Is it OK?? - Reasonable questions to ask SPs

[onedivergent]

Starting this one for all.
Simple what are the ok questions to ask
I'll start
Is it OK to ask a service provider to be washed or showered before meeting?
(Is it OK to question or tell one service providers hygiene when with them)

thoughts opinions and experiences please on this and also open up for any other questions people wonder about asking

[Dave82]

I haven't ever requested a SP to be clean etc. I assumed it was given they would be.

If I visited an SP and there was an issue I'd probably raise the issue just as I would expect the SP to raise an issue with me

[limarasa9]

Starting this one for all.
Simple what are the ok questions to ask
I'll start
Is it OK to ask a service provider to be washed or showered before meeting?
(Is it OK to question or tell one service providers hygiene when with them)

thoughts opinions and experiences please on this and also open up for any other questions people wonder about asking

I had read this being discussed on the saafe site (the site doesn’t open for me anymore) wherein a SP was raising objection and deriding a punter for asking this exact question.

[onedivergent]

I have been thinking is it ok to ask when was your last booking to a service provider upon arriving if there wasn't an obvious rotation door policy?!
I'm respecting of privacy but also curious. Not always need that info but can be useful for hygiene and general service.

[onedivergent]

I had read this being discussed on the saafe site (the site doesn’t open for me anymore) wherein a SP was raising objection and deriding a punter for asking this exact question.

Exactly wondering how OK is it as some can take things wrong way.
And exactly asking what is OK to ask and what people think or wonder is OK to ask

[sensualencounter]

I have been thinking is it ok to ask when was your last booking to a service provider upon arriving if there wasn't an obvious rotation door policy?!
I'm respecting of privacy but also curious. Not always need that info but can be useful for hygiene and general service.

No, it’s not okay to ask that. It has nothing to do with you and bears no relevance to your booking. So long as the escort is clean and gives you a good service then you don’t need to know anything else.

If you’re that squeamish about an escort possibly seeing another punter before you, then this isn’t the hobby for you. And as a matter of point, whether they see one punter or 20 punters in a day, it doesn’t correspond to their hygiene levels.

The only thing you are entitled to do is to pull them up if they aren’t clean, be that a request for them to freshen up or to walk out of the booking, preferably with a full refund.

[Hobbit]

Remember, you are dealing with women, so 9 times out of 10 they will take it the wrong way.

Any decent hooker will ensure their hygiene is 100% before a booking, regardless if they see one person a day or a hundred people. If they stink, then do a review and don't see them again. It's that simple.

[onedivergent]

No, it’s not okay to ask that. It has nothing to do with you and bears no relevance to your booking. So long as the escort is clean and gives you a good service then you don’t need to know anything else.

If you’re that squeamish about an escort possibly seeing another punter before you, then this isn’t the hobby for you. And as a matter of point, whether they see one punter or 20 punters in a day, it doesn’t correspond to their hygiene levels.

The only thing you are entitled to do is to pull them up if they aren’t clean, be that a request for them to freshen up or to walk out of the booking, preferably with a full refund.

Sure I mean I just want to make sure they are as clean as we are requested to be so fairs standard.
Certainly I want everyone at their best to cover all bases. And no awks sits.
Hear your input.

Well it does promote that debate and question as there is a relevance in terms of hygiene and even services provided.
Only reason subtlety would ask such becasue of circumstances. I'm with you don't need to know all the goings on.
And asking if others here have ever asked such and how response was or just generally how they found things.
That's all.

[onedivergent]

Remember, you are dealing with women, so 9 times out of 10 they will take it the wrong way.

Any decent hooker will ensure their hygiene is 100% before a booking, regardless if they see one person a day or a hundred people. If they stink, then do a review and don't see them again. It's that simple.

I think you're half tounge in cheek on some of your comment as that's incredibly sexist but maybe that's your experience of women . People taking things wrong way nothing to do with gender!
But thanks for rest of what you say.

[daviemac]

FFS OP, you've been here nearly 8 years and you need to ask these questions. I could maybe understand someone brand new to punting asking questions like this but come on, asking when her last punter was.  Asking personal questions is a sure fire way to get the punt off to a bad start.

No wonder you have so many negative and neutral reviews.

[Hobbit]

I think you're half tounge in cheek on some of your comment as that's incredibly sexist but maybe that's your experience of women . People taking things wrong way nothing to do with gender!
But thanks for rest of what you say.

Nope. I meant every word I said. Anyway, you were the one asking the question and I gave you my opinion.

[onedivergent]

FFS OP, you've been here nearly 8 years and you need to ask these questions. I could maybe understand someone brand new to punting asking questions like this but come on, asking when her last punter was.  Asking personal questions is a sure fire way to get the punt off to a bad start.

No wonder you have so many negative and neutral reviews.

Well on and off 8 years actually growing up.
As have numerous girlfriends and there was a lock down period and transition from young adulthood. it's contextual.
Anyhow my negatives and neutrals aren't mu fault are they.
The thanks I get man!
Take your point though it's hardly anything I'm doing wrong. I have just built up a high standard of service actually thanks to learning off here and helpful service providers. So there!
But let's maybe allow for circumstances I'm still learning and don't do the weekly punt have neither time,  need or necessity.

And pretty much every WG has asked me a personal question though i know i'm not there to ask questions unless deemed necessary.

Expected a bit more support from you there DavieM disappointing to start throwing things my way and negative slights at me.
Anyway let's move on.
I'm more than  understanding that others like to have an opinion and point I think be better served if you were more supportive. (As you have always been in the past with me and I've always been super thankful)

[onedivergent]

Nope. I meant every word I said. Anyway, you were the one asking the question and I gave you my opinion.

Sure and I'm explaining that is a sexist view but of course if that's your opinion so be it. I like to help somehow alter it but that's not the point of all this and also it's clearly how you experience it so that's fair enough also.
Thanks I am respecting to how you see things even if i don't agree

[Hobbit]

Sure and I'm explaining that is a sexist view but of course if that's your opinion so be it. I like to help somehow alter it but that's not the point of all this and also it's clearly how you experience it so that's fair enough also.
Thanks I am respecting to how you see things even if i don't agree

That's extremely kind of you dear sir. 

[onedivergent]

That's extremely kind of you dear sir. 

All the  best to you as well for your encounters. All here for our own thing be it similar or differing  . Experiences may be different but all as valued.
 
C ya

[Lou2019]

Any decent hooker will ensure their hygiene is 100% before a booking, regardless if they see one person a day or a hundred people.

This 
OP or see SPs that offer a shared shower if it’s making you that anxious 

[onedivergent]

This 
OP or see SPs that offer a shared shower if it’s making you that anxious 

Yes! A shared shower. Thank you. Like that.

[Hobbit]

Yes! A shared shower. Thank you. Like that.

Just don't ask for watersports as that's completely different from the shower you're looking for. 

[daviemac]

Well on and off 8 years actually growing up.
As have numerous girlfriends and there was a lock down period and transition from young adulthood. it's contextual.
Anyhow my negatives and neutrals aren't mu fault are they.
The thanks I get man!
Take your point though it's hardly anything I'm doing wrong. I have just built up a high standard of service actually thanks to learning off here and helpful service providers. So there!
But let's maybe allow for circumstances I'm still learning and don't do the weekly punt have neither time,  need or necessity.

And pretty much every WG has asked me a personal question though i know i'm not there to ask questions unless deemed necessary.

Expected a bit more support from you there DavieM disappointing to start throwing things my way and negative slights at me.
Anyway let's move on.
I'm more than  understanding that others like to have an opinion and point I think be better served if you were more supportive. (As you have always been in the past with me and I've always been super thankful)

Like I said in my reply had a newbie asked this question he would get all the help he would need but when an established punter and regular user of the site asks a question like this I despair. Put yourself in the SP's shoes, how would you feel if the first thing she did before the booking even started was to ask you a load of personal questions.

When you say 'on and off' you have posted reviews every year since 2014 and you are a very regular user of the site.   

[Thepacifist]

I don’t think it’s a good idea to ask her if she’s clean or when her last booking was. A shared shower is a good idea but some are put off and think you’ll try something unprotected.

[JontyR]

Yes! A shared shower. Thank you. Like that.

Or take a bar of carbolic soap and say you have a fetish for the smell.

[onedivergent]

Well yes I think certainly I make a contribution to post review ratio that's very efficient.
It's how I like to operate.
We hardly need to debate that one though @davieM as to how experienced I am or have become in my journey. That's my choosing not anyone else's. Yes it's relative however it's contextual and circumstantial.
I think there needs an understanding to people's sensitivities here some times and well perhaps i can only suggest for more current ways of thinking so people are more understanding when a fairly simple suggestion has been asked and it could be more a way for phrasing of a question. 

Personal questions aren't the deal here.

Deal is simply asking about showering or when was your last booking in regards to have you Showered since then

I think a decent compromise has been suggested by the shower together scenario.
My other option and thinking now would be to simply request they be Showered before my booking  or I won't take the booking.

[onedivergent]

Or take a bar of carbolic soap and say you have a fetish for the smell.

Well if one is being requested to shower by a provider I also think it can be checked in some ways that they  showered to.
Maybe it's scenario based as perhaps not always so necessary.
Hygiene issues are something that are very relevant with monkey pox and various strains of covid.
Everyone must be vigilant.

[onedivergent]

Just don't ask for watersports as that's completely different from the shower you're looking for. 

Haha very good. 
Cough dap approved.
Don't want that though Vanessa in Kensington offered me once didn't even know what it was!

[Lou2019]

Well if one is being requested to shower by a provider I also think it can be checked in some ways that they  showered to.
Maybe it's scenario based as perhaps not always so necessary.
Hygiene issues are something that are very relevant with monkey pox and various strains of covid.
Everyone must be vigilant.

OP can I ask do you have OCD? I’m not being rude or sarcastic either ?

[sensualencounter]

OP you’re sounding more and more like someone who’s a bit of a wanker and loves he sound of his own voice. You’ve had a lot of opinions and the general (actually unanimous) consensus is don’t ask stupid questions of the escort. Yet you’re still banging on and trying to justify why YOU and only you think it’s fine. Very strange behaviour.

[lamboman]

Any decent hooker will ensure their hygiene is 100% before a booking,

I think that's rather naive unless you mean a quick swipe downtairs with a wet wipe.

[daviemac]

I think that's rather naive unless you mean a quick swipe downtairs with a wet wipe.

The operative word there was 'decent', decent escorts don't use wetwipes, they shower and make sure they're clean, the dodgy one's use wetwipes and there are fare too many of those. 

[Lou2019]

The operative word there was 'decent', decent escorts don't use wetwipes, they shower and make sure they're clean, the dodgy one's use wetwipes and there are fare too many of those.

Whores bath/wash

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at the term 

[onedivergent]

OP can I ask do you have OCD? I’m not being rude or sarcastic either ?

It's not rude to ask or sarcastic as seemingly honest question. Thank you.

[onedivergent]

OP you’re sounding more and more like someone who’s a bit of a wanker and loves he sound of his own voice. You’ve had a lot of opinions and the general (actually unanimous) consensus is don’t ask stupid questions of the escort. Yet you’re still banging on and trying to justify why YOU and only you think it’s fine. Very strange behaviour.

Not helpful for a forum helper.
And your ratio to posts is what I find strange actually. We can avoid each other thanks. No benefit in any more in exchange but I've given my right to reply now if you don't mind concentre on something that helps the forum or posters. The only thing I take is that I'll be mindful when looking to discuss something I wanted assistance with which I am very weary due to all sorts of reasons as well as the sort of comment back from less understanding people.
Shame really. Anyway. Let's move on and good luck to your experiences but don't call me names thanks it's not nice and I imagine against forum rules to be so disrespectful.
If moderators want to lock this then good as I think I can get the clear picture on things and options I can take. It's all accepted by me what others want to say as someone who is fair minded. Hopefully others learn from this too. Thank you. And good day!

[onedivergent]

I haven't ever requested a SP to be clean etc. I assumed it was given they would be.

If I visited an SP and there was an issue I'd probably raise the issue just as I would expect the SP to raise an issue with me

Thanks that's good practice and good input to this. Much obliged.

[tynetunnel]

Not helpful for a forum helper.

But as a long standing member you’ll know that’s not what forum helpers do  They help with some of the chores, not be extra nice to non helpers, or indeed anyone they consider to be a wanker! 

[Hobbit]

Not helpful for a forum helper.
And your ratio to posts is what I find strange actually. We can avoid each other thanks. No benefit in any more in exchange but I've given my right to reply now if you don't mind concentre on something that helps the forum or posters. The only thing I take is that I'll be mindful when looking to discuss something I wanted assistance with which I am very weary due to all sorts of reasons as well as the sort of comment back from less understanding people.
Shame really. Anyway. Let's move on and good luck to your experiences but don't call me names thanks it's not nice and I imagine against forum rules to be so disrespectful.
If moderators want to lock this then good as I think I can get the clear picture on things and options I can take. It's all accepted by me what others want to say as someone who is fair minded. Hopefully others learn from this too. Thank you. And good day!

You are really not coming across well.

[onedivergent]

But as a long standing member you’ll know that’s not what forum helpers do  They help with some of the chores, not be extra nice to non helpers, or indeed anyone they consider to be a wanker! 

No bro because that's assuming just because I'm long standing in member terms.
Too much assuming going on!
Can we drop it now because I get the ideas suggested just giving my feedback to how things are coming across as well.
Even though I'm far from a simpleton I can get super worried in situations and just want to highlight that and feel now I have to say so when that's a private thing really . so the W word used is the wrong one! Isn't it!
Anyhow thanks for input my question which I opened up to others. Yes it was for me and how I experience the world and it's a lesson to say it's different to how others may experience things.
Having to put this across to people I don't know who haven't considered is a good lesson there which I'm happy I've helped with
All I wanted was some guidance and to be met with some of the comments well that's outrageous. I know I'm ok as I've been decent so no more on the subject matter.

[contentguy]

@ OP -you’re mentioned post to review and post ratio twice in this thread.

Care to elaborate what your point is in that respect?

[sensualencounter]

Not helpful for a forum helper.
And your ratio to posts is what I find strange actually. We can avoid each other thanks. No benefit in any more in exchange but I've given my right to reply now if you don't mind concentre on something that helps the forum or posters. The only thing I take is that I'll be mindful when looking to discuss something I wanted assistance with which I am very weary due to all sorts of reasons as well as the sort of comment back from less understanding people.
Shame really. Anyway. Let's move on and good luck to your experiences but don't call me names thanks it's not nice and I imagine against forum rules to be so disrespectful.
If moderators want to lock this then good as I think I can get the clear picture on things and options I can take. It's all accepted by me what others want to say as someone who is fair minded. Hopefully others learn from this too. Thank you. And good day!

Yep, as I thought. Wanker.

[tynetunnel]

No bro because that's assuming just because I'm long standing in member terms.
Too much assuming going on!
Can we drop it now because I get the ideas suggested just giving my feedback to how things are coming across as well.
Even though I'm far from a simpleton I can get super worried in situations and just want to highlight that and feel now I have to say so when that's a private thing really . so the W word used is the wrong one! Isn't it!
Anyhow thanks for input my question which I opened up to others. Yes it was for me and how I experience the world and it's a lesson to say it's different to how others may experience things.
Having to put this across to people I don't know who haven't considered is a good lesson there which I'm happy I've helped with
All I wanted was some guidance and to be met with some of the comments well that's outrageous. I know I'm ok as I've been decent so no more on the subject matter.

I’m struggling to understand what you’re even talking about. I have a masters in English language so it must be you, not me.

Also, please don’t assume I’m your “bro”, too much assuming going on!

[daviemac]

Not helpful for a forum helper.

If I can clarify what a forum helper is, they help with the day to day running of the forum, moving topics to the correct region, indexing reviews, correcting subject headings, changing review ratings when requested by the reviewer and things of that nature. They do a sterling job and the help they provide is very much appreciated. In other words they help the forum not forum members.

[onedivergent]

If I can clarify what a forum helper is, they help with the day to day running of the forum, moving topics to the correct region, indexing reviews, correcting subject headings, changing review ratings when requested by the reviewer and things of that nature. They do a sterling job and the help they provide is very much appreciated. In other words they help the forum not forum members.

Thank you.
I had seen these titles under certain posters come up over time gone by I just thought it was an honour or accolade of someone who has been most helpful to other punters via guidance or advice given.
Anyway yes it's honourable service what these helpers do but quite why one guy above need to be rude is poor character trait. And is reported to mods for lacking respect decency.
Anyway I'll message my brief to you in coming time and thank you for clearing this up.
Please lock the thread.

[onedivergent]

@ OP -you’re mentioned post to review and post ratio twice in this thread.

Care to elaborate what your point is in that respect?

Just on an understanding that it's good to be efficient with reviewed to posts. However I've been informed that perhaps forum helpers are different because they are helping.
And of others though non helpers I always wonder then how some have made many posts but not as many reviews or at least percentage terms. Financially that makes no sense.
Anyway think we have totally gone off subject question raised and requested thread lock.

[contentguy]

I’m thinking he’s either
- trolling
- high
- on the spectrum (and i mean no disrespect with that potential observation, the OP’s name suggests it may the case).

Either way, the OP would be better perhaps, reading more and saying less.

[daviemac]

Threads don't get locked by request.

[Whiteknight]

I’m thinking he’s either
- trolling
- high
- on the spectrum (and i mean no disrespect with that potential observation, the OP’s name suggests it may the case).

Either way, the OP would be better perhaps, reading more and saying less.

+1 

[onedivergent]

Content guy that's fine it's more disrespectful you suggested the other 2 things! Thank you for your guidance.
 I will be mindful that such questions aren't tolerated to be asked by me on this site even though I would have liked to hear experience and liked the helpful comments . I will just stick to reviews for the time being. Or not writing. Its just today I had opportunity to ask things.
Thanks for dialogue and your forum help and also to the guy who called me names even though that upsetting i acknowledge his work on forum help just not why he wants to go at me.

Thanks for dialogue.
Clearly misunderstood but will do as said and not write.
Sorry.

[onedivergent]

Threads don't get locked by request.

Well I don't know how it works.I just hope people could be a bit nicer with me on that because my question was for me and how I experience the world (8 years or so of varying provider encounters ) and to hear others.
Sorry!

[Thephoenix]

Starting this one for all.
Simple what are the ok questions to ask
I'll start
Is it OK to ask a service provider to be washed or showered before meeting?
(Is it OK to question or tell one service providers hygiene when with them)

Of course it's ok to ask if, as it seems, you're genuinely concerned about hygiene.
You can ask anything you like.
Your reasonable but rather naive assumption is that because SPs often insist on clients showering on arrival, it's fair for you to make the same request.
You may actually find a lady that's more than happy to agree to your request.
Why not give it a try and report back!

However, I suggest you ignore the name calling and sift through the advice from the well meaning experienced punters on here, when they advise you that doing so may result in a negative response.

It may seem unfair that a SP can insist on you showering, but you can't insist on her doing the same.
It may well be regarded as an insult.
But that's up to you....Good luck!

[king tarzan]

Starting this one for all.
Simple what are the ok questions to ask
I'll start
Is it OK to ask a service provider to be washed or showered before meeting?
(Is it OK to question or tell one service providers hygiene when with them)

thoughts opinions and experiences please on this and also open up for any other questions people wonder about asking

I ask exactly that...
Had a few go off at me needless to say didn't bother going..
In a way attitude test

Result they failed

Simpletto 👍👌