I’ve been on this website lurking for a while now, reading reviews and taking the advice of many experienced UKP members on how to punt safely. However I was hoping to get some advice on something I could not see clearly answered in other forum posts (apologies if I have missed it).
The idea of seeing a WG has interested me for a few years now, and so I’ve looked into it on this site and on AW. I have everything ready from a disposable £5 PAYG phone, to alibis for being spotted in areas and a HL to tick off.
My only issue is this “feeling” I get telling me not to do it which is really off-putting. I’ve read on threads in the site that people do it because their partner doesn’t put out, they are in an unhappy relationship, they are single etc, however I do not fit into any of those “justifiable” categories.
I’m currently with a girl who is more than willing to have sex at any time, which I am attracted to. I’m happy being in the relationship, which is steady and I can see it lasting for the foreseeable future.
The thing is I’ve only ever had sex with this one girl and i'm now in my very early 30's. I get a feeling that I may have missed out on other experiences with other women and the idea of punting really begins to appeal to me because:
- I can pick and choose the women I want (many of which I would never have the guts to speak to in real life or even have a chance with)
- In theory if all goes well there are no lose ends and nobody bar WG would ever know (therefore I wouldn’t have to worry about rumours etc)
- Although physically cheating, emotionally etc I would not be (therefore it would not get messy like an affair where another person’s feelings are also involved)
My issue is that I have a feeling that I would feel some sort of massive guilt if I start to punt, which could destroy the relationship I currently have and my general mood.
Does anybody have experiences or advice they can share where they have started punting and how it affected them? Did nothing change in you/your relationship? Did it maybe make things better? Did it riddle you with guilt and ruin things?