Cum & Regret

[Skills]

Does anyone regret going to a WG as soon as they've cum i.e. the time, money and effort spent + the hopelessness of it.

It's nothing to do with the WG but a personal feeling.

Then you say to yourself;"that's the last time". Then you forget all those feelings, get the itch and the cycle starts all over again.

Or, I'm the only one?

If I'm not, how does one break the cycle?

Thanks

[Jonestown]

It's quite common I think, it's the little voice in your head telling you that you really shouldn't be doing stuff like this, you should have something better to do with your time, something uplifting and improving. Just ignore it. The French go on about Le petite mort, the little death, the sense of emptiness after you have cum, maybe the same thing.

[Super07Punt]

Pretty much every time, I think it's more to do with the chemicals released by the brain than anything else and completely unavoidable. I find it passes pretty quick and I'm browsing for the next in no time

[cueball]

Does anyone regret going to a WG as soon as they've cum i.e. the time, money and effort spent + the hopelessness of it.

It's nothing to do with the WG but a personal feeling.

Then you say to yourself;"that's the last time". Then you forget all those feelings, get the itch and the cycle starts all over again.

Or, I'm the only one?

If I'm not, how does one break the cycle?

Thanks

On a good punt I get none of the above feelings.... only on a shit one

[homer123]

I agree, only after a shit one.

[Thechaser]

Get it every time! Usually continues on the drive home too as I know my OH is at home none the wiser.  The feeling is just more intense when it's been a shit punt.

Give it an hour after the punt, the urge to review this website every hour and the ease of browsing AW and the feeling is nowhere to be seen or felt!!

[madmania]

After a good punt I'm feeling amazing. The key for me is VFM - I value the great experiences I have more than cash in the bank. Same reason I don't feel regret when I come back from a pricey far-flung holiday. I'll treasure those memories.

Even after a shit punt I feel more angry than regret. I tend to blame myself for risking it with a bad WG rather than going with a trusted reg or a highly reviewed girl. I don't regret it because each time I make the mistake I remember the anger to convince me to not be a plonker next time.

Only time I feel shit is after a domination booking if appropriate aftercare isn't factored into the time/given. The term is sub drop and first time I experienced many years ago it was pretty horrific. I was naive and new and didn't understand the proper safe guards required and as I was going home I had a huge amount of irrational thoughts and deep crushing sadness. Stuff along the lines of seriously considering jumping in front of traffic and the like - not pleasant. I know better now and ensure the proper aftercare is given, as well as recognising the symptoms of subdrop should any occur.

Btw if anyone wants to talk about this or getting into D/S stuff feel free to drop me a PM I'd be happy to share my experiences

[dboy74]

I only regret the shit ones! It will take will power (or bankruptcy) to stop, if those are the feelings you get after a punt.

[Sattob]

Indubitably. It's far too often. Sometimes it's a regret for getting old, and being with a younger, highly attractive girl reminds me. Sometimes it's the leaving of a fantasy world, and back to reality. The other thing is money. I've just spent £200 because my little man was screaming out for female company, and now I'm thinking, blast, I've just blown a lot of money, and for what?

Of course, a week later... (saying that, last night, I really left with a smile that lasted!)

[hungrypunt]

YEP, same but usually I dont worry and look for my next girl. I do lose interest in sex though after Ive cum, for a bit.

[Silver Birch]

Does anyone regret going to a WG as soon as they've cum i.e. the time, money and effort spent + the hopelessness of it.

It's nothing to do with the WG but a personal feeling.

Then you say to yourself;"that's the last time". Then you forget all those feelings, get the itch and the cycle starts all over again.

Or, I'm the only one?

If I'm not, how does one break the cycle?

Thanks

The hopelessness of of it? Crikey, No! If I did, I probably would give up. The only times I have felt it really was my last punt ever, were actually after my very first two punts!

I have had a couple of expensive punts outside my budget that were decent enough, but I did suffer buyers remorse when they turned out more vanilla than anticipated, but that feeling did not cum as soon as I did 

[threechilliman]

On a good punt I get none of the above feelings.... only on a shit one

This.

tcm

[rogercock00]

Yes, most definitely can relate to this 

[pewpewpew]

I never regret the money being spent but I always feel that I shouldn't be doing this to the woman at home. Leading up to a punt I don't give a single fuck but afterward I have a few days of mourning for the man I always believed I would become

[mrfishyfoo]

On a good punt I get none of the above feelings.... only on a shit one

+me

[rogercock00]

I never regret the money being spent but I always feel that I shouldn't be doing this to the woman at home. Leading up to a punt I don't give a single fuck but afterward I have a few days of mourning for the man I always believed I would become

Yes, true for me also 

[Littlefoot]

No regrets for me!

If I had any I'd pack it in... Simples!   

[Shearer1955]

My only regret is not starting to punt earlier....

[Sattob]

I never regret the money being spent but I always feel that I shouldn't be doing this to the woman at home. Leading up to a punt I don't give a single fuck but afterward I have a few days of mourning for the man I always believed I would become

You have said it very well. I entirely concur.

[WhackDaddy]

Yes every time. Can't work out whether it's because of the money spent, poor service, guilt, or a combination.

[KentAde]

Must admit, I'm agreeing with nearly everyone on here...
 

[Plan R]

In a word no.  I fookin love being a punter.
In fact I had to look up what you meant and found this External Link/Members Only

I guess we are all wired up differently..I must have a short somewhere   

[Jay-Jay]

I never regret the money being spent but I always feel that I shouldn't be doing this to the woman at home. Leading up to a punt I don't give a single fuck but afterward I have a few days of mourning for the man I always believed I would become

Good lad....you're just being human. I think we should always feel a bit guilty. And congrats to Satob! I bet that's the first time "Indubitably" has been used on the forum? 

Jay

[scutty brown]

every time.
I think its due to the endorphins released by opening my wallet

[scutty brown]

............. And congrats to Satob! I bet that's the first time "Indubitably" has been used on the forum? 

Jay

Probably because the word should be "induitably"........

[pumps]

On a good punt I get none of the above feelings.... only on a shit one

This and only this.

[Jay-Jay]

Probably because the word should be "induitably"........

Yes I did worry about that after I posted  ...but not too much 

Jay

[Thecunninglinguist]

Probably because the word should be "induitably"........

Pedant ! 

[cueball]

Pedant ! 

I'm not a pedant fucker
I'm a pendant fuckers son
I'm only fuckin pedant
Til the pedant fucker comes



Oh, hang on, I've got that wrong haven't I 

[NervousJ]

As a few have mentioned, only on punts  that were fucking shit or the girl was errmmmm not as advertised and you went ahead with it...

My regular who I see, I haven't come away yet thinking what a waste of money, generally have a spring in my step...or recommended punts from members...

[arthur]

It may not be anything to do with the good/bad punt aspect for the OP.

I used to get the same thing from wanking from a young age because it had been drilled into me that wanking was immoral/bad. I think it is something to do with the chemical reaction of the body and the brain, and then this sort of guilt creeps in.

[latecomer]

No guilt but yes I always regret spending the money.  I guess I'm just a mean bastard.

[streetstroler]

I used to feel guilty about the money l'd spent especially if it was a bad punt. The good  ones far outweigh the bad though and now I console myself with the feeling that I punt for my well being rather than just having a good time. I have often come away after a punt saying to myself that I will never do this again, but I always do.

[peter purves]

Does anyone regret going to a WG as soon as they've cum i.e. the time, money and effort spent + the hopelessness of it.

It's nothing to do with the WG but a personal feeling.

Then you say to yourself;"that's the last time". Then you forget all those feelings, get the itch and the cycle starts all over again.

Or, I'm the only one?

If I'm not, how does one break the cycle?

Thanks

Post-coital dysphoria

External Link/Members Only

[MrMatrix]

Indubitably. It's far too often. Sometimes it's a regret for getting old, and being with a younger, highly attractive girl reminds me. Sometimes it's the leaving of a fantasy world, and back to reality. The other thing is money. I've just spent £200 because my little man was screaming out for female company, and now I'm thinking, blast, I've just blown a lot of money, and for what?

Of course, a week later... (saying that, last night, I really left with a smile that lasted!)

I know what you mean Sattob. difficult to beat the company of a beautiful naked woman

[Tierney]

Can relate to this, but for me I think it's more anxiety about getting out of the place, i.e. parlour or hotel, and blending back into society. Once I'm through the door and out into the open then feeling disappears within seconds. However I've not done a normal punt for a good six months now and moved on to SA. Different ball game as I feel that I almost know the girl I'm fucking so it's a mixture of fuckbuddy and hooker which can be the best of both worlds if you get lucky.

I tend to plan most punts in advance so feeling guilty about the money side isn't an issue. And strangely if I've planned a punt and it falls through or I back out then I actually feel really good about saving the money.

[Oralbgood]

I sometimes think what else I could have done with the money, like buy a new IPad, get new tyres for the car etc but then I think FUCK it, I could be dead tomorrow, 

[Neal69]

 I think FUCK it, I could be dead tomorrow

This

N

[purple_t]

I only regret it if it's a shit punt otherwise I have an afterglow for a day or two

[Malvolio]

I think I'll be a punter for as long as I can get it up.  You're going to have disappointing punts occasionally - all you can do is move on to the next one.  However, if you're not enjoying punting at all then give it a break for a few months and see if your appetite comes back.

[Charlie144]

For me, every woman you fuck takes a piece of your soul and you take a piece of hers!

Eventually it will leave you both empty but i think ive got a couple more hundred pieces left to give!

[Neal69]

For me, every woman you fuck takes a piece of your soul and you take a piece of hers!

Eventually it will leave you both empty but i think ive got a couple more hundred pieces left to give!

Fuck 

That is profound.

Sure your alter ego is not Marmalade. 

N

[Gregory]

Thanks for posting this. What you describe is exactly how it is for me.
As soon as I have cum I regret the wasted money, time and above all the hoplessness of the whole approach (let alone the anxieties of perhaps having caught something). It's a moral, social and financial problem for me
 I guess punting/sex is a like an addiction. During a 'good punt' I realise what I am really missing. But as I  cannot take the girl home wiht me I drive home feeling even more lonley than before.
I stopped punting for almost two years in an attempt to get out of it and my bank account did show this. But eventually the lack of sex and having someone close got the 'better' of me and I returned at a worse frquency than ever.

The internet with the easily avallable pic does not help neither. Nor does the fact that there are two extremly pretty student WGs I am seeing who do not look/behave at all as if they could be escorts - for me that is an irresistibly appealing. (I am not talking about the adult work misery - thankfully I have never done this). In fact I have just retruned home from seeing one of them. An unbelieveably pretty and normal girl, the one you see in on the train or at the cinema that I insanely fancy without ever having a chance (for several reasons).
I felt bad after I had cum - now I am already thinking mmmmm- when will I manage to see her again?
I am scared about myself - like a heroin addict.   

[Gregory]

Can relate to this, but for me I think it's more anxiety about getting out of the place, i.e. parlour or hotel, and blending back into society. Once I'm through the door and out into the open then feeling disappears within seconds. However I've not done a normal punt for a good six months now and moved on to SA. Different ball game as I feel that I almost know the girl I'm fucking so it's a mixture of fuckbuddy and hooker which can be the best of both worlds if you get lucky.

I tend to plan most punts in advance so feeling guilty about the money side isn't an issue. And strangely if I've planned a punt and it falls through or I back out then I actually feel really good about saving the money.

What does SA stand for?

[Jindybandy]

When I first started punting, not so much. But after a few years it started.

For me it's not straight after I've cum though. It's when I've left the WGs place and am heading home. I do this as I'm shit at talking to women. And I mean really shit - never had a Girlfriend or even been on a date. So it's not really regret or shame I feel after a punt but more a longing to have that for real and for myself. But then a week or so later I'm trawling AW to see who's available to satisfy my urges again 

[Blueboy2016]

Yes...i get the OP sentiments. I don't know if hopelessness is the right word tho it might be. I know the best sex is often with someone you care about and you don't get that seeing a working girl. I've seen working girls whilst single and it provides welcome relief to sexual frustration but there is a but because I'd like to have a woman in life that I can have a great sex life with..which I've had in the past...so I can feel sad about that. All said and done...i've meet a couple of great girls...and thoroughly enjoyed them emptying my balls..!!! My first punt was when I was about 50...never done it before..its been eye opening...and I'm glad I did it...it can be a thrill...especially seeing a much younger pretty woman.

[madmania]

What does SA stand for?

Seeking arrangements, a sugar daddy/baby site 

[Jonestown]

the fact that there are two extremly pretty student WGs I am seeing who do not look/behave at all as if they could be escorts

Gregory, whilst I feel for you writhing in dilemma, how about sharing information on these two hotties you mention ?

[Jonestown]

What does SA stand for?

Perhaps you were hoping it was SAA, sex addicts anonymous, if you were just google them.

[Sattob]

Probably because the word should be "induitably"........

No, the spelling is indubitably. Even Firefox spellchecker agrees with me! Trust me, I use this word on a regular basis.