new address I still get the secret agent feeling, with my false name, anonymous SIM card, trying not to get seen. James Bond did shag every woman he met. Unless she was Grace Jones, which I can understand.

[SonofAJohn]

It has made me more anxious about bareback sex . I was unknowingly hooking up/barebacking escorts way before my punting days started last year.

[Stevelondon]

Anybody know who Tyler Durden is ?

[Chazz]

Anybody know who Tyler Durden is ?

I could tell you, but I'm not supposed to talk about it.

[twotight]

its definitely made me braver at walking away if I don't like what I see

[DouglasReynholm]

I could tell you, but I'm not supposed to talk about it.

"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." - that'll be why you see so many tramps in 5 star resorts in the Maldives.