Fetish sex.

[dieseldriver]

Anyone here also interested in the fetish scene? Like BDSM, spanking, and similar? Many years ago I used to meet some ladies that were into it and the sex was the best ever. As for me, I was always the top although some ladies wanted to switch. As for the tribute, reasonable at the time. So like to hear from anyone still in the fetish scene as well as normal punting

[jamiekinkxxx]

Me! 

[Irfaan]

Me. Used spankee finder twice. Rates are really high now and theres nothing sexual available.

[jamiekinkxxx]

I am an active member on FetLife. Great place to find (if albeit a tad harder for guys) fellow kinkster / fetishists

[ulstersubbie]

I've been involved in the BDSM scene for nearly thirty years, what aspects of kink are you interested in OP?

[dieseldriver]

Me. Used spankee finder twice. Rates are really high now and theres nothing sexual available.

Yes, looked that.  There was a BBW on it couple of years ago who only done outcall. Met her in the Ibis Thurrock.
 Great sex as well as spanking her fat bum. Sadly she flew the nest.
 

[dieseldriver]

I am an active member on FetLife. Great place to find (if albeit a tad harder for guys) fellow kinkster / fetishists

Was on Fetlife myself few years ago. Getting a 1/1 meeting was impossible! Just too many men all looking for the same.
 But I did attend a party in a place behind the services on the M2 once. Not sure if it was a FL party or another spanking club? Got so fed up trying so left.

[dieseldriver]

I've been involved in the BDSM scene for nearly thirty years, what aspects of kink are you interested in OP?

At one time I used to go to spanking clubs events. Red Stripe, Peaches, and Moonglow. I was still going to the Red Stripe parties when the club owner got murdered. Got stabbed by someone who found a stash of money in his house. Can't recall the full details of how it happened?  I enjoyed the spanking clubs parties. Met a few ladies who also done 1/1 as well as the club's.

[jamiekinkxxx]

At one time I used to go to spanking clubs events. Red Stripe, Peaches, and Moonglow. I was still going to the Red Stripe parties when the club owner got murdered. Got stabbed by someone who found a stash of money in his house. Can't recall the full details of how it happened?  I enjoyed the spanking clubs parties. Met a few ladies who also done 1/1 as well as the club's.

Sounds like a wicked event... NOT!

[TomTank]

Years ago I was very involved in the Manchester scene and occasionally in Leeds.
I had some fantastic fun with some lovely ladies, at Kage, The Manchester Dungeon, Mars, and a few events in Leeds (Club Quest had 3 really good ones a month).

However I got to an age where I clearly wasn't in the game, and it was too much time and effort.
Much easier now to pick a girl and time, and pay for an hour of fun with her, then piss off and get on with my life .....

[Colston36]

Anyone here also interested in the fetish scene? Like BDSM, spanking, and similar? Many years ago I used to meet some ladies that were into it and the sex was the best ever. As for me, I was always the top although some ladies wanted to switch. As for the tribute, reasonable at the time. So like to hear from anyone still in the fetish scene as well as normal punting

Offhand I'd say if it isn't kinky/fetish of some kind, I don't bother, but I did live and was very happy with someone for 8 years who was pretty straight.

[Stevelondon]

I can’t say I was ever heavily involved in any fetish or BDSM scene.

But I certainly met a few people over the years who were.
Pro doms and subbies.
Attended one or two events, parties etc.

I still keep in touch with some friends and meet up for a beer/munch every now and then. Have some comical stories I can tell.

Used to go to the LFF regularly too if anyone recalls it.

Still enjoy a little bit of kink play nowadays but have always had a preference for the more erotic and sexual style of play as opposed to pain/humiliation etc.

[jamiekinkxxx]

I can’t say I was ever heavily involved in any fetish or BDSM scene.

But I certainly met a few people over the years who were.
Pro doms and subbies.
Attended one or two events, parties etc.

I still keep in touch with some friends and meet up for a beer/munch every now and then. Have some comical stories I can tell.

Used to go to the LFF regularly too if anyone recalls it.

Still enjoy a little bit of kink play nowadays but have always had a preference for the more erotic and sexual style of play as opposed to pain/humiliation etc.

100% with you Steve.

I get this from my go-to kinky playmate. Pro-Domme, but we met in different ways and I am lucky that I get that from her. The kink scene so wide and varied that I think the BDSM just doesn't explain it well enough. I would term myself a kinkster way before a 'sub', 'switch' or 'dominant' which I can play all three but doesn't really sum me up and my kinks.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Latex is a massive fetish of mine. Love sex whilst me and a fellow kinkster are both encased in latex.

[dieseldriver]

Any kinksters use Spanknet? Contacted lots of female spankees. All to no avail. And those that did reply to my message for a meet wanted a deposit by way of Amazon voucher. Something not prepared to do. Too many scammers! Once received get blocked Iv heard stories of. As for the Doms, not interested. Seen some badly marked bums on Spankingtube.
 
 

[The Monk]

A recent booking with a AW SP as I was laying naked face up on the bed she swats on me with one of my legs between her thighs she place a hand under my knee raises it against her pussy and starts grinding on my knee cap and leg with her other hand foundling her breast looking me straight in the eyes and moaning. It was fucking kinky erotic and hot has fuck. I could fell and see the pussy fluids on my skin as she grinding away. She used the other hand on my hard on which was dripping with my pre come as she grinder away and edge me it’s my new erotic kink for sure.

Back when I was in my 20s a girl I dated love sharing a bath with me she was a very open book and would show me things she did to master ate when she was growing up and one which mirrors the above was grinding herself along the edge of the bath, push her pussy up against the vibrating washing machine during the spin cycle. She once sat on her bike seat naked lubed the point part of the seat and started grinding her self on it as I watch fucking blowing up watching 💦

[akauya]

I am an active member on FetLife. Great place to find (if albeit a tad harder for guys) fellow kinkster / fetishists

  

[Colston36]

I am an active member on FetLife. Great place to find (if albeit a tad harder for guys) fellow kinkster / fetishists

The reason it's hard to find is that men outnumber women 10 to One. If you're old like me, utterly impossible. Over 8 years I have had three meetings with possibles: none all that interesting. It was a woman who put me on there. The bitch. Actually she was known as the most hated domme in the South West.

[jamiekinkxxx]

The reason it's hard to find is that men outnumber women 10 to One. If you're old like me, utterly impossible. Over 8 years I have had three meetings with possibles: none all that interesting. It was a woman who put me on there. The bitch. Actually she was known as the most hated domme in the South West.

It's a hard slog for us guys, as you say, we are seriously out numbering the women, but it is possible, very possible and then you have some gems to play with for nowt some of the time.

[contentguy]

Any kinksters use Spanknet? Contacted lots of female spankees. All to no avail. And those that did reply to my message for a meet wanted a deposit by way of Amazon voucher. Something not prepared to do. Too many scammers! Once received get blocked Iv heard stories of. As for the Doms, not interested. Seen some badly marked bums on Spankingtube.

There are a few legitimate, established SPs on Spanknet that have their own website or advertise elsewhere.  But most adverts are more interested in deposits than anything else.

[jimbobted]

There are both submissive and domme escorts providing full service if you know where to look. KLE Collective is one such site, AW also of course.
I enjoy meeting subs. I'll either book someone who advertises as such. Sometimes I have vanilla punts and if the girl seems that way inclined and asks what I'm into I will tell her. This has let to some great impromptu Ds sessions, including the memorable occasion an absolute stunner who I'd have been more than happy with a vanilla session shouted "fuck off, get in!" or words to that effect when I mentioned BDSM and upended her bag to present rope, cuffs, clamps, flogger and a riding crop.
I've also had taken girls to dungeons for proper BDSM sessions. None of these have been girls that advertise such services, 2 had extensive experience from their private life but for 2 others it was their first ever dungeon experience. They enjoyed and saw them again. If I click with a girl and we get on I'll sometimes ask if she would consider a BDSM meet, being very clear boundaries are always respected. If she says no then I never mention it again.

I've dabbled in fetlife but not had any traction. Though one of my first time dungeon escorts told me she'd organised a gangbang for herself through that site (for free, not working). Just left her door open, set out snacks for the guys and go pros to record it. She said one guy walked in and went "wayhayhay". I said I bet he did when he saw a blonde stunner in her early 20's getting fucked senseless and not a fat bored old housewife! Lucky barstewards!

[jamiekinkxxx]

It is very obvious why many girls will not opening advertise sub services, but will be up for it if they feel comfortable with you.

[Stevelondon]

I see a massage lass who lets me tie her to the bed. Just cos SHE loves being edged.
But I’ve known her for yonks and as Jamie would surely agree with me. It’s down to trust.

[jimbobted]

Totally down to trust, both ways. She needs to be comfortable and confident her limits will be respected absolutely, and I need to be comfortable and confident she is going to lay those out clearly, and speak up if at any point she changes her mind.
I don't like passive "subs", it's not fun like it is with a girl who actively participates and also I can't be sure she's actually enjoying herself.

It's also why I don't mention BDSM stuff unless the girl openly advertises it. Wouldn't be fair her getting enquiries of that nature.

[davidgood]

Anyone here also interested in the fetish scene? Like BDSM, spanking, and similar? Many years ago I used to meet some ladies that were into it and the sex was the best ever. As for me, I was always the top although some ladies wanted to switch. As for the tribute, reasonable at the time. So like to hear from anyone still in the fetish scene as well as normal punting

I have always had an interest in spanking from a top perspective.

I used to love looking at ads on Spankee Finder and ITC personals. Made contact with a few ladies but never got to see them for various reasons. An exception was one who advertised on ITC. She was a real part timer who used to come up to London from time to time to work with a friend in her dungeon on Commercial Road but offered solo sessions at a reasonable price. I saw her several times and had good fun with her and got on well with her. Like many spankees it was no full sex, but she would give hand relief.

Since then I have been able to find several ladies who, once you got to know them, would be happy to receive chastisement and allow you to finish with full sex, even anal sex. I bought riding crops for a few of them, for me to use at our meetings.

I am still in touch with a couple of them but others have disappeared over the years. 

Regards,
davidgood

[Irfaan]

Whats the kle collective site?  Googling brings up a band

[Waterhouse]

Kinky London Escorts

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[S.X. MacHine]

Without BDSM punting would lose much of its appeal for me. That said, I have concluded that, in Edinburgh at any rate, it is an activity confined to a very small percentage of punters.
To be clear, I do get the impression that the number of punters who enjoy being dominated or spanked by a mistress, far exceeds those who prefer to do the spanking. I am only interested in administering the spanking.
I see three masochistic WGs locally and one who travels up from the North of England. This works well for me, though I am always on the look out for new sub WGs; without much luck though.
We are fortunate to have a dungeon in Edinburgh which is well equipped for our nefarious hobby.

[davidgood]

Without BDSM punting would lose much of its appeal for me. That said, I have concluded that, in Edinburgh at any rate, it is an activity confined to a very small percentage of punters.
To be clear, I do get the impression that the number of punters who enjoy being dominated or spanked by a mistress, far exceeds those who prefer to do the spanking. I am only interested in administering the spanking.
I see three masochistic WGs locally and one who travels up from the North of England. This works well for me, though I am always on the look out for new sub WGs; without much luck though.
We are fortunate to have a dungeon in Edinburgh which is well equipped for our nefarious hobby.

I agree it is difficult to find subbie WGs who charge a reasonable rate. I am wondering if the one who travels up from the North of England is one that I know.

Regards,
davidgood

[S.X. MacHine]

I agree it is difficult to find subbie WGs who charge a reasonable rate. I am wondering if the one who travels up from the North of England is one that I know.

Regards,
davidgood

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[cunningman]

I agree it is difficult to find subbie WGs who charge a reasonable rate.

Why would anyone provide that, except at a significant premium?

Anyone who seeks that can pick and choose on fetlife, and my understanding is that the level of trust required is significant and that the relationship with Master is complex.

[jimbobted]

Why would anyone provide that, except at a significant premium?

Anyone who seeks that can pick and choose on fetlife, and my understanding is that the level of trust required is significant and that the relationship with Master is complex.

Because they enjoy it/are curious? None of the girls I've taken to dungeons have charged me a premium. In fact one gave me a very significantly discounted rate of £600 for an overnight in a dungeon (I didn't ask for a discount, simply asked what she proposed as a fee).
In the same was as a vanilla meet doesn't make her your girlfriend, so a BDSM meet doesn't make me her "Master" outside of the session. In any case the whole "Master" thing is just one aspect of BDSM (and not really my kink).
But you are right, it's all built upon trust, confidence and mutual respect.
Just as people explore their sexuality in civvy life, there's no reason why WGs and clients cannot explore their sexuality in a professional setting, provided both are comfortable and that trust is there.

[S.X. MacHine]

Why would anyone provide that, except at a significant premium?

Anyone who seeks that can pick and choose on fetlife, and my understanding is that the level of trust required is significant and that the relationship with Master is complex.

In my experience, the girls who offer BDSM services are very much into kink in their personal lives, and who actually enjoy the submission/spanking/bondage aspect of what they do.
That said, there has to be a process of learning the limits and preferences of the submissive, whether she is a WG or an enthusiastic amateur. Trust needs to be established. Accordingly, the meetings do give greater satisfaction as their numbers increase.
Apart from one BDSM  WG who visits from England a couple of times a year, the ones whom I see do not charge a premium, although one factors in the cost of dungeon hire.

[davidgood]

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Thanks, it is not who I thought it was. I will add  Dani to my HL.

Regards,
davidgood

[Mr_Shins]

I have a kink and fetish which is well known. I have never quite got the "scene" though which appears to assume you have to belong to their set of rules, i.e. you are expected to be either a "domme" or a "sub" and follow the rules of being one of those. It also appears that your fetishes are supposed to be based around some kind of special clothing style.

I was only told 3 days ago though that a common sex position I adopt is common and has a name (Folding deckchair).

[S.X. MacHine]

I have a kink and fetish which is well known. I have never quite got the "scene" though which appears to assume you have to belong to their set of rules, i.e. you are expected to be either a "domme" or a "sub" and follow the rules of being one of those. It also appears that your fetishes are supposed to be based around some kind of special clothing style.

I was only told 3 days ago though that a common sex position I adopt is common and has a name (Folding deckchair).

It is incorrect to state that one has to be a dom or a sub. Many participants in BDSM are switches, i.e. they like to assume both roles at different times.
I think the ‘special clothing style’ to which you refer, is a matter of personal choice. I like my submissives to be naked, preferably collared, when being disciplined.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Labels within the  BDSM scene are (out)dated and TBH in the circles I mix they are not really followed.

In ProDomme world yes, but in true life no.

I am a kinkster way before I am a Dom, sub or even a switch... I just do not relate to those labels and many that I play with do not either. 

[Murray Mint]

I seem to somehow have missed this post, but I guess it’s not too late, and offer my response now.

I’ve always enjoyed submissive women and a bit of bondage, but never really looked upon that as much of a kink. It’s certainly not something I seek out with every punt!

I’ve seen several SPs over the years who overtly offer a submissive service, whether it be just restraint, or sensory deprivation, use of nipple clamps, controlled orgasm etc. I’ve tried spanking and the application of more severe corporal punishment, but applying it doesn’t do a lot for me (although it’s pretty erotic to watch it being done.)

The best experiences I’ve had have been with SPs who, once I’ve got to know them, have allowed me to tie them and more, even though it’s not a declared ‘like.’

With one such SP I have myself switched and submitted to domination by her from time to time, and allowed her to use ‘toys’ on me, including hot wax, a TENS machine, a urethral probe, and even a (very small!) strap-on. I also submitted to receiving water sports from her, which was actually incredibly erotic. It was carried out in the open and she’d gone to great lengths to ensure that her urine was completely flavourless. Unfortunately, I no longer see her. It was always a bit of a journey to get there, and since covid I haven't regained the will to travel that far, but this post has revived my interest!

[jamiekinkxxx]

I seem to somehow have missed this post, but I guess it’s not too late, and offer my response now.

I’ve always enjoyed submissive women and a bit of bondage, but never really looked upon that as much of a kink. It’s certainly not something I seek out with every punt!

I’ve seen several SPs over the years who overtly offer a submissive service, whether it be just restraint, or sensory deprivation, use of nipple clamps, controlled orgasm etc. I’ve tried spanking and the application of more severe corporal punishment, but applying it doesn’t do a lot for me (although it’s pretty erotic to watch it being done.)

The best experiences I’ve had have been with SPs who, once I’ve got to know them, have allowed me to tie them and more, even though it’s not a declared ‘like.’

With one such SP I have myself switched and submitted to domination by her from time to time, and allowed her to use ‘toys’ on me, including hot wax, a TENS machine, a urethral probe, and even a (very small!) strap-on. I also submitted to receiving water sports from her, which was actually incredibly erotic. It was carried out in the open and she’d gone to great lengths to ensure that her urine was completely flavourless. Unfortunately, I no longer see her. It was always a bit of a journey to get there, and since covid I haven't regained the will to travel that far, but this post has revived my interest!

Happy New Year!

Do you have a link to the SP you mention above in your last paragraph?

[Stevelondon]

I have a kink and fetish which is well known. I have never quite got the "scene" though which appears to assume you have to belong to their set of rules, i.e. you are expected to be either a "domme" or a "sub" and follow the rules of being one of those. It also appears that your fetishes are supposed to be based around some kind of special clothing style.

I was only told 3 days ago though that a common sex position I adopt is common and has a name (Folding deckchair).

Jeez……. It took me an eternity befure I could sit on a bloody deck chair ….. last time I was at the seaside.

If I’m going to try the folding deck chair position I better book more than an hour 😂

[Stevelondon]

A recent booking with a AW SP as I was laying naked face up on the bed she swats on me with one of my legs between her thighs she place a hand under my knee raises it against her pussy and starts grinding on my knee cap and leg with her other hand foundling her breast looking me straight in the eyes and moaning. It was fucking kinky erotic and hot has fuck. I could fell and see the pussy fluids on my skin as she grinding away. She used the other hand on my hard on which was dripping with my pre come as she grinder away and edge me it’s my new erotic kink for sure.

Back when I was in my 20s a girl I dated love sharing a bath with me she was a very open book and would show me things she did to master ate when she was growing up and one which mirrors the above was grinding herself along the edge of the bath, push her pussy up against the vibrating washing machine during the spin cycle. She once sat on her bike seat naked lubed the point part of the seat and started grinding her self on it as I watch fucking blowing up watching 💦

I have tie and tease sessions with a SP.
Me tied to the bed spread eagle. She did exactly the same thing. Humping my leg and looking straight into my eyes. She was getting off and I wasn’t kind of thing.
Sexy as fuck though.

[Firetruck30]

I have a very odd fetish that I love watching a lady getting  her hair done at the hairdressers. Managed recently to get a SP to let me blow dry and use her straighteners on her hair and its something  I really enjoyed. Had another SP who put a wig on me and done my hair and some Make up.Getting sissyfied is also a difficult thing these days to find?

[Stevelondon]

I have a very odd fetish that I love watching a lady getting  her hair done at the hairdressers. Managed recently to get a SP to let me blow dry and use her straighteners on her hair and its something  I really enjoyed. Had another SP who put a wig on me and done my hair and some Make up.Getting sissyfied is also a difficult thing these days to find?

I used to get my hair cut by this pretty young thing. Have to admit I did find the whole thing rather pleasant. Until one day she suddenly stopped the trim and slapped me around the head. She grabbed the gown that was over me and shouted out,
“This old lech is having a wank………”

Only to find I had been cleaning my glasses 😱

It’s a joke……. Only a joke 😂
I only ever wanked after I got home.

As for what Firetruck says. There is a fetish of sorts for everything. Nowt wrong with something that pleases you.
If it’s sissyfied your after. I know Mistress Rose in Farnborough has a liking for that kind of play.

[sparkus]

A FB I used to see was ''for hire" with BDSM. She used to see various FBs she was attracted to for just vanilla sex and get paid by anyone for non-penetration fetishism. Said she got off on it and nice side income, met interesting people etc.

She used to show me her message box on the site she used. FFS.

[The Monk]

I was in Amsterdam just lately for a long weekend and visited a SP recommendation from this guys in the a sex shop, he messaged her and set me up for later that day. He said I told her you into watching female masterbation which is my one of my kinks.

Now this was amazing she has this chair she lays back on legs speed and pussy in full display she starts by asking me to like her out to warm up. She rubbed some water based lub on her clit and started massaging her clit with a bit of peeled ginger root did not take long and she was screaming skimming in sexually pleasure told me to fuck her as she continued, it’s was mind blowing insane she love it me to.

I enjoyed so much I booked her 2 days later before my flight home this time was ice cubes in my mouth on her clit and pussy just as amazing

[S.X. MacHine]

Being paid to masturbate.
Dream job!

[Stevelondon]

I’ve had this in tie and tease sessions. In 69 position with the SP’s pussy inches from my face as she wanks herself.

Also used to see a CL lass who loved masturbating while I rubbed her feet. In the days when adverts didn’t get closed down so yonks ago. Bit of harmless kink 😂