Punters who's wives are in the know - how did you broach it?

[vulturereliable]

For a while now we've been struggling with different sex drives, missus is asexual and I'm just ready to go all the time, other than that, we're perfect for each other in terms of temperament, hobbies etc. I think punting is the way forward but I don't want to do it behind her back. I've seen a few people mention their significant other knows, how did you go about this? Did you tell them or did you find out? What arrangements/limits do you have?

[Steely Dan]

For a while now we've been struggling with different sex drives, missus is asexual and I'm just ready to go all the time, other than that, we're perfect for each other in terms of temperament, hobbies etc. I think punting is the way forward but I don't want to do it behind her back. I've seen a few people mention their significant other knows, how did you go about this? Did you tell them or did you find out? What arrangements/limits do you have?

I did what they said in the Daily Mail.  The place you work.

[FLYING BLUE]

For a while now we've been struggling with different sex drives, missus is asexual and I'm just ready to go all the time, other than that, we're perfect for each other in terms of temperament, hobbies etc. I think punting is the way forward but I don't want to do it behind her back. I've seen a few people mention their significant other knows, how did you go about this? Did you tell them or did you find out? What arrangements/limits do you have?

 

[vulturereliable]

I did what they said in the Daily Mail.  The place you work.

I don't work for the daily mail. I'm not a journalist, I've just been getting cold feet actually jumping into punting.

[vulturereliable]

What?

[Spacecowb0y]

Discuss your sex life
Discuss the mismatch
Discuss your frustrations
DO NOT MENTION ESCORTS OR PAYING FOR SEX

then shut up and listen to her suggestions

[vulturereliable]

Discuss your sex life
Discuss the mismatch
Discuss your frustrations
DO NOT MENTION ESCORTS OR PAYING FOR SEX

then shut up and listen to her suggestions

Probably the best advice I'll get, should probably stop thinking with my dick. Thank you.

[Billy no mates]

My wife suggested it first, I was of course interested, but feigned disinterest. Maybe 18 months from her first mention, I was getting dropped off at the local ‘massage’ place. The rest is history.

[vulturereliable]

My wife suggested it first, I was of course interested, but feigned disinterest. Maybe 18 months from her first mention, I was getting dropped off at the local ‘massage’ place. The rest is history.

Tbh it was your comments I saw on the forums that sparked me to make the post, been wondering about whether to discuss it with her or not, was it due to different sex drives?

[fredhiggins]

My wife suggested it first, I was of course interested, but feigned disinterest. Maybe 18 months from her first mention, I was getting dropped off at the local ‘massage’ place. The rest is history.

And she knows now then?! The whole  spectrum of services?

[fredhiggins]

Discuss your sex life
Discuss the mismatch
Discuss your frustrations
DO NOT MENTION ESCORTS OR PAYING FOR SEX

then shut up and listen to her suggestions

Great advice.

[contentguy]

+1

It’s been done to death, it’s a great topic for journos and generally started as a first post.

This was on a similar theme.
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=350640.0

[MysteryManNo.7]

Nice try presstitute.

[Metalgear2018]

For a while now we've been struggling with different sex drives, missus is asexual and I'm just ready to go all the time, other than that, we're perfect for each other in terms of temperament, hobbies etc. I think punting is the way forward but I don't want to do it behind her back. I've seen a few people mention their significant other knows, how did you go about this? Did you tell them or did you find out? What arrangements/limits do you have?

There is no such thing as asexual. She is just not sexually attracted to you.

[george r]

Kids go back to school tomorrow..

[Vice Admiral]

The expression "vultures of the press", although not all that common today, was once regularly used to describe journalists.  Indeed a Google search on the phrase, typed inside inverted commas, gets 18,000 hits.

[CatBBW]

Your first step is finding out WHY she doesn't want to have sex (with you). Prostitutes should not be your first (second, or even third) thought.

[scutty brown]

Ask your daughter for advice, she'll know

[daviemac]

Ask your daughter for advice, she'll know

What's that supposed to mean. 

[scutty brown]

What's that supposed to mean. 

It's a joke
Women have a reputation for gossip and if there's anything wrong the wife may have told the daughter.

[Colston36]

There is no such thing as asexual. She is just not sexually attracted to you.

That's unkind, unhelpful and not in the spirit of UK punting, which is to help each other. It is also patently untrue. She was attracted otherwise they'd never been married. And some women are less interested in sex. My second wife was far less keen on sex than me, largely because she had some terrible experiences when young - and this is not uncommon.

[fredhiggins]

It's a joke
Women have a reputation for gossip and if there's anything wrong the wife may have told the daughter.

Yup

[pantywetter]

I would just punt with a clear conscience.

Even if she suspects or finds out she might overlook it, knowing it’s reasonable.

I think a lot of punters are in this situation, without realising.  Women aren’t stupid so I suspect lots turn a blind eye.

[shed]

Your first step is finding out WHY she doesn't want to have sex (with you). Prostitutes should not be your first (second, or even third) thought.

Good job that's not the case then. Otherwise you would be out of business 

[bbwandy72]

I just asked her out of the blue. I'd seen on Twitter that a couple of my favourite porn stars were making a trip across the Atlantic and visiting London. So in the car on the way to Tesco, I asked her if she'd be OK with me seeing them. She thought about it for a bit and decided she would be, so I went ahead. That's all there was to it.