All fair comments moneybucket, and I take what you say on-board with no offence taken. I never knew of the existence of this site until Rosie's profile disappeared and not being able to contact her again after an exchange of mails on AW , in an effort to try and "find" her I goggled "Rosie20 Nottingham" and the search returned a link to this site. I duly registered and made my first posts on the subject without malice or otherwise. And I fully appreciate the situation and its delicate difficulties and am not disappointed or offended in any way. I just though it was worth a try.
As you say maybe it's just a matter of being patient and if it comes off good otherwise... well life goes on and no harm done no?
Failing Rosie , how about a recommendation for my visit to Nottingham