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What is the best position? How do you spank without causing pain and injury? How many strokes? When to stop? How to tell when the spankee has had enough?
Not much on here by spankers - any pros to offer advice?
I just fancy getting some bum cheeks red and rosey without any hassle
For an inexperienced spanker, talking it through with the SP first is key. Or if you find that sort of conversation difficult - start
very gently. And definitely dont increase firmness without checking they are ok. Not sure how literally you mean 'how do you spank without causing pain.' Some lasses have a very low pain threshold - so unless they've took pain killers or are drunk, the only way to spank without causing pain is to slap them really softly. Like so soft that if you was striking a bag of crisps, not a single crisp would break.
But for some, feeling pain is the point. Folk can enjoy the pain for a number of reasons, including that it often triggers the release of pleasure hormones. Had a lass once who didn't even have spanking on her services, but she liked being spanked so much she said it was a shame I'd not brought a whip. She explained that causes much more pain than hand spanking (which she wanted) but much less risk of causing a bruise. I did end up whipping her on the 2nd visit, and she loved it.
It takes quite hard spanking to get the bum cheeks red & rosy. With olive skinned & darker lasses, it might not even be possible without a serious risk of injury. Even with light skinned English lasses, I'd guess less than 2 in 10 would be ok with the severity of spanking it needs to get them red & rosy. So if that's seriously your fantasy, it would be important to find someone that really likes being spanked hard - it generally wont be the ones saying they like mild spanking.
Re positions, I read on a spanking forum years back that if your egoing to severely spank with something like a cane, it's best to get them to lie flat on their stomach- that way there is less risk of injury. I never spank that severely myself, so can't confirm. For milder spanking,it may be best to try lots of different positions. Virtually all lasses like being a bit sub IME, so enjoy being ordered about into the classic positions like bending over, over the knee, leaning against a wall & kneeling on the bed. But again - only about 1 in 10 enjoy being hit hard enough to leave lasting red marks.