Mrs wants a threesome with another woman

[misterjt111]

After having sex a few days ago my other half started talking about sexual things she’d like to do, one of them being going to a sex club.  She likes the idea of people watching us have sex.  I didn’t want to sound too informed but I said I think if we went and had sex then I expect others would want to join in.  I’ve never been to a swingers club before, I’ve attended gang bangs and I know what horny men are like.  I’m aware there’s etiquette but not sure what it’s actually like having never been so maybe I have some misconceptions about it.

We are fairly young, she is slim and has massive natural tits so she would get a lot of attention no doubt.

She then mentioned having a 3some, with another woman.  This isn’t the first time she’s mentioned it, but this time there was a bit more detail added.  I know her first sexual experience was a FFM so maybe that has something to do with her thinking about it or wanting it.  I asked why and she said it would be fun.  She wouldn’t want it to be anyone that we know though.  I couldn’t quite believe my ears so I asked how we would find someone then and she suggested on holiday.  Can’t see us finding a hot single woman in holiday who wants to have a threesome with us, but maybe I’m naive?

I don’t want to be too pushy with the idea, but it does sound amazing. 

I do have a couple of niggling concerns around it, one being that she isn’t satisfied with just me so wants someone else involved.  Seems a little emasculating.

Also, will I get jealous when it’s just them 2 doing things together and I’m just watching.  Although it’s not another man, it’s still a person she is going to be intimate with.

So the my idea would be to use a WG, that way it would be more of a business transaction.

I imagine having a 3some organically by finding a likeminded female would be better but I can’t see that being easy.

Does anyone have any suggestions for who we could look at for this sort of booking?

Also be interested to hear if anyone else has done this and if my fears are normal?

[Steve1961]

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For a ffm 3sum you can't go wrong with Laura. She loves both men and women and will make sure that everyone is involved and has a great time in my experience.

[lamboman]

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For a ffm 3sum you can't go wrong with Laura. She loves both men and women and will make sure that everyone is involved and has a great time in my experience.

Have to say I found her very underwhelming and far too business minded,perhaps she's better in a threesome.

[oldmanking]

If I were you, I'd be far happier she wants to add another lady, than adding another guy? Now that would be awkward, if he was packing more or was just far beter in bed?

[Steve1961]

Have to say I found her very underwhelming and far too business minded,perhaps she's better in a threesome.

I have no complaints. I always have a great time with Laura. I look forward to your review Lamboman so that I can compare notes.

[guymids-72]

Have to say I found her very underwhelming and far too business minded,perhaps she's better in a threesome.

Seen her 3 times and reviewed, always been top notch imho

[Freddybigstuff1983]

With a previous fuck buddy of mine, we hunted for a second female to join us with no luck.  They are called Unicorns for a reason !
We used fabswingers and fetlife.  Both are quite hard work and very much into the social scene of it all, which we wernt.  We didnt want to go for drinks with this girl, just watch her lick some pussy !

Good luck

[hairymonster]

A fella I worked with followed the same path. Bragged for months about the amazing threesomes he and his wife were having.

Now he's divorced and she married the other fem  serves him right for bragging, but does make you wander how many relationships pass the swinging test.

[Tender.french.kiss]

If I were you, I'd be far happier she wants to add another lady, than adding another guy? Now that would be awkward, if he was packing more or was just far beter in bed?

The risk of her fully discovering her bisexual side is potentially just as great

[l1mpd1ck]

A fella I worked with followed the same path. Bragged for months about the amazing threesomes he and his wife were having.
Now he's divorced and she married the other fem  serves him right for bragging, but does make you wander how many relationships pass the swinging test.

A good reason to hire a WG rather than look for amateurs

[Colston36]

After having sex a few days ago my other half started talking about sexual things she’d like to do, one of them being going to a sex club.  She likes the idea of people watching us have sex.  I didn’t want to sound too informed but I said I think if we went and had sex then I expect others would want to join in.  I’ve never been to a swingers club before, I’ve attended gang bangs and I know what horny men are like.  I’m aware there’s etiquette but not sure what it’s actually like having never been so maybe I have some misconceptions about it.

We are fairly young, she is slim and has massive natural tits so she would get a lot of attention no doubt.

She then mentioned having a 3some, with another woman.  This isn’t the first time she’s mentioned it, but this time there was a bit more detail added.  I know her first sexual experience was a FFM so maybe that has something to do with her thinking about it or wanting it.  I asked why and she said it would be fun.  She wouldn’t want it to be anyone that we know though.  I couldn’t quite believe my ears so I asked how we would find someone then and she suggested on holiday.  Can’t see us finding a hot single woman in holiday who wants to have a threesome with us, but maybe I’m naive?

I don’t want to be too pushy with the idea, but it does sound amazing. 

I do have a couple of niggling concerns around it, one being that she isn’t satisfied with just me so wants someone else involved.  Seems a little emasculating.

Also, will I get jealous when it’s just them 2 doing things together and I’m just watching.  Although it’s not another man, it’s still a person she is going to be intimate with.

So the my idea would be to use a WG, that way it would be more of a business transaction.

I imagine having a 3some organically by finding a likeminded female would be better but I can’t see that being easy.
Does anyone have any suggestions for who we could look at for this sort of booking?

Also be interested to hear if anyone else has done this and if my fears are normal?

All men feel inadequate - and speaking for myself I can understand why!

But if I were you I would look for a pro, if only on the grounds that a) she's unlikely to want to forge a relationship b) she's likely to be bloody good and c) you'll then have regular go to.

[0ralist]

All men feel inadequate - and speaking for myself I can understand why!

But if I were you I would look for a pro, if only on the grounds that a) she's unlikely to want to forge a relationship b) she's likely to be bloody good and c) you'll then have regular go to.

Very wise words, go for someone that A) has experience,
B) Does it for a fee.
C) doesn't have a personal/ Social connection.
D) if it does go wrong, supposed you can forget the SP and move on.

[scutty brown]

found the ideal girl for you both, your wife will never look back


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[Little Joe]

Ffs......that can’t be real .........errrrr.. can it 😳

[Little Joe]

My recommendation to kick off the idea would be to go for a joint FBSM with someone like Vicky Toria. You won’t get sex with her but I bet your misses could win her around and enjoy a mutual gobbling

Other than that an out call would probably be more comfortable and the anticipation waiting for the SP to turn up would be mind blowing. I wish my misses would give just the slightest indication and I’d be right in there.

I hope you realise Mister that you will now be hounded until such time as you report back on the progress you are making 👍👍

[JontyR]

I’d also want to be clear with my OH that this isn’t a prelude to a MMF threesome later on. Unless, of course. you’d be fine with that.

[thimble29]

I’d also want to be clear with my OH that this isn’t a prelude to a MMF threesome later on. Unless, of course. you’d be fine with that.

That was my thought, "now you've had yours darling you know Tom at my work?" etc etc.

[Tender.french.kiss]

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Must be photoshopped ffs!! Else would be known in the porn industry for sure.
That tools bigger than her forearm.
Must be using half of her body's blood to lift it up

[webpunter]

+1

Very wise words, go for someone that A) has experience,
B) Does it for a fee.
C) doesn't have a personal/ Social connection.
D) if it does go wrong, supposed you can forget the SP and move on.

OP, top of the to-do list is what not-to-do list
You need to portray some naivety
Otherwise you start bringing your knowledge of all things punting to bear & she's gonna get a sense that sumfink ain't right
Leave her to do the organizing
And i'd draw the line if anything which resembles 'crossing swords' comes into discussion
Best idea IMO is to do a holiday to a swinger resort then its just fun abroad.  Find somewhere where other stuff to do in case it doesn't work out
If you start getting involved in the organization of finding the F in FFM then the slightest slip & you could scupper your ability to go punting
If a session does happen i would try & put up a good performance but do NOT make it outstanding
A civvy i know has mentioned a couple of times.  I've showed some enthusiasm but not much.  I took her going on about this as a test
You never know quite what is going thru their brain.  And not worth the effort to find out either !

[winkywanky]

found the ideal girl for you both, your wife will never look back


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...does she have an AW profile Scutty? Asking for a friend...

[KarmaPolice]

Interesting question!

Given that Chameleons is gonna be closed for a while...

I looked at my HL, two I've not seen but think I'd go for in this scenario:

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Both well reviewed on here, both expensive, but then - it's wife approved!

I think also VERY important to make sure you don't book someone you've seen before, assuming your wife isn't aware you punt...

[scutty brown]

...does she have an AW profile Scutty? Asking for a friend...

No good for you, she's a real girl with a strapon.
Polish model, named Bea Flora, doubt she has a profile. Photo dates from 2008 or earlier

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[misterjt111]

Hi, thanks all for the advice.

Yes I’m conscious of not coming across like I have prior knowledge of how to book and escort and where to look etc.  Which sort of leads me into, how do I broach let’s sit and look together for someone?  If I do it on my own she might get a bit weirded out that I’ve been looking without her.

She is the most loyal partner I’ve ever had and we did discuss what would happen during a FFM and she said something along the lines of me fucking the other girl, as in she would want me to.  I was obviously taken aback (even more) by this and I said sheepishly “yeah if you want me to”. 

I quickly realised that she was testing me and I should have said no, I’m not bothered about her!

We had just spoken about a MMF being completely off the table because I wouldn’t be happy with it and to be fair she said categorically no she wouldn’t want to fuck another man.  So perhaps my reaction should have been the same!

I also don’t want to keep going on about it to her cos it’ll seem like I’m obsessed with it.  Now isn’t the sexiest of times as she’s currently ‘on’ (TMI perhaps, but then again I’m discussing a 3some with strangers).  I think I need to wait for the right sort of time to talk about it again with her, but judging it right is going to be tricky.

I appreciate the suggestions of WGs to try and if anyone has any other suggestions I’d really appreciate it.

[misterjt111]

Oh if anyone has been to sex clubs/swinger clubs can you advise on what I’d mentioned before, whether it’s feasible for us to have sex in a room perhaps without anyone else just joining in, maybe a locked room with a window or something similar?  Does this even exist?!

[KarmaPolice]

Yes, Chameleons in Darlaston has public rooms and private rooms you can use.

[scutty brown]

Oh if anyone has been to sex clubs/swinger clubs can you advise on what I’d mentioned before, whether it’s feasible for us to have sex in a room perhaps without anyone else just joining in, maybe a locked room with a window or something similar?  Does this even exist?!

Infusion in Blackpool has lockable  doors and curtains, I'd expect other places to be the same.
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As a different way into it, how about booking a weekend away in an hotel like this one?
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Would give you a no-strings toe-in-the-water start. Ask the landlady for advice? She's been doing it for years
More chance of finding a solo female there than in a sex club, and if you want privacy just go to your room

[workinallweek]

 booked a girl in that me and a fuck buddy picked of AW  . BRILLIANT TIME . but i like to watch ..

[winkywanky]

booked a girl in that me and a fuck buddy picked of AW  . BRILLIANT TIME . but i like to watch ..

What, not even a tiny little spitroast? 

[workinallweek]

What, not even a tiny little spitroast? 

well i was the roast

[winkywanky]

well i was the roast

...I'm just trying to get my head around that one, back in a moment...

[Colston36]

Infusion in Blackpool has lockable  doors and curtains, I'd expect other places to be the same.
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As a different way into it, how about booking a weekend away in an hotel like this one?
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Would give you a no-strings toe-in-the-water start. Ask the landlady for advice? She's been doing it for years
More chance of finding a solo female there than in a sex club, and if you want privacy just go to your room

Used to go the Blackpool as a child. It's clearly improved. Paradise sounds, well, paradise.

[scutty brown]

...I'm just trying to get my head around that one, back in a moment...

Sounds MMM to me

[Tender.french.kiss]

+1

OP, top of the to-do list is what not-to-do list
You need to portray some naivety
Otherwise you start bringing your knowledge of all things punting to bear & she's gonna get a sense that sumfink ain't right

200% agree.
There is no way you can bring in the conversation safely any AW proposal made.
Would have to be a common search or a search led just by her. Else the risk of you letting something out, sounding knowledgeable or even excited but in a regular punter instead of a Newby way are all small things she could pick up. Beware of their 6th sense.
Webpunter's proposal to have it as part of a holiday or a weekend away sounds very good to me. Novelty and new ground would help make any excitement or behaviour far more understandable and less noticeable than in your regular surroundings. Obviously with the current situation this would require a bit more patience but better safe than sorry IMO

[webpunter]

IMO the chances of something positive coming out of doing this are at best short lived
Even if it seemingly goes well, longer term iffy
It will cause problems
The list is endless
If the OP's OH really wants an FFM [B O Llocks to FMM] then let her organize it
A few people i know have done this, a couple direct & the others friends of friends
Usually a sign that the 'relationship' is spiralling in one direction.  Which isn't up !   
The outcome could be likened to accidentally swallowing some scrabble pieces
Then having a shit could spell 'disaster' 
OP would be better off keeping his punting skills well under wraps & paying for a two's up.  On his Jack .. ! 

200% agree.
There is no way you can bring in the conversation safely any AW proposal made.
Would have to be a common search or a search led just by her. Else the risk of you letting something out, sounding knowledgeable or even excited but in a regular punter instead of a Newby way are all small things she could pick up. Beware of their 6th sense.
Webpunter's proposal to have it as part of a holiday or a weekend away sounds very good to me. Novelty and new ground would help make any excitement or behaviour far more understandable and less noticeable than in your regular surroundings. Obviously with the current situation this would require a bit more patience but better safe than sorry IMO

[workinallweek]

...I'm just trying to get my head around that one, back in a moment...

 badly phrased  i was the filling in the sandwich  read the review .  Ive not been brave enough to go up against another cock 

[winkywanky]

badly phrased  i was the filling in the sandwich  read the review .  Ive not been brave enough to go up against another cock 

You know what, I (mistakenly) read your 'fuck buddy' as being a geezer you regularly did MMF with, so as you might imagine this conjured up all kinds of images, regardless of whichever way round you happened to be within that sandwich  

[Stongwee53]

Theres a reviewer in the east midlands section crazydave i think whos done some reviews on 3somes he has had with differentwoman and his girlfriend. Might be worth looking at some of his reviews as reference to what woman they have seem together

[petermisc]

Before going into such an arrangement, be very sure you both understand what you are each expecting to get out of it.  Once you have crossed the line, there will be no going back.  If she has made clear she doesn't want to fuck another man, how is she going to deal with the memory of seeing you enjoying fucking another woman?  Or is she just expecting you to be an observer?  In which case, is she really just after some lesbian action?

[misterjt111]

Well it’s taken a while but I have an update.

So this topic was put to bed at the time of my original post.  But then a couple of weeks ago she mentioned it again.  We had lots of conversations about it and we were clear on boundaries etc.  I was happy for her to experience some FF action and I was happy to just be there watching.  As a bonus I’d happily join in, just playing/fucking my OH.  To my amazement she told me she’d be ok with me putting my cock in another woman, so long as I didn’t finish in her!

So as you can imagine I was very excited and we began exploring options.  I was very mindful and expressed to her that it was important she handled the whole thing so she was in control.

We tried a couple of dating apps aimed at 3somes/unicorns etc but essentially they were a waste of time with a lot of scammers on them.

Not deterred we looked at swingers clubs with nights specifically aimed at couples and single females.  As there weren’t any for a good month or so I was keen to strike whilst the iron was hot.  Sooo I suggested an escort, we both looked, which was odd.  We found a few and she even made contact with some.  However she decided it felt a bit wrong, but as a compromise I suggested a FBSM.  She went for it!  The only downside was the provider we decided on, did not want me present, which I understand.

We spoke about this and I was happy for her to see her on her own as I wanted her to explore this FF action she’d fantasised about.  Soo she did it.

The OH came after it out a bit underwhelmed.  She made the SP cum and vice versa so it couldn’t have been so bad.  I found it very horny hearing about what happened.  However my OH told me that the fantasy was better than the reality.  It basically didn’t really do it for her, the reason for this I think is because she said she felt guilty for doing it.

So I’m hindsight I wish we’d have waited to go to a swingers club where we would both be present or had a FBSM together- that way I think the guilt element would be lessened or taken away completely.  I think the way we did it has scuppered any future FFM action to be honest.

[JontyR]

Don't be so sure mate.

She revisited it before, she probably needs longer to reflect. It's unlikely to disappear from her list of fantasies. If it comes up again be ready for what you want out of it.

[mancsguy1975]

That was my thought, "now you've had yours darling you know Tom at my work?" etc etc.

My thoughts exactly.....

[Atrueyorkie]

My thoughts exactly.....

+1, sounds like you’re potentially opening Pandora’s box

[Billy no mates]

It’s so funny how similar this was to me and my missus, particularly with the fbsm as her very first foray (no orgasms for her tho).

When we did see an escort, I made a whole thing of it, went to Manchester for the weekend nice hotel, fine dining, she bought all new underwear it was like a whole weekend, but did pay off as she then spent the next few years wanting her hands in the cookie jar very regularly.

Keep plugging away and (weirdly) I found not to act too interested, I found acting like I could take or leave the whole matter far more productive in getting her to get her arse moving.

[misterjt111]

In relation to the comments about her introducing a man, she’s assured me she is not interested in that.  We have been very open about this whole thing.  I’ve given her more than enough opportunities to tell me if she’d like to do that and given her every assurance that I would not be judgemental.  So I have to take her word for it.

In relation to her keep wanting to explore this…I’m not so sure.  She is pretty stubborn.  Since it happened she has told me that she doesn’t want to think or talk about it again.  I’ve told her I think we should to prevent any issues arising and we have, albeit a bit begrudgingly on her part.

I do want to go to a sex club for a FFM night, again not for me to do anything particularly with another woman but it would be well horny for me to either watch my mrs with another woman (tho unlikely now), or for me and her to have sex in there either just us or ideally involving another woman.  I don’t know if it was a more organic scenario where both of us were present if she’d feel more comfortable with it.  Not sure when would be the right time to bring this up again I don’t want to annoy her with it.

[Barney31]

I have been talking about this with a girlfriend of mine and she is definitely up for trying something but would like to start with a couples massage first. Any ideas on venues that we could go to?

[Thinkpink]

Oh if anyone has been to sex clubs/swinger clubs can you advise on what I’d mentioned before, whether it’s feasible for us to have sex in a room perhaps without anyone else just joining in, maybe a locked room with a window or something similar?  Does this even exist?!

Having been in this exact situation I’ll let you know what I did. It has worked well for us.
 Adding an extra person or persons to a relationship is always a risk so if you dont feel 100% security in the relationship then park the idea.

Create a couples profile on fab swingers. Stating exactly what you want and what you’re comfortable with. Get some photos on also. As long as you’re not both gargoyles then you will have interest from a few single ladies, mainly couples though. Set you preferences on you profile and that will filter out what you don’t want. See how that goes.

Or

Go to a club. We like xtasia in West Brom. There are lockable play rooms with some mirrors angled on the ceiling so you can get a glimpse at the action, some without. Female gloryholes, a grope box, dark area, sloppy spunk jacuzzi, dogging area. Go on a Saturday, couple and single ladies only. Most of the women in couples are bi everyone is very friendly. If she’s really up for it then it will be great fun. If it all gets a bit overwhelming and she gets cold feet then you can just leave.

[Colston36]

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And not expensive either!