How much pre meet contact is too much?

[Zimbaman]

Happy new year chaps, and good luck with finding nice ladies in 2017!

I've just been reading a thread on a prossie forum about timewasters and clients that contact them repeatedly prior to a meet and expect lots of emails and texts. Overwhelming concensus seemed to be that more than one or two emails, and any more details than time, location and confirmation that a sp will off CIM,OWO etc is a sure sign of a time waster.

Personally, I think this couldn't be more wrong. If I'm going to spend £150 or more on 1 hour of someone's company I want to know we will be compatible. If there are any role plays then I want to know that we are both on the same page. The build up to a meet is also quite important to me, and if I get the impression that someone I'm planning on meeting is not interested I will make my excuses and cancel. I don't expect many emails, but more than one liners confirming date and time.

I'm now wondering how much contact others think is acceptable prior to a meeting?  A one line confirmation, a bit of a discussion, or far more?

[Jonestown]

You're buying an hour of her time, not marrying her. If she is a professional WG then compatibility doesn't come into it because she will be acting the way whole time.

[mrfishyfoo]

You're buying an hour of her time, not marrying her. If she is a professional WG then compatibility doesn't come into it because she will be acting the way whole time.

If I'm tying a lass up compatabilty means everything.

When she's bound and gagged I can assure you she ain't acting.

[davison]

You're buying an hour of her time, not marrying her. If she is a professional WG then compatibility doesn't come into it because she will be acting the way whole time.

This is spot on except mrfishy makes a great point on bsdm.  I don't have experience in that area but it would seem to require some clear and detailed communication beforehand. 

For most other types of punt don't be a pain in the ass, you aren't a special delicate snowflake that has to match up perfectly with your new soulmate

[myothernameis]

. If there are any role plays then I want to know that we are both on the same page.

There was an escort who had role play down on profile, even listing....send me your role play, so I did

She took offence, that I wanted her dressed up as a school girl, who has been naughty, and I end up spanking her; she told me I was perverted, and told me to get lost

Now I don't think she had thought, what sort of role plays we like, I know of one escort on aw, who indicate rape as role play

[davison]

She took offence, that I wanted her dressed up as a school girl, who has been naughty, and I end up spanking her; she told me I was perverted, and told me to get lost

That's hilarious. Did she want to role play you forgetting to take out the garbage and then missionary while she told you not to muss her hair?

[Zimbaman]

You're buying an hour of her time, not marrying her. If she is a professional WG then compatibility doesn't come into it because she will be acting the way whole time.

Not sure I agree with that or there would be no need for reviews on here. WGs can be misleading at the best of times, and I'm sure we have all visited girls where they have absolutely no knowledge of what is on their profile as it's been written by someone else. The BDSM example is one where discussion is definitely required, but having faith that the SP is going to put effort into the meet is another in my view.

[mrfishyfoo]

The BDSM example is one where discussion is definitely required, but having faith that the SP is going to put effort into the meet is another in my view.

Exactly....anything "non-standard" takes time and effort.

If I agree to spend my money with a lass doing anything "non-standard" I do not then want the lass to say "No !!! Don't like it"

[pumps]

I'm not exactly sure what level of back of forth communication you require, you should be able to sum it up in the initial email and round it off in a follow up email.

If the reply is pathetic just move on, if every single prossie gives you a similar useless response, maybe you do need to reflect upon yourself there....

your expectations are probably a bit high for 1 hour of bog standard suck & fuck prossie's time, they will have easier customers lined up to earn that money.

[davison]

your expectations are probably a bit high for 1 hour of bog standard suck & fuck prossie's time, they will have easier customers lined up to earn that money.

That's the key point, the extra comms may be counter-productive to what you are trying to achieve.

[weedougie]

i think that if you want anything non-standard then you need to specify exactly what you want and that the wg is happy to provide it. ideally you can do this in a couple of emails/texts - and the best girls will take a couple of minutes at the start of the punt (and not count it out of your paid time) to clarify exactly what is going to happen

but you have to have sympathy for wgs who are wary of entering into some kind of fapping correspondence

[pking_paul]

It isn't a popular approach on here for sure, but one of my best punts was with someone I met for an hour before we headed off to play. Seen her a good few times since. My money, my choice and it worked well for me. 

[mrfishyfoo]

.....your expectations are probably a bit high for 1 hour of bog standard suck & fuck prossie's time, they will have easier customers lined up to earn that money.

+1

I wouldn't expect anything but a suck and fuck for an hour booking.

A 3 or 4 hour ropeplay booking is though a wholly different ball game. 

[pumps]

It isn't a popular approach on here for sure, but one of my best punts was with someone I met for an hour before we headed off to play. Seen her a good few times since. My money, my choice and it worked well for me. 

if you've got the money to burn like that then why not......


when you pay a prossie for an hour to relax and have a drink, they will know for sure they're onto a good thing, and will do everything in their power keep you as their customer for the foreseeable.

You don't bite the hand that feeds you.   

[pking_paul]

if you've got the money to burn like that then why not......


when you pay a prossie for an hour to relax and have a drink, they will know for sure they're onto a good thing, and do everything in their power keep you as their customer for the foreseeable.

You don't bite the hand that feeds you.   

Add in being passed her panties over the table and sneaky glimpses on the way back, and I was happy to pay knowing her legs would be spread for me before long. Yes you pays your money and you take your choices, but each of us has a different view on that. One of the fun things about punting is the control money offers 

[mrfishyfoo]

.........is the control money offers 

Yeah pro$$ies are experts at the control, getting a punters,money offers.

Doesn't matter how well you treat them they always seem to end up with it. 

[pumps]

One of the fun things about punting is the control money offers 

indeed.... I love it, for as little as £50 quid you can unload the entire contents of your balls into a beautiful woman's mouth, then fuck off home with 0 hassles.

[nigel4498]

Personally I always ring and discuss details.
Toing and frowing  with texts and emails just cause confusion in my experience.

[Jonestown]

The original post made no mention of specialist services, just routine sex stuff. If you are talking BDSM then the ladies all specialise, you need to pick the one that covers your special area of interest, there are mistress review sites for this. All sessions with professional will start with a short chat about what you want to do and what you limits are and where you want to push your boundaries. This is only fair to both sides so there are no unpleasant surprises. If you are talking about someone supplying Sub services, then I would imagine they are going to have a lot of questions for you, just to make sure they don't have a cracker on their hands. If you are into deep role play then really you have to suck it and see, you aren't going to know if you are compatible under have been and done your stuff.

[myothernameis]

Personally I always ring and discuss details.
Toing and frowing  with texts and emails just cause confusion in my experience.

For me I start with a email, about my self, find out if she is free

Follow up email, about what I like, and what I want out of our meeting, in this email, I make arrangement to phone her, if she willing to meet me

She now knows something about me, and what I want, so once I phone,  we discuss things further

Next email, is to make the booking, followed by phone call on the day, to confirm booking

[threechilliman]

I'm amazed by how much 'in-between-meet' contact some guys seem to have with WG's......

tcm

[Goodfellow]

While I agree with this: 'if I get the impression that someone I'm planning on meeting is not interested I will make my excuses and cancel'
I reckon you seem to have quite a high bar for what seeming interested means.

It's nice if in the messages you exchange she pretends to be excited to meet you and so on - for one thing, this suggests she might bother to do the same in person. But I would only expect her to be doing this in the fairly minimal messages required to nail down the actual details. I wouldn't be looking to get into some long conversation. I don't even know what that would be about after the requirements are stated and agreed to...

[Zimbaman]

While I agree with this: 'if I get the impression that someone I'm planning on meeting is not interested I will make my excuses and cancel'
I reckon you seem to have quite a high bar for what seeming interested means.

It's nice if in the messages you exchange she pretends to be excited to meet you and so on - for one thing, this suggests she might bother to do the same in person. But I would only expect her to be doing this in the fairly minimal messages required to nail down the actual details. I wouldn't be looking to get into some long conversation. I don't even know what that would be about after the requirements are stated and agreed to...

I quite agree with this. I'm not looking to get into a long conversation, I just want a means of making sure I'm not with someone that hates doing this, and a (brief) discussion about the meet seems to do this quite well. Perhaps I have set the bar quite high, but the result of that is that when I meet it tends to be a very enjoyable experience. I'm not naive enough to think that the SP is enjoying it as much as I am, but I've at least got to believe she wants to be in my company. Like many others I've tried being with a romanian and frankly couldn't wait to get out. Either of us. I'd rather have saved my money for a more enjoyable meet.

[nedster80]

I think there's a happy medium here.  You should always bear in mind that her time is money and be precise and to the point.  With a new girl, I do like to engage in a few emails, partly to ensure we both understand the deal, but also to gauge a little about her personality from the exchanges.  If it wasn't for constantly hearing them moan about time wasters, I would probably go on more than I do, so try to keep it to 2 or 3 emails whenever I can.

[bigmanbigman]

So no free
Sextexting ? Then.

[yorkshirepunter3333]

if you just want to offload then yes, to much texting is wrong.. maybe you ask things like are you ok with anal / anal play.

BUT for longer meets and kinky meets then you need to know what you are getting for your cash.

Having them hand knicker to you over the table, I will add that to my list I once bought a WG a butt blug and asked her to visit the loo and return with her knickers

I will exchange a few texts, get a role play idea, tweak if some things are off the table .

I have never been told to F**k off etc and I do send a few texts

[pking_paul]

if you just want to offload then yes, to much texting is wrong.. maybe you ask things like are you ok with anal / anal play.

BUT for longer meets and kinky meets then you need to know what you are getting for your cash.

Having them hand knicker to you over the table, I will add that to my list I once bought a WG a butt blug and asked her to visit the loo and return with her knickers

I will exchange a few texts, get a role play idea, tweak if some things are off the table .

I have never been told to F**k off etc and I do send a few texts

I'll nick your idea of the butt plug next time, or maybe a remote vibe could be fun? 

[myothernameis]

BUT for longer meets and kinky meets then you need to know what you are getting for your cash.

Having them hand knicker to you over the table, I will add that to my list I once bought a WG a butt blug and asked her to visit the loo and return with her knickers

I will exchange a few texts, get a role play idea, tweak if some things are off the table .

I have never been told to F**k off etc and I do send a few texts

Lucky you, I had the opposite, thought out my role play, message the escort, only to be told, that I'm perverted, and she told me to get lost

The funny thing about this, she had role play in her profile, and even her own ideas on role play

Now if I remember correctly she was around 22 years old, and had some photos, maybe her heart wasn't in it for role play, so as things stand role play isn't for every escort