Seeking vs my current regular girl

[exe-punter]

Hi All,

I have contemplated seeking for a while, and had a few conversations with girls on there, but never come to an arrangement. I'm not sure whether it's going to be much of an improvement over what I am doing currently, so would request advice from you lot please. What I currently have in hand:

I meet a girl once or twice a month when she is visiting from another city, pay for an hour, and we have amazing sex. If I am meeting her in an evening, we will get drinks together after, or we might get a takeaway and eat it at her hotel room. If we meet during the day, afterwards we will grab lunch together. Sometimes she pays, sometimes I pay, sometimes we split the bill. Sometimes we will go around the shops together afterwards (like a couple but without the bullshit) and she might buy me a small treat here and there (only a few quid). When we are out together, we are doing so as friends and are hands-off.

Aside from that, I have access to her personal mobile, and we whatsapp regularly just to shoot the shit. She is very honest with me..we know each others proper names, she's shown me pictures of her family, and I know lots of personal details about her etc etc. I feel that there is a big amount of trust between us and we are genuinely friends. And all-in-all, it's great!

If I was to move onwards into an arrangement via seeking, am I going to get anything more than what I have currently? Thanks in advance for any advice!

[scutty brown]

Sounds like you've fallen in love.
When are you going to buy the engagement ring?

[southcoastpunter]

Hi All,

I have contemplated seeking for a while, and had a few conversations with girls on there, but never come to an arrangement.

I meet a girl once or twice a month when she is visiting from another city, pay for an hour, and we have amazing sex.
If I was to move onwards into an arrangement via seeking, am I going to get anything more than what I have currently?

what more do you mean? more sex? more times? overall pay less money?

Have you read some of the "seeking" threads on here - that will give you an idea of how most guys on UKP use Seeking - which is often very different from how you are.

(edit - because of how many guys on here use seeking (ie just for sex) you will get a lot of comments like scutty brown's)

[exe-punter]

Sounds like you've fallen in love.
When are you going to buy the engagement ring?

Lol. Definitely not in love. She has a BF (in fact I have met him in passing), and we know exactly what the score is. Seeking isn't love as far as I am concerned, which is why I am drawing a parallel with escorting.

[exe-punter]

what more do you mean? more sex? more times? overall pay less money?

Have you read some of the "seeking" threads on here - that will give you an idea of how most guys on UKP use Seeking - which is often very different from how you are.

(edit - because of how many guys on here use seeking (ie just for sex) you will get a lot of comments like scutty brown's)

Well at the moment, I pay for an hour of this girl's time, and we might overrun by a bit, but I don't take the piss. So it would be nice if sexually, things lasted a bit longer per meet. So I suppose I am saying paying less per hour?!

[bdyno]

Well at the moment, I pay for an hour of this girl's time, and we might overrun by a bit, but I don't take the piss. So it would be nice if sexually, things lasted a bit longer per meet. So I suppose I am saying paying less per hour?!

Find a cheaper escort and booked her for longer 

[southcoastpunter]

re=reading your original post and just to clarify - this girl is someone you met on Seeking?

You say you pay for an hour - that is an arrangement of a sort and with someone from seeking its more a "escort" arrangement than a "SB" which is less likely to be time bound in such a way.

Talk to her about things. she might be flexible on that side of things - ie give you a bit longer. You don't give any details of what you pay her - you will have to consider whether you think its good value or not.

[updownandaround]

Hi All,

I have contemplated seeking for a while, and had a few conversations with girls on there, but never come to an arrangement. I'm not sure whether it's going to be much of an improvement over what I am doing currently, so would request advice from you lot please. What I currently have in hand:

I meet a girl once or twice a month when she is visiting from another city, pay for an hour, and we have amazing sex. If I am meeting her in an evening, we will get drinks together after, or we might get a takeaway and eat it at her hotel room. If we meet during the day, afterwards we will grab lunch together. Sometimes she pays, sometimes I pay, sometimes we split the bill. Sometimes we will go around the shops together afterwards (like a couple but without the bullshit) and she might buy me a small treat here and there (only a few quid). When we are out together, we are doing so as friends and are hands-off.

Aside from that, I have access to her personal mobile, and we whatsapp regularly just to shoot the shit. She is very honest with me..we know each others proper names, she's shown me pictures of her family, and I know lots of personal details about her etc etc. I feel that there is a big amount of trust between us and we are genuinely friends. And all-in-all, it's great!

If I was to move onwards into an arrangement via seeking, am I going to get anything more than what I have currently? Thanks in advance for any advice!

Sounds like you're already happy and ready to settle down mate!

Joking aside, you can find the full spectrum of relationships on Seeking, from the 15 minute blow and go, right through to a serious relationship. Just don't lose sight of the reason the 99.99% of girls are on there which is money. (I'll keep the 0.01% in there to keep SCP happy!)

Keep that in mind and you'll have a lot of fun.

[southcoastpunter]

(I'll keep the 0.01% in there to keep SCP happy!)

i think you will find its 0.2% actually!  haha

[exe-punter]

Sorry, my initial post was confusing - the girl that I see regularly is a regular escort off the purple site - she's not via seeking. So you'd think that she was literally just about the money...but she does spend a LOT more time on me than she needs to, to keep me as a regular punter. I'm being objective here, I'm not been a rose-tinted glasses wearing fluffy.

I'm trying to work out whether I keep seeing her, or whether I look for someone on seeking as a regular playmate instead.

[updownandaround]

Sorry, my initial post was confusing - the girl that I see regularly is a regular escort off the purple site - she's not via seeking. So you'd think that she was literally just about the money...but she does spend a LOT more time on me than she needs to, to keep me as a regular punter. I'm being objective here, I'm not been a rose-tinted glasses wearing fluffy.

I'm trying to work out whether I keep seeing her, or whether I look for someone on seeking as a regular playmate instead.

If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Either way, you're going to be spending money. I generally find on Seeking you get more VFM with a better connection but you will have to grind to find the girls. Finding a girl that isn't fucked up or lying is the challenge, whether that be vanilla dating, Seeking or a pro hooker.

[bristolnick]

You got a link to her profile?

[Fuzzyduck]

Hi All,

I have contemplated seeking for a while, and had a few conversations with girls on there, but never come to an arrangement. I'm not sure whether it's going to be much of an improvement over what I am doing currently, so would request advice from you lot please. What I currently have in hand:

I meet a girl once or twice a month when she is visiting from another city, pay for an hour, and we have amazing sex. If I am meeting her in an evening, we will get drinks together after, or we might get a takeaway and eat it at her hotel room. If we meet during the day, afterwards we will grab lunch together. Sometimes she pays, sometimes I pay, sometimes we split the bill. Sometimes we will go around the shops together afterwards (like a couple but without the bullshit) and she might buy me a small treat here and there (only a few quid). When we are out together, we are doing so as friends and are hands-off.

Aside from that, I have access to her personal mobile, and we whatsapp regularly just to shoot the shit. She is very honest with me..we know each others proper names, she's shown me pictures of her family, and I know lots of personal details about her etc etc. I feel that there is a big amount of trust between us and we are genuinely friends. And all-in-all, it's great!

If I was to move onwards into an arrangement via seeking, am I going to get anything more than what I have currently? Thanks in advance for any advice!

For me this is almost a pointless request. A bunch of strangers commenting on something they only know a few details about. Maybe the grass is greener, maybe it aint. Why not do both and, if you find someone better, then drop your reg. Though we'll then get a plea for "help me choose, guys".

[bdyno]

You got a link to her profile?

Judging by his reviews, it's someone he wants to keep to himself - he doesn't appear to have given us the official story of how good she is.

[scutty brown]

Sorry, my initial post was confusing - the girl that I see regularly is a regular escort off the purple site - she's not via seeking. So you'd think that she was literally just about the money...but she does spend a LOT more time on me than she needs to, to keep me as a regular punter. I'm being objective here, I'm not been a rose-tinted glasses wearing fluffy.

I'm trying to work out whether I keep seeing her, or whether I look for someone on seeking as a regular playmate instead.

Personally I think you're going down the EAS route and will eventually come a cropper when you get too deep and the girl pulls the plug (apologies for the mixed metaphors)
However if you're happy to pay her price and play second fiddle to her boyfriend then why change? If you're happy being her walking ATM machine then stay with it

[Pawgylove]

You got a link to her profile?

Sounds like you've fallen in love.
When are you going to buy the engagement ring?

 

[exe-punter]

Judging by his reviews, it's someone he wants to keep to himself - he doesn't appear to have given us the official story of how good she is.

She has asked me to not review her (she specifically says that she dislikes seeing reviews of herself).

Also - as I have said here, she has told me lots of personal information about herself.  It would be unfair to say who this person is now. We all know that there are some dickheads on here who would probably meet her and then spill the beans about what I have written - which isn't going to be very nice for her (or me when she confronts me about it).

At the end of the day she's an escort, but she is a person as well, and I think it would be wrong to treat her in this way.

[exe-punter]

If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Either way, you're going to be spending money. I generally find on Seeking you get more VFM with a better connection but you will have to grind to find the girls. Finding a girl that isn't fucked up or lying is the challenge, whether that be vanilla dating, Seeking or a pro hooker.

Best answer yet - thank you. The girls on seeking want me to pay their hourly rate, even though I am paying for their dinner/drinks. And then to keep paying per hour if we have sex.

The situation with the escort means that we can have a fun time chatting together over lunch/dinner (we get on well together as friends, though some on here will say that 'she only talks to you because you're paying') about allsorts and that doesn't cost me any more. You're probably right about about not fixing what aint broke....

[Fuzzyduck]

She has asked me to not review her (she specifically says that she dislikes seeing reviews of herself).

Also - as I have said here, she has told me lots of personal information about herself.  It would be unfair to say who this person is now. We all know that there are some dickheads on here who would probably meet her and then spill the beans about what I have written - which isn't going to be very nice for her (or me when she confronts me about it).

At the end of the day she's an escort, but she is a person as well, and I think it would be wrong to treat her in this way.

Absolutely, you shouldn't say who she is now. There are no winners there.

However, there must have been a time when you didn't socialise and know all about her, and she was just another escort. It's a fair challenge to suggest you didn't review because you wanted to keep it under wraps at the time.

[updownandaround]

Best answer yet - thank you. The girls on seeking want me to pay their hourly rate, even though I am paying for their dinner/drinks. And then to keep paying per hour if we have sex.

The situation with the escort means that we can have a fun time chatting together over lunch/dinner (we get on well together as friends, though some on here will say that 'she only talks to you because you're paying') about allsorts and that doesn't cost me any more. You're probably right about about not fixing what aint broke....

There are plenty of girls that will skip the drinks and dinner part and skip to the bedroom. A lot of them say drinks/dinner because they don't want to come across as a pro or semi pro. Let's face it, most girls will spend an hour or two getting ready so they don't want to go home empty handed.

[southcoastpunter]

The girls on seeking want me to pay their hourly rate, even though I am paying for their dinner/drinks. And then to keep paying per hour if we have sex.

you are talking to the wrong girls then. there are many different types on seeking. As updownandaround says there are some girls who will skip the drinks/dinner and there are some who won't but won't charge you / expect payment for that.

[updownandaround]

you are talking to the wrong girls then. there are many different types on seeking. As updownandaround says there are some girls who will skip the drinks/dinner and there are some who won't but won't charge you / expect payment for that.

And there are some girls who skip the money all together which will really depend on your approach with them and how they perceive you.

I will generally ditch any of the ones that bring money up in the first few messages ("What did your last arrangement look like?" is a good example) or the girls who just come straight out with a ppm. The major caveat to that is how horny I am feeling at the time 😂

[Jonlove69]

This is the most boring thread I’ve read on the site so far  Why is it even in the South West regional discussion ?

[updownandaround]

This is the most boring thread I’ve read on the site so far  Why is it even in the South West regional discussion ?

Because it deals with Seeking in the SW maybe? 😂

[Jonlove69]

Because it deals with Seeking in the SW maybe? 😂

Please Please Please tell me which part of the SW or which girl in the SW. If I read the thread again to find it myself I might end up at the Clifton Suspension bridge 

[updownandaround]

Please Please Please tell me which part of the SW or which girl in the SW. If I read the thread again to find it myself I might end up at the Clifton Suspension bridge 

I have no idea, one for the OP. It's pretty quiet on the SW Seeking thread so any contributions are welcome otherwise it would be just tumbleweeds in here!

[pythondan]

My question to the OP would be what are you hoping to improve on over the arrangement you currently have?

Is it someone younger/better looking or are you wanting an arrangement where sex is not always on the clock?

our current arrangement sounds like fun but I think I might get a little bored seeing one girl so much particularly if it consumed all my punting budget.