How often do you begin to have an emotional attachment with a WG?

[Jayj]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

[alabama1]

 

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

Hmmm......

[Haruki]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

Who’s the escort?

[Rick2468]

I have started to get attached way too often. It's just my personality. Thankfully I can identify it early on and I am good at stopping it. For years I really fancied Mistress Alexandra (former Dominatrix). I used to visit her, I enjoyed the sessions but I always thought "If I keep coming she will start to like me" which was obviously ridiculous.

I once had an outcall with a WG and she totally put on an act that she wanted to get to know me. She was amazed how big my house was and that I owned it (I don't think it's big personally but it's all relative). The booking was for an hour but she stayed for 3 and a half. Whilst chatting it turned out we had both been the same gig a few months earlier. She text me on the evening after the meet to ask if I enjoyed it and asked what I was up to. She also asked me to send a photo of myself to her which I didn't do. Then two weeks later she "accidently" text me and I replied to say wrong number and she said sorry and asked how I was and said we should go for a drink. I sensed something was up so just ignored her. I had been in a bad break-up the previous year so I was very guarded. Nothing happened and she was probably trying to fleece me but I do still have an element of "what if?" as the sex was awesome! She wasn't on the escort circuit for long.

[scutty brown]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

You daft fool.
Now she's stopped working it's time to build up the emotional attachment, not end it. She probably wants a real relationship with you, and thought her working was getting in the way

[lillythesavage]

You daft fool.
Now she's stopped working it's time to build up the emotional attachment, not end it. She probably wants a real relationship with you, and thought her working was getting in the way

I bet the Op was not expecting that reply, you could be right, still needs big balls to forget how you met.

[scutty brown]

I have started to get attached way too often. It's just my personality. Thankfully I can identify it early on and I am good at stopping it. For years I really fancied Mistress Alexandra (former Dominatrix). I used to visit her, I enjoyed the sessions but I always thought "If I keep coming she will start to like me" which was obviously ridiculous.

I once had an outcall with a WG and she totally put on an act that she wanted to get to know me. She was amazed how big my house was and that I owned it (I don't think it's big personally but it's all relative). The booking was for an hour but she stayed for 3 and a half. Whilst chatting it turned out we had both been the same gig a few months earlier. She text me on the evening after the meet to ask if I enjoyed it and asked what I was up to. She also asked me to send a photo of myself to her which I didn't do. Then two weeks later she "accidently" text me and I replied to say wrong number and she said sorry and asked how I was and said we should go for a drink. I sensed something was up so just ignored her. I had been in a bad break-up the previous year so I was very guarded. Nothing happened and she was probably trying to fleece me but I do still have an element of "what if?" as the sex was awesome! She wasn't on the escort circuit for long.

It may not have been an act. Some working girls do actually have human emotions.

[RogerBoner]

any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom.

Very good 

[Rick2468]

It may not have been an act. Some working girls do actually have human emotions.

Well I do still think about it from time to time. I made the decision not to go for a drink and as a consequence I will never know. I probably do have her number somewhere but won't be messaging after so long. I did post about it on here before and the consensus was that she was trying to get money out of me. However there were quite a few signals that she did like me and I don't think it was just me sugar coating the story. I have a couple of photos of her blowing me off which I still have to this day. I had a purge of my porno photos and clips when a girlfriend moved into my place but there were a very special elite collection of pictures that I could not delete and that was one of them!

[fisherofsouls]

I came to the realisation some years ago that I am a cold-hearted bastard. Not happy with it, but reconciled to the fact and live by a sort of Hippocratic oath to "do no harm"...

I am friends with a former WG who I first met several years ago as a client. She is now in her 30s, out of the game and wisely invested in a food truck which apparently is a goldmine!!!

We meet for coffee, we go out to eat, hell we even sometimes have drunken evenings where we end up in bed. We basically just get on.

But I have no feelings for her beyond friendship and I know she is the same.

If it works, it works...

[Rick2468]

The escort I visited most was Cleo Blonde Babe. She had a solid service was cheap and always available. As I became more regular she would start to talk about her life and also gave me an alternative mobile number that I could use if I wanted a booking and her main phone was off. I wondered if it was her personal mobile but I never used it in the end.

When she retired it did cross my mind that I could take her for a drink as a nice way to mark the end of the business relationship. I wasn't trying to get together with her, I know full well I'm not the sort of bloke she would go for. After some further thought I realised it was a stupid idea in the first place. Why the fuck would she have wanted to go for a drink and it would have just creeped her out.

[Trex]

Remember you are paying her and most of it is not real, it’s all an act so be careful. When your session is finish, it’s time to go and she be waiting for a next customer to come.

[MrT222]

Never happened to me really. I don't do this too regularly, rarely see the same SP more than 3 times and at least pre-corona, had a fairly active social life so enough civvy girls to chase after to keep myself occupied.

That said, if I felt there was something there I would ask but I would not at all be surprised if they said no.

[mills_and_bhuna]

No such problems.
I'm now in my sixties and I'm not delusional enough to think someone young enough to be my daughter would reciprocate.
And I can always consult the mirror for confirmation 

[Payyourwaymate]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

Hang on, emotional attachment on both sides but now she went back to civvy street she no longer talks to you?

Are you sure she did not run a long game on you? After all by your on admission you had more time like a couple but were still paying. She just gave you a first class GFE it seems. Also to answer your question no, never will. It's just lust for me, nothing else.

[BRBRBR]

Escorts provide a fleshy receptacle into which I ejaculate. I see no reason for an emotional relationshop. In fact an emotional relationship is the exact opposite of hat I seek in escorts.

[Stevelondon]

I think you’d have to be emotionally inept or have some sort of mental disorder if you DID NOT build up an emotional attachment to a WG.

Now before you all start hollering yah boo 

I’m talking about those of us who might have visited the same SP over and over again over an extended period of time. Just like in civvie street. We all build up some kind of connection with people we meet..... even if we don’t realise it.

I’m not chatting love here for fucks sake.

Just that some of us feel more than others. Go figure.

[Payyourwaymate]

I think you’d have to be emotionally inept or have some sort of mental disorder if you DID NOT build up an emotional attachment to a WG.

Now before you all start hollering yah boo 

I’m talking about those of us who might have visited the same SP over and over again over an extended period of time. Just like in civvie street. We all build up some kind of connection with people we meet..... even if we don’t realise it.

I’m not chatting love here for fucks sake.

Just that some of us feel more than others. Go figure.

But you are paying in cash. What is the point being emotionally attached to someone you are paying to be around and to do things to or with? Might aswell go pay for therapy instead, that would be more useful than paying for repeated visits with a WG pretending to care.  .

[Charliehutton]

Escorts provide a fleshy receptacle into which I ejaculate. I see no reason for an emotional relationshop. In fact an emotional relationship is the exact opposite of hat I seek in escorts.

If that's the case, why not just have a wank and save yourself a few quid?

There's more to it than that. A good punt can make you feel glad to be alive.

[Elwaz74]

Completely agree with the sentiment, if there is no click I do not see a SP for a second time. If devoid of emotion then maybe a sex doll will fulfill the same purpose.

[Bonker]

How many more times?

[geostorm1]

I've kinda had an attachment with a WG before but it is a very strange one.

I met her on AW but she took her profile down shortly after, but kept seeing me (to this day). She's an alt girl, gothic type, I think she identifies as pansexual. Our relationship turned into more of a sugar daddy one, where I give her money every now and again. It is very much a dom/sub type, I kind of "own" her, I know her full name and address and details, she's showed me things like her driving license before, and I've bought loads of BDSM gear and she will happily let me use and abuse her however I wish. In a BDSM session she lets me use a flogger/cane etc and really inflict some pain on her ass etc.

On occasion I start to feel attached to her but then something happens where she makes up an obvious lie to fleece some money out of me but I ignore her when that happens.

I maintain the setup with her though because she is quite local to me and she lets me do whatever I want, be it CIM, anal, hardcore BDSM, massage etc. If I'm feeling pissed off and annoyed, she is perfect to take it out on her ass with a cane and whip her into submission.

The only thing lacking is that I want her to take a dom role for once but I don't think she has it in her to do it to me, so I need to find a dom for that I think.

Her "quickie" payment as a WG was £40 so I just pay her that every time I see her, but she often messages me etc, I'm not sure if she has feelings for me or not to be honest!

[Fac51]

How many more times?

+ 1

[Jayj]

Good reply’s thank you.

[stevedave]

If she's retired as a brass and not still in touch with you, I think it's fair to say she was not in any way emotionally attached to you. If she is still in touch then maybe you should do something about it.

[Whiteknight]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

That feeling can happen if you kept seeing the same girl over a longer period of time.  Without more details, I am just guessing you have a stronger feeling for her, and she is a professional, and of course she will please you and message you from time to time, those are her skills and tactics.

Don't forget it's a business transaction, you paid for what you wanted and shouldn't get too attached to a SP.  She is probably all nice and friendly to most of her clients anyway.

[Dopedj]

If she's retired as a brass and not still in touch with you, I think it's fair to say she was not in any way emotionally attached to you. If she is still in touch then maybe you should do something about it.

+1
This point here… she’s just a good actress which all of them are, you fell for her lines.

[Home Alone]

Over the years, I've been friends with a number of the SPs I've seen. Which was fine until the inevitable happened and I developed EAS for a - now-retired, afaik - SP, who, if she hadn't been as greedy as she became could have continued to 'milk' me financially for years.

I was kinda supported in realising what a bloody fool I'd been by another SP whom I'd been seeing; less often but simultaneously. She diagnosed my fluffy personality and told me in no uncertain terms that she'd stop seeing me if she ever felt that I transferred my EAS to her because she wasn't in lurve with me; I'm old enough to be her Dad! That was the wake-up call I needed, and I've been seeing her - on the meter, so to speak - roughly once a month for a four-hour booking ever since; 6 years and counting.

Over that time, we've become friends: nothing more; nothing less. I know her real name and have been a referee for some of her - Civvy Street - job applications. Equally, she's got Lasting Power of Attorney over me - I trust her that implicitly - and she's become a kind-of FWB. We've got similar senses of humour and have been for meals out and to gigs together; definitely off the meter.

I make sure she isn't the only SP I see but she's certainly become a bloody good friend. She always was a bloody good SP, imo!

[mills_and_bhuna]

Equally, she's got Lasting Power of Attorney over me -

Are you serious?
I take it you have no close family you trust but that's a BIG step

[notcalledchris]

Escorts provide a fleshy receptacle into which I ejaculate. I see no reason for an emotional relationshop. In fact an emotional relationship is the exact opposite of hat I seek in escorts.

I don't think you need to be as cold hearted as that to avoid an emotional entanglement.  I think about then the same as any service provider.  You can like them and become friends with them if you want but don't mistake good sex as an indicator of falling in love.

[stevedave]

Are you serious?
I take it you have no close family you trust but that's a BIG step

+1000000000000

[mills_and_bhuna]

I think you’d have to be emotionally inept or have some sort of mental disorder if you DID NOT build up an emotional attachment to a WG.

Now before you all start hollering yah boo 

I’m talking about those of us who might have visited the same SP over and over again over an extended period of time. Just like in civvie street. We all build up some kind of connection with people we meet..... even if we don’t realise it.

I’m not chatting love here for fucks sake.

Just that some of us feel more than others. Go figure.

Pretty well sums up my thoughts.
You're treading a fine line between getting everything you want from a punt which includes that warm, fuzzy feeling from intimate contact and being able to walk away and forget it.
There may be times in your life when you are more vulnerable to it than others such as divorce or bereavement so you'll never catch me referring to someone in that situation as a sad  cunt.
And we should also recognise the tightrope that a good provider walks between giving the impression that she's loving it, getting great reviews and good business and having lovestruck 50 year olds pledging their undying love.

I have 2 rules I follow where I never visit the same SP consecutively and I never revisit within 3 months purely to save me from myself.

[FLYING BLUE]

Only happened to me once.

I didn't fall in love with the girl or anything crazy like that but I became emotionally involved with one youngish girl's home life situation which had become very difficult indeed for her.

I wanted to help her situation (just to be clear - she never asked me to) - I felt incredibly sorry for her, she was going through a very tough time & I guess the father in me wanted to take care of her.

Long time ago now - nothing happened

[Stevelondon]

Pretty well sums up my thoughts.
You're treading a fine line between getting everything you want from a punt which includes that warm, fuzzy feeling from intimate contact and being able to walk away and forget it.
There may be times in your life when you are more vulnerable to it than others such as divorce or bereavement so you'll never catch me referring to someone in that situation as a sad  cunt.
And we should also recognise the tightrope that a good provider walks between giving the impression that she's loving it, getting great reviews and good business and having lovestruck 50 year olds pledging their undying love.

I have 2 rules I follow where I never visit the same SP consecutively and I never revisit within 3 months purely to save me from myself.

Very well put that man.

[Stevelondon]

But you are paying in cash. What is the point being emotionally attached to someone you are paying to be around and to do things to or with? Might aswell go pay for therapy instead, that would be more useful than paying for repeated visits with a WG pretending to care.  .

You my friend have missed the point entirely. 

[MysteryManNo.7]

Once but that was because she asked me out during our first booking and I thought why not. Ended up breaking it off after a month as even though we did have strong feelings for each other, there were a lot of issues that would have made a long term relationship with her difficult and I'm also not into the idea of dozens of random men fucking my GF every week even if having an emotional relationship with someone is completely different to just fucking someone.

Since her, never caught feelings for any of the girls, sure, there have been some whose company I have enjoyed more than others and because of that I will see them multiple times and occasionally I will get messaged by them outside of the punt but as OP says, now I just leave any emotional attachment either in her mouth or in the condom.

[notcalledchris]

Only happened to me once.

I didn't fall in love with the girl or anything crazy like that but I became emotionally involved with one youngish girl's home life situation which had become very difficult indeed for her.

I wanted to help her situation (just to be clear - she never asked me to) - I felt incredibly sorry for her, she was going through a very tough time & I guess the father in me wanted to take care of her.

Long time ago now - nothing happened

I get where you are coming from.  I've always fancied young women but as I get older I find I have paternal feeling for them too which can be as emotionally powerful as lust.  Nothing wrong with wanting to help someone.  Just ask yourself how far you would be going to do that if she was just your hairdressers

[Hobbit]

I’ve been punting a long time and I’ve never stepped beyond escort and client, don’t get me wrong I’ve seen girls over long periods of time and been fond of them they have been very friendly but any emotional attachment was always left in her mouth or condom. That is until I started seeing a WG last year we got on well would have time together more like a couple plus “paid” sex but an emotional attachment grew on both sides.

We have now parted as she’s no longer a WG and has returned to civvy street, has this happen to anyone else.

It's never on both sides. She is providing an illusion and that's it. Unfortunately, many of us (even Hobbit) have fallen for that illusion and mistook it for reality at some stage of punting life, but you will learn the hard way like many of us do.

Heed advice and start seeing different girls, put them on rotation or you will end up with a broken heart.

[Horseman]

I find this topic quite interesting in some ways.

We all punt for different reasons and for some (including me) occasionally one of the reasons would be to fulfil an emotional need alongside a physical one. Admittedly this has become more prevalent following lockdowns and long periods of isolation (one downside to living on my own!)

When I look back and think of my best/most fondly remembered punts they all share one thing in common. They all ticked the emotional need box, the time spent with the SP wasn't great just because of the sex but because of the whole package, the chat, the banter and the general feeling that they enjoyed their time with me as much as I did with them.

Of course I'm not an idiot. Once the time has passed and I'm happily on my way home I understand that the truth is that the SPs in question were just very good actors! However this experience does make me understand how easy it would be to fall into the EAS trap.

It probably also explains why I rarely visit the same SP twice. If it was just sex (even great sex) then it doesn't have the same impact on me so I don't feel the need to go back. If I've had a really good time I'm hesitant to go back as I'm worried I'd end up in a bad situation regarding EAS.

The SPs that I do tend to see more than once are the massage & HE providers. But then I'm not ever looking for more than a good rub and tug with them.

[Payyourwaymate]

You my friend have missed the point entirely. 

I understand where you are coming from but don't you think it's selfish on the mans part to become emotionally involved with a woman that sells intimate interactions for a living and then become stroppy if it all goes to shit and the WG does not reciprocate or decides to rip the punter off? It's outside of the WGs job do have to deal with emotions on that level. They sell sex and fantasies, the good ones anyway. Take for example people you work with. You may have worked with people for years and have repeated contact with them on a social level, would you say you have any sort of deeper emotional connection towards them besides them being a work colleague?

However, because a WG is being sexually intimate with you making you feel good and having a quick chat, maybe asking you how are things and what not for cash repeatedly that makes it ok to suddenly become emotionally attached? That's not a punter thinking logically, that is oxytocin taking over their brains confusing them to pair bond with a woman whose best interest is to keep the money rolling in. You don't think that is reckless? There is no badge of honor for falling for a woman or become emotionally involved in anyway with a woman that sells sex just because you spent a lot of time with them, especially when you are paying them to be with them. It's pretty foolish to be honest, It's just their job to make you feel good, not a personal relationship. You are breaking the business relationship indulging in any emotions outside of paying being cordial, doing your business and leaving. 

[Uncle Bob]

Surely a bit of EAS - which develops through actual physical & intimate contact - is nothing compared to those (usually women?) who are so desperate for love, they 'meet' the one  (from Nigeria/ Greece etc) & actually believe the bollocks they are told ...can't afford flight through job loss/ bereavement/ car crash etc - & bankrupt themselves without even meeting said dreamboat - before realising how foolish & naive they were?

[mr.bluesky]

I find a lot of service providers have an emotional attachment to my wallet   

[JontyR]

Surely a bit of EAS - which develops through actual physical & intimate contact - is nothing compared to those (usually women?) who are so desperate for love, they 'meet' the one  (from Nigeria/ Greece etc) & actually believe the bollocks they are told ...can't afford flight through job loss/ bereavement/ car crash etc - & bankrupt themselves without even meeting said dreamboat - before realising how foolish & naive they were?

Why do you think this is just women? Men do it as well, they are generally too embarrassed to go to the papers though.

Like a poster above, I do find an extra link beyond the physical can enhance a punt, and yes this does tend to run the risk of EAS on behalf of both parties. I have had two SPs tell me that they love me. Whilst I flattered I knew there were many emotions that they may have been experiencing - but love for who I actually was wasn't one of them.

That being said there are times that I would be prepared to do anything for the SP who is putting her mouth to good use. If those feelings continue after you have jizzed everywhere that you know you have a problem. Thankfully I have dodged this bullet to date.

[Payyourwaymate]

Surely a bit of EAS - which develops through actual physical & intimate contact - is nothing compared to those (usually women?) who are so desperate for love, they 'meet' the one  (from Nigeria/ Greece etc) & actually believe the bollocks they are told ...can't afford flight through job loss/ bereavement/ car crash etc - & bankrupt themselves without even meeting said dreamboat - before realising how foolish & naive they were?

It's loneliness and a desire for intimacy. Loneliness is making people do stupid things, men and women.

[Domno1]

Its happened to me and thankfully the covid break helped. She advised me to stop seeing her.

[OakTree]

The day I rock up and the brass says Oaky put your money away, I'm fucking you for free, is the day I'm might think getting EAS is a possibility.

[Link7]

The day I rock up and the brass says Oaky put your money away, I'm fucking you for free, is the day I'm might think getting EAS is a possibility.

 Ha...+1

Not looking down on anyone who has this problem - but no, it's never been an issue for me, nor do I think that is likely to change. Nor, if I am honest, do I quite understand how one could fool oneself into this situation. If you have experienced love before (and surely many of you have), and/or had a genuine relationship with a woman (in "civvy street"), from my perspective, it's extremely difficult to see how a 1hr punt - a rented body, a near stranger's mind - gets even remotely near to being confused for love. The two experiences, in my conception at least, are just in different stratospheres.

Maybe I am a cold motherfucker. But after I cum, mostly, I just want to gtfo. I believe "post-nut clarity" is the technical term.

[willie loman]

when customer and  hooker are the same same background, age etc, fair enough, but sadly the relationship is usually girl rinsing customer, a tough cookie can easily make 20 k over a period, lots of old widowers, divorced guys, have a fair bit of money, guy dies , family wonder why his bank account is empty, check his phone,full of texts from sasha who has no money to help her daughter to go on the school trip etc, all her friends are going,,,

[Uncle Bob]

I think to associate EAS with love is wrong.

Love is an extreme emotion. Hate is the other end of the spectrum.

Everything else is just an in-between feeling that isn't one or the other.

[signy]

Never, but I could do so very easily. This is why I have only seen two WGs twice, and never more often than that, and would not do so again. It is about self-awareness and understanding your own degree of susceptibility to these things.