This is unsolicited advice so feel free to take it or ignore it.
I don't think you're doing the meet wrong, I think it sounds like you're approach to selecting what would be a good punt for you is wrong. That's ok - we've all been there, especially if you're new to it, it takes fair bit of experience to figure it out and identify the patterns that will steer you to better punting. This is where UKP can help you by getting the value of the combined years of experience that we all have and why I want to share my thoughts on this for you to take or leave.
I don't know exactly what you're looking for, I'm assuming something more like proper GFE, so less robotic/awkward, more engaging, willing/able to take the lead, just inferring from your review. If that's the case, then I recommend the following hints if you decide to give it another go:
- Avoid agencies, there may be great GFE providers at them, but in my experience they are the vast minority and whenever I resort to an agency SP I expect it to be robotic, disengaged and transactional, going through the motions. Same for anything on vivastreet or Kommons.
- Find well-reviewed independent GFE providers on here, that's some solids like Ellie_30_Rose or HSG.
- When booking them, communicate your expectations upfront, I would like X, Y, Z service - I would like you to take the lead, I want it to feel as natural and as passionate as possible. Whatever you want. SPs always tell me that the first meeting with the client is trying to figure out what the hell we want and give it to them, you can better your odds of that going well by just telling them upfront - the good ones will be glad of it.
- There's an art to reading an AW profile and doing the vibe check, are they batshit crazy? Are they going to be transactional? It is art more than science - but as best I can describe, I find that better GFE providers talk more about connection, giving full attention, quality over quantity in their profiles, whereas less good GFE providers talk more about being nasty/filthy/depraved or have a LOT of rules about what they do, don't do, very specific instructions for how and when to contact them etc. Not a highly reliable rule of thumb, more art than science but you start to build a sense of these things over time.
Hope any of that helps you on your next punt if you decide to give it another go. I echo the words of others on the value of having reliable regulars, but going through this process is the only real way to find them. Then you can see regulars and introduce a bit of variety/mix as much as you're willing to take the risk.
