Anyone been caught out?

[geostorm1]

As the title says, has anyone ever been caught by wife for punting etc?

I'm a bit riskier than most and don't have a second phone simply because I wouldn't know where to keep it, as I WFH anyway. I've contemplated a second sim card for my dual sim phone but haven't tried it yet.

I have a lot of privacy from my wife so I probably don't share the same issues some have. For example, I'm the breadwinner who brings in the income and my wife doesn't work at the moment, and we don't have any joint bank accounts, so she never wonders about cash transactions. I always keep a wallet full of cash anyway as going to cash machines is annoying.

I've always had a pin and fingerprint and face recognition on my phone so I don't worry too much on that front. I've had the occasional WG send me a text or WhatsApp out of the blue which has almost caught me out a few times though.

I sometimes worry about being seen out and about, for example if my cover story is being at the gym, if someone sees me driving and it gets back to my wife I'd have a hard time explaining things.

Just wondered how others fare in this regard.

[Fuzzyduck]

There are quite a few threads about being caught out or nearly caught out so not sure we need another one. Or is there a specific angle you want to explore?

[standardpostage]

Not yet, touch wood.
I also carry a lucky horseshoe and a four leaf shamrock, to lessen the chance of being caught out 

[Waterhouse]

Not yet, touch wood.
I also carry a lucky horseshoe and a four leaf shamrock, to lessen the chance of being caught out 

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[standardpostage]

Sounds like all you’re missing is one of these bad boys... External Link/Members Only   

Not very lucky for the rabbit 

[Mansell]

Totally up to you what risks you want to take. You know you can change WhatsApp settings for alerts so it's silent and won't pop up for individual accounts 

[samalison199]

Yes. I'm now single and am enjoying that too much to say i have any regrets

[Clitheroelad]

All I can say is 'Punting Phone'

[Perrier]

100% punting phone.  If you have any sort of smart phone - even putting in a different sim, may give out way more information about you than you can imagine.

[Boundless]

All I can say is 'Punting Phone'

Yep 100%

Any problems just dump it and get another one for a tenner.

[bash_eer]

Yes I been caught out, as the Mrs saw all the video's I made of some of my punts.

I made out they all random civvy's but she not buying that but can't prove it.

[pewpewpew]

I agree that a punting phone is a must, but if she ever found the punting phone I'm just as buggered

[fredhiggins]

I agree that a punting phone is a must, but if she ever found the punting phone I'm just as buggered

True

[oddson1970]

my punting phone is always kept in the car and as an extra precaution,l remove the sim and conceal it somewhere away from the phone

[Jonestown]

Yes I been caught out, as the Mrs saw all the video's I made of some of my punts.

I made out they all random civvy's but she not buying that but can't prove it.

What, it's ok you screwing civilians but not hookers ?

[Boundless]

Yes I been caught out, as the Mrs saw all the video's I made of some of my punts.

I made out they all random civvy's but she not buying that but can't prove it.

What???

Wouldn't it be better to be SP's?
Neither scenario is particularly great though!

[sensualencounter]

As the title says, has anyone ever been caught by wife for punting etc?

I'm a bit riskier than most and don't have a second phone simply because I wouldn't know where to keep it, as I WFH anyway. I've contemplated a second sim card for my dual sim phone but haven't tried it yet.

I have a lot of privacy from my wife so I probably don't share the same issues some have. For example, I'm the breadwinner who brings in the income and my wife doesn't work at the moment, and we don't have any joint bank accounts, so she never wonders about cash transactions. I always keep a wallet full of cash anyway as going to cash machines is annoying.

I've always had a pin and fingerprint and face recognition on my phone so I don't worry too much on that front. I've had the occasional WG send me a text or WhatsApp out of the blue which has almost caught me out a few times though.

I sometimes worry about being seen out and about, for example if my cover story is being at the gym, if someone sees me driving and it gets back to my wife I'd have a hard time explaining things.

Just wondered how others fare in this regard.

Sounds to me that you’re a liability waiting to happen. Just think for a moment what your wife would feel like and the consequences if she did find out. Then double it and add some more.

[Home Alone]

Sounds to me that you’re a liability waiting to happen. Just think for a moment what your wife would feel like and the consequences if she did find out. Then double it and add some more.

I'd have been like the OP. Which is why I didn't start punting till over 18 months after she'd pissed off with my successor.

[samsmith_1231]

Not yet.

Punting phone with different sim number. Only ever text and never WhatsApp

Take cash out locally to where you live rather than at the punting destination .. keeps bank statements simple.

[geostorm1]

my punting phone is always kept in the car and as an extra precaution,l remove the sim and conceal it somewhere away from the phone

Me and wife often share each other's car so that wouldn't work well for me i don't think.

[geostorm1]

Sounds to me that you’re a liability waiting to happen. Just think for a moment what your wife would feel like and the consequences if she did find out. Then double it and add some more.

I can't be the only one married and seeing SPs? I don't feel guilty, if thats what you're getting at.. or do you mean I need to take more precautions?

[samsmith_1231]

I can't be the only one married and seeing SPs? I don't feel guilty, if thats what you're getting at.. or do you mean I need to take more precautions?

Take more precautions

[oddson1970]

Me and wife often share each other's car so that wouldn't work well for me i don't think.

the punting phone is hidden where it would be very difficult to find

[stevedave]

Honestly, some guys on here should consider a career in MI5, what lengths do you go to for a bit of pussy 

I'm single so have no security issues, but when I wasn't the easiest and safest course of action was to hide things in plain sight. The less furtive and secretive you appear to be, the less questionable your actions are 

[Home Alone]

Sage words, stevedave. You've got to think like that if you've an OH.

[sensualencounter]

I can't be the only one married and seeing SPs? I don't feel guilty, if thats what you're getting at.. or do you mean I need to take more precautions?

Not guilt no. That’s up to you. But to advise you to take more precautions as you seem like you couldn’t give a shit if she found out.

[bushman]

Take care always, not just if you are in a relationship.
You never know when this hobby may bite you in the arse.

[alpharius]

There's an unspoken arrangement in my house , long story, but she doesn't know the cost of the hobby though and wouldn't be a happy camper if she knew. I have a grab bag in the hidden compartment of my car, not unusual for me to have odd schedules and business trips for work and last minute emergency shifts. Main issue is explaining cash flow. I try to cash out any cheques I get, that generally covers my hobby. My main limiting factor is usually time, I can normally only punt last minute when I find some work cancelled or been shifted between sites during the day (or tacking it on to a business trip...my promotion was meant to cause a nice boost of those and then bloody Covid happened)

Near misses? I once sent her an AW link by accident when I was browsing at night. Thank God I was able to delete the message!

Always have a punting phone or sim, always browse incognito, don't let your screen awaken if it receives a message.

[bash_eer]

What, it's ok you screwing civilians but not hookers ?

What???

Wouldn't it be better to be SP's?
Neither scenario is particularly great though!

No neither is good but I chose to say they were all civvy's rather than tell her I been paying some brass. She had already caught me out with a FWB.

Either way I am fucked and now it's so difficult for me to meet anyone.

[samsmith_1231]

There's an unspoken arrangement in my house , long story, but she doesn't know the cost of the hobby though and wouldn't be a happy camper if she knew. I have a grab bag in the hidden compartment of my car, not unusual for me to have odd schedules and business trips for work and last minute emergency shifts. Main issue is explaining cash flow. I try to cash out any cheques I get, that generally covers my hobby. My main limiting factor is usually time, I can normally only punt last minute when I find some work cancelled or been shifted between sites during the day (or tacking it on to a business trip...my promotion was meant to cause a nice boost of those and then bloody Covid happened)

Near misses? I once sent her an AW link by accident when I was browsing at night. Thank God I was able to delete the message!

Always have a punting phone or sim, always browse incognito, don't let your screen awaken if it receives a message.

I once typed in AW.com by mistake at work computer... Luckily the filters worked

[JAYZ]

Once only when my sexless partner was forwarded accidentally by me some feedback in an email to the agency about a lady I'd seen. My partner read the first part of the email but not enough to suspect anything before she deleted it and asked me why she was receiving my spam. A big sigh of relief but it was a close call.

[pewpewpew]

No neither is good but I chose to say they were all civvy's rather than tell her I been paying some brass. She had already caught me out with a FWB.

Either way I am fucked and now it's so difficult for me to meet anyone.

wouldn't it have been better to just say it was amateur porn from pornhub? Or did it have your face in it?

[geezer_breezer]

OP, you need privacy and anonymity to protect YOURSELF too. Some SPs are mental. A few have blackmailed clients, and some of their Male 'friends' are thugs too.

Always use an anonymous means of communication to protect yourself

[Northerndave666]

I've always had a pin and fingerprint and face recognition on my phone so I don't worry too much on that front. I've had the occasional WG send me a text or WhatsApp out of the blue which has almost caught me out a few times though.

Nearly caught you out a few times? And you haven't thought to get a punting phone? Wait until you're watching the Antiques Roadshow on a Sunday night with the missus and 'Maggie Melons' starts phoning you 'cos she's desperate for some cash. Get a small non-smart cheap burner phone, payg SIM and think of places to either hide it, or alternatively mention to the Mrs that you're buying a cheap phone for the car in case either of you get stuck and run out of power etc etc.

Then keep the Sim seperate until you need to use it.

[GorillaWarfare]

I'm a bit riskier than most and don't have a second phone simply because I wouldn't know where to keep it, as I WFH anyway. I've contemplated a second sim card for my dual sim phone but haven't tried it yet.

Yes, get a 2nd phone. As people have pointed out, you should do this whether you have a SO or not. As a single man myself who lives alone, there is very little chance of anyone coming into contact with my phone but I still use a cheap punting phone on a cheap pay-as-you-go SIM card.

Luckily I've never came across a WG like this, but there are horror stories of WGs exposing/harassing/blackmailing clients. If they posted my punting phone number online next to my name (which I never give out my real one) nobody would know it was me. And, if they do harass or threaten blackmail on me, I just change the SIM and that's problem solved.

So, whilst I get this wasn't the point of the thread, yes, get a 2nd phone. There's literally no good reason not to have one in this game.

[bash_eer]

wouldn't it have been better to just say it was amateur porn from pornhub? Or did it have your face in it?

Just my cock legs and hands which was enough for her to tell it was me

[JontyR]

I'm a bit riskier than most and don't have a second phone simply because I wouldn't know where to keep it, as I WFH anyway.

I've heard this on various threads but am I alone in having random bits of old tech, leads, cameras, in various drawers, bedside tables etc. A phone in a drawer that is on and pinging is dodgy as fuck yeah, but an old phone that is sat silently gathering dust is no different to an old cigarette lighter, inflatable travel pillow or ear plugs.

[BarneyBubbles]

Never caught in 30+ years of punting (although I never had a 2nd phone so maybe by luck rather than judgement). Work was always flexible enough that I could fit in punts without having to come up elaborate excuses.   Haven't punted in over a year now though.  The biggest barriers are my wife discovering online banking so she can scrutinise the account like Ebeneezer Scrooge, and not really using cash anymore.  Since lockdown I've barely drawn any physical cash and it would stand out like a sore thumb on our transactions.

[signy]

Since lockdown I've barely drawn any physical cash and it would stand out like a sore thumb on our transactions.

This is the ideal (one of two?) time to withdraw cash safely? Any questions? "It was to buy your Christmas present and I didn't want you to see which high class outlet I went to, or how much it cost, which you would on a credit card".
 

[Buttons]

Never understood why any adult, married or otherwise, wouldn’t have their own bank account. Sure, joint savings accounts, running the house account etc. But as cash becomes less prevalent, and electronic payment options replace it, isn’t having your own bank account the same as having your own wallet or wedge of notes in your pocket?

You just put your monthly allowance into your bank account, your wife or partner gets the same, and then it’s up to you how you spend it. No need to worry about bank accounts being scrutinised etc.

You can even play a double bluff. Occasionally transfer some spare cash back to the joint savings with a “I didn’t spend all of mine this month darling, so I’ve put a bit in the savings” 

[lvtpunt]

Punting phone is either in my car or the garage and as an extra, I never charge fully. Usually just enough with the car charger to organise and get to a punt, texts and calls are always cleared too. It is left with a dead battery otherwise.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Punting phone is either in my car or the garage and as an extra, I never charge fully. Usually just enough with the car charger to organise and get to a punt, texts and calls are always cleared too. It is left with a dead battery otherwise.

Good idea that, i don't have to hide what i'm up to anymore but clearing it out and flattening the battery, good idea!

[Jonestown]

They don't need to catch you out, they just need to come away with the slightest hint of suspicion, then time and the female mind does the rest, they will eventually unravel the whole dirty deal, no matter what you do.

As ever, The King got it right in one go:-

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[Turtle1]

Yes been caught, had to come clean. real shitty deal. Wasn't fully to blame for once. Iv tried to post my story many times but just end up deleting it. It'll just oust others. White nights and nosy colleagues.

[pbrown355]

Turtle 1 you've now piqued everyone's curiosity. Can you not tell the story in a way that doesn't screw anyone else?

[what-a man]

Never understood why any adult, married or otherwise, wouldn’t have their own bank account. Sure, joint savings accounts, running the house account etc. But as cash becomes less prevalent, and electronic payment options replace it, isn’t having your own bank account the same as having your own wallet or wedge of notes in your pocket?

You just put your monthly allowance into your bank account, your wife or partner gets the same, and then it’s up to you how you spend it. No need to worry about bank accounts being scrutinised etc.

You can even play a double bluff. Occasionally transfer some spare cash back to the joint savings with a “I didn’t spend all of mine this month darling, so I’ve put a bit in the savings” 

When I first got married, the wife tried to force me into having a joint account and she even threatened divorce but I resisted and I never regretted it. Looking back it would have been the worst decision I ever made cos the little independence I had would have been lost.

[Spacecowb0y]

Punting phone lives in my den drawer where all old phones go to die. This one has a 6 digit lock,and a piece of paper covering the battery contacts.
Burner SIM lives elsewhere until required

[Buttons]

When I first got married, the wife tried to force me into having a joint account and she even threatened divorce but I resisted and I never regretted it. Looking back it would have been the worst decision I ever made cos the little independence I had would have been lost.

Absolutely this. Whenever I’ve been in a relationship that looked like it was going somewhere serious, I set out the financial independence thing early on and as a mutual benefit to avoid “having to justify personal spending to the other person”.

Joint bank accounts are fine for savings, running the house and major joint purchases etc. But always have your own bank account for your own spending money. Then simply agree who contributes how much to each pot each month based on how much you earn. Keep it fair etc, if one person earns more than the other then that person contributes more and both should have the same amount of monthly spending money.

The key is to get your wages paid into your own bank account and then transfer money out to the shared accounts.

Obviously this approach doesn’t work if your other half thinks £50 a month is acceptable as personal fund. Equally, if you do have a decent amount in your personal fund a month, don’t spend it all on shagging escorts, that’s suspicious if you spend it all and have nothing to show for it other than a daft smile on your face and scratch marks on your back 

[tazz]

Im not in a relationship but i have no idea how its possible fir a partner to not find out. Women sense these things and theres so many give away signs. Ex gf knew i was seeing escorts a month into our relationship despite us not living together or me dropping any hints.

[Mr Doodle]

When I have lived with a girl as a couple (as opposed to just sharing), I have always had a joint bank account... Wages into my own account and an agreed transfer per payment to the joint account. I actually don't spend that much on punting, as I have another hobby which can empty the funds as fast, if not faster... so when I punt instead of spend on the other hobby, it is easily concealed.