How many of your friends know you punt?

[jamiekinkxxx]

For me it is a few close friends.

One of them used to punt alot, now v rarely. One is really interested, I think he would but for the ££. A third loves to hear about the antics. The others (4-5 of them) know and understand (I think  )

[funfungoodguy]

How many of their friends know they're hookers... ?

[jimbobted]

For me it is a few close friends.

One of them used to punt alot, now v rarely. One is really interested, I think he would but for the ££. A third loves to hear about the antics. The others (4-5 of them) know, understand (I think  )

My soon to be ex wife now knows too 

None. There's no chance I'd talk about it with friends. I did once drunkenly tell a work colleague about a punting exploit but I think I got away with it.
A couple of guys off here I compare notes with.

[jamiekinkxxx]

How many of their friends know they're hookers... ?

That's probably one for the girsl to answer?! 

[jamiekinkxxx]

None. There's no chance I'd talk about it with friends. I did once drunkenly tell a work colleague about a punting exploit but I think I got away with it.
A couple of guys off here I compare notes with.

There is no way I would discuss with a work collegue. When I am talking about friends I am talking about guys I have know for years, if not even longer (some I went to school with!). These are v close friends who I trust 100%

[contentguy]

Is this that different from the thread a few below:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=369428.0

[dizietsmae]

There is no way I would discuss with a work collegue. When I am talking about friends I am talking about guys I have know for years, if not even longer (some I went to school with!). These are v close friends who I trust 100%

Bless, you trust any human being 100%, what a sweet yet naive person you must be.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Is this that different from the thread a few below:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=369428.0

I guess it is quite similar, but more about friends than just general topic about people talking about it.

[WARSZAWA16]

None (hopefully....).

[jamiekinkxxx]

Bless, you trust any human being 100%, what a sweet yet naive person you must be.

I fear not. Maybe you are the one to lose out, paranoid in not trusting a selection of your closest friends? 

Each their own, but I am not naive. 

[Southernbloke]

None of my real life friends will ever on purpose find out.
However I do have punting only friends.
Like the Americans say “ church and state “

[Coriniumstud]

None and that’s the way it’s going to stay

[victor989]

Why would a punter tell his friends that he punts. 
Today they may be your friend but tomorrow they could be your enemy.

[standardpostage]

Nil / zero / zilch.
 
I don't even tell the priest when I go to confession on Saturday 

[Munter84]

Zero. The only people who know I punt are sexual health specialists (they're confidential, so I'm honest). Not friends, not family, not coworkers. Letting that particular cat out of the bag would represent very little to gain and potentially a lot to lose.

[mj]

Hopefully none. There's a couple who I have often wondered if they punt - but that's not a conversation we are ever going to have.

[tynetunnel]

None, the only people that know i punt are: the girls I’ve punted, a couple of agency owners, and you old buggers on here! I wouldn’t even trust my own brother with info like that. Keeping it to myself keeps me safe 

[Thephoenix]

I don't even tell my imaginary friend.

[myothernameis]

Should be asking, how many friends of friends, of other friends know that you punt, and eventually this gets back to your wife

[Malvolio]

I know a few suspect I do, but I'm not about to confirm those suspicions.

[jimbobted]

There is no way I would discuss with a work collegue. When I am talking about friends I am talking about guys I have know for years, if not even longer (some I went to school with!). These are v close friends who I trust 100%

Me either. I was horrifically drunk.
There's no way I'd discuss with friends. Ever.

[kingdom]

Zero and never will

[Re]

Absolutely nobody, no way 

[Jonestown]

It’s a secret you take to the grave if you have any sense, the only exceptions being your STI doctor, and the members of your Sex Addict Anonymous group.

[arrow0404]

Zero - But I have often wondered if any of my mates punt and there on this site, and know  there user name but don’t actually know it’s them

[Bonker]

None.
A chum told me about his punting exploits abroad and asked if I had ever coughed up to shoot out. I said no.

He's single and I'm not. He knows my wife. If we ever fell out, there's a risk of him blabbing. The risk of this is small as we've been friends for a long time but, it stays at zero as long as he doesn't know.

[jamiekinkxxx]

This is interesting. V interesting as I seem the only one that has confided in some friends.

Why is that?

Simple if you are married I guess. But if you’re not?

It’s a legal activity but is it the social stigma that some people hold against it?

[HornyHemel]

Some of my friends used to openly punt, but this hasn't been talked about for years as they settled down and got married etc.   

I think that a couple of them suspect that I still punt, but I suppose that bringing it up or saying that they had found reviews that could be me would also potentially expose them as still punting! 

The main reason that I don't discuss with anyone outside of this forum or WG's is the same as many others have stated, all it takes is a few loose words or blatant inuendo for a wife etc to overhear.....

[jamiekinkxxx]

Some of my friends used to openly punt, but this hasn't been talked about for years as they settled down and got married etc.   

I think that a couple of them suspect that I still punt, but I suppose that bringing it up or saying that they had found reviews that could be me would also potentially expose them as still punting! 

The main reason that I don't discuss with anyone outside of this forum or WG's is the same as many others have stated, all it takes is a few loose words or blatant inuendo for a wife etc to overhear.....

I guess that is the crux for most guys on here and 100% understandable. If you are married or in a long-term co-habitation style relationship then 'mum' is the name of the game.

But if are not in that situation then maybe it is the social stigma to not open up about it? The world has come on in many many ways and even though this is all legal and above board society does (in general) seem to take a dim view of men paying for sex. In many cases you can see why, when the darker side of the industry is so entwined with trafficed / exploited girls, crime gangs and drugs etc...

I guess that is one reason why I always tend to try and find great indy girls, have never visited a brothel or would ever go near dodgy looking agencies if I were to use an agency nowadays.

[nike]

This is interesting. V interesting as I seem the only one that has confided in some friends.

Why is that?

Simple if you are married I guess. But if you’re not?

It’s a legal activity but is it the social stigma that some people hold against it?

Three of my very best friends, we all have punted, together and seperately. We were friends, long before we became punters.

[JontyR]

This is interesting. V interesting as I seem the only one that has confided in some friends.

Why is that?

Simple if you are married I guess. But if you’re not?

It’s a legal activity but is it the social stigma that some people hold against it?

It's not just a wife or girlfriend, what about your Mum? What about your kids? What about the parents of the kids your kid goes to school with? What about temple/synagogue/church? What about the others in the pub/gym/football etc? And thats before you get onto work.

Thing is mate, situations change but perceptions of you may not. An old illustration of this...

A hiker was walking around the coast of Wales when he decided to stop into a village pub for a drink. There was a large crowd in the bar laughing and joking, but there was a man sat all on his own. The traveller asked the man about himself and why he wasn't joinign in with the revelry.

The man replied "Look out of the window towards the harbour, you see all those boats, I built most of them but do they call me Dai the boat builder? No, they don't"

"Look out of the other window, you see all those houses on the hill, I built most of them but do they call me Dai the house builder? No, they don't"

"See this pub, I built this pub, but do they call me Dai the pub-builder? No, they don't"

"You shag one sheep..."

[PaulRuff]

I guess that is the crux for most guys on here and 100% understandable. If you are married or in a long-term co-habitation style relationship then 'mum' is the name of the game.

But if are not in that situation then maybe it is the social stigma to not open up about it? The world has come on in many many ways and even though this is all legal and above board society does (in general) seem to take a dim view of men paying for sex. In many cases you can see why, when the darker side of the industry is so entwined with trafficed / exploited girls, crime gangs and drugs etc...

I guess that is one reason why I always tend to try and find great indy girls, have never visited a brothel or would ever go near dodgy looking agencies if I were to use an agency nowadays.

You've also got to consider what'll happen if you DO subsequently get into a marriage or LTR - once word got around that you used to pay for sex I think most civvy women would run a mile & wouldn't touch you with a barge pole...much the same if it gets out that a girl USED to get paid for sex, most guys wouldn't consider her suitable LTR material...

[ulstersubbie]

Why would a punter tell his friends that he punts. 
Today they may be your friend but tomorrow they could be your enemy.

This makes perfect sense.

[jamiekinkxxx]

@JontyR and PaulRuff.... that is the social stigma. I get it.

It is funny that we live in such a dynamic, vibrant, free and tolerent society in so many ways, yet some perceptions, such as the sex-trade will be very very hard (if not impossible  ) to change.

The irony is that we all are happy and comfortable (well I imagine?) for the sex trade, yet we are embarressed (if that is the right word  ) about it ourselves.

[Kool Keef]

Just 1 & I met him through this site because we have similar tastes.
It's good to have someone to talk about punting with no paranoia that you'll be 'outed'.

[Kool Keef]

Nil / zero / zilch.
 
I don't even tell the priest when I go to confession on Saturday 

Knowing how some of the clergy like to get down he's probably a punter himself 

[versace]

Quite a few. I’m not married so couldn’t care less.

[myothernameis]

I know someone who told a few of his work mates, and then everyone on his work place knew, that he see escorts, even the managers

[Jonestown]

I would be wary of underestimating the social stigma of being outed as a user of sex workers, society does not see the light and shade that punters do, all they see is the dark side pumped up by mainstream media, trafficking, drugs, coercion - all punters get tarred with the same brush.

[mattmugwump]

This is interesting. V interesting as I seem the only one that has confided in some friends.

Why is that?

Simple if you are married I guess. But if you’re not?

It’s a legal activity but is it the social stigma that some people hold against it?

I share with zero people, and the main reason (other than the married part) is due to work... many places I've worked at have strict policies on partaking in activities that could end up with you in a blackmail situation or being compromised, things like punting, illegal gambling or drugs, and if found to be doing them it's a sackable offence, even if no blackmail/compromise is actually happening.

[jamiekinkxxx]

I share with zero people, and the main reason (other than the married part) is due to work... many places I've worked at have strict policies on partaking in activities that could end up with you in a blackmail situation or being compromised, things like punting, illegal gambling or drugs, and if found to be doing them it's a sackable offence, even if no blackmail/compromise is actually happening.

Indeed.

But I know for a fact that if you go for DV security clearance in the UK (which is a pretty god dam high level of security clearance) they will target you in such matters in the interview stage. But they do not care whether you have or have not, they care about whether you are open and honest about it. To them, if you are open and honest, means you are not likely to be open to blackmail. Obviously you may (more than likely) still not get the post.

[JonasG]

Just the one.

He's the one who told me about Adultwork and that he used escorts.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Good olde Home office principles here.


Only those who need to know, know.

No one needs to know, so no one knows!...

[RandomGuy99]

I've put it on my CV under hobbies. Makes for interesting conversations in interviews.

[jimbobted]

Indeed.

But I know for a fact that if you go for DV security clearance in the UK (which is a pretty god dam high level of security clearance) they will target you in such matters in the interview stage. But they do not care whether you have or have not, they care about whether you are open and honest about it. To them, if you are open and honest, means you are not likely to be open to blackmail. Obviously you may (more than likely) still not get the post.

I've often wondered how they would know if you're lying anyway.
"Do you shag hookers?"
"No"

How they gonna know you're fibbing?

[County Militia]

I have one close mate who knows but that's only because we've been on punts together in Thailand. These days it's a rare thing for me as I'm married.

[funfungoodguy]

This makes perfect sense.

There are things that are better never disclosed. Once siad they can't be un-said. To-day's friend could be tomorrow's enemy, you never can tell who is or might be a blabber mouth. The knowledge of this kind of hobby could be very harmful indeed in the wrong hands. Equally I am sure the girls prefer to keep things discreet, especially those with children who in ten or twenty years time might find out, and with apalling outcomes. "Oh there's so and so, the sucesful whatever he/she is now, did you hear his/her mother was a prostitute......"
 

[victor989]

The man replied "Look out of the window towards the harbour, you see all those boats, I built most of them but do they call me Dai the boat builder? No, they don't"

"Look out of the other window, you see all those houses on the hill, I built most of them but do they call me Dai the house builder? No, they don't"

"See this pub, I built this pub, but do they call me Dai the pub-builder? No, they don't"

"You shag one sheep..."[/i]

 

[dizietsmae]

There are things that are better never disclosed. Once siad they can't be un-said. To-day's friend could be tomorrow's enemy, you never can tell who is or might be a blabber mouth. The knowledge of this kind of hobby could be very harmful indeed in the wrong hands. Equally I am sure the girls prefer to keep things discreet, especially those with children who in ten or twenty years time might find out, and with apalling outcomes. "Oh there's so and so, the sucesful whatever he/she is now, did you hear his/her mother was a prostitute......"

Exactly this, you have to be a muppet to think otherwise.  Life is long and people are unreliable, it only takes a moment and your done 

[Ghost89]

Even if I had mates that punted I would never disclose this. One person knowing is one person too many. I have a mate who once considered it but never went through with it and I never mentioned I did.