How long do you wait before giving up?

[McNoobing]

I made a booking a week before and had it all booked on the aw system. On the day  I showed up 30mins early and messaged the sp that I was here and to let me know when she was ready. I text again 5mins before to ask if she was ok. I then called her at the time it was supposed to start. She didn’t answer. I walked away. She text me ten mins later saying she will be 5 mins. I told her I was cancelling as she was late. She was very angry. Telling me Im very rude and disrespectful. In my opinion it was fair for me to cancel and walk away. I never said anything nasty to her just that I was cancelling the appointment. Was I wrong?

[Cheltclient]

No you’re not wrong. I think we all have our view as to when to walk away if the SP is late. With radio silence, ten minutes seems an unfair wait to me so I think she was wrong to be angry. I get it - she’s lost a booking - but if she was running late, she should have let you know. It can be annoying but many a time I’ve had a late message saying the SP is running a little late. As long as I’ve got the time, not s problem, albeit if it’s like half hour, I’d be tempted to cancel. 10, 15 mins I can just about accept.

Flip it around, I’m pretty sure must SP’s would be very angry if we didn’t message and 10 mins after the booking suddenly text. A lot of them put such warnings on their profile.

[Cheltclient]

Oh and if you had a confirmed booking, prob justifies a negative review.

[scutty brown]

Personally I think you were a bit foolhardy. Leaving on the dot like that is just cutting off your nose to spite your face. Shit happens, things overrun, timings slip. I would probably have accepted the 15 minutes as just something that happens. 30 minutes? Not so sure about that, it would depend on what she said and who she was

[Cheltclient]

Personally I think you were a bit foolhardy. Leaving on the dot like that is just cutting off your nose to spite your face. Shit happens, things overrun, timings slip. I would probably have accepted the 15 minutes as just something that happens. 30 minutes? Not so sure about that, it would depend on what she said and who she was

I know some people on here leave on the dot if no comms. I always tends to give it 15 mins or so. Probably because tons of escorts run a little late. Have walked a fair few tunes too, guess depends on the mood.

I think if I had walked on the dot every time I’d have missed out on some great bookings.

[ulstersubbie]

I think if I had walked on the dot every time I’d have missed out on some great bookings.

+1

[southcoastpunter]

not too long ago, there was a thread about how long do you wait before leaving. if my memory is corect, most said 15 minutes, some only 10, some 20-30. Very few said "on the dot".

Op as cheltclient said, if you had a confirmed booking you can leave a formal review.

Also as this (at this stage) is a general issue / comment and not region specific, i will move this to the main / national board for wider comment - and have changed the heading a bit to more accurately describe the topic under discussion.

[alabama1]

OP, why did you text her 30 minutes before the start time ? That probably pissed her off ! How long ago was this anyway?, is it relevant, as you haven't left a review for four years.

[RandomGuy99]

Texting the SP 30 minutes before the booking will annoy the SP as she may be:

1) busy with another booking, which may annoy the other SS and the SP

2) on a break, so you're ruining her break

3) preparing for your booking, so she ends up texting you instead of finishing her prep

She may interpret it as you trying to rush her or possibly you being a boundary pusher/someone who can't follow instructions as you can't even turn up at the agreed time. This may make the SP nervous and so she decides not to see you after all.

It's best to just find somewhere nearby to chill out and have a sit down and wait until the agreed time. Then you text her to tell her you've arrived.  You may get nothing from her immediately as she might be showering or finishing her preparations and be away from her phone. I'd give her a maximum of 10 minutes and then chase and then another 5 minutes and then say you're off.

[gbyld87]

Arriving and texting 30mins before a booking is weird.  People don't like weird.  Try not to be weird.

That said, if you're not being weird by turning up a full half hour before your agreed time and they give you nothing after 10 mins I'd be already on my bike tbh.

[RandomGuy99]

You don't rock up at your dentist or any other appointment 30 minutes early and text them to say I'm here and expect them to go "hold on. I was going to go have a coffee and a pee, but I shall scrap that plan because he has arrived early and his time is important.  I don't want to make him wait to the time he actually has me booked for because those appointment slots I careful manage and book aren't real and don't allow me to plan my day"

[Atrueyorkie]

Yeah the text 30 minutes before is a stretch, made me sit up reading that. Eager beaver!

Wouldn’t have sent a text that early even if I did arrive then.

Likely to not work in your favour and potentially piss them off depending on the sp.

But, once it went over the start time agreed, it’s now in your court. You were in your right to leave.

You agreed in advance a particular date and time and if they can’t honour the time then you can do what you did leave.

Really depends how anal you are. I have my limits I abide by both in civvy and punting life.

In short I think you were fine to leave as she couldn’t keep to time but that text saying your early by 30 minutes was neither needed or would do you any favours.

[webpunter]

Yeah the text 30 minutes before is a stretch, made me sit up reading that. Eager beaver!

+1 & am on the same page as the other UKP'ers commenting on the same
Its train spotter ish at best
SP probably thinking WTF i've got a saddo desperate to see me

If i rock up a bit early i'll have a peruse of the area maybe
Check out the lie of the land
Maybe send a text 10 mins before [max 15] with like "hi traffic easy, just parked, good to go when you are too, no rush"
All very relaxed
My theory is that by rocking up just a little early then if things goes super well there is no pressure on time
They respond like give me 5 & cum on in 
& hey presto an hour can become 70 mins or more, with a chilled vibe

My analogy is organising a drinks / dinner party
Arrive at 'x' o'clock
Some boring fuck arrives well early when its panic stations trying to get things organized

SPs also have stuff to organize after the punter who has just unloaded
Especially if they've taken a stray jizz shot landing in their hair
They can go off at the deep end

This eager beaver OP aint quite so eager to do reviews
'quatre ans' as Del Boy would say along with 'Mange tout' et 'Bonnet de douche'   
& IMO no surprises he got binned rocking up well early
I & it appears 'we' think he's a tosspot & the SP most likely concluded the same

'Was i wrong ?'
He's giving a very good impression of being a **** end


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[RandomGuy99]

My theory is that by rocking up just a little early then if things goes super well there is no pressure on time

They respond like give me 5 & cum on in 
& hey presto an hour can become 70 mins or more, with a chilled vibe

Which is another reason SPs are wary of people arriving too early.

[FiveKnuckles]

OP you're not having much luck in this game.  Your two reviews were also for time wasting;  Have you had any positive punts? 

Communication is key!  Booking a week in advance and rocking up on the day doesn't guarantee your booking.  You should confirm on the day, and if the journey will take 60+ min perhaps let the SP know you're on the way and confirm ETA.  She may advise she's running late or you free to turn up early

We're shagging strangers at the end of the day.  SPs that claim they're 'low volume' will complete their bookings within a time span.  They're not gonna put 2 hour breaks between meets.  Typically book a day room, do the deeds and exit. 

You turning up 30min early will throw the spanner in their planning.  If I were shagging the SP at the moment, should she grab her phone to text you and short time me?

Getting back to your question;  I'd give it 15-20min max (from my allotted slot) but if it's a genuine issue, like workmen outside the door and she's not comfortable, I'd disappear for 20-45 and then ask if she's happy to proceed once issue has resolved. 

[McNoobing]

Appreciate the response to my post. It seems that I was in the wrong. I had let her know I was on my way the morning of the meet. She said to let her know when I arrived. I had not expected her to be ready when I texted the first time, but I had expected something around the start time. I very rarely book anything and this was the first time I’d made contact with a provider in 4 years. I’ve had positive experiences with 3 when I lived in a city. They were all so well reviewed here I didn’t think it worth adding anything. Would it be better to review regardless?

[Cheltclient]

Appreciate the response to my post. It seems that I was in the wrong. I had let her know I was on my way the morning of the meet. She said to let her know when I arrived. I had not expected her to be ready when I texted the first time, but I had expected something around the start time. I very rarely book anything and this was the first time I’d made contact with a provider in 4 years. I’ve had positive experiences with 3 when I lived in a city. They were all so well reviewed here I didn’t think it worth adding anything. Would it be better to review regardless?

Wouldn’t go so far to say you were in the wrong. Ultimately she was late. As I said in an earlier post, if it had been the other way around, I’m sure that would have been deemed unacceptable by the SP. I’d just allow a little more time, next time, before walking away. More because some times a little more patience may lead to a hell of a fun booking.

I’d be tempted to say it’s worth a review as you suggested she got arsey after (although I don’t know how arsey)

[McNoobing]

She was very angry. A negative review may not be fair though. If it’s not unusual to wait a little while then it would be my fault and not hers

[Cheltclient]

She was very angry. A negative review may not be fair though. If it’s not unusual to wait a little while then it would be my fault and not hers

Def wasn’t your fault. Late is late. I suppose the only debate remains how long you wait. Your call about a review mate.

[southcoastpunter]

A negative review may not be fair though.

Your call about a review mate.

yes Op your call, remember two things  -its not just the rating someone gives but its also the words/explaination given and that you have the option of giving a "neutral" rating as well as a a "positive" and "negative". (not suggesting you give it a neutral, as that is entirely your call, just pointinmg out that you have that option.)

[Southernbloke]

Looking at your reviews, you don’t seem to have much luck mate, only the bad kind

[GingerNuts]

Looking at your reviews, you don’t seem to have much luck mate, only the bad kind

His reviews aren't a full reflection of his punting experiences.

I’ve had positive experiences with 3 when I lived in a city. They were all so well reviewed here I didn’t think it worth adding anything.

[Southernbloke]

Okay should of put his ukp published reviews

[marc_hotsteppa]

My thoughts on if you should review her or not would be how she handled the situation. 

Some SP's get arsey at the slightest thing and have known to "go batshit crazy" and report you/call you all names under the sun. 

Others are more relaxed about it and will say something along the lines of "sorry about that, such a thing happened, how about if you book again I make it up to you by giving you an extra 15 minutes free?"

Attitudes speak volumes in this game (from both SPs and punters)

[pbrown355]

Interesting repiies. I didn't think the 30min early text weird, but I'll remember that in case it's ever relevant for me. I usually text when I arrive but I don't think I've ever been 30mins early.
If I have no reply at appointment time I text/ring at 5min intervals and give it 10 or 15 mins depending on how keen I am.
Definitely no longer than 15mins. If I get replies then it all depends again. Still can't imagine stretching beyond 20min.

[wristjob]

Some comments on this thread I find a little odd.

Communication is key!  Booking a week in advance and rocking up on the day doesn't guarantee your booking.  You should confirm on the day, and if the journey will take 60+ min perhaps let the SP know you're on the way and confirm ETA.  She may advise she's running late or you free to turn up early

I agree with this. Book a year in advance if you want but if there's no comms (both ways) on the day it's probably not going to happen.

I tend to travel around 30 mins to most punts and aim to get there 10-15 mins early to find parking etc. I'll usually text I'm there but 30 mins early is taking the piss a bit, I'll probably send a text 10 mins or so early. They might be running late, they might have been sitting around for 2 hours. Either way 10 mins early I'd expect they were done with the previous client and in the shower or the like, and probably happy to know I wasn't running late.

Lots of things dictate how long I would wait - reg/new girl, comms, if you are on a schedule etc. Hearing nothing on the day I would maybe give it 10-15 mins and also start looking for a plan B, kinda think the OP overreacted here though. I have given red reviews for this kind of situation in the past, it's definitely important for punters who might travel even further.

[Cheltclient]

My thoughts on if you should review her or not would be how she handled the situation. 

Some SP's get arsey at the slightest thing and have known to "go batshit crazy" and report you/call you all names under the sun. 

Others are more relaxed about it and will say something along the lines of "sorry about that, such a thing happened, how about if you book again I make it up to you by giving you an extra 15 minutes free?"

Attitudes speak volumes in this game (from both SPs and punters)

If it were me, if she just accepted that I had gone and even if she was a little salty, I’d prob not have mentioned it on here. A ten min wait can be quite standard. But if she got really shitty after, I’d be tempted to review.

[Cheltclient]

Interesting repiies. I didn't think the 30min early text weird, but I'll remember that in case it's ever relevant for me. I usually text when I arrive but I don't think I've ever been 30mins early.
If I have no reply at appointment time I text/ring at 5min intervals and give it 10 or 15 mins depending on how keen I am.
Definitely no longer than 15mins. If I get replies then it all depends again. Still can't imagine stretching beyond 20min.

I’m always early - at least half an hour I bet. I wouldn’t text then to say I’m there as not sure there’s much point. I might text about ten mins, say I’m there, and looking forward to seeing them at the stated time. If they want to let me up early, great.

[Southernbloke]

Couple of times I have arrived 30 -40 minutes early and I have sent a text to say I have unexpectedly arrived early and just wanted to let them know that I am parked and happy to wait until the meeting time as arranged.
I find that puts the lady in a good mood as she knows I’m not going to be late and I’m not pushing her for time.

[luv2kiss54]

Working girls definately dont like you being early.

I always arrive early find the location then relax knowing im going to be on time. I hate being late for anything. The number of girls who disrespect our time is far too high. I usually text them 5 mins before agreed time. I usually give 10-15 mins leeway but leave after that period hopefully to a nearby plan B, her loss for her shoddy time keeping(most of them couldnt care less tbh they just line-up the next one).

Also some of them like to start the clock at the agreed time even though they dont give you the flat/house number until the last minute so by the time you get there you have actually lost some mins. One girl recently made me wait 10 mins, and after i paid her the money, had the cheek to say we started on time which i was quick to correct her showing the time of her texts on my phone.

[webpunter]

Working girls definately dont like you being early.

Unless its shooting yer load with a one cum policy 

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[sim0256]

If you're lucky enough to be visiting a girl who is not a clock watcher then remember you are over running . possibly, into someone else time . The wg needs time to prepare between punters ( I like to think) and might not want to be so blunt as to tell you to get out 'times up'.

Your mood at the time always influences how long you will wait.  A much desired punt and you will give benefit of the doubt , if it's a 15 min p&d then you might walk away a bit sooner to plan b. I don't think anyone can say 'I always do whatever'.  Go with the flow on the day.

[chatbite]

I generally judge how long I'll wait by how good the comms were beforehand, whether we've met before and I think they're generally reliable etc. For example I have waited half an hour for a regular who kept me informed that she had run into a non-punting delay just as I arrived. On someone new where the comms have been sparse I've been known to walk after 10 mins maximum.

[Cheltclient]

If you're lucky enough to be visiting a girl who is not a clock watcher then remember you are over running . possibly, into someone else time . The wg needs time to prepare between punters ( I like to think) and might not want to be so blunt as to tell you to get out 'times up'.

Your mood at the time always influences how long you will wait.  A much desired punt and you will give benefit of the doubt , if it's a 15 min p&d then you might walk away a bit sooner to plan b. I don't think anyone can say 'I always do whatever'.  Go with the flow on the day.

Yep. Absolutely this. No hard and fast rule. I’d prob persevere more for a punt I’m really looking forward to.

[Anadin]

I might have become too impatient with some WGs. I basically confirm that the appointment is still happening and I'm on my way and expect an response to that soon-ish. I also tend to arrive early and want directions if I don't know exactly where she is as I feel that say a 6pm booking should start at that time, not me arriving at the general area of the postcode at that time to hunt for her building. I also like to arrive early and tell them I'll be waiting round the corner whenever they're ready, I don't know how WGs feel about this but I think regulars like it as you've gone from a theoretical booking to pretty a guaranteed one, plus if her timekeeping is on point she might be ready waiting for me anyway and many a time I go up a few minutes early.
The way I am now, If I haven't travelled far and have a plan B lined up then you have 10 minutes from the agreed time or I move on. She'll probably get more time if she's a 10/10, only around the corner from my hotel or I've driven a long way to get there.

Couple of times I have arrived 30 -40 minutes early and I have sent a text to say I have unexpectedly arrived early and just wanted to let them know that I am parked and happy to wait until the meeting time as arranged.
I find that puts the lady in a good mood as she knows I’m not going to be late and I’m not pushing her for time.

Yeah I do the same.

[IndigoRocks]

It’s worth noting that not all clients are punctual like those on this thread … and a few late arrivals can really screw up an SPs day.

SPs should defo update clients at the first opportunity though (and certainly before the appointment was due to start)…

[mj]

If I've booked days or even weeks in advance, I always message on the morning of the booking to confirm we are still on and expect confirmation at some point during the day - before I have set off. But if booked same day I wouldn't text until about 5-10 minutes before the booked time.  I would usually wait about 15 minutes after the agree time before I give up.  If I get a reply after that it all depends on how far away I am by that time and if I can still fit anything in.

So the short answer to your question, for me, is 15 minutes.

[Coriniumstud]

For me 15 minutes then I’m off

[Atrueyorkie]

I might have become too impatient with some WGs. I basically confirm that the appointment is still happening and I'm on my way and expect an response to that soon-ish. I also tend to arrive early and want directions if I don't know exactly where she is as I feel that say a 6pm booking should start at that time, not me arriving at the general area of the postcode at that time to hunt for her building. I also like to arrive early and tell them I'll be waiting round the corner whenever they're ready, I don't know how WGs feel about this but I think regulars like it as you've gone from a theoretical booking to pretty a guaranteed one, plus if her timekeeping is on point she might be ready waiting for me anyway and many a time I go up a few minutes early.
The way I am now, If I haven't travelled far and have a plan B lined up then you have 10 minutes from the agreed time or I move on. She'll probably get more time if she's a 10/10, only around the corner from my hotel or I've driven a long way to get there.


Yeah I do the same.

That sounds like a recipe for disaster.

[OakTree]

I’d I’ve probably waited fifteen minutes, It’s not like I’ve just popped to the shops. There’s a certain amount of organising gone on before hand, so I’m not going to blow that just for a little wait.

Texting thirty minutes before hand that you’re ready and waiting is a bit daft. She’d be either at the beginnings of getting ready for you if you’re lucky and she’s not a greedy type cramming them in or she’s having it balls deep with matey before you. Either way it’s not necessary to be texting them that early You’re  there.

I usually text five minutes before the time and just say parked up and ready when you are.

[McNoobing]

I think the early text might have been my mistake with this one. I didn’t expect to see her before the start time. It was just to let her know I was there. As a few of you have mentioned I think it might have been taken the wrong way by her. Good to get the feedback from you guys on this situation

[alabama1]

I think the early text might have been my mistake with this one. I didn’t expect to see her before the start time. It was just to let her know I was there. As a few of you have mentioned I think it might have been taken the wrong way by her. Good to get the feedback from you guys on this situation

No probs mate, we are here to help. Texts anything more than 5 minutes before, may stress them out and put them under pressure, having to read your message, when they are probably trying to get ready to see you. Happy punting. 

[Anadin]

That sounds like a recipe for disaster.

It can be but it usually works out for me. Too many times I've made the long journey through central London traffic only to be ghosted or for a WG not to even remember I'd made a booking. A lotta Brazilians ask me to confirm one hour before the booking and I've sorta carried on the practice. As for turning up early and letting them know I'm nearby whenever they're ready yeah that doesn't always work out well but I'm pretty sure regulars like it, might be too much pressure for those with bad time keeping or a shitty maid and it doesn't help that I'm ready to walk within 10 minutes but that's the problem with the few times I'm staying in central London, too many options. I'm no longer prepared to wait around when plan B is within walking distance and she's ready now.

[B4bcock]

I’d I’ve probably waited fifteen minutes, It’s not like I’ve just popped to the shops. There’s a certain amount of organising gone on before hand, so I’m not going to blow that just for a little wait.

Texting thirty minutes before hand that you’re ready and waiting is a bit daft. She’d be either at the beginnings of getting ready for you if you’re lucky and she’s not a greedy type cramming them in or she’s having it balls deep with matey before you. Either way it’s not necessary to be texting them that early You’re  there.

I usually text five minutes before the time and just say parked up and ready when you are.

Exactly this for me, too.