At what point do you "retire" from sex?

[Rooster]

Just wondering if anyone has decided "that's it for me" when it comes to sex and the reasons? I'm 55 now and sustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work. I switched to massages rather than actual punts a few years ago and even that's getting a bit much. I just feel jaded and little gets me going when I've seen it all before. Age is part of it of course but I'm healthy and pretty fit, I swim, gym and hike and can walk 25 miles in a day no problem so it's mostly psychological I think.

[Lou2019]

When you’re 6ft under

[holeymoley]

Just wondering if anyone has decided "that's it for me" when it comes to sex and the reasons? I'm 55 now and sustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work. I switched to massages rather than actual punts a few years ago and even that's getting a bit much. I just feel jaded and little gets me going when I've seen it all before. Age is part of it of course but I'm healthy and pretty fit, I swim, gym and hike and can walk 25 miles in a day no problem so it's mostly psychological I think.

Im 75 and beginning to think like you, so if you find the solution please let me know..................following

[PumpDump]

How often do you punt? I think you just need to take a month or two off to reset your senses. By a month or two, that means no porn or wanking either. I think within a few weeks you will be like a horny teenager again!

[twotight]

When you’re 6ft under

 

[southcoastpunter]

Just wondering if anyone has decided "that's it for me" when it comes to sex and the reasons? I'm 55 now and sustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work. I switched to massages rather than actual punts a few years ago and even that's getting a bit much. I just feel jaded and little gets me going when I've seen it all before. Age is part of it of course but I'm healthy and pretty fit, I swim, gym and hike and can walk 25 miles in a day no problem so it's mostly psychological I think.

what do you mean by "ustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work"?. do you mean that you are having getting an erection or that sex just isn't fulfillinmg you are more? You are still a relatively young man and can reasonably expect another 20 years or more of sexual actively/pleasure. so perhaps you need to say (or maybe understand yourself) what you really mean. Only then can you think further about what if anything, to do about it.

I would suggest that 55 is a little young to be hanging up your sex boots.

[mr.bluesky]

Just wondering if anyone has decided "that's it for me" when it comes to sex and the reasons? I'm 55 now and sustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work. I switched to massages rather than actual punts a few years ago and even that's getting a bit much. I just feel jaded and little gets me going when I've seen it all before. Age is part of it of course but I'm healthy and pretty fit, I swim, gym and hike and can walk 25 miles in a day no problem so it's mostly psychological I think.

I found as I get older I much prefer a nice relaxing massage with a happy ending. Less pressure on you to reach a climax than through having sex. That's not to say I still enjoy the occasional "full service" but for me it's more about quality rather than quantity 

[datwabbit]

I think it's gradual.

If it's money then you'll do massages or punt less.

If it's a lack of interest then you'll punt out of habit and not enjoy it. So if you find a different hobby you enjoy you'll retire from this one.

You'll fully retire when you don't need sexual intimacy without commitment.

[JontyR]

Might be worth seeing the doctor. May be something really simple and a simple fix may give you a much higher quality of life for the rest of the back 9.

[Rooster]

what do you mean by "ustaining a sexual interest is getting a bit like too much hard work"?. do you mean that you are having getting an erection or that sex just isn't fulfillinmg you are more? You are still a relatively young man and can reasonably expect another 20 years or more of sexual actively/pleasure. so perhaps you need to say (or maybe understand yourself) what you really mean. Only then can you think further about what if anything, to do about it.

I would suggest that 55 is a little young to be hanging up your sex boots.

Meaning I just don't get aroused enough to get and maintain a good erection. Part of it is over-familiarity with the SPs I see but I don't want to piss them off by asking them for weird stuff to try to pique my interest. There's Viagra etc of course but I dislike those artificial erections, they just feel insensitive and my Johnson is like a hunk of dead meat.

[Colston36]

I found as I get older I much prefer a nice relaxing massage with a happy ending. Less pressure on you to reach a climax than through having sex. That's not to say I still enjoy the occasional "full service" but for me it's more about quality rather than quantity

I tried a massage 3 weeks ago for only the second time in my life. With Blue Sienna External Link/Members Only The results were explosive. I was amazed. However I do have a normal frolic about o9nce and sometimes twice a week. Mostly variations on normal straight sex.

[northface]

I would retire if there were only 16+ ( dress size ) lard arses available.

[Blackpool Rock]

Meaning I just don't get aroused enough to get and maintain a good erection. Part of it is over-familiarity with the SPs I see but I don't want to piss them off by asking them for weird stuff to try to pique my interest. There's Viagra etc of course but I dislike those artificial erections, they just feel insensitive and my Johnson is like a hunk of dead meat.

I was starting to lose interest a bit but then found the blue pills and bingo punting has never been better 
Going into a punt not knowing whether you were going to be able to perform 100% or not becomes a vicious circle, for me it was bad news if it was too hot or if the girl didn't look like her pics meaning I didn't fancy her but on some occasions i'd also be stood in front of a red hot stunner and not be able to well stand fully 
It fucks with your head as you then question yourself and why it was a problem with her which in turn leads to the pre punt performance anxiety and round in circles you then go 

I have had a few occasions where little rock wasn't totally interested or where I seemed to lack enough sensation to get over the line but these were one after each other and a break for a few weeks seemed to sort things out, I actually think it was due to being mid winter and needing a break from work more than anything.
Having said that the 1st time was with a great girl who i'd seen for the 3rd time in a row whereas I tend to only punt most girls once as i've found I like variety, perhaps try seeing a couple of new girls to freshen things up a bit

As for how old is too old, well who knows and it's going to be different for everyone, when I started in my mid 30's I questioned whether I was too old to be punting and whether girls wouldn't want to see me due to my age as they'd probably want lads in their 20's 
I still question what age I should respectfully retire from punting at but now I just hope that i'll know when the time is right

Do try and find a way to extend your punting life as for me personally being able to get back in the saddle has given me a new lease of life and improved my mental wellbeing no end 

[Blackpool Rock]

I would retire if there were only 16+ ( dress size ) lard arses available.

14+ for me, I can just about live with a 12 but can't stand the lardies 

[Colston36]

When you’re 6ft under

Exactly!

[B4bcock]

Meaning I just don't get aroused enough to get and maintain a good erection. Part of it is over-familiarity with the SPs I see but I don't want to piss them off by asking them for weird stuff to try to pique my interest.

You'll only piss them off if you ask for things not on their likes list or which they specifically say they don't do.  A polite inquiry will never cause problems with a genuine SP.  As others have said, I would suggest you take a break and reset your mind and body.  Then, if you start to feel more in the mood and you don't suffer with anxiety issues, perhaps go to see one or more different SP's new to you - a change is as good as a rest, as the saying goes.  Best wishes for a full recovery.

[Doc Holliday]

Meaning I just don't get aroused enough to get and maintain a good erection. Part of it is over-familiarity with the SPs I see but I don't want to piss them off by asking them for weird stuff to try to pique my interest. There's Viagra etc of course but I dislike those artificial erections, they just feel insensitive and my Johnson is like a hunk of dead meat.

The highlighted part is interesting? This could be simple boredom?

However as Jonty says you need to see your GP first and cover all bases then move forward from there.

I consider I was at my sexual peak during my early fifties, much less so now circa 70

[Adoniron]

I'm 60 and have definitely lost interest in full service punts and have moved over to massages with extras. It's not that I can't maintain an election but more that I'm happy to lay back and let the girl do the work rather than putting any effort in. I have also become disillusioned by the standard and prices of full service escorts since covid.

[Bat]

I went through a period when sex became formulaic and I found I was watching more and more porn. The more I watched the more it became ‘harder’ in content, from simple sensuous BJs to face-fucking etc. I know this is a fairly common syndrome but it still worried me at the time. It got to the point where I was just bored with the whole thing.

Then my SO started having some problems with any kind of penetrative sex, partly physical but mostly psychological stuff. We stopped having any kind of intimate relationship at all. It screwed me up a little psychologically as well but I’d more or less decided to live with it and was handling it pretty well. I had more or less decided to ‘retire’ at this stage (late 50’s).

My whole outlook changed when I was directly involved in a horrific death of someone very close to me. I was diagnosed with PTSD and was in therapy for nearly 18 months. You never really ‘recover’ from this but I’m mostly able to accept it now.

What it did do was change my perspective on life and thoughts about my sexual future. After months of indecision I decided to risk a visit to an SP. I was as nervous as hell but she soon calmed me down and I had an amazing time.

Since then I’ve seen 11 different girls, white, black, EE, Brazilian, Chinese, Thai etc. I’ve tried things I’d never before experienced (being tied & teased was a revelation!) and I still have a list of things I want to try whilst I can.

I’m now able to last longer than I ever did when I was a youngster, I can, to a degree, control my climax and change things around to make sure I only come when I’m ready. Maybe strange but I feel that, in my early 60’s I’m at a peak of my sexual activities. I should add that this is in terms of my personal ‘abilities’ and enjoyment - I try very hard to have mutual pleasure sessions but my own stimulation and enjoyment is, ultimately, paramount here.

My summary of all this is that I absolutely felt that I’d hit the retirement phase but the potential to see girls I would never have been able to in civvy-land and to simply try entirely new things has totally revitalised me. It’s entirely possible that I’ll get jaded of the punting world in the future but I will always know there are new opportunities out there for, hopefully, many years to come.

[rubric]

Meaning I just don't get aroused enough to get and maintain a good erection. Part of it is over-familiarity with the SPs I see but I don't want to piss them off by asking them for weird stuff to try to pique my interest. There's Viagra etc of course but I dislike those artificial erections, they just feel insensitive and my Johnson is like a hunk of dead meat.

Different strokes for different folks, but if your diagnosis is truly 'over-familiarity' maybe that just means you are getting bored and need some novelty?  OTOH you seem to imply trying out stuff sexually might interest you, but then bracket it as 'weird'.  Obviously maybe it's just the way you are phrasing it, but are you holding yourself back for some reason, or is it just the sheer effort of trying to find the right WG that's the hassle?

[WASA38]

At 82 I had started to see one particular visiting SP who really did it for me, even to the extent of achieving two cums within the hour. Previously I had been struggling to reach a climax despite hard erections, suspecting that, as well as age, the sildenafil was a contributary cause. Then the pandemic caused me to hold off for fear of contracting it whilst the SP decided anyway that visiting my city was not worth its exceptionally high hotel tariffs.

Have consequently hung up my boots. Reluctantly but I just don't want to risk meeting a now more costly SP and experiencing a dreary anti-climax (no pun intended). Better to have finished on a high note.

Am I in order, I wonder, following and occasionally contributing to this forum ?  Now it's the 'off topic' section which is the principle interest .

[sensualencounter]

OP if you’re happy not having sex or having less of it, then don’t fret. There’s nothing wrong with not being horny all the time. Everyone’s different and you don’t have to get caught up in the machismo we’ve been brought up to believe. There is no shame in not wanting sex. But there is the caveat that it could be an underlying physical or mental issue.

[FLYING BLUE]

I'm in my 60's & have realised it's now been 20 years since i had any form of sexual contact, which wasn't paid for

10-15 years ago, I was punting weekly (if I was in the UK) sometimes twice per week.

These days, it's more like 4-5 times per year as prices have risen, income has all but ceased & importantly, desire has waned. I find it difficult to accept paying £80-£100 for 30 mins of fun - this is NOT a statement about price, it's about my levels of acceptance & comfort.

Whilst I'm not ready to quit punting yet, (in fact, hoping to indulge in the NE region in a couple of weeks) my indulgences have slowed markedly.
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[Thephoenix]

I retire every month, then forget I've retired.

Maybe it's dementia!

At 82 it's just fbsm these days, with an optimism often not borne out of recent experiences.

I can't retire!...Dick Brain won't let me, and in any case being massaged by a sweet young Thai lady with lovely small soft hands is always something worth looking forward to.

So yes, it's when I'm 6ft under I guess.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Now at 70 summatt i don't need as much as i once did. In fact seeing the SP situation here in Mid Anglia is as bad as it is i'm bloody glad i'n NOT any younger!

Yes still like the odd girl and massage can be good but theres somethig lacking, sex is the one thing love and affection the other and its coming to the time if the right Civvie was along then i'd be calling it day and be moving to Dunn puntin!

Theres a couple of possibles around, but i'm not rushing them for various reasons....

[Thephoenix]

At 82 I had started to see one particular visiting SP who really did it for me, even to the extent of achieving two cums within the hour. Previously I had been struggling to reach a climax despite hard erections, suspecting that, as well as age, the sildenafil was a contributary cause. Then the pandemic caused me to hold off for fear of contracting it whilst the SP decided anyway that visiting my city was not worth its exceptionally high hotel tariffs.

Have consequently hung up my boots. Reluctantly but I just don't want to risk meeting a now more costly SP and experiencing a dreary anti-climax (no pun intended). Better to have finished on a high note.

Am I in order, I wonder, following and occasionally contributing to this forum ?  Now it's the 'off topic' section which is the principle interest .

I hope you're in order as I'm more or less in the same boat.......and the same age.
Although against the odds I haven't completely given up the ghost just yet.

[BarreChord]

Interesting discussion. I think as individuals we know when the time to retire from punting is right for us.

I'm a little older than you and have not punted since the pandemic. I lost interest/motivation and the price increases put me off. I was feeling pressure to rise to the occasion when it now takes longer to get going! I have purchased the blue pill for any help I may need when I return to this hobby. Although my preference is for FBSM rather than full service does help.

I'm starting to "raise" a little interest in some providers thanks to the reviews on here. However, the opportunity for me to leave the house for a couple of hours without raising suspicion is impinging on this.

I think the mid-fifties for me feels too early to retire but if full motivation doesn't return I may well hang my hat up!

[akauya]

Judging by my libido I don't think I'll retire until my body literally gives up. Good to read that some older chaps here have moved on to FBSM which is something I will definitely look into if having full sex is becomes more difficult at some point.

Also, the punting until I drop talk here reminded me of the book (short novel) by Gabriel García Marquéz: Memories of My Melancholy Whores; not as great as his other books but it's a good read.

[Thephoenix]

Judging by my libido I don't think I'll retire until my body literally gives up. Good to read that some older chaps here have moved on to FBSM which is something I will definitely look into if having full sex is becomes more difficult at some point.

Also, the punting until I drop talk here reminded me of the book (short novel) by Gabriel García Marquéz: Memories of My Melancholy Whores; not as great as his other books but it's a good read.

Have we discovered Colston's real name?

[akauya]

Have we discovered Colston's real name?

Hmm now that you mention it... 

[sim0256]

  55 is bit too early to retire from the game, i didn't punt until I was a decade older than that!  That was after a  long period of no sex activity due to the OH withdrawing services entirely after 'the change' and me having a serious illness when sex was impossible , even wanking wasn't on the cards.

To set an age for stopping is a bit arbitrary. retirement should a moving target and only acted on when ALL enjoyment has gone .  I have evolved since my punting began and the search criteria is now nothing like what it was when I started. Should enjoyment be waning look at what you might try and only when all things are exhausted give up.
 I now find that a 'one hour' with the right girl can still be the best thing in the world.

[Stevelondon]

WTF……. 55 and feeling jaded regarding sex.
I’d seek help from your GP immediately. 

[willie loman]

i suppose the key question is when you stop fancying women in the supermarket etc,i still do, as for punting i am having an encounter every 3rd or 4th day, not interested in being wanked off, or fellated, as it leaves me feeling shabby, so if i dont manage a squirt through vaginal penetration, i accept its for another day, as i have said many times, we are meant to have sex for our health, its just a bit more expensive than swimming etc, fortunately started receiving my state pension the other day.

[pantywetter]

I am not close to retiring but over the last year or so I’ve had this feeling of having done everything I wanted.

I’ve fucked between 500 and 1000 women over 20 years and I might have finally satiated the desire!

I also like FBSM as a relaxed alternative, but I don’t like going home smelling of oil or having oily skin so I can’t indulge that often. 

[hunkybc]

Never

[Bonker]

At the point when you post a list like the one in the original message.

[Doc Holliday]

At the point when you post a list like the one in the original message.

A valid observation.

[ik8133]

At the point when you post a list like the one in the original message.

I agree and when you'd rather go for a pint than a punt!

[Jacksonwood]

I've read this post with interest.

I'm 52 and I'm on a relationship where we have sex at least once a day in average. I just love this woman and find myself waking up with her hand on my old fella or by her putting my hands on her twat.
But I also like to punt for the thrill of having different sex with someone that isn't my partner. At my age of life I have been having the best sex I've ever had although I'm not quite as energetic when I would have been in my prime. We still have 1hr plus sessions most weekends but mainly it's a 15 min quickie.

So I can't ever see myself stopping either punting or banging my Mrs. I'm working on her to try and encourage her to become curious about swinging but so far she's not interested. For me if she could try and enjoy this; I'd probably drop the punting first.

Just to add. -it hasn't all been plain sailing in my life sexwise. I had one relationship where we didn't have sex for 3 years (I left eventually ); in my 30s I'd be lucky to have good sex apart from a Sunday morning shag. In my 40s I had a drought for 4 years and then met someone who would be happy with twice a week but was always pissed so it was like shagging a sack of spuds.

Sorry for rambling but wanted to give context.

[macman26]

You have sex with other half once a day and still punt.... my god you must have a high sex drive mate        Make sure you play 110% with punting phones and condoms even for BJ's.....

[sensualencounter]

I've read this post with interest.

I'm 52 and I'm on a relationship where we have sex at least once a day in average. I just love this woman and find myself waking up with her hand on my old fella or by her putting my hands on her twat.
But I also like to punt for the thrill of having different sex with someone that isn't my partner. At my age of life I have been having the best sex I've ever had although I'm not quite as energetic when I would have been in my prime. We still have 1hr plus sessions most weekends but mainly it's a 15 min quickie.

So I can't ever see myself stopping either punting or banging my Mrs. I'm working on her to try and encourage her to become curious about swinging but so far she's not interested. For me if she could try and enjoy this; I'd probably drop the punting first.

Just to add. -it hasn't all been plain sailing in my life sexwise. I had one relationship where we didn't have sex for 3 years (I left eventually ); in my 30s I'd be lucky to have good sex apart from a Sunday morning shag. In my 40s I had a drought for 4 years and then met someone who would be happy with twice a week but was always pissed so it was like shagging a sack of spuds.

Sorry for rambling but wanted to give context.

I appreciate your honesty but I think you’re crazy. Playing with fire like that. When you’ve got someone you state you love and you have sex at least once a day and yet you still punt. I’m willing to bet that your relationship would be the dream for an awful lot of men.

And be very careful trying to push her into swinging. That could be a breaking point.

Each to their own and all that but if you’re willing to risk what sounds like an amazing relationship for paid sex, to probably irretrievably hurt someone you confess to loving, then I honestly think you need to reassess this relationship.

[Bat]

And be very careful trying to push her into swinging. That could be a breaking point.

A close friend of mine pushed his, lovely, long-term girlfriend into threesomes - she got quite into it and left him for the other girl. Never looked back and dumped men completely. . .

[Blackpool Rock]

A close friend of mine pushed his, lovely, long-term girlfriend into threesomes - she got quite into it and left him for the other girl. Never looked back and dumped men completely. . .

[IndigoRocks]

A close friend of mine pushed his, lovely, long-term girlfriend into threesomes - she got quite into it and left him for the other girl. Never looked back and dumped men completely. . .

I’ve had a few women contact me for private meets after their partner pushed them into a threesome.

Be prepared to potentially open Pandora’s box for sure! 

Also agree with others. Swinging is defo not something to push on anyone. Nothing worse than going to a swingers club and finding an uncomfortable woman who’s been clearly coerced into it by her partner. 

[Doc Holliday]

Just to add. -it hasn't all been plain sailing in my life sexwise. I had one relationship where we didn't have sex for 3 years (I left eventually ); in my 30s I'd be lucky to have good sex apart from a Sunday morning shag. In my 40s I had a drought for 4 years and then met someone who would be happy with twice a week but was always pissed so it was like shagging a sack of spuds.

So with a negative historical experience such as that, you find a potential Unicorn then risk it all?

Doesn't ring true to me?

[Jacksonwood]

Thanks for your comments and I appreciate that everyone is in a different position here.
I really thank you for your counsel about not playing with fire and throwing away something so good.

I actually have thought I have a sex addiction; over my 30 years of punting I've done it whilst single , married and dating other people. I've had periods of having 3 punts in a day; equally I've had a couple of years of not punting at all. I'm lucky I had the resources to indulge myself to selfishly scratch just about every itch I have sexually.

I agree with your comments on swinging ; it has to be something we both want to do and do this together - I'm not going to push or coerce her into this; I'm gently trying to see if she's curious about it before treading VERY carefully. To be fair; whilst I've had my fair share of parties I've never shared a partner so I have no idea if id be up for it either ! I've been recommended the sexless swingers or bedhoppers podcasts to listen to.

So back on topic - I don't think I'll ever give up sex because I love it so much; I can't say the same for punting - whilst it's enabling me to have multiple sexual partners and the gives me the thrill from having sex with someone else I can only imagine it will stop completely when I run out of spare cash; or (as I described ) get myself into a position where my Mrs is a willing partner.

I recognise what a good position im in relationship wise but it's just in my nature to want more / different sex.

I've been caught out before and really don't want to fuck things up again - I guess I'll never learn.

So many women - so little time !

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Jacksonwood!, I'm going ot see to it that your be sentnced to Six months in a corrective facility Monastry!!

Nah! forget that, you'll bloody corrupt the Monks:-(

Gad Sir!, your a bloody Animal!!!

[sensualencounter]

So with a negative historical experience such as that, you find a potential Unicorn then risk it all?

Doesn't ring true to me?

Quite. And now he thinks he might be a sex addict…

It might be a controversial opinion on here but quite simply there are very very few true sex addicts out there and all this talk of “can’t keep it in my pocket” is simply trying to justify doing something that you shouldn’t be doing. We’re human beings, not a simplistic unintelligent species and should be capable of restraint. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t hide behind spurious nonsense.

But that’s just me 

[Thephoenix]

Quite. And now he thinks he might be a sex addict…

It might be a controversial opinion on here but quite simply there are very very few true sex addicts out there and all this talk of “can’t keep it in my pocket” is simply trying to justify doing something that you shouldn’t be doing. We’re human beings, not a simplistic unintelligent species and should be capable of restraint. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t hide behind spurious nonsense.

But that’s just me 

As you say....maybe that's just you.

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