First time punting - is it true you shouldn't tell them this?

[WinterNight]

Hey,

It's my first time punting tomorrow. I'm a not a virgin, I'd say pretty experienced in sex, but obviously this is a unique circumstance to do it and I'm naturally nervous. I've been told that you shouldn't tell them this as they'll try and rush you to finish or take advantage, but I've equally heard that telling them this can actually be helpful and they do their best to calm your nerves.

Would love your thoughts, thanks.

[MissWolf]

I would say it 100% depends on the WG you have chosen to book with, some of the less reputable girls will take advantage,  others will make sure you have a great first experience.

Wg's get a lot of guys telling them it's their first time,  some are genuine,  others not so much, I've had one guy tell me it's his first time 3 times now and he has feedback on aw too 

[chadpitt]

Hey,

It's my first time punting tomorrow. I'm a not a virgin, I'd say pretty experienced in sex, but obviously this is a unique circumstance to do it and I'm naturally nervous. I've been told that you shouldn't tell them this as they'll try and rush you to finish or take advantage, but I've equally heard that telling them this can actually be helpful and they do their best to calm your nerves.

Would love your thoughts, thanks.

Don't tell them this. You just say what you want and leave it at that.

At the end of the day they want your money and the less time/effort the better.

[WinterNight]

I would say it 100% depends on the WG you have chosen to book with, some of the less reputable girls will take advantage,  others will make sure you have a great first experience.

Wg's get a lot of guys telling them it's their first time,  some are genuine,  others not so much, I've had one guy tell me it's his first time 3 times now and he has feedback on aw too 

Thanks for your reply, that's really funny about the 3 times first time guy. If I'm going for an agency girl, would you say that's more likely to be one who's make my first escort experience great, or is it simply unpredictable?

[WinterNight]

Don't tell them this. You just say what you want and leave it at that.

At the end of the day they want your money and the less time/effort the better.

Ah really, that's a shame. Have you had bad experiences yourself or just from seeing other anecdotes?

[Thephoenix]

Thanks for your reply, that's really funny about the 3 times first time guy. If I'm going for an agency girl, would you say that's more likely to be one who's make my first escort experience great, or is it simply unpredictable?

It still just depends on the WG as Miss W says.
You might be better reading the positive reviews of popular  WG's in your area, and would also tend to look for an experienced and mature lady, then rather than waiting until the meeting, make a few phone calls to ask, and see what impressions you get.
Good luck....look forward to your review.

[hendrix]

No such thing as "they" despite what people try and pretend. All depends on the WG in question. Good luck!

[S.X. MacHine]

Hey,

It's my first time punting tomorrow. I'm a not a virgin, I'd say pretty experienced in sex, but obviously this is a unique circumstance to do it and I'm naturally nervous. I've been told that you shouldn't tell them this as they'll try and rush you to finish or take advantage, but I've equally heard that telling them this can actually be helpful and they do their best to calm your nerves.

Would love your thoughts, thanks.

‘You should’nt tell them...as they’ll...take advantage’.
Your comment presupposes that every escort is the same and that ‘they’ are all opportunists.
As a reasonably experienced punter, I find that escorts are not part of some cynical homogeneous group, but are very much individuals, many of whom are decent, honest and intent on giving a good service. There are those, of course, who are not.
That said, if you chose a girl with good feedback, you should be safe enough telling her it’s your first time, should you wish to do so.
I told the first escort I met that I was new to it; but I guess she knew anyway as I was so bloody nervous. Turned out to be a good punt and I saw her numerous times subsequently.

[WelshClipper]

In my early years I used to go through all the agonies of this hobby. I was so happy when I finally accepted that it was just a service and stopped analysing it to death.

My advice is just go with the flow, if a particular subject comes up then sure, chat about it. But best remember why you are there and get on with it.

Also depends on level of English. Native speakers tend to be willing to chat more. Non native less so.

 

[magnetico]

Which girl are you going to see?

[Steely Dan]

I'd suggest telling her.  In my experience, most escorts want you to have a good time so you will come back.  Telling her helps her to help you.

See also all this stuff, plus some good threads on the links.

External Link/Members Only

Which girl are you going to see?

Don't answer this.  Bad practice to announce your plans in advance, and particularly to name in advance for boat loads of reasons discussed to death.

[lamboman]

I blurted this out to the 1st girl I met,made no difference I'd say

[WinterNight]

‘You should’nt tell them...as they’ll...take advantage’.
Your comment presupposes that every escort is the same and that ‘they’ are all opportunists.
As a reasonably experienced punter, I find that escorts are not part of some cynical homogeneous group, but are very much individuals, many of whom are decent, honest and intent on giving a good service. There are those, of course, who are not.
That said, if you chose a girl with good feedback, you should be safe enough telling her it’s your first time, should you wish to do so.
I told the first escort I met that I was new to it; but I guess she knew anyway as I was so bloody nervous. Turned out to be a good punt and I saw her numerous times subsequently.

I don't think that's fair of you to say; I disagree my comment says that at all. I immediately followed up that statement with "I've equally heard that telling them this can actually be helpful and they do their best to calm your nerves". I'm not trying to lump them into one stereotype. In the end I told the person who I had been speaking to/organising this at the agency to let her know.

[WinterNight]

I'd suggest telling her.  In my experience, most escorts want you to have a good time so you will come back.  Telling her helps her to help you.

See also all this stuff, plus some good threads on the links.

External Link/Members Only

Don't answer this.  Bad practice to announce your plans in advance, and particularly to name in advance for boat loads of reasons discussed to death.

Thanks for the advice!

[scutty brown]

If the girl is any good she'll work it out herself from your behaviour. If she asks be truthful.
If she can't work it out herself she's better off not knowing so say nothing

But if she's EE or South American under no circumstances tell her as she'll rip you off

[pbrown355]

Love Miss Wolf's story. I'm going to tell every new WG I see that it's my first time. Those that I see again I'm going to keep telling every time I see them that it's my first time again. I'll let you all know how it goes!

[shed]

I would say it 100% depends on the WG you have chosen to book with, some of the less reputable girls will take advantage,  others will make sure you have a great first experience.

Wg's get a lot of guys telling them it's their first time,  some are genuine,  others not so much, I've had one guy tell me it's his first time 3 times now and he has feedback on aw too 

So out of interest how do you treat them differently from anyone else

[Steely Dan]

But if she's EE or South American under no circumstances tell her as she'll rip you off

Because as we know, every female from the whole continent of South America, plus all the females from eastern Europe are identical.  If you met one, you can pre-judge all the rest: you know exactly what they are like, they are all the same.  They will all rip you off. 

[Bebebelle]

I think you should mention it as most good escorts will take you in hand , quite literally  if the nerves do get the better of you on the day. It’s also an Ice breaker. She’ll hopefully make sure you have a great first time. Good luck and I hope you have a really good time 

[Bebebelle]

I would say it 100% depends on the WG you have chosen to book with, some of the less reputable girls will take advantage,  others will make sure you have a great first experience.

Wg's get a lot of guys telling them it's their first time,  some are genuine,  others not so much, I've had one guy tell me it's his first time 3 times now and he has feedback on aw too 

He probably meant first time that day 

[Stevelondon]

No such thing as "they" despite what people try and pretend. All depends on the WG in question. Good luck!

Spot on.

Just love that word....."They"      As if "They" are all the same, think the same etc etc etc.


I just happen to say that she is the fourth SP I have seen that day and leave it at that. 

[Markc]

As most of said l won’t tell her. She might pick up your a nervous and a good WG will guide you through the action.
Just remember to arrive on time, be clean all over, have fresh breath and make sure you pay her in full before the session starts. Also make sure what services are included in the prices you are paying for. Is it extra for services
like OWO or CIM?

Maybe best for her to give you a massage first to help you relax, then play with your cock to get you hard, give you oral
and then put the condom on for you and then you can fuck her. If she really good she will take the condom off after
you have a cum and clean you up.

Make sure you have picked a WG who has worked in the same area for a while and has some good reviews. This
sometimes l find should give you a good service. Are you going for independent WG, escort agency or parlour girl?

Hope it goes well for you and have a great time. Remember to do a review.
My first time was almost 30 years ago when l had a visit from a women who come to my house.

[advent2016]

Some WG's I see regularly Sarah - Surbiton, Jordan Jugs, Crystal - Wandsworth and a few others let me pretend that it is the first time seeing them even though I may have seen many hundreds of times and they are so professional that they can role play and react accordingly.

[Chazz]

1. Do some thorough research.

2. Do some more research.

3. Pick an experienced SP who's well reviewed on here. 

4. Turn up on time, freshly showered with the correct money.

5. If you're the nervous type, tell the SP it's your first time.

6. Enjoy the act of coitus with a lady.   

7. Put your clothes back on and leave the establishment.

8. Go home and write a fucking review. 

[MissWolf]

So out of interest how do you treat them differently from anyone else

I never actually said I do tbf

However if I get someone who has recently joined aw, has no feedback or has a low message count etc and they tell me in coms it's the first time I will take that into account in regards to messages.

A new punter can be very busy with communication and ask some very in depth questions,  if they were to come from someone with a few feedbacks then I may be quicker to shut them down as I would feel they were just after wank fodder, from a newbie I tend to give a little more patient guidance.

Once at the booking I will be a touch more reassuring that what they are doing is fine and encourage a little more getting comfy time before I pounce on them and snog their face off. But the differences are subtle and are different for every client,  just as they are for all the clients I see.

[Thephoenix]

Because as we know, every female from the whole continent of South America, plus all the females from eastern Europe are identical.  If you met one, you can pre-judge all the rest: you know exactly what they are like, they are all the same.  They will all rip you off. 

Quite right!......and sun shines out of every punter's arse!

[Sibiu]

As with shop assistants, nurses, teacher, taxi drivers etc there is a wide range of individuals providing a wide range of quality of services and a wide range of services.

There are those SPs who are in it to earn as much as possible in as short a time as possible. They'll want you in and out of the door asap. The condom will be on you before you have half a hint of a stiffy. There'll be no touching here, no touching there - certainly no hint of intimacy. They'll groan and moan, never get wet, use loads of lube and never come. They are a sexual production line. Many of these are young.

Then there are some others - older in my experience - who have a "proper" job - who are in it for some money but also for an adventure and their own sexual satisfaction. They'll chat, some of them really will snog, and you might make a genuine connection with them as real people. They'll take a genuine interest in you and when you see them again they'll remember you and something about you. Some may only see one or two punters a week and never more than one  a day. I've had one where a 90 minute meeting became 3 hours.

So let's not label all SPs in the same way. There's the full range out there and research will help you find what it is your looking for.

There are, judging from punters' reports, a range of punters. Some want a cheap as possible 15 minute pump and dump - essentially using the girl as a living fleshlight. At the other end are punters prepared to spend good money to see a SP for an hour or even longer looking for an experience with some variety and intimacy where the SP's needs might also be met. I'm one of these and fortunately can afford to be one.

So you have to decide what it is you want from any meeting.

Just my thoughts and experience of over 40 years off and on in this hobby.

[Stevelondon]

“Off and on in this hobby”

 

[Dipper]

As with shop assistants, nurses, teacher, taxi drivers etc there is a wide range of individuals providing a wide range of quality of services and a wide range of services.

There are those SPs who are in it to earn as much as possible in as short a time as possible. They'll want you in and out of the door asap. The condom will be on you before you have half a hint of a stiffy. There'll be no touching here, no touching there - certainly no hint of intimacy. They'll groan and moan, never get wet, use loads of lube and never come. They are a sexual production line. Many of these are young.

Then there are some others - older in my experience - who have a "proper" job - who are in it for some money but also for an adventure and their own sexual satisfaction. They'll chat, some of them really will snog, and you might make a genuine connection with them as real people. They'll take a genuine interest in you and when you see them again they'll remember you and something about you. Some may only see one or two punters a week and never more than one  a day. I've had one where a 90 minute meeting became 3 hours.

So let's not label all SPs in the same way. There's the full range out there and research will help you find what it is your looking for.

There are, judging from punters' reports, a range of punters. Some want a cheap as possible 15 minute pump and dump - essentially using the girl as a living fleshlight. At the other end are punters prepared to spend good money to see a SP for an hour or even longer looking for an experience with some variety and intimacy where the SP's needs might also be met. I'm one of these and fortunately can afford to be one.

So you have to decide what it is you want from any meeting.

Just my thoughts and experience of over 40 years off and on in this hobby.

Really good post. 

[shed]

I never actually said I do tbf

However if I get someone who has recently joined aw, has no feedback or has a low message count etc and they tell me in coms it's the first time I will take that into account in regards to messages.

A new punter can be very busy with communication and ask some very in depth questions,  if they were to come from someone with a few feedbacks then I may be quicker to shut them down as I would feel they were just after wank fodder, from a newbie I tend to give a little more patient guidance.

Once at the booking I will be a touch more reassuring that what they are doing is fine and encourage a little more getting comfy time before I pounce on them and snog their face off. But the differences are subtle and are different for every client,  just as they are for all the clients I see.

  thanks

[Buttons]

My first punt I was nervous as fuck. As others have said, it depends on the working girl in question as to if you tell them or not.

I chose very carefully, did my research and has an exchange of messages with the escort I chose. I was honest with her and told her it was my first paid for experience, but that I wasn’t a virgin. She was very understanding and made sure I had an excellent time. She didn’t try to take advantage, took time to ask me what I liked etc. I was lucky. Not all girls will be like this. Not all, but some will see it as an opportunity to short change you etc.

As others have said. Treat it like any other service you would pay for and you should stand a change of not going too far wrong. Good luck OP

[GreyDave]

As with shop assistants, nurses, teacher, taxi drivers etc there is a wide range of individuals providing a wide range of quality of services and a wide range of services.

There are those SPs who are in it to earn as much as possible in as short a time as possible. They'll want you in and out of the door asap. The condom will be on you before you have half a hint of a stiffy. There'll be no touching here, no touching there - certainly no hint of intimacy. They'll groan and moan, never get wet, use loads of lube and never come. They are a sexual production line. Many of these are young.

Then there are some others - older in my experience - who have a "proper" job - who are in it for some money but also for an adventure and their own sexual satisfaction. They'll chat, some of them really will snog, and you might make a genuine connection with them as real people. They'll take a genuine interest in you and when you see them again they'll remember you and something about you. Some may only see one or two punters a week and never more than one  a day. I've had one where a 90 minute meeting became 3 hours.

So let's not label all SPs in the same way. There's the full range out there and research will help you find what it is your looking for.

There are, judging from punters' reports, a range of punters. Some want a cheap as possible 15 minute pump and dump - essentially using the girl as a living fleshlight. At the other end are punters prepared to spend good money to see a SP for an hour or even longer looking for an experience with some variety and intimacy where the SP's needs might also be met. I'm one of these and fortunately can afford to be one.

So you have to decide what it is you want from any meeting.

Just my thoughts and experience of over 40 years off and on in this hobby.

+1 Try not to go for the Stunning Rom hot one they are the worst ... I find a slightly overweight Milfy  Brit ( or Hungarian with a good level of Engish) is fun , tell them youre a bit nervy as its fist time with working girl Ive been recently saying this to some and theyve been... Excellent! giving me time to get going

[Sibiu]

"as its fist time with working girl"

Great typo - or not?

[PapaSmurf]

Hey,

It's my first time punting tomorrow. I'm a not a virgin, I'd say pretty experienced in sex, but obviously this is a unique circumstance to do it and I'm naturally nervous. I've been told that you shouldn't tell them this as they'll try and rush you to finish or take advantage, but I've equally heard that telling them this can actually be helpful and they do their best to calm your nerves.

Would love your thoughts, thanks.

If you're worried about being taken advantage off, try and find a lady that is experienced and not some random faceless profile. And if you're booking on AW there is more incentive for her to give you a good service, and not take the piss, as you can keep her accountable via ratings.

[FiveKnuckles]

Hey,

It's my first time punting tomorrow.

how did it go?   ...review to follow?