Out the game

[Bigbossman]

Do you lot ever get to a time where you’re not enjoying punting like you use to ? Last few weeks tried it all massage with a BJ, a new escort and my regular one in Croydon who again was good because she knows what I like but at the same time I was just going through the motions.

I’m only 30 and took up punting years ago because I thought it was just easier than getting to know someone and feelings wouldn’t get hurt, just come buss a nut have some small talk then head off, no feelings caught from either end and having good sex.

These days I don’t enjoy any of it now and it’s probably best for me to check out the game and try and settle down with someone

[Derrick101]

I guess most long term punters go through this 

Just take a break for a month or so 

[chadpitt]

We've all had spells like that. You either have to wait for new talent or like you say look outside punting.

[Thephoenix]

These days I don’t enjoy any of it now and it’s probably best for me to check out the game and try and settle down with someone

Good luck with your quest but never say never again.

[Cheltclient]

I started a thread like this a while ago as was feeling the same. Got some useful advice.

I wouldn’t say I’ve got the mojo completely back but I think the issue I had was a like a GFE. Lots of kissing, cuddling, passion. And for whatever reason, as the years wore on, I wasn’t enjoying this with SP’s even when they delivered. I think what happened - I hadn’t realised that if I had a preference, I wanted to meet someone in the real world, and I was craving connection and you just can’t really get that with a working girl. So I think my desires changed without me realising it - I wanted a GFE and connection. Without the latter, the bookings started to feel flat. So going forward, I think I’m going to realise this and my bookings will just be about sex and getting what I need out of it - kissing, blowjob and sex. Going to abandon any notions of sensuality and just try and make it as horny as possible.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Bossman i don't think your out of the mainstream there, punting has its uses but its not the best deal, thats a woman you have an emotional connection with and these days having just gone past the three score years and ten i'd settle for a decent woman never mind this ere 2.4 times a week 2.5 times a month would be around acceptable and thats around what we get punting OK maybe sometimes a little bit more;!

Sometimes the thrill of another day another girl looses its attaraction, that maybe is more of another day and a less than girl which seems to be getting the norm these days;(..

And thats just more often than not a young disintrested rom girl..then another and another...

[Geko12]

Do you lot ever get to a time where you’re not enjoying punting like you use to ? Last few weeks tried it all massage with a BJ, a new escort and my regular one in Croydon who again was good because she knows what I like but at the same time I was just going through the motions.

I’m only 30 and took up punting years ago because I thought it was just easier than getting to know someone and feelings wouldn’t get hurt, just come buss a nut have some small talk then head off, no feelings caught from either end and having good sex.

These days I don’t enjoy any of it now and it’s probably best for me to check out the game and try and settle down with someone

Im a similar age to you and stopped for about a year and a half, got into a relationship and realized i missed punting after a year. Definitely take a break if your not enjoying it and get yourself into a relationship if you want, you will end up spending more money though. 

[Hobbit]

I feel the same, been getting bored of punting recently. The main problem is, that there is a huge shortage of quality hookers out there compared to a few years ago. And what is out there is nothing but self-entitled millenniums who just want to earn vast amounts of money without doing the hard work. I just hope the quality improves within my lifetime as at the moment it's just full of shit IMHO.

[lamboman]

I feel the same, been getting bored of punting recently. The main problem is, that there is a huge shortage of quality hookers out there compared to a few years ago. And what is out there is nothing but self-entitled millenniums who just want to earn vast amounts of money without doing the hard work. I just hope the quality improves within my lifetime as at the moment it's just full of shit IMHO.

A concise and accurate description of punting at the moment 

[poundstock]

Well Bigbossman I’m sorry you feel like that and you worry me that I might get bored in the same way as you and others describe. Even if my last punt was less than sensational I always go to my next punt full of excitement and anticipation. I challenge myself to find the key to get my escort to engage with me in the way I want but primarily I am there to enjoy the close physical contact of an attractive woman and you seem to have tired of this.  Speaking as a fellow punter I hope your mojo returns or you find someone in the world outside of punting.

[lillythesavage]

I feel the same, been getting bored of punting recently. The main problem is, that there is a huge shortage of quality hookers out there compared to a few years ago. And what is out there is nothing but self-entitled millenniums who just want to earn vast amounts of money without doing the hard work. I just hope the quality improves within my lifetime as at the moment it's just full of shit IMHO.

Got to admit another relationship has been on my mind, it will complicate my life though, so is a decision I cannot take lightly, and the first wife has entered into those thoughts, which will really complicate things seeing as she has been hiding something from me for 37 years.

Punting is not so easy anymore, a quick bit of research usually puts a downer on it, but there is no reason to turn it in for a relationship, you can have both 

[B4bcock]

, and the first wife has entered into those thoughts, which will really complicate things seeing as she has been hiding something from me for 37 years.

Her fanny? 

[mr.bluesky]

Her fanny? 

Or that she had a dick  ( apologies lillythesavage I couldn't resist)

[Steely Dan]

Agree take a break.  We wont judge!

But if you stay with it, do some things totally different - do a massage, do a party, do an older Milf, book a dom, book from an agency, do a BBW, book a MFF, book a couple (so MMF), fly to Berlin and visit a FKK - whatever! More of the same will result in more of the same. Change it up or stop.

[lillythesavage]

Or that she had a dick  ( apologies lillythesavage I couldn't resist)

 , why apologise? it was open to interpretation  , but no, not got a dick, and she never hid her fanny, probably not married long enough to get to that stage  .

I rather stupidly have been completely oblivious to her second child being my own, he was not there when we divorced, well he obviously was but not born. That too is playing on my mind.

[GreyDave]

  30 years old.....wish I was again when 27 I to sort off eased of and went down from the 2 or 3 weekly Walkup trips to once a month then the longest 6 months off why well I to got involved with Blonde Busty Bitch as she is unfondly remembered by me and 2 other poor sods  we take a break as we feel,  why eat a Hamburger when there is steak at home? , as Paul Newman said But he never had some BBC nibbling on his Steak when he was away, It happened to me   mind you glad it did she is a fatty now if on AW I reckon shed be a 30 for half hour lass    I digress ....I do remember the punt that broke the 6 months off it was a Black Girl FF cups fit as a butchers dog and a fantastic shag reason for return I thought Ive not shagged a black girl I`ll just do this one last punt  (the words of Smithy maybe  ) then I was back in the saddle one girl who was really good fun told me with a smile " Once a guy has paid for sex and really enjoyed it he is addicted and will all ways look for the next adventure" wise words from a 30 year old Lancashire lass 

[tp69]

If what you need is an emotional connection, or a partner/companion, then punting is likely going to continue to yield an unfulfilling result. IMHO, punting fulfills a physical need.

At the same time, I agree that what's currently on offer is somewhat disappointing, and it's difficult to find new girls to get particularly excited about.

[Handel2020]

Feel the same. Having a bad run in the last few punts, and don't enjoy anything about it: looking for escorts, booking, being messed around and crap punts. The buzz is not there at all. I am hoping there might be some escort out there who gives me that spark back but I am doubtful about things in London at the moment. Unless you are spending £200 or more per punt, which I am not.

[Home Alone]

... one girl who was really good fun told me with a smile " Once a guy has paid for sex and really enjoyed it he is addicted and will all ways look for the next adventure" wise words from a 30 year old Lancashire lass 

Hell's teeth; she had a way with words, all right, didn't she, GreyDave?!

Fwiw, though, I think she's hit the nail on the head. I'm coming up to the 18th anniversary of my first punt; and although I haven't had a punt for the best part of a year (mainly due to age and infirmity), I'm still on the lookout for the opportunity of a meeting I can easily manage to get to.

And whaddya know, in September, I'm going to the AGM of another organisation I'm involved with. It's being held in a place where I reckon that I ought to be able to sort out a meeting with a lass I've seen - and enjoyed - once before. So,  fwiw, I think that Lancashire lass you saw hit the nail right on the head! 

[GreyDave]

Hell's teeth; she had a way with words, all right, didn't she, GreyDave?!
, I think that Lancashire lass you saw hit the nail right on the head! 

   yup she did  " Karen of Karans Cocktails" a Palour which was well used by myself and I am sure many otheres in the WD19 area 
She looked like Lisa Stansfeild but with bigger tits she ran and worked the place and sold out to a collective of other girls who took flat on LisaFF and a few other notable girls passed though place funnily the profile of this lass one of her stars is still up but not working   External Link/Members Only  Francesca she was a great shag to had big handfull plus tits which she had reduced and lifted to EEs  how big they were before she said they were hanging on her like udders faint scaring around aeroas and line up and below heavy breasts,,, The mirror room in that place all ways made me feel like a star Her profile or the parlours has not been looked at since August 2011 why  its still there 

[catweazle]

I think most long-term punters will  go through the boredom phase. You punt because its what you do, you have the money and the time.........not because you really want sex.

Pause for a while.  Stay off porn. Save the money you would spend on a punt,  you'd be surprised  how it mounts up.

The proper urge will return, in time.

[Bum Lovin Criminal]

Agreed!  Most punters feel this way, especially after a string of crap punts.  But even if you were going out with Rachael Riley or Megan Fox you'd still

contemplate  having a punt.  Once that toe is dipped, the cash paid, the thrills received, there's no going back,  "Once a punter, Always a Punter!".

Relationships for us now is like a cold beer on a warm day, lovely at first but sooner or later it will go flat then the 'Punting Monkey' comes to get ya..

Face it pal, you are, and always will be......"one of us.......one of us...."   

[JonasG]

Still enjoying it by and large.

You get those mechanical, neutral type of punts where you just think what was the point but then you get a great passionate meet, full of great kissing/sex, she gets really wet etc. and then you think this is still a brilliant hobby!

I try and have different types of regulars to change things up, the younger girl in her 20s, the MILF, the mature, the chubby WG etc. keeps things more interesting.

[Bigbossman]

Crazy looking back at this went the whole of 2023 without a punt can truly say I’m out the game, visited a few massage parlours this year but a lot less than 2022 reckon 2024 I’ll be out of that game too, hope you lot are still loving the game though

[Disco dave]

I was off and on. I find that I go through spells like now where I find it fun. But I do find the times when I go off the boil is because of the lack of talent and how difficult it can be to actually arrange punts. I spend more and more time doing it now, arranging and then re arranging. I set myself a plan for 2024 and that's find the punts I really want to do and not just something that comes along.

I do worry though as there is a big decline in quality girls, those that are around are impossible to get a booking. This is what normally makes me lose interest and head back to dating apps.

[Southernbloke]

In my 30 plus years punting I have had times where I have had very few punts and when I have gone back to punting regularly it was great.
Going to be coming off a break in the new year, should be fun

[lewisjones23]

Generally having less and less motivation to have a punt as each week goes on

Have zero tolerance for any comms nonsense and will only now punt if everything suits me

If that now results in me stopping then so be it 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Southernbloke]

Generally having less and less motivation to have a punt as each week goes on

Have zero tolerance for any comms nonsense and will only now punt if everything suits me

If that now results in me stopping then so be it 🤷🏻‍♂️

I find the same about the comms , nothing puts me off than bad communication, if a SP is not working then please put that on the profile. I find parlour punts easier these days, rather than the maybe baby with independent escorts.

[8MillionDollarMan]

Generally having less and less motivation to have a punt as each week goes on

Have zero tolerance for any comms nonsense and will only now punt if everything suits me

If that now results in me stopping then so be it 🤷🏻‍♂️

Same for me I'm only bothering to see one particular girl every time she tours near me as the standard of SPs is dire at the moment,that can be looks,service ,price or a combo of all.

[TallnHung]

My mojo is at an all time low.
I've been horny and wanted some action but I look and there's nothing I fancy.
I have one regular I'd see more often if closer but even 6 months ago I was willing to travel as far as it took for a good, well reviewed here punt. That's just gone.

It's not even money as I do alright there. I reckon last 3 months I've saved over £1500 on the usual punting funds.  I thought that might be an excuse to go for one of the wishlist expensive porn star types but even now I look and think not worth that much.

Maybe I need a break.

[southcoastpunter]

My mojo is at an all time low.
I've been horny and wanted some action but I look and there's nothing I fancy.

Maybe I need a break.

or maybe you need to get yourself to Thailand or Colombia or Gambia or.....somewhere totally different!

[TallnHung]

or maybe you need to get yourself to Thailand or Colombia or Gambia or.....somewhere totally different!

Maybe but Thai does nothing for me anyway, my work never takes me to Colombia or Gambia.
Somewhere totally different? Well Dubai was crap last time, Singapore same, the US was OK but hit and miss and not many hookers in the Maldives, Sri Lanka or India unless you take them with you.  I'll keep it in mind though

[Dipper]

or maybe you need to get yourself to Thailand or Colombia or Gambia or.....somewhere totally different!

I like the sound of Gambia a lot. 

Could it be age related? This desire slump. When I look back at my urge to punt five or ten years ago it was far more intense. Suppose it’s the natural way of things as we age

[B4bcock]

My mojo is at an all time low.
I've been horny and wanted some action but I look and there's nothing I fancy.
I have one regular I'd see more often if closer but even 6 months ago I was willing to travel as far as it took for a good, well reviewed here punt. That's just gone.

It's not even money as I do alright there. I reckon last 3 months I've saved over £1500 on the usual punting funds.  I thought that might be an excuse to go for one of the wishlist expensive porn star types but even now I look and think not worth that much.

Maybe I need a break.

That's an average of £500/month.  If you usually do 30 (or even 15) minute meetings it means you will have punted over once every week on average which, although not excessive (IMO, anyway ) could possibly cause a sense of complacency and reduction in anticipation due to overindulgence.  If you usually do one 2 or 3 hour punt for the £500 each month then ignore all the above and I haven't got a fucking clue what your problem is.

[pbrown355]

Same here. Punting so much less mainly cos I can't find someone who interests me enough to make the effort.

[Stevelondon]

I don’t think I’ve ever sat down and ever said something like,
“I think I’ll give punting a break”

If I’ve ever gone months or weeks without paying for it. Then it’s just been a seamless unconscious decision without me realising it.
If I fancy a punt I do. If I don’t …… then I don’t 😂

I hear all kinds of things on here about how you should have a backup plan if ‘A’ doesn’t work out you can quickly resort to ‘B’
That’s something else I’ve never done. If it doesn’t happen then so be it.

But of course we are all in different positions so everything in this world of punting is going to be different from one bloke to the next.

The only thing I might add. If it got to the point where punting just didn’t work anymore. Then I’d call it a day. I’m sure there’s loads of other stuff out there to while away the hours 😂

[alabama1]

I used to punt for the excitement, (i only started punting around seven years ago), but already, over a relatively short time period, i am mainly punting out of boredom these days. 

[B4bcock]

We're called punters because we are, in a way, gamblers who often don't know what we are paying to get into until the magic door opens and, like all gamblers, we can quickly fall into an addiction. As Gambleaware says quite rightly, "When the fun stops, stop".  Sage advice which should be taken until the itch returns and requires a good scratching, at which point a return to punting is almost inevitable, usually leading to a delightful realisation of why we started in the first place.

[alabama1]

We're called punters because we are, in a way, gamblers who often don't know what we are paying to get into until the magic door opens and, like all gamblers, we can quickly fall into an addiction. As Gambleaware says quite rightly, "When the fun stops, stop".  Sage advice which should be taken until the itch returns and requires a good scratching, at which point a return to punting is almost inevitable, usually leading to a delightful realisation of why we started in the first place.

Well put 

[CasualPaul1999]

I've been feeling like knocking the punting game on the head for a while now as well,Been doing this since 2006 despite having a couple of long term gfs during the time I still had the itch to do it,but now I really just can't be arsed with it,I've been down the Seeking route as well and meet a few nice and not so nice girls on there but to be honest that just seems to me women who don't want to be seen as brasses but who really are if that makes sense?.I've Been to Thailand a few times,Germany,Holland and Gambia and had some fun in all of them but it all just seems like a complete load of bollocks now,maybe it's an age thing(I'm 54)but the last few times I've done it I just end up thinking what a waste of time and dough.Good luck to everyone who buzzes off of doing it but I've lost the Mojo of punting now.

[alabama1]

I've been feeling like knocking the punting game on the head for a while now as well,Been doing this since 2006 despite having a couple of long term gfs during the time I still had the itch to do it,but now I really just can't be arsed with it,I've been down the Seeking route as well and meet a few nice and not so nice girls on there but to be honest that just seems to me women who don't want to be seen as brasses but who really are if that makes sense?.I've Been to Thailand a few times,Germany,Holland and Gambia and had some fun in all of them but it all just seems like a complete load of bollocks now,maybe it's an age thing(I'm 54)but the last few times I've done it I just end up thinking what a waste of time and dough.Good luck to everyone who buzzes off of doing it but I've lost the Mojo of punting now.

I think you have knocked it on the head there. It's not so much the money, more so time wasted. I have been to some fantastic cities in Europe, but because of the punting, haven't seen much of them.

[Dipper]

We're called punters because we are, in a way, gamblers who often don't know what we are paying to get into until the magic door opens and, like all gamblers, we can quickly fall into an addiction. As Gambleaware says quite rightly, "When the fun stops, stop".  Sage advice which should be taken until the itch returns and requires a good scratching, at which point a return to punting is almost inevitable, usually leading to a delightful realisation of why we started in the first place.

So true. I failed to put this into words here some time ago. 

[Dipper]

I used to punt for the excitement, (i only started punting around seven years ago), but already, over a relatively short time period, i am mainly punting out of boredom these days. 

Again a bit sad but so true.

It’s the “buzz” and habit of organising and plotting the next session as much (and in some ways more) as the punt itself for me.

Browsing the available today section, sending enquiry messages, visualising routes, perfecting excuses, freeing up cash . The punt itself can almost become a sideshow.

[JonasG]

I'm having as much fun punting as i did when i first started i think.

Still a lot of great WGs about.

[gurds]

I know how you feel, main benefit of seeing escorts is you have unlimited choice and there is the power element where you can get them to do what you want. Although some escorts have done attitude.

I am 32 and as I started seeing escorts from a very early age of 18, I actually never bothered with dating at all my entire life. I just had sex with large numbers of escorts.

It is good for variety but for meaningful connection would have to try normal route of building relationships. Being a massive narcissist like Andrew Tate I don't really think any woman would be good enough for me in a relationship unless they are one of the best looking women in the world, which is very hard feat to achieve.

All depends on what your individual personality is like. Lots of men seem to have lower standards in terms of attractiveness for women that they want to get into a relationship with.

Best of luck. Although in my view happiness doesn't really come from external things that much. It is just a state of mind. At the end of the day we are all born alone and die alone. No one else can live in our bodies or walk in our shoes.

[alabama1]

I know how you feel, main benefit of seeing escorts is you have unlimited choice and there is the power element where you can get them to do what you want. Although some escorts have done attitude.

I am 32 and as I started seeing escorts from a very early age of 18, I actually never bothered with dating at all my entire life. I just had sex with large numbers of escorts.

It is good for variety but for meaningful connection would have to try normal route of building relationships. Being a massive narcissist like Andrew Tate I don't really think any woman would be good enough for me in a relationship unless they are one of the best looking women in the world, which is very hard feat to achieve.

All depends on what your individual personality is like. Lots of men seem to have lower standards in terms of attractiveness for women that they want to get into a relationship with.

Best of luck. Although in my view happiness doesn't really come from external things that much. It is just a state of mind. At the end of the day we are all born alone and die alone. No one else can live in our bodies or walk in our shoes.

You are coming across as a weirdo 

[gurds]

Some men only see women as walking sex toys.

I am like that. Lots of other narcissistic men are the same, Andrew Tate is an example as well.

Truth is men are only interested in women for sexual reasons and women are only interested in men for how it can benefit them. The whole concept of love is an illusion.

[SonofAJohn]

Interesting points raised here...
OP get yourself a massage. No leaving this game until you die

[Doc Holliday]

Truth is men are only interested in women for sexual reasons and women are only interested in men for how it can benefit them. The whole concept of love is an illusion.

That's not a truth it's an opinion which you are entitled to hold and express.

It is also not my opinion nor my life experience and I am much older than you. Love, in its many guises, has been far from an illusion.

Have you sought help yet? That said, narcissistic personality is notoriously difficult to treat. In particular acceptance that there is actually a problem.

[alabama1]

Some men only see women as walking sex toys.

I am like that. Lots of other narcissistic men are the same, Andrew Tate is an example as well.

Truth is men are only interested in women for sexual reasons and women are only interested in men for how it can benefit them. The whole concept of love is an illusion.

A narcissist doesn't know they are a narcissist. The same way that a mad person does not know they are mad. You are just trying to big yourself up for some reason, to appear like a hard man, like your hero.