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hsn23

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I reflect back on my punting journey and where I've come and realise I'm no longer that awkward, eager to please guy I used to be. The reason I started punting was because after my ex broke things off with me (and now I understand why) I cba to get out there again so I began punting. I'm still relatively young, mid-20s, and would say this game has certainly changed my perspective on girls. Now, day to day I'm more at ease with civvies because I know I don't have to pull off all the stops to impress her because I can get pussy whenever I want so no pressure, and this comes across as confidence. Which can only be a good thing.

I was wondering how many others have experienced something similar since losing their punting virginity?  :hi:


Offline peter purves

I reflect back on my punting journey and where I've come and realise I'm no longer that awkward, eager to please guy I used to be. The reason I started punting was because after my ex broke things off with me (and now I understand why) I cba to get out there again so I began punting. I'm still relatively young, mid-20s, and would say this game has certainly changed my perspective on girls. Now, day to day I'm more at ease with civvies because I know I don't have to pull off all the stops to impress her because I can get pussy whenever I want so no pressure, and this comes across as confidence. Which can only be a good thing.

I was wondering how many others have experienced something similar since losing their punting virginity?  :hi:

I agree with the above in bold but have read on forums like this one that it has caused some punters to give up on civvies altogether
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Offline Malvolio

It's made me less bothered about civvies - but I am in my forties and the quality of the civvies I can pull (I am nothing special in the looks or salary departments) does not remotely compete with the WGs I can see. 

Offline HKS15

In terms of talking to and attracting women, no. Punting for me became a buffer which prevented me from approaching women, my rationale was 'why bother getting blown out by girls when I can just get on a bus and go to my favourite brothel?'.

What helped my confidence with women was ironing out the self-esteem issues I had (my 'inner game') and for a while banning myself from punting and forcing myself out into the real world to meet girls, I didn't morph into Casanova but I managed to shag a few birds. 

In terms of my confidence in the bedroom, it undoubtedly helped me though as I knew how women's bodies worked and wasn't a shaking wreck who was overwhelmed at having a girl naked in front of me as I had done it plenty of times before.

Offline Plan R

It's made me less bothered about civvies - but I am in my forties and the quality of the civvies I can pull (I am nothing special in the looks or salary departments) does not remotely compete with the WGs I can see.

Yep - thats my story too.
Might force myself to go on plenty-of-fish this year (plenty-of-nutters more like).
But not holding out much hope. Or enthusiasm for that matter...
How can you be enthusiastic about mid 40s rat that thinks its doing you a favour  :wackogirl:
when you can choose from 100s of mid 20s Euro-hotties anytime?   :dancegirl:


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« Last Edit: February 15, 2017, 01:50:13 am by Plan R »

ClitTeaser

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If anything punting has caused me to lose interest in civvies.  I can't be bothered with the baggage that goes with a relationship.

Offline JamesKW

My personality has never really changed around women,I would not be able to pull a civvie on banter alone (like some men seem to be able).This is bearing in mind the fact that I am always with women,like the O/H(for many years),my daughter,female work colleagues,punting.

Offline HighlyMotivated

If anything punting has caused me to lose interest in civvies.  I can't be bothered with the baggage that goes with a relationship.

Same

Offline Jamboney

If anything punting has caused me to lose interest in civvies.  I can't be bothered with the baggage that goes with a relationship.

This. I also can't be arsed to put in the effort with civvies any more
« Last Edit: February 15, 2017, 12:17:39 pm by Jamboney »

Offline mrdiamond77

No.  I am OK with WG's but with civvies it is completely different.  I am far too shy and reserved.

Melfort212

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I haven't had that many punts and they have all been spread out over time but it's had zero effect on me with women, but I don't go chasing skirt anyway.

Offline stevedave

I'd say it's made me more confident sexually. It's the getting to that point that's still tricky  :lol:

hsn23

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I'd say it's made me more confident sexually. It's the getting to that point that's still tricky  :lol:

Yeah but doesn't sexual confidence just transmit itself as general confidence with women. Because you've pretty much nailed a key aspect of a potential relationship, i.e. satisfying her sexually, because God knows how many guys she's been with who would finish within 10 strokes and probably wouldn't go down on her. But with your experience you can maintain the type of eye contact that says 'yeah you know I'd make you cum and then some, you'd be a fool to miss out on this'.

Offline Jindybandy

I'd say it's made me more confident sexually. It's the getting to that point that's still tricky  :lol:

Yep, that's how I'd sum up my experience. Still can't ever seem to be able to talk to women due to my own hang-ups and stuff, but I'm not the quivering nervous wreck that I used to be and if anything I'm confident that I'd know my way around the bedroom enough to make an impression (at least I'd like to think so). Just still can't seem to get to that point!

If anything it's just made me desire an attractive girl I see even more now. Suppose that's one downside is that I'm only really now attracted to the stunners who are so completely beyond my skills to chat up as opposed to your 'average' girl   :scare:

Offline AgedCases

Now I've discovered punting and can arrange a session with a lass I'd have no chance with in the civvie world, civvie women can bugger off!

The teenage lad in my office today said I'd never get sex because I'm "old and fat". If only he could've seen me pumping my manmilk into a stunna's mouth yesterday!

JohnnyPark

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I got on with women well before punting. Now I'm fussier with civvy women.

I can't be doing with their holier than though attitude, especially on sites like POF.

Getting grilled by a woman on POF, who is nowhere near as hot as the WGs I have seen, about my ex relationships, before I haven't even met the woman really grinds my gears.

The last one I spoke to I just told her 'Oh fuckoff' as she lectured me about my training routine in The gym.


Offline Georgejetson

HSN, IMHO confidence has very little to do with satisfying a civvy sexually. Pay a WG for what you want because it makes YOU happy. You want to make a girl happy? A civvy? You need to ask her what works for her. Openly. Honestly. With trust. All beside  the point with a WG. As you can tell on UKP, punters have their own individual pervs and pleasures.  Women are no different. Ask the civvy you are with. Punting is great, and I love it, but learning how to satisfy a civvy is a mostly a different game (other than technically...like where the clitoris is, or how to rim, you can figure that stuff out cheaper while punting). A WG  is acting (and thanks for that act!). If you build your civvy  confidence off a WG act, your confidence  house is built on sand.

newforthisyear

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It has in a couple of ways.

1, I no longer try to impress anyone or be the nice guy. If I want some I can just pick up the phone and my wildest fantasies come true.
2, Girls actually think of me differently for the above. When they realise I'm not trying to pick them up, they change their attitude toward me and actually open up.
3, It's made me push boundaries. (say things I wouldn't have said before and do things I wouldn't have done before).
4, It's made me care less. Not in a bad way though. Like, why should I feel like I have to dress smart, have my hair perfect, wear designer clothes and walk with my chin up. That's too much effort and who am I trying to impress?
5, My friends have noticed the way I've changed around women and they find my very blaze attitude to "picking up chicks" hilarious.. They think it's a new tactic I've developed when in matter of fact, I'll just go a have sex later on with someone far hotter than every girl we've seen while we were out.

Offline king tarzan

I barely have any sort of interaction with women apart from escorts
Because of the good looks and brilliant service of various escorts I make no effort at all to interact with general public females
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hsn23

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HSN, IMHO confidence has very little to do with satisfying a civvy sexually.

If you build your civvy  confidence off a WG act, your confidence  house is built on sand.

I would disagree with you on your first point on two fronts. I believe confidence is attractive to women. Obviously if she's attracted to you chances are she'll be more turned on during sex. Secondly my general definition of confidence includes being sexually confident. Of course she might have little nuances which she likes which you will get to learn in due course. But being confident enough to go face first into her ass for example can signal to her you're uninhibited in bed and can make her more receptive to expressing herself making the sex more pleasurable.

Also you know what they say. Fake it til you make it.  :lol:

Offline baranabus96

Only time I was with a civvie was when I lost my virginity so I honestly don't know, if you just mean in general rather than sexually then no i'll always be an antisocial mess around people in general.

Offline Jarvis

It hasn't made me any more confident with civvies,but then I don't have to be,but I just love to punch above my weight,with some stunning we WG

Offline king tarzan

It hasn't made me any more confident with civvies,but then I don't have to be,but I just love to punch above my weight,with some stunning we WG

+1
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Offline charliejack

I am now single
I love sex with beautiful women
I love my beautiful house
I want to keep my house
WGs tick all the boxes
Civvies can destroy you

Offline Kingkong86

I like to think it has helped me be more confindent when talking to women.
I have slight stutter and it use to get worse when trying it on with girls over the last few years I seem to have got over it and I'm able to be more confident especially with really good looking girls that I would have been a mess with in the past.


vt

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Thanks to punting with many attractive prossies and them interacting in a non-judgmental way with me because I'm a paying client, I can now look an attractive civvie in the eye and have the sort of conversation with her that could lead to flirting...not actually translated into bedding them, but I love the new-found confidence I have around women, not fazed at all about striking up a conversation with a beauty now.

A mate of mine who was a confident lothario when younger reckons that he often had more success with the pretty ones as a lot of guys avoid them due to thinking they are out of their league.

Offline king tarzan

I don't bother to talk to women because I know I have no chance at all of even a peck on the cheek and I am not going to get my wallet lightened buy buying expensive drinks for them.
I just find an attractive to super attractive woman on adultworks withdraw cash from cashpoint machine go to the lady assess her attitude clarify dfk Owo mango licking and sex protection 2 times.
Get my payment entitled passionate dfk and then what else needs to be done and finish on the hour and bye bye madame! !
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Offline callm3daddy

Partly. I wouldn't say that it has made me more confident with women in general, but it has made me more confident in the bedroom, both in terms of what I like and also how to please a girl.

It has given me a much better idea about what kinks I am into.

Offline Plan R

I am now single
I love sex with beautiful women
I love my beautiful house
I want to keep my house
WGs tick all the boxes
Civvies can destroy you

Preach it brother !   :thumbsup:

Offline MoTToM

Think I've answered this one before. But anyway - yes, to an extent. Still single, but far fewer fucks given, now, regarding that status - and that's an attitude inherently attractive to the opposite sex, fwiw. Certainly less depressed, and recalling encounters with sensational women provides an instant fillip. For example, was tidying up the kitchen earlier, mind wandering, and an episode from a booking popped into my head. Had to pause, smiling, to savour the memory.

My quality of life, and lived experience, has increased beyond recognition. Pulling civvies? Why? What was the question again?

bilbo

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Think I've answered this one before. But anyway - yes, to an extent. Still single, but far fewer fucks given, now, regarding that status - and that's an attitude inherently attractive to the opposite sex, fwiw.

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Offline Littlefoot

I barely have any sort of interaction with women apart from escorts
Because of the good looks and brilliant service of various escorts I make no effort at all to interact with general public females

+1

I don't bother with civvies, and haven't done for years. No point, as due to my grotesque physical appearance, and awkwardness around the ladies I have no chance, even with fat, ugly, old mingers. Much easier, more convenient, and a lot more fun to pay some gorgeous girl half my age. Pay my fee, have my fun, then say my goodbyes.... simples!

So no not more confident around civvie ladies.... But there are some areas where punting as improved my life for the better.

1: It's made me more sexually confident in the bedroom! (With whores, obviously)
2: It's made me a lot more confident in general day to day life! That's a big one!
3: more confidence in the size of my cock, I no longer believe I have a tiny maggot, and two dryed peas!    :thumbsup:

With a bit of luck I might have 20 years of punting left in me! 

Happy punting!      :drinks:
« Last Edit: February 24, 2017, 05:58:12 pm by Littlefoot »

Offline king tarzan

+1

I don't bother with civvies, and haven't done for years. No point, as due to my grotesque physical appearance, and awkwardness around the ladies I have no chance, even with fat, ugly, old mingers. Much easier, more convenient, and a lot more fun to pay some gorgeous girl half my age. Pay my fee, have my fun, then say my goodbyes.... simples!

So no not more confident around civvie ladies.... But there are some areas where punting as improved my life for the better.

1: It's made me more sexually confident in the bedroom! (With whores, obviously)
2: It's made me a lot more confident in general day to day life! That's a big one!
3: more confidence in the size of my cock, I no longer believe I have a tiny maggot, and two dryed peas!    :thumbsup:

With a bit of luck I might have 20 years of punting left in me! 

Happy punting!      :drinks:

+1

Only difference is I have a king size lion bar / banana beast/ Mr truncheon

Other than that I agree with the rest
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Offline bearcat69

The short answer is that yes it has.

The long answer is that, well, what I like about punting is that you pay to walk away.

The even longer answer is that punting is to me a game that comes with a lot of caveats.

It does more often than not make me feel good about myself and very confident, but it does sometimes make me feel not so great. I think in general I have got more confident in my interactions with the opposite sex as a result of punting, but that was always surplus to requirements for me. But I do like the confidence that comes from being just less flustered about a hot women in general that others have hinted about, and I have found interactions can be better as a result of that, but sometimes I can be too confident and do try to keep that in check. What I want is sex that makes me feel good, choice and variety, the convenience that a good SP can provide. It's not something I do to build my ability to be successful with civvy women. They come with all sorts of other things that I don't want in return for sex.