I honestly can't believe what I'm reading from you, I don't know if it's because you have some grievance with certain members or the establishment, but if confirmation of the booking is required then the punter should confirm within the timescale set.
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Sorry DM, no it's not the particular establishment wrt to OP's issue. I've no grievance with the lads here, didn't mean to imply any either. I'm debating the point raised. Perhaps our different takes on this are just down to the distribution of demands made by those we've tried to book.
As I said above the underlying fault is not about OP not calling in time. He shouldn't have been obliged to in the first place. He and the SP/maid agreed a meeting time, there was no uncertainty on his part such that a confirmation should be needed. The maid was selfishly introducing an unnecessary condition prone to failure from any number of simple circumstances beyond either parties' control. Her conceit is that the client has nothing better to do than solely service her scheduling needs to spend his money. Where's her assurance that from 10:30 the SP won't be running late when the punter arrives? She also makes no allowance for the fact he likely has responsibilities elsewhere that trump his calling to say he still wants to pay to fuck later today.
If she's trying to mitigate timewasters then asking for a morning call doesn't really achieve this, people can still be delayed or prevented from meeting and she'd still be relying on them to be able/willing to call her to cancel.
She could try asking for prepayment (ha! say goodbye to customers) or multi-book and declare first-come-first-serve (that'd be real popular, not!) or multi-book and ghost those who didn't arrive first (haven't we seen this scenario?) or just run a walk-up.
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Try being 45 minutes late to check-in at an airport, or get to a train station 45 minutes after the train has left.
Sorry I've never had to call hours ahead to a check-in to say I'm still coming to check-in, I either check-in online and perhaps still fail to get to the airport on time or do so in person before the check-in deadline and catch the plane.
Nor do I call a station to say I'm still coming to catch the train that won't leave for hours yet.
In neither case does my calling in advance prevent the vehicle leaving without me if I'm late.
If I'm running late then the only call I'm making is to seek alternative travel options with the carrier as soon as it becomes apparent.
When I've made an appointment with the doctor or the STI clinic, I've had no stipulation that I call on the morning to confirm I'm still coming. I just turn up and register at reception before my assigned appointment time knowing full well that if I'm late other patients may well proceed before me.
If I book a plumber I'm not told I have to call them on the day to see if they're still coming or indeed to confirm to them I still need them. Indeed I may well have had to prepay a call-out fee. They do however typically say they will call when they're on their way to give best estimate of arrival time.
To the point about her getting shirty because he was late calling despite the fact that the SP was still available, that's all on her. OP was justified to call her out and cancel when she failed to apologise.
The volume of my punting is pretty high so I've made more than a few booking attempts to make it happen. Whether I've been booking parlour girls, indies or managed SPs for the first time or repeat business I've not had an overwhelming demand for reassurance calls leading me to believe there's some industry-wide etiquette. Yes I have had some requests to call to confirm on the day, more often I might be told to call an hour or 30 mins before arrival but mostly I'm told to call on arrival for final entry details.
- In the case of the former I'm more likely to abort the booking and find a more trusting (and trustworthy) SP as during my working day I will have superceding priorities that don't allow for confirmations to be sent from a punting phone which is on silent (or off) in my bag back at my desk.
- In the case of confirm x minutes before I will explain that I am likely to be underground travelling to the appointment so unable to confirm as requested. If that's no good for them then booking aborted and I book someone else.
