For everyone who has provided him with some great answers. I wanted to question anyone if they have an answer for my case.
I can masturbate totally fine, can finish when I want comfortably. But with my ex girlfriend and to a few punts I’ve been to, I simply cant finish during sex. It will be 30 mins + and I’m still no where near finished. The girl gets annoyed and so I finish it off myself with her just next to me. I do think it’s a psychological issue but I don’t really know how to rectify it. The girl would try her hardest to make me cum, and it was so hot, but I would just never be near to ending.
I am young and started living alone 2 years ago, maybe I’m just not coping well? I don’t know.
Seeing as I waded in on the OP I will answer you too, these are just my thoughts based on experience and an older ladies perspective so not necessarily a solution.
I don't think this has much to do with living alone however it may have a fair amount to do with over exposure and expectation based on past experience.
By over exposure I mean a bit too much wanking and porn, my advice would be to self limit the use of porn and wank no more than once a week for a good few weeks, tbh if you are anything like me the more I pleasure myself the more I need to, so if I abstain the urge lessens and the times I do partake are better the guys may have opinions on this.
Expectations based on past experience are more tricky, what is developing is a pattern that is being reinforced by the expectation that you have in your head pre punt (you may not even be aware its there), that you won't finish, that then builds to a point where you can't finish and the circle is complete and perpetuated.
Question's for me are revolving around the ex gf
Do you recall a time or times when she 'gave up on you' and just said finish yourself I'm done?
Was it always a hit and miss with finishing or was that just the case as the relationship developed and ultimately ended?
Are the girls you are choosing in any way similar to your ex?
My advice about punting is take a short break of say 2 or 3 months, limit your wanking, then go back but do a minimum of an hours booking to reduce the time pressure, do something different like a btb massage with a happy ending, choose a well reviewed provider and ask for low lighting or a blindfold, this will heighten your other senses, you could even go for a tie and tease with lots of edging and a HE, but don't go for full penetrative sex on the first couple of bookings or every booking after, this is to break the cycle, variety is the spice of life after all.
Don't forget its absolutely fine to teach the person who is wanking you how you like to be wanked, feedback as its happening, I love it when guys tell me things like......yes just like that, a touch faster, harder, slower, squeeze my balls, run your nails over my balls etc it makes me a better provider and any escort worth their salt will feel the same.
