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Offline whitehouse

hey guys,
I have been a lurker here for quite some time and have yet to take the plunge and actually book an escort, the question I pose to the forum members is does punting increase the likelihood of coming right with normal birds?
the reason I ask is I had a relationship from the age of 14 right through until second year uni, and when I suddenly became single I realised that I had absolutely no game whatsoever! I just get overboard nervous when trying to chat up birds and I think my desperation is what's pushing these girls away. its been a good 8 months without sex now and I just thought that maybe a good punt with someone hot would maybe settle those nerves. Has anyone found that punting helps with this particular problem?

Bob Cratchit

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I'm happier with life in general now that I'm getting laid with beautiful women on a regular basis and other people do notice.

Offline socks

I'm not in the pulling game but I've found my confidence around flirting and raising intimate topics with women I know in my normal life has sky rocketed since I got into regular casual sex with strangers!

dilettante

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Hmmm, not sure it would ever affect The Things That Matter, birds are too canny for that.  Definitely don't put all your eggs in the punting basket as being the way forward, better concentrate on things that do matter like career, I do it because I don't care any more.

And as for "increasing confidence", rather see it as how the repercussions of punting might wreck your confidence - I suspect a lot of people might sunder their mutuality towards you if they knew, not the least example being if your OH found out and dumped you.

Offline Stealthy

It helps you be less uptight about women in general and so, more relaxed around them.

Being relaxed around women (and not self conscious) is a type of confidence.
« Last Edit: April 30, 2014, 09:04:54 pm by Stealthy »

Offline whitehouse

thanks socks. Just a side note, my old man, who by his own admission is a womaniser always told me that the way to a woman's heart (and by heart he meant pussy) was to convince her that she needed you more than you needed her. So in other words, if a woman realises that her decision to sleep with you has no effect on you, it in turn makes you more desirable.

SirFrank

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In my case it swings both ways. If I've performed like a beast I think I'm cock of the walk and irresistible to the opposite sex. The times where I've blown my nuts after two strokes I usually feel like a loser


Offline socks

thanks socks. Just a side note, my old man, who by his own admission is a womaniser always told me that the way to a woman's heart (and by heart he meant pussy) was to convince her that she needed you more than you needed her. So in other words, if a woman realises that her decision to sleep with you has no effect on you, it in turn makes you more desirable.
I think you're right

Offline daveev

with me yes, if id known about how fun and good escorts can be id have split with my ex after 2 years instead of 7, wasted to much time with the wrong girls,

Offline Matium

Punting definitely does increase your self-confidence.

When I'm in the pub and I'm being ignored by the women there, I just say to myself:

"Sod all of you! I'm going to go and get a girl who's younger than all of you, prettier then all of you and who'll do everything I want and more!"

It really such a relief to have an alternative to civvy girls!

 :cool:

Rochdull lad

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It helps you be less uptight about women in general and so, more relaxed around them.

Being relaxed around women (and not self conscious) is a type of confidence.

I'd agree totally with that, Stealthy.

Punting definitely does increase your self-confidence.

When I'm in the pub and I'm being ignored by the women there, I just say to myself:

"Sod all of you! I'm going to go and get a girl who's younger than all of you, prettier then all of you and who'll do everything I want and more!"

It really such a relief to have an alternative to civvy girls!

 :cool:

When I see my mates' [lads I've known for 40+ years] wives, I think exactly what Matium wrote above!  It may be shallow of me but I'd rather have a woman who's younger than them; fitter than them & up for stuff my mates' wives wouldn't want to know about these days [if ever!]

Offline Matium

Also, Rochdull, there is a huge difference between you and your mates.

You can have sex any time you want.

When was the last time those guys ever got anything from their wives?

 :diablo:

Offline Tailpipe

Woman can smell desperate for sure . Punting lights you up and does increase
Your confidence for sure. Stops you running around with your lights on high beam.

Problem is for many the required standard of woman therefore increases to
A unattainable level in civi street.

Fuck it punting is far less hassle than dating .

Tjkooker

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In my case I swing both ways. I perform like a beast

Fixed that for you frank  :drinks:

sexpest

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Yes seeing wg's was definitely a confidence booster at first, after seeing so many wg's who seem to genuinely orgasm it does boost your ego just a tad. Then you see the stack of cash on the dressing counter and you know their putting up with you just for your money. And then your confidence falls dramatically  :scare:

Aspen

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its been a good 8 months without sex now and I just thought that maybe a good punt with someone hot would maybe settle those nerves. Has anyone found that punting helps with this particular problem?

Yes, it does. It makes a big difference. But be aware that it can also make a big difference to your sex life in the sense that you won't be so inclined to engage in relationships. It's a good confidence builder and a safety valve, but it can easily become the norm if you start to rely on it.


Offline MancSean

Not sure why it would make you more confident with women at all. If you pay a decorator to paint your hallway does it make you feel more confident to paint your bedroom?
At end of the day punting allows you to shag birds that shag for a living meaning they have no quality criteria on who they shag. Surely pulling a fit bit of totty is more confidence building as she actually wanted to shag you

SirFrank

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Fixed that for you frank  :drinks:

Thanks mate - don't knock till you've tried it  :D

Offline JamesKW

Lukily punting hasn't made me any more confident and I am glad that's the case as it would get me into a whole load of trouble.

Rochdull lad

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Also, Rochdull, there is a huge difference between you and your mates.

You can have sex any time you want.

When was the last time those guys ever got anything from their wives?

 :diablo:

Spot on, Matium.  The sad thing for them is that they're almost certainly still paying, but not getting it!

Offline Jeremy

It only builds confidence if you have trouble pulling - if you're able to pull attractive civvie girls then you'll already have built up that level of confidence.

I think said confidence only forms after several punts though, otherwise in your mind you can still see it as one-off occurrences.

Jedi Apprentice

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Then you see the stack of cash on the dressing counter and you know their putting up with you just for your money.
Wise words sexpest. I'd say if you can direct that confidence high to pulling regular girls - better. No point deluding oneself that you're good with the ladies if you're paying for it. Its a better shagging civvies but I do love them hoes. Cue song: Eamon - I love them hoes

Offline anyfucker

Nope, i have always been confident about myself.
i would recommend you get into situations you can flirt with as many women as possible without feeling the need to pull/perform, anyone, anywhere, anytime, anyfucker regardless of whether attractive or not.
For example, when you go for lunch  or coffee bar just strike up a conversation, be a bit cheeky (not rude or insulting) and see how it flows.
The more you practise the better you get, i have never been slapped in 50 years of doing it.
An old friend once told me to get to the NO quickly, ie don't waste time find out where you stand and move on quickly to the next.
IMHO, it's a pity you had a very long term relationship when you were younger instead of going out with as many girls/women as possible and figuring out what you might want for the long term.

Offline oldfart

When your young, you put girls, on a pedestal,
                               after a few punts, you see girls, are just like us,
                                  that gives you more confidence with the woman.
                                     
                                             

redhat

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Years ago I always used to ask for feedback, they were all probably spewing shit but it's given me a bit confidence at my skills now. Plus when I do manage to get a lass as a mate I try to improve.

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I think it makes you lazy, the fact I could be shagging a woman in her 20s that looks like a model within an hour can make you give up on civvy relationships. I think it also makes you more cynical towards women in general, to an extent you get wise to some of the games they play and you can choose whether or not to play them. With confidence, I think it makes you more relaxed around women, better sexually skilled and more at ease with yourself. Swings and roundabouts, really.

cockneybstrd

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I think it makes you lazy, the fact I could be shagging a woman in her 20s that looks like a model within an hour can make you give up on civvy relationships. I think it also makes you more cynical towards women in general, to an extent you get wise to some of the games they play and you can choose whether or not to play them. With confidence, I think it makes you more relaxed around women, better sexually skilled and more at ease with yourself. Swings and roundabouts, really.

This is very true.

Most birds seem to come with more issues than Mariah Carey. And I am too lazy to put up with all the shite that comes with them at the moment.
« Last Edit: May 01, 2014, 02:54:11 pm by cockneybstrd »

Offline Tailpipe

I think it makes you lazy, the fact I could be shagging a woman in her 20s that looks like a model within an hour can make you give up on civvy relationships. I think it also makes you more cynical towards women in general, to an extent you get wise to some of the games they play and you can choose whether or not to play them. With confidence, I think it makes you more relaxed around women, better sexually skilled and more at ease with yourself. Swings and roundabouts, really.
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100% great post all is so true

SirFrank

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Well I punted today - first time in weeks - and I went back to work walking like Liam Gallagher the first time he visited The Smoke. Top one, nice one (swagger swagger) etc etc

cockneybstrd

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Well I punted today - first time in weeks - and I went back to work walking like Liam Gallagher the first time he visited The Smoke. Top one, nice one (swagger swagger) etc etc

LOL !


Offline El Jefe

I'm a pretty shy, nervous guy.

A good punt can leave me feeling like nothing matters, I'm on top of the fucking world.

A shit punt makes me more depressed than I was before.

Offline threechilliman

A quality punt, I couldn't give a fuck the rest of the day!!

SaturnGreed

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I'm a pretty shy, nervous guy.

A good punt can leave me feeling like nothing matters, I'm on top of the fucking world.

A shit punt makes me more depressed than I was before.

this is exactly how i feel. just gotta get that good punt to gain confidence.