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Offline Farruc

I'm a very overweight guy. When booking I ask if being fat is a problem for them. I don't care if it is and respect their choice. Hasnt happened yet but I avoid young very attractive sp's as worry they will not enjoy meeting. My question is can you really know if someone is being honest or if youre open and upfront and they say it's ok that I should just go for it and not be paranoid about what they are really thinking?

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mostly they only care if your wallet is fat

they are more than happy to help it lose weight

Offline NigelF

mostly they only care if your wallet is fat

they are more than happy to help it lose weight

 :D +1

It doesn't matter. I'm only aware of one or two WGs (out of many hundreds) who don't see "severely overweight/obese" clients and if that's the case (obviously it's very rare) - they put it on their profiles. I'm sure almost all WGs are used to seeing very overweight guys.

This question has been asked many times before:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=16982
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=13389
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=56320.0

not be paranoid about what they are really thinking?

Never get yourself too concerned with what they're "really thinking". It simply doesn't matter at all. Also, regardless of your weight, I'm sure most WGs would rather not be shagging any punter. What they're "really thinking" with you is likely to be very similar to what they're "really thinking" with almost every other punter. If you tell them about your weight and they say they're happy to see you, they're not lying. They just want your money, same as every other punter.

Avoiding "very attractive" WGs is doing a disservice to yourself and a disservice to the WG - as 99.9% would love to see you (because they want your cash).
« Last Edit: October 18, 2018, 09:32:49 pm by NigelF »

Offline tynetunnel

Go for the girls you want. Ask if being a fatty is ok. They’ll tell you if it’s not... I’m a fat fucker and I’ve seen some stunners  :hi:

Online Malvolio

I'm a very overweight guy. When booking I ask if being fat is a problem for them. I don't care if it is and respect their choice. Hasnt happened yet but I avoid young very attractive sp's as worry they will not enjoy meeting. My question is can you really know if someone is being honest or if youre open and upfront and they say it's ok that I should just go for it and not be paranoid about what they are really thinking?

I think you should try and book whoever you fancy - remember you're the paying customer and it's about whether you enjoy the meeting, not whether the WG does.

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They're Just looking for money, I think the real issue is higiene.
Some SPs have told me some guys should really take care of that One, none has mentioned the weight.
Just don't kill her in mish :drinks:

Offline Midori

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Being overweight is really not an issue at all OP, a good escort has probably seen all shapes and sizes. We care less about whether you are fat or thin, ugly or pretty than we care that you are polite, respectful, turn up with the correct money and are clean and hygienic. Go see who you fancy seeing and enjoy yourself

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I'm a very overweight guy. When booking I ask if being fat is a problem for them. I don't care if it is and respect their choice. Hasnt happened yet but I avoid young very attractive sp's as worry they will not enjoy meeting. My question is can you really know if someone is being honest or if youre open and upfront and they say it's ok that I should just go for it and not be paranoid about what they are really thinking?

If you're a right bloater the chances are the SP will be repulsed by you, just as a lot of punters would be repulsed by a very overweight SP.

But so what? You're completely missing (i) the point of punting; and (ii) the reason why SPs are SPs.

The point of punting is for men to exchange money for sex. Whereas in the civie world, men exchange other attributes (including money) for sex (e.g. attractiveness (which can often be offset by a good personality/character and/or a lot of cash). Therefore, with punting, they key element for the SP is not the exchange of attractiveness, but of money. Don't believe me? Turn up to an appointment and ask for a freebie - you'll be out of there faster than you can eat a doughnut (which I presume is quite fast).

SPs are not SPs because they are looking for someone they find attractive to have sex with. If they happen to find the punter attractive, I'm sure its a bonus, but it is not the point. They are looking for someone who has money to part with it in exchange for letting them use their body. So, if you have the cash (whether you could be the stunt double for Moby Dick or not) that is the key element of the exchange.

So stop worrying about it. If you can't stop worrying - simply eat less and move more.

Offline shyboy1

I’m also overweight with some other health issues and I get what you mean about being concerned whether the wg’s will be prepared to see you, it’s natural to have these worries but don’t let it spoil your enjoyment or influence your choice of sp.
I have a preference for the more petite girls but I do choose carefully and have never felt any negative attitude towards me.
You are right to let them know when booking that you’re on the heavy side, I do this and it avoids any problems or embarrassing moments when you meet, most sp’s don’t care but it’s best to be upfront about it then there’s no need to be stressed about it and you can enjoy the anticipation of the meeting which is a big part of the enjoyment for me.
As others have said, the most important thing is to be respectful, reliable, punctual and most of all as clean and hygienic as possible. If you stick to those principles a good professional sp will appreciate you and make sure you have a great time.
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Offline Farruc

Appreciate the replies. Some good advice there to think on. As an aside, how did the post heading change I titled the post "how do you know" originally, mods making it more specific?

Offline Jayf

I'm a fat bastard too and the thought of asking if it's ok never even crossed my mind. I'm a paying customer and the customer is always right lol

Offline bearcat69

I wouldn't advise that it's wise to expend too much thought on whether a prossie is attracted to you. Whatever your physical appearance is, you'll have a very hard time getting any kinda clear answer to such a question from the vast a majority of prossies. I mean, don't get me wrong, it's up to you if you want to mention it in coms with a prossie, if you feel it'll make things more comfortable then fair enough, but personally I just wouldn't even bother. I'm no oil painting myself, not obese, but certainly no Adonis, but I just pick the prossies who I find attractive and will answer the phone, then I just turn up on time, as hygeanic and neat as possible, with the cash and a willingness to be as respectful to their stated and indicated boundaraies as possible. Beyond that it's entirely up to them to look at me, make a judgement call and decide if they are willing to let me fuck them or not. Whilst I've certainly had a few dissappointing punts, and personal preference certainly may have played a part in them, I can honestly say I've a never had a prossie open the door and look at me and say, you're too fat go away. They may very well be thinking it, but if they are then the good prossies certainly do a very good job of hiding it. To be fair, it could happen, I've read some examples, but if it does I'd just say, try not too take it personally, write a review to get it out of your system, move on to a different prossie. Although, me personally, last thing I'm ever going to do in punting is spend time describing my physique to a prossie in pre punt coms. This is not dating.
« Last Edit: October 19, 2018, 07:58:27 am by bearcat69 »

Online WASA38

I don't agree with all the guys who assert that most SPs only care about the cash and not at all about the attractiveness of the punter. The fact that quite a few SPs dictate an upper age limit demonstrates that. So forewarning them of obesity is very much to be recommended . As a disabled oldie I am convinced from experience that an honest and comprehensive CV informing of cons pays dividends.

Offline Metalgear2018

Mate I'm skinny and you can tell the working girl was not into me. She said I look like a tree and she likes her men looking like David Brent.

Offline django0700

Shouldn't be an issue as long as you got money....maybe she avoid missionary....but you could always try CG or other positions...

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Not knowing exactly how big you are (see...... I’m being polite here) makes a difference to the answer.

This is not for my benefit you understand. Being supremely fit with a body of a man much much younger.  :lol:

You might look at someone’s profile and want to see them. So you give them a call and she says it’s ok, she doesn’t mind seeing overweight men. Then just happens to mention she lives above a parade of shops on the third floor and there is no lift. Also her flat is half a mile away from the nearest station/bus stop and there is no parking whatsoever.
So it’s not so much the fact she is comfortable on seeing someone overweight as being honest in explaining it might just be too much of a mountain for them to climb.

I’ve seen on some pro mistresses sites where they say they are “disabled friendly” meaning someone with walking difficulties or perhaps in a wheelchair can be accommodated.

So for me I think you are doing the correct thing in asking the question.

No use others pitching in with “She’s a prossie. All she wants is your money”

It’s your money not theirs.

Offline fallentrees1321

Personally if a wg is to be considered good she should be offering good service no matter what you look like . If she does not offer you good service just on the basis of being fat I dont think she can be considered a good wg .

If it bothers you ask , although to be honest I would never bother asking if its something that she feels so strongly about she should make sure its something prospective clients are made aware of before or during booking .

Offline Jimmyredcab

I don't agree with all the guys who assert that most SPs only care about the cash and not at all about the attractiveness of the punter. The fact that quite a few SPs dictate an upper age limit demonstrates that.

You are WRONG.

Very few pro$$ies have an upper age limit.

I should know because I am an old bastard.    :hi:

Offline plums

The only time it concerns me is if I'm booking a massage and I'm concerned about the type of massage table they have.  Thai place are okay as they tend to have proper beds.  I don't want to see a private massage with the equivalent of a decorator's table which will collapse as soon as I get on it.

Offline NigelF

I don't agree with all the guys who assert that most SPs only care about the cash and not at all about the attractiveness of the punter. The fact that quite a few SPs dictate an upper age limit demonstrates that. So forewarning them of obesity is very much to be recommended . As a disabled oldie I am convinced from experience that an honest and comprehensive CV informing of cons pays dividends.

While attractiveness is a scale, I'm not convinced it really matters that much where exactly you fall on it, especially considering most punters will be on the "unattractive" side of the scale (in the eyes of the typical WG, especially since you've just met). Anyway, only shit WGs let appearance have a significant effect on how they perform.

As Jimmy has said, there are very few escorts who dictate an upper age limit. And I'm sure most of those are due to issues with erections, taking ages to cum or perhaps other health issues. With fat people, as far as I can tell from UKE and SAAFE, it's just the risk of being crushed and them not being clean (due to it sometimes being harder/there's more surface area to cover).

No one has said you shouldn't forewarn them, indeed I do think it's a good idea. Perhaps I and others should've made that more clear though. I did say he should believe their answer to him when does warn them - which I think is perfectly valid and true.
« Last Edit: October 19, 2018, 02:01:48 pm by NigelF »

Offline Moby Dick

Never thought of having a stunt double?
How does that work? I pay and stay at home?
If you're a right bloater the chances are the SP will be repulsed by you, just as a lot of punters would be repulsed by a very overweight SP.

But so what? You're completely missing (i) the point of punting; and (ii) the reason why SPs are SPs.

The point of punting is for men to exchange money for sex. Whereas in the civie world, men exchange other attributes (including money) for sex (e.g. attractiveness (which can often be offset by a good personality/character and/or a lot of cash). Therefore, with punting, they key element for the SP is not the exchange of attractiveness, but of money. Don't believe me? Turn up to an appointment and ask for a freebie - you'll be out of there faster than you can eat a doughnut (which I presume is quite fast).

SPs are not SPs because they are looking for someone they find attractive to have sex with. If they happen to find the punter attractive, I'm sure its a bonus, but it is not the point. They are looking for someone who has money to part with it in exchange for letting them use their body. So, if you have the cash (whether you could be the stunt double for Moby Dick or not) that is the key element of the exchange.

So stop worrying about it. If you can't stop worrying - simply eat less and move more.

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The only time it concerns me is if I'm booking a massage and I'm concerned about the type of massage table they have.  Thai place are okay as they tend to have proper beds.  I don't want to see a private massage with the equivalent of a decorator's table which will collapse as soon as I get on it.

I know a couple of massage girls that don’t like too overweight people as they find it difficult to give a proper massage.

Offline Moby Dick

I've seen profiles with lower age limits, don't recall upper.
Most common not to see is Asian or Black but this is not to to with physical attractiveness
I don't agree with all the guys who assert that most SPs only care about the cash and not at all about the attractiveness of the punter. The fact that quite a few SPs dictate an upper age limit demonstrates that. So forewarning them of obesity is very much to be recommended . As a disabled oldie I am convinced from experience that an honest and comprehensive CV informing of cons pays dividends.

Offline NigelF

I've seen profiles with lower age limits, don't recall upper.

Oh yes, forgot about that, there's way more with lower age limits. That helpfully highlights how important looks are (i.e. they're well below attitude and politeness etc).

Offline LLPunting

Appreciate the replies. Some good advice there to think on. As an aside, how did the post heading change I titled the post "how do you know" originally, mods making it more specific?
Your title was unnecessarily vague wasting people's time.
In future use meaningful and concise wording.

Offline JonasG

Mate I'm skinny and you can tell the working girl was not into me. She said I look like a tree and she likes her men looking like David Brent.

lol.

Offline Farruc

Awesome, got some spare time (and cash  :lol:) at the end of the month, going to pick number 1 from my HL and get it done! Look out for the review. Thanks all who posted...

Offline Moby Dick

+1 Million
Your title was unnecessarily vague wasting people's time.
In future use meaningful and concise wording.

Offline Moby Dick

How do you know if SP will see heavier guys?
Answer: Ask her.

Offline anglianfloyd

Provided your wallet is heavy when you arrive and considerably lighter when you leave you’ll be ok with 99% of SP’s

Offline Jimmyredcab

I've seen profiles with lower age limits.

Michelle Independent has a lower limit, 30 I believe.

No upper limit, she evens see geriatrics like me.   :hi:

Offline Jimmyredcab

Michelle Independent has a lower limit, 30 I believe.

No upper limit, she evens see geriatrics like me.   :hi:

Sorry, she doesn’t see punters under 26 .

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i love " fatties" more to hug!
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Offline LauraHoD

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I would never reject a client because of their size. It could make having sex difficult or impossible depending on how big they are but I would try my best to accommodate them.

I actually prefer older, fatter or unattractive clients.  The hot guys make me feel nervous. And I'm definitely not alone in thinking that.


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I would never reject a client because of their size. It could make having sex difficult or impossible depending on how big they are but I would try my best to accommodate them.

I actually prefer older, fatter or unattractive clients.  The hot guys make me feel nervous. And I'm definitely not alone in thinking that.

That’s an interesting comment Laura.

Could you clarify for me please ?

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When I first see a client is above average looking my first thought is he will be arrogant, rude or demanding. This is often not the case but I can't help thinking that they will be more judgemental towards my physical appearance.  I guess they make me feel a little insecure. It's fairly irrational but I feel more relaxed with someone who is considerably less attractive than me. And usually end up having a more enjoyable session.

Online WASA38

You are WRONG.

Very few pro$$ies have an upper age limit.

I should know because I am an old bastard.   

I concede; you are quite right and I should have said 'a few' not 'quite a few'. An aberration on my part prompted by the fact that a couple of SPs in my area whom I really fancied do dictate an upper age limit. The majority say nothing on the subject whilst lots declare that old age is okay. A few actually express a preference which is encouraging.

Offline Baldy

When I first see a client is above average looking my first thought is he will be arrogant, rude or demanding. This is often not the case but I can't help thinking that they will be more judgemental towards my physical appearance.  I guess they make me feel a little insecure. It's fairly irrational but I feel more relaxed with someone who is considerably less attractive than me. And usually end up having a more enjoyable session.

I’m the ugliest fat git in the world  :rolleyes:

Offline freeze44

Can only be fair that the really fat ones let the wg's know. Been in some hotels where the shower space is limited and the beds are weak so isomeone very heavy may need more room and the wg can plan. And lets be honest, people talk so visiting a hotel might be difficult and attract attention as not easy to slip in/out if very large.

Offline Farruc

When I first see a client is above average looking my first thought is he will be arrogant, rude or demanding. This is often not the case but I can't help thinking that they will be more judgemental towards my physical appearance.  I guess they make me feel a little insecure. It's fairly irrational but I feel more relaxed with someone who is considerably less attractive than me. And usually end up having a more enjoyable session.

Very well put. This is the thought that's in my head but vice versa.


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Bring it on big lad - all shapes and sizes is more than fine. It’s the ones that don’t wash that offend us 😂 also, spoiler alert, 90% of men I see are what you’d class as “out of shape”

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When I first see a client is above average looking my first thought is he will be arrogant, rude or demanding. This is often not the case but I can't help thinking that they will be more judgemental towards my physical appearance.  I guess they make me feel a little insecure. It's fairly irrational but I feel more relaxed with someone who is considerably less attractive than me. And usually end up having a more enjoyable session.

Absolutely agree with every word of this.
Looks aside...The <25s seem to be a little less respectful. And also more likely to try and hunt you down on Instagram etc. Also younger ones always want to film. The older end are far more pleasant to deal with

Offline Tablet

Absolutely agree with every word of this.
Looks aside...The <25s seem to be a little less respectful. And also more likely to try and hunt you down on Instagram etc. Also younger ones always want to film. The older end are far more pleasant to deal with

As a marketing ploy and to make your life easier why after the first visit with older gents who have been clean and respectable why don’t you advise them that all future meetings will be at a 20% reduction .
Would that not make sense thus providing a win , win situation for all ?
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As a marketing ploy and to make your life easier why after the first visit with older gents who have been clean and respectable why don’t you advise them that all future meetings will be at a 20% reduction .
Would that not make sense thus providing a win , win situation for all ?
If I were a WG I would never never never undersell compared to my advertised rate (given it's reasonably competitive)
It's not a machine in a factory, you have a limited amount of hours you can reasonably work.
Also this would lead to complacency or a worse performance 99% of the time, and I'm not blaming WGs here (try pay me 20% less, see what the quality of my job becomes like).

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When I first see a client is above average looking my first thought is he will be arrogant, rude or demanding. This is often not the case but I can't help thinking that they will be more judgemental towards my physical appearance.  I guess they make me feel a little insecure. It's fairly irrational but I feel more relaxed with someone who is considerably less attractive than me. And usually end up having a more enjoyable session.
I saw an escort who said when she first started out she was surprised men wanted to see her and she wondered why some of them chose her. A clumsy attempt at fishing for compliments maybe.

I'm not sure where I am on the looks scale, but I think everybody has hang up and body issues - I think a lack of confidence is a bigger turn off for most people than say someone who is overweight or has a crooked nose.

Offline Springoid

Asked a very similar question when I first joined here, and got a very similar answer that turned out to be correct.  I mention my weight and all but one of the answers have been no problem as long as i’m clean and fresh.  The one who said she wouldn’t be keen just said you would probrably be better looking elsewhere.  Very polite answer.  So just ask.

Offline Lizzie_Lockhart

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All of the advice about asking in advance and ensuring your hygiene is spot on.

Depending on your size, I would also be prepared for some limitations of service. 

Not necessarily through any fault of your own or the WG, but sometimes fitting together can be an issue no matter what position you try.

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