To be frank, I have to redress the balance. This lady's behaviour has nothing to do with Asperger's. Heavy drinking and abusive previous experience of men replicates this kind of behaviour in non working girls and non Asperger's women. I've seen it first hand a couple of times, with no drugs involved and with above average intelligence women, one with an MSc. It's ugly and you feel sorry for them for how they have been treated, their dependency on company and need for constant approval. But only one way to fix that, and it's if they want to sort themselves out. Therapy and a stable supporting family member is the best way. You're not going to help, and you did the right thing to get out. PTSD? Maybe. But Asperger's? No.