Time for a further update on my experiences of SA. The specifics relate to the Bristol area, but this is more about the principles. It will probably be the last for a while too, as I’ve reached the position I would like to be in and so long as the two arrangements I’ve made hold, I won’t be Seeking for a while.
I should say unlike you Scp, I have had to agree payments, either in cash or paid bills, so I’m obviously not as persuasive as you (or maybe just older!). That doesn’t bother me too much as I expected it and it does help avoid EAS if you know there’s more than pure affection involved.
Most interesting for any other 60 somethings out there, one of them has ended up being with someone younger than my intended age range, (not yet 30) but trust me, if you met her you’d have made the same decision. Very pretty indeed with a superb figure and a very warm personality. Some young women seem to have the ability to adjust to age. I may make a fool of myself but I’m having fun doing it. This will be a per month arrangement, working out at the same sort of level (£200ish) per meeting if we meet twice a month. The other, mentioned in my last update, is a deeply sexy 40 something. Hard to tell whether the time together or the chat inbetween is better.
I gave up on the challenging 50 something. A challenge is one thing, climbing Everest another.
Generally, until you try it, you won’t know how much more satisfying it is to meet someone socially, as you would in pure civvie life, without knowing whether you are going to end up in bed or not. I’d forgotten how good that feels. The joy of it is, because it isn’t pure civvie and benefits are going to change hands at some point, you don’t really get rejection (though I nearly fouled up one of my two quite badly). Even the ones that peter out don’t really matter, because there really is no shortage of opportunity.
In case this reads like an advert, there are some downsides. You have to use the filters carefully to avoid a lot of dross. There are a lot of escorts (which might work as an alternative to AW I guess, but I wonder if they are quite expensive – I didn’t enquire as it wasn’t what I was after). The search function is pretty useless, you have to choose between filters and can’t overlay them, so you can have women near you or women who’ve logged on recently or women who joined recently, but not any combination of the criteria (unless I’ve missed something). Lastly there’s a lot of perfectly nice women who, bluntly, are nothing special and you need a good line in brush offs to avoid offence. “Sorry, you’re too far away”, or “sorry, I’m just too old for you” are probably a better idea than “you must be kidding, I can get that for free behind the Gasworks”.
Lastly, one thing I can only add acknowledging it’s a bit smug. You probably do need to be quite good at chatting to women generally and writing persuasively to get it to work. They’ve all told me they get and ignore a lot of “Hi, send me some nude pictures” messages, so to avoid “delete unread” you have to focus something in your first message on them, other than their body. Humour is good. Just like being in the disco as a teenager really!
Good luck to you all. In fairness, another report when it all comes crashing down!
