How I cured my ED and no longer need blue pills

[SlamBoy]

The last few years were difficult. I was in a catch 22.

I often couldn't get hard when seeing an SP. So I started taking blue pills. However, when I took a blue pill, I was able to get hard but found it very difficult (often impossible) to cum. So I was stuck between either (i) not being able to get hard, or (ii) being able to get hard but not being able to cum.

Either scenario was extremely frustrating. Both scenarios led to an unfulfilled sex life. I needed to do something about it. So I started to do a lot of research. I implemented what I discovered. Now, I'm happy to say, I no longer suffer from ED, I no longer need blue pills to get erect and I can cum when I see a WG. This is how I did it:

(i) Underlying issues: mental and physical:

ED can be down to either physical or mental issues, or both combined:

I went to the doctor to check if I had coronary heart disease. I didn't. However, my diet was poor, I wasn't particularly physically active, and my sleeping was erratic. My cardio vascular capabilities were in the toilet.

I also noticed that when visiting an SP my heart rate would often go through the roof. I didn't realise that this was due to anxiety.

Clearly I needed to deal with both physical and mental aspects of ED.

In conclusion: my anxiety when I was punting was putting stress on my body which was already largely incapable of dealing with physical exertion. Obsessing about whether I would be either able to get erect or cum during a punt compounded that anxiety. The result was being neither able to get erect (both anxiety or physical) nor cum (blue pills).

(ii) Steps to reverse ED:

I'm not going to give a long commentary, save to say, these were the changes/steps I made that led to me reversing my ED:

(i)   Stopped watching and jerking off to porn - this helped increase my arousal response to the slightest stimulation.

(ii)  Increased my physical activity - I started going to the gym. This built up my cardio-vascular capabilities and increased my blood flow - everywhere. I also started to spend more time walking outside to get fresh air.

(iii) Changed my sleeping pattern - I was very strict about going to bed relatively early, but most importantly - getting up early.

(iv)  Weight loss - I was not overweight, but we are all different and I was not built to carry the small amount of extra weight I was carrying.

(v)   Changed my diet - I stopped eating refined sugar to avoid insulin spikes and and cut down on my food portions in general to assist with weight loss and reduce bloating. I also stopped consuming dairy as it made me sluggish. I cut down on certain carbs (cakes and pastries and beer) as they caused bloating. I started taking turmeric every day which really helped with reducing inflammation and pretty much cured some subsidiary but distracting joint pain I had been having. I would also not eat after 6pm to assist with weight-loss.

(vi)   Relaxation techniques - I implemented a simple 'hack' which was to keep reminding myself (especially on the way to a punt) that all I was doing was going to spend time with an SP. I might not even have sex with her. The sex wasn't important. I could just enjoy spending the time kissing and cuddling. I didn't need to get hard and I didn't need to have sex. I could just go with the flow and that was okay. This made a massive difference in reducing my anxiety.

(vii) Communicated the issue to the SP - I would tell them up front 'this might not work'. That took further pressure off me to perform and in 100% of cases they were really nice about it and went out of their way to make sure that I was relaxed. Also, they would often they would see it as a bit of a challenge.

(viii) Started doing one hour punts - One of the things I realised was that I was obsessing over the time I had left in a punt and whether or not I would be able to perform and cum in the allotted time. Stopping half-hour punts and moving to one hour punts removed this obsessing and helped me relax even more.

Conclusion:

I'm not saying the above will work for everyone. But they worked for me.

I thought I was a lost cause, destined to live a life of sexual frustration. Thankfully I was wrong. There is hope out there and subtle changes can make a big difference.

Hopefully some of you might get something useful from the above. If so, that's great. If not, it is still the story of how I cured my own ED.

[jeanphillipe]

Losing weight and being in decent shape does help performance a lot.

Glad you got things sorted, I'm sure people will find this useful.

I had an episode last year couldn't get hard with pills either. It was all external issues stressing me out that turned out to be the root cause of it. Oh and your right fapping less improves sensuality too.

[WARSZAWA16]

Thanks very much for this. Very interesting. Long may it continue. I can relate to some of this. You don't mention your age though so presumably you are relatively young and never really thought of that to previously have been an issue in any way(?). Best wishes for the future. Onwards and upwards!     

[SlamBoy]

Thanks very much for this. Very interesting. Long may it continue. I can relate to some of this. You don't mention your age though so presumably you are relatively young and never really thought of that to previously have been an issue in any way(?). Best wishes for the future. Onwards and upwards!   

50s 

[horsa]

how long did you stop watching porn and masturbating?

[SlamBoy]

how long did you stop watching porn and masturbating?

I noticed a huge difference between 7-10 days. I started waking up with an erection - and a hard one. I hadn't done that in a long time.

I have relapsed on the jerking off a couple of times, but it hasn't pushed me back into ED. I used to jerk off every day, if not twice a day. Now, I probably do it once, or maximum twice, a week (but I try to keep it to images rather than film) - but definitely don't do it at least 48 hours prior to a punt.

[WARSZAWA16]

50s 

Thanks. That safely puts you in the relatively young category as far as I'm concerned. If you carry on along the same path you should therefore hopefully be good to go for a few years yet.

[SlamBoy]

Thanks. That safely puts you in the relatively young category as far as I'm concerned. If you carry on along the same path you should therefore hopefully be good to go for a few years yet.

You are too kind, sir 

[tidytuz]

Good thread thanks for advice.

I need to buy a push bike & get into cycling again. That will get me off the laptop more often & away from my porn addiction.

[SlamBoy]

Good thread thanks for advice.

I need to buy a push bike & get into cycling again. That will get me off the laptop more often & away from my porn addiction.

It kills erections.

[Waterhouse]

Decent post and a good reminder of a healthy regime I'm sure a lot of us could benefit from. 

Out of interest, and taking into account the change in fitness levels and the weight loss, how long did it take to get from where you were initially, to where you are now once you undertook the lifestyle change?

[BarryProudfoot]

Good post SlamBoy

I think its all psychological. Its like what you said about the anxiety, your heart rate goes through the roof and this slows up the blood flow around the body. Sleep is when the body repairs. The more you can get the better. I wouldn't restrict yourself to not eating after 6pm as believe it or not, eating clean after this time when you're hungry actually helps with weight loss. Drinking water is also very important to this whole cycle.

[threechilliman]

I think the porn and wanking is the biggest factor. I've reduced mine to the bare minimum with positive results. The other factors help, particularly diet and exercise. Like the OP I occasionally get a stiffy for no apparent reason, which hasn't happened for a looooooong time.

[tynetunnel]

I have a similar approach to the OP. Even with a blue pill I cant always stay hard, or cum. I suffer with anxiety also.

I tell the girl that I have no plan, no end game. If I don’t fuck her, or fail to cum, that it doesn’t mean I’ve not had a great punt. I be sure to pick those who will kiss, take RO and all the other things I enjoy. Then the pressure is off, I just enjoy whatever happens.

And if I feel the little TT going down, or if I can’t cum, nobody is embarrassed, the girl doesn’t feel the need to up the effort as the meeting draws to an end, because the end is a journey not a destination.

I’d say this strategy is paying dividends for me, and I go home happy every time. 

[thor555]

After a long time not punting, mental health is important, good post and a good list of points.
I used to be able to do 2 pops in 1 hour with no pill now i feel a pill is needed.
I believe it is due to stress, work, family, exhaustion and general life. Most of your points if i could do them might help me.
Thanks 

[Pete556]

Good post SlamBoy. Thanks.

[SlamBoy]

Decent post and a good reminder of a healthy regime I'm sure a lot of us could benefit from. 

Out of interest, and taking into account the change in fitness levels and the weight loss, how long did it take to get from where you were initially, to where you are now once you undertook the lifestyle change?

About four months.

One of the members above made a good point - it is also important to pick an SP that will provide your likes - anything that takes a sense of uncertainty or potential for disappointment and thereby can increase anxiety is a definite no no.

[SlamBoy]

Thanks 

Good post SlamBoy. Thanks.

You're both welcome 

[B4bcock]

Good thread thanks for advice.

I need to buy a push bike & get into cycling again. That will get me off the laptop more often & away from my porn addiction.

Go steady on that bike.   Too much cycling can have a worse effect - Numb Penis Syndrome. 

[Payyourwaymate]

I think the porn and wanking is the biggest factor.

Hang on, I've been wanking for years to porn and never had no problems. Although I don't wank to the hardcore stuff that distorts what someone would expect from a woman in reality and I'm 26, so not sure if that makes any difference.

My main point is I think porn gets too much of a bad rap sometimes. It's useful if you need to get stuff done without having lustful thoughts distracting you, but I digress.

[Malvolio]

A little bit of porn isn't going to hurt - watching two hours every evening is bound to mess you up. 

[SlamBoy]

Hang on, I've been wanking for years to porn and never had no problems. Although I don't wank to the hardcore stuff that distorts what someone would expect from a woman in reality and I'm 26, so not sure if that makes any difference.

My main point is I think porn gets too much of a bad rap sometimes. It's useful if you need to get stuff done without having lustful thoughts distracting you, but I digress.

There. You said it. I could have sex and cum four times a night at 26. And I had been wanking a lot for years.

[brandonpete]

Slam...excellent stuff...weight loss and Turmeric for me....Luckily I don't have the anxiety problem as I have always looked upon the Punt as an event..even if it's crap...oh yes and the exercise for me.

[Waterhouse]

Slam...excellent stuff...weight loss and Turmeric for me....Luckily I don't have the anxiety problem as I have always looked upon the Punt as an event..even if it's crap...oh yes and the exercise for me.

Tumeric seems to be very popular these days due to the apparent benefits.

OP, was it a turmeric supplement i.e. Tumerix External Link/Members Only or a simple turmeric/curcumin capsule etc. which you took for the inflammation?

[Plan R]

Nice work SB, both the work and posting about it 

[heathen666]

Good post, I've started something similar (in my late 40s) but as you can see, My sleep patterns aren't great.

Maybe one thing you've not mentioned is drinking 2 litres of water a day.

[SlamBoy]

Slam...excellent stuff...weight loss and Turmeric for me....Luckily I don't have the anxiety problem as I have always looked upon the Punt as an event..even if it's crap...oh yes and the exercise for me.

You're welcome BP 

(obviously my sleeping is off today! Ha!)

[SlamBoy]

Tumeric seems to be very popular these days due to the apparent benefits.

OP, was it a turmeric supplement i.e. Tumerix External Link/Members Only or a simple turmeric/curcumin capsule etc. which you took for the inflammation?

I take natural ground turmeric in decaf coffee - 3 times a day. Here is a recipe (for those who are interested):

(1)    1    teaspoon decaf coffee.
(2)    1    teaspoon ground turmeric.
(3)    1/2 teaspoon of ground cinnamon.
(4)    4 or 5 turns of freshly ground black pepper (honestly, it sounds weird but it tastes great with the other ingredients and you need it so your body can extract the essential and active nutrients from the turmeric).
(5)    1 teaspoon of stevia (a natural sweetener - do not use sugar).

DO NOT PUT MILK IN IT!

Put them all in a cup and pour on your hot water. Stir for about 30 seconds. Keep the teaspoon in the cup and stir before every drink. That will ensure that you don't end up with a sludgey residue at the bottom of your cup and that you ingest all of the goodies.

I know the recipe sounds a bit unusual, but it tastes great - and it made a massive difference to my life. It reduced the inflammation that was causing me all sorts of joint pain (including back pain) I didn't think I would ever be rid of.

It took only two days of drinking this coffee for me to notice a huge difference.

[SlamBoy]

Nice work SB, both the work and posting about it 

 

[SlamBoy]

Good post, I've started something similar (in my late 40s) but as you can see, My sleep patterns aren't great.

Maybe one thing you've not mentioned is drinking 2 litres of water a day.

Yep. Good hydration is also a great help.

[king tarzan]

The last few years were difficult. I was in a catch 22.

I often couldn't get hard when seeing an SP. So I started taking blue pills. However, when I took a blue pill, I was able to get hard but found it very difficult (often impossible) to cum. So I was stuck between either (i) not being able to get hard, or (ii) being able to get hard but not being able to cum.

Either scenario was extremely frustrating. Both scenarios led to an unfulfilled sex life. I needed to do something about it. So I started to do a lot of research. I implemented what I discovered. Now, I'm happy to say, I no longer suffer from ED, I no longer need blue pills to get erect and I can cum when I see a WG. This is how I did it:

(i) Underlying issues: mental and physical:

ED can be down to either physical or mental issues, or both combined:

I went to the doctor to check if I had coronary heart disease. I didn't. However, my diet was poor, I wasn't particularly physically active, and my sleeping was erratic. My cardio vascular capabilities were in the toilet.

I also noticed that when visiting an SP my heart rate would often go through the roof. I didn't realise that this was due to anxiety.

Clearly I needed to deal with both physical and mental aspects of ED.

In conclusion: my anxiety when I was punting was putting stress on my body which was already largely incapable of dealing with physical exertion. Obsessing about whether I would be either able to get erect or cum during a punt compounded that anxiety. The result was being neither able to get erect (both anxiety or physical) nor cum (blue pills).

(ii) Steps to reverse ED:

I'm not going to give a long commentary, save to say, these were the changes/steps I made that led to me reversing my ED:

(i)   Stopped watching and jerking off to porn - this helped increase my arousal response to the slightest stimulation.

(ii)  Increased my physical activity - I started going to the gym. This built up my cardio-vascular capabilities and increased my blood flow - everywhere. I also started to spend more time walking outside to get fresh air.

(iii) Changed my sleeping pattern - I was very strict about going to bed relatively early, but most importantly - getting up early.

(iv)  Weight loss - I was not overweight, but we are all different and I was not built to carry the small amount of extra weight I was carrying.

(v)   Changed my diet - I stopped eating refined sugar to avoid insulin spikes and and cut down on my food portions in general to assist with weight loss and reduce bloating. I also stopped consuming dairy as it made me sluggish. I cut down on certain carbs (cakes and pastries and beer) as they caused bloating. I started taking turmeric every day which really helped with reducing inflammation and pretty much cured some subsidiary but distracting joint pain I had been having. I would also not eat after 6pm to assist with weight-loss.

(vi)   Relaxation techniques - I implemented a simple 'hack' which was to keep reminding myself (especially on the way to a punt) that all I was doing was going to spend time with an SP. I might not even have sex with her. The sex wasn't important. I could just enjoy spending the time kissing and cuddling. I didn't need to get hard and I didn't need to have sex. I could just go with the flow and that was okay. This made a massive difference in reducing my anxiety.

(vii) Communicated the issue to the SP - I would tell them up front 'this might not work'. That took further pressure off me to perform and in 100% of cases they were really nice about it and went out of their way to make sure that I was relaxed. Also, they would often they would see it as a bit of a challenge.

(viii) Started doing one hour punts - One of the things I realised was that I was obsessing over the time I had left in a punt and whether or not I would be able to perform and cum in the allotted time. Stopping half-hour punts and moving to one hour punts removed this obsessing and helped me relax even more.

Conclusion:

I'm not saying the above will work for everyone. But they worked for me.

I thought I was a lost cause, destined to live a life of sexual frustration. Thankfully I was wrong. There is hope out there and subtle changes can make a big difference.

Hopefully some of you might get something useful from the above. If so, that's great. If not, it is still the story of how I cured my own ED.

I do virtually like for like what you do, and yes it does work.... and to be honest its a good refreshing positive change..
we are not young no more.. i have learned the hard way, but thankfully no negative impact...
Mentally i still feel young, but physically that feeling does not follow..
So forced changes that are beneficial have to be implemented.. yes they can be bland, but its better than the negative alternatives due to enjoyment indulgence ignorance..

[Moby Dick]

Thanks for sharing. All Sounds familiar.

I had similar issues a few years ago.
Plus when I could get it up I would become flushed, and then get sharp head pains close to climaxing. So would have to lie down. I’m not a doctor but blood pressure and anxiety must be key factors.
Reduced alcohol and porn. Still eat the same (fairly healthy meat and 2 veg type), but exercise a lot more, cycling and home gym. Lost 2 stone, still a bit more to go but don’t have any performance issues any more. Can cum standing up, no hands, let the WG take the load.
Just wish I could spunk 3 times an hour like I could 20years a go.

[earlgreyman]

Great post and tips OP! Some of these things i have suffered in recent years. Health really does impact the sex drive. Lack of self-confidence and anxiety does too. A combo of these is even worse. Glad you've sorted the issues out!

[Waterhouse]

I take natural ground turmeric in decaf coffee - 3 times a day. Here is a recipe (for those who are interested):

(1)    1    teaspoon decaf coffee.
(2)    1    teaspoon ground turmeric.
(3)    1/2 teaspoon of ground cinnamon.
(4)    4 or 5 turns of freshly ground black pepper (honestly, it sounds weird but it tastes great with the other ingredients and you need it so your body can extract the essential and active nutrients from the turmeric).
(5)    1 teaspoon of stevia (a natural sweetener - do not use sugar).

DO NOT PUT MILK IN IT!

Put them all in a cup and pour on your hot water. Stir for about 30 seconds. Keep the teaspoon in the cup and stir before every drink. That will ensure that you don't end up with a sludgey residue at the bottom of your cup and that you ingest all of the goodies.

I know the recipe sounds a bit unusual, but it tastes great - and it made a massive difference to my life. It reduced the inflammation that was causing me all sorts of joint pain (including back pain) I didn't think I would ever be rid of.

It took only two days of drinking this coffee for me to notice a huge difference.

Thanks for that... All ingredients/spices that I like so will certainly give it a try and see how it goes results-wise.

Cheers.

[S.X. MacHine]

Excellent post and excellent advice.
I've been following this pattern for a few years and, at 67 years of age, have absolutely no ED issues.

[LoneWolf2020]

My confidence is in the toilet tbh, been to some punts and my cock has stayed shriveled so im eating better, working out and wanking less, it does work although i do take a little blue pill for reassurance

[oap69]

Excellent post with some good advice, thanks Slam.  Will try the drink.
 

[Horizontal pleasures]

(v)   Changed my diet - I stopped eating refined sugar to avoid insulin spikes and and cut down on my food portions in general to assist with weight loss and reduce bloating. I also stopped consuming dairy as it made me sluggish. I cut down on certain carbs (cakes and pastries and beer) as they caused bloating. I started taking turmeric every day which really helped with reducing inflammation and pretty much

VERY well done and written. I have not yet read all the thread but would like to share something also. I  have done the diet changes with the help of a book WAIST DISPOSAL by Dr John Briffa which explains very well why and how to do these changes. Gymnema sylvestre tincture helped dispel sugar cravings.

But I do eat dairy for the protein such as full fat Greek Yoghurt with berry fruits for breakfast.

[rosebristol60]

i suffer from erection problems but my problem is anxiety, i have never had a great sex life, in fact i have not had sex with my partner for 10 years, thats her choice not mine, so i do watch a lot of porn to get my kicks, but when we did have sex back in the day i had no problem getting hard but as soon as i entered her it went soft, i felt such a failure, but watching porn i have no problems getting a stiffy, i did try a blue pill once but all i got was a headache, so just a bit of backround information on me, i am 59 years old, i am a postman and i walk 13 miles a day, i cycle to work which is a 10 mile round trip and i am a bit of an insomniac, even sleeping tablets dont work. so as punting goes i had my first meet just after christmas, and i managed to get a bit of an erection, but it was still embarrassing, i am now on the look out for another meet, but i might just go for a no sex massage, just to take a bit of pressure off me, so i can relax and just enjoy it.

[Home Alone]

Superb OP, SlamBoy; thanks for taking the time to go into so much detail. Lots of helpful ideas in it. You didn't actually spell it out, but I guess there's a huge dollop of willpower in there as well!

My circumstances - I'm comparatively elderly [although by no means the oldest on here, of course - nobbut a lad of 73!] and am mobility impaired - won't allow me to follow your regime fully. But I guess the two of the more important points in your OP are: to discuss it with your GP and maybe tweak it in the light of what they say; and not to expect immediate results.

Following a plan like this may well, as you said, take a few months to bear fruit. But the fruit sounds worth the effort! Thanks again.

[tantraman]

Hey SlamBoy

Very many thanks for such an honest and salutory post ... I have learned much.

[SlamBoy]

Excellent post and excellent advice.

Thank you.

[SlamBoy]

VERY well done and written.

Thanks HP 

[SlamBoy]

i suffer from erection problems but (1) my problem is anxiety, i have never had a great sex life, in fact i have not had sex with my partner for 10 years, thats her choice not mine, so i do watch a lot of porn to get my kicks, but when we did have sex back in the day i had no problem getting hard but as soon as i entered her it went soft, i felt such a failure, but (2) watching porn i have no problems getting a stiffy, i did try a blue pill once but all i got was a headache, so just a bit of backround information on me, i am 59 years old, i am a postman and i walk 13 miles a day, i cycle to work which is a 10 mile round trip and i am a bit of an insomniac, even sleeping tablets dont work. so as punting goes i had my first meet just after christmas, and i managed to get a bit of an erection, but it was still embarrassing, i am now on the look out for another meet, but (3) i might just go for a no sex massage, just to take a bit of pressure off me, so i can relax and just enjoy it.

(1) anxiety leads to the physical problems

(2) you have no anxiety with porn as you only need to think about you and no one else. However, it does reduce your stimulation sensitivity both (a) mentally, and (b) physically - I can't tell you how damaging porn is for ED sufferers. You should think about taking a break to see if it makes a difference.

The forums on NoFap give plenty of good advice on what to do and what you might experience:
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(3) that sounds like a great idea. physical intimacy should be about enjoyment not anxiety and stress.

[SlamBoy]

Hey SlamBoy

Very many thanks for such an honest and salutory post ... I have learned much.

You're very welcome TM 

[SlamBoy]

Superb OP, SlamBoy; thanks for taking the time to go into so much detail. Lots of helpful ideas in it. You didn't actually spell it out, but I guess there's a huge dollop of willpower in there as well!
Thanks again.

You're very welcome HA 

[Doc Holliday]

Indeed lots of good advice and thanks for your honesty.

(1) anxiety leads to the physical problems

... physical intimacy should be about enjoyment not anxiety and stress.

That is absolutely correct but with punting I often feel it has a tendency to get lost in the mix sometimes? I cannot help thinking many of us overanalyse the meetings and the participants performance?
This includes the research 'professional punters' undertake to maximise the investment of their hard earned cash. The risk of wasting it during an hour is yet another stressor.

Well done for getting off the meds when you don't really need them. They are great for those with physiological causes but their recreational use is yet another psychological stressor.

Indeed I often wonder what those who were punting prior to the millennium used to do without this pharmacologic crutch?

[cotton]

Great post Slamboy .
Ive not seen a conventional SP for over a year , except for when i went to Poland , but totally agree with the 1 hour punts being more relaxed and less anxious and just more enjoyable.
Think il give the turmeric a go 

[Home Alone]

...

Well done for getting off the meds when you don't really need them. They are great for those with physiological causes but their recreational use is yet another psychological stressor.

Indeed I often wonder what those who were punting prior to the millennium used to do without this pharmacologic crutch?

I'm not certain if your question's rhetorical, Doc.

And in my case, it would have been hypothetical because my OH didn't piss off till the early years of this century but had declared her pussy a "No go area" - so far as I was concerned, at any rate  - several years earlier. And I didn't become a punter  until after she'd gone.

But I guess I'd almost certainly have been Mr. Floppy. 

[hassey78]

Excellent Post. Thanks Slamboy!