Question for the ones here in relationships?
Would you tell your new lady that you had punted in the past or not?.
Once I stopped laughing at that, the answer is NO, NEVER. Don't even think about it.
Seriously no matter how open or liberal people seem - mentioning that you punt (even if in the past)
can kill a relationship dead instantly - and its not something they keep quiet about either.
They'll shout it to all your friends and family
My secret is still my own, and I'm not married - but seen the above happen - the poor guy lost everything, wife, kids, house, friends
Its interesting (in a bad way) how their opinions changed when it happened. Previously they were ok with the idea
(I had sneakily brought it into conversation as I'm a punter but they didn't know) - but once he was outed it
was all "dirty disgusting pervert - spending money on that"
- the kicker ? his wife said to me "I wish he'd have had an affair or two, I could have coped with that"