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Author Topic: Suggestions if you are struggling even with viagra  (Read 492 times)

Offline Marmalade

There seem to be a small minority of members who angst a lot about getting hard or staying hard or cumming, even with sildenafil (Viagra) or tadalafil (Cialis).

While sildenafil and/or tadalafil work for most people, medically there is a small percentage that don’t seem to gain benefit. (If you don’t have a heart condition or other medical worry that could be affected, you should also experiment with different doses of course, as your doctor will, or should, also recommend).

But for the actual punt, based on these people’s comments, if all else hasn’t worked a change of tack can help.

Sonetimes I’m incredibly tired, maybe lack of sleep and so on, not at my best, but it doesn’t rule out some nice time. (Just as you would go for a massage). It may be that your age or general health is taking its toll. Ok, we can deal with that.

A bad attitude prossie can easily kill 90% of erections and that’s a different problem. But first things first ...

A prossie, if not told anything else, will see her job as making you come. If you don’t get hard or don’t come she feels it’s her fault and you will blame her. The punter starts feeling crap about his ‘perfirmance’ and it’s a bitter circle.

Instead, at the beginning, be honest with her. Takes the pressure off both of you. Tell her you don’t always come or might not get hard but just enjoy having some fun with ‘an attractive woman’ (even if she’s a minger). She’ll stop pushing and pushing. That allows you the freedom to do what you fancy. Maybe a cuddle (the natural thing you might do with a real civvie) and gently explore her body a bit. If you get hard and/or come, it’s an extra bonus, but you still have your paid time to enjoy her body her touch and explore, enjoy. She will be thinking if she can make you hard or come that will be ‘special’ so may put a bit more thought into it without pushing.

There’s no point in demanding of oneself to perform like a nineteen year old in heat: you’re not. You’re just a man that enjoys sexual activity with a compliant woman. Caress her, explore the curves of her body as you hold her close, enjoy the warmth, enjoy the experience for what it is.

If you do get hard and manage a shag but don’t come, ask her if it’s ok to come on her body (your choice of landing). Enjoy a fantasy as if you were on your own but now you have tits/ass/bum/cunt to enjoy looking at and touching if you want to with your other hand.

You pay for your hour or half hour of fun. Feel comfortable with your limitations (they might even go away); and enjoy the woman’s body on offer — and, this is important — also plan for that. If you plan for “oh it’s a last ditch attempt I gotta come and probably won’t” then you’re programming yourself to fail. Plan instead for enjoying yourself as I’ve described.

A bad EE is the hardest woman to get anywhere using this approach, mostly I think as they’re so uneducated, but that’s a different challenge (separate post maybe if required). The above will work in most situations.

Good luck.  ;)

Offline WKD123

Thanks Marmalade.  Nailed it on the head that a bad attitude, or even just a WG who clearly isn't really into having sex with you can kill off even a blue-pill infused stiffy.

Interesting point that if you start off by letting the girl know that it's OK if dumping your load doesn't happen PLUS being prepared for this and just enjoying the chance to experience time with a girl that (presumably if you've done your research!) you find attractive and would never in a million years be naked with then it is actually money well spent.

I'm sure the pump and dumpers will disagree, but a timely post that I appreciate as I start considering where I shall invest next!

Offline LoneWolf2020

Great post, i struggle more than most with the cold performers so some good tips there to relieve the pressure