Bollocks.
Where's the MumsNet thread saying thank goodness he saw a prostitute and didn't get emotionally involved.
They're all saying pathetic wanker couldn't even have an affair had to pay for it.
If your missus isn't putting out what's wrong with talking to her about it or finding her a hot boy polyamorousssssed thing ecc ecc
But please excuse my rudeness 40% vol black cow milk vodka drunk
Thing with mumsnet like any forum is everyone's got an opinion.
It's a bit like women who have affairs because of no sex and then wonder why you're dumping them and ending the 'relationship'.
Its the ones who call pathetic that think their other half is saint jesus of perfect.... and its probably him that's fucking her arsehole with a gag in his mouth an a dido up his own arse.
We as blokes compartmentalise - I want a shag or to tick this perversion / kink/ fetish whatever, so I'll get it out of my system as clearly as going to have a hair cut.
Partners will never see it like that. They may have gone off sex, they may be sweet vanilla only on the night of a full moon but YOU will always be being unfaithful.
I've never know a woman who would turn around and go "I don't like anal, but feel free to pay for it if it gets it out of your system". Life doesn't work like that.
And kissing.. again, if a partner can get her head around punting, the act of kissing is deeply personal, so again, cheating.
OP, you're paying for a service. YOU don't see it as cheating, she will. simple as that. It's up to you to reconcile it with yourself.
At least you're not having an affair - a mate of mine did that, some bint who he found of some extramarital dating site. he saw her as a fuck buddy, she saw him as relationship material.
When he decided no more the damage she did to his relationship was catastrophic.
Despite the initial sweet words of 'just a bit of fun' when it all ended apparently it was a relationship and 'how could you do this to me'.
The wife knew, the street knew, everyone knew - she held nothing back, but apparently reducing him to near homelessness and destitution was ok as it was her "revenge for what he had done to her", and being a woman I'm sure if her husband did divorce her, she'd be sitting pretty irrespective.