Introverted punters

[pewpewpew]

Curious as to how other introverts handle punting. I have a hard time getting accross what i want to the WG and i know it's my time and I've paid etc but i have a need to not offend or upset so tend to go with the flow rather than take what i want.

I see some of the romanian threads here and know they would take me for a total ride and I'd be upset about it but would never tell her to get fucked or anything.

That's why i always book via text and am very specific about what i want. Always hope that she has a good memory and gives a shit.

Just curious how many other here like me and how do you deal with punting?

[Midlane]

Sounds like you're doing the right thing - maybe just a little chat at the beginning of the punt reminding her what was agreed etc.

[Ben4454]

Confidence comes with experience. On my first few punts I was the same. Although by taking the lead leads to better punts in general. A working girl needs to know what you like so being communicative is important.

[daveev]

If you can email them first ask what's on offer and what you can do, then least you know if you can finger fuck, hard face fuck etc etc,
i ask stuff like this then saves doing something she might frown at.

[Anadin]

I'm an introvert too but for some reason I'm ok with WGs & have always been able to tell them what I want although I do go with the flow occasionally.

[jcdmj12]

Curious as to how other introverts handle punting. I have a hard time getting accross what i want to the WG and i know it's my time and I've paid etc but i have a need to not offend or upset so tend to go with the flow rather than take what i want.

I see some of the romanian threads here and know they would take me for a total ride and I'd be upset about it but would never tell her to get fucked or anything.

That's why i always book via text and am very specific about what i want. Always hope that she has a good memory and gives a shit.

Just curious how many other here like me and how do you deal with punting?

Introverted or shy?  I'm the former but not the latter - I don't like going out an meeting people because socialising does my head in, but I'm certainly not shy, if I want to talk to someone I will.

Anyway, I find it useful to email or text what I want. The prossies who pay attention get a return visit, the ones who don't, don't.

[fredpunter]

I know some folk value variety above all else but there's a lot to be said for finding one or two lasses you like to be with and who do what you enjoy, then stick with them on a regular basis. Avoids the issue being a recurring problem.

[AnthG]

Just curious how many other here like me and how do you deal with punting?

I am massively introverted, and massively shy.

My one main problem with seeing WGs is phoning them. I truly hate this. For a long time I have just refused to do this and arranged bookings via text or email, never phoning.

My other main problem is I start overplanning things and how things should go, and things that could go wrong, and what to do if it does. I would say to others, don't do this.

In the room is no problem, just be polite. I do think though I should be a bit firmer in the room as I am far too polite and easy going.

But if there is something I would recommend working on to other shy/introverts it is forcing yourself to phone them if you can. Just remember, she doesn't care, she just wants your cash.

[Midlane]

Absolutely with you on that AnthG, regarding the phoning. However, there are some who insist on it so sometimes it's unavoidable.

In those cases, a couple of G&Ts before digging out the P-phone always helps. (Note this does NOT help with the punt itself)

[mikexxlong]

I suppose I was introverted or was I just shy?, when I first started punting 

As others have said Confidence will come with experience 

I am nowhere near as introverted as I once was; in fact I’m quite brazen when punting these days
But not exactly a balls out, lairy cocky type either

A punt is always better when there is some chemistry going on, as you become so much more relaxed with the WG, as you will open up & communicate so much easier, and the WG is so much more responsive to your requests & body language 

If you get a shit WG with a bad attitude, the punt will still be crap regardless, even if you’re as confident & as extroverted as it goes 

[kartrider]

I am massively introverted, and massively shy.


My other main problem is I start overplanning things and how things should go, and things that could go wrong, and what to do if it does. I would say to others, don't do this.


But if there is something I would recommend working on to other shy/introverts it is forcing yourself to phone them if you can. Just remember, she doesn't care, she just wants your cash.

  +10 for that. It happens often with me. It's like, after arranging a booking on phone, I have complete encounter in my mind and want to make that happen , but many times it goes off or either won't go as planned. Same time, can't get to ask her what I really want, except for a regular ones.

[Gordon Bennett]

I think if you go for more mature ladies with bags of experience escorting and with lots of positive reviews/feedbacks you should be fine. These ladies have seen it all before and might even find your shyness a positive thing compared to say, a lairy jack the lad marauding into them.
Also, don't assume everyone else is brimming with confidence and strutting about cock sure of themselves.....   I doubt many chaps would post reviews on here describing their nervousness, bumbling about and generally being a bit less than "alpha" either. Basically, you're probably fasr more typical than you think.

[DoberManic]

I know some folk value variety above all else but there's a lot to be said for finding one or two lasses you like to be with and who do what you enjoy, then stick with them on a regular basis. Avoids the issue being a recurring problem.

+1

I agree with Fredpunter here 

However, I usually "like to be with" them that much that I have the EAS head fuck going on for a few days afterward 

So I'm learning the hard way that variety (or a mixture of both) is probably the best way for me.

I tend to appear quite introverted around strangers, but as Anth has said; she's just after your cash, so your have to make it
clear what you want out of the experience... In my case decent OWO and popping in her kisser! 

[fredpunter]

Introverted or shy? 

This is a very good point! I am a little shy, but it turns out no where near as shy as I imagined I was for a long long time. I think shyness is partly down to lack of confidence and fear people wont like you. It gradually dawned on me over many years that I didn't really give a fuck about whether most people liked me. The reason I was uncomfortable around nearly all people I didn't know and most people I did know was cos I didn't like them and spending time with people you don't like is hard work. 

One of many things i wish I'd realised 40 years earlier.

My Mrs won't let me get a dog ... I'd be fine with a dog.

[vt]

I suppose I was introverted or was I just shy?, when I first started punting 

As others have said Confidence will come with experience 

I am nowhere near as introverted as I once was; in fact I’m quite brazen when punting these days
But not exactly a balls out, lairy cocky type either

A punt is always better when there is some chemistry going on, as you become so much more relaxed with the WG, as you will open up & communicate so much easier, and the WG is so much more responsive to your requests & body language 

If you get a shit WG with a bad attitude, the punt will still be crap regardless, even if you’re as confident & as extroverted as it goes 

+1  Was always fairly shy around women, particularly ones I fancied, probably feared rejection...but now that I've punted with so many attractive girls, they hold a lot less mystery for me. They're just humans and probably lacking confidence themselves in many cases, so now I just love discovering them and interacting and getting the best out of them...they mostly do respond to warmth, interest and a friendly assertiveness.

Of course, interacting with paid ones has very little risk of rejection, but I find the confidence spills over into civvie life too...never been more conversationally carefree in that regard with some very pleasant reactions.

[Sonny Crockett]

My personal preference has always been to text as I always worried about how I would come across when phoning. If I was to book in advance, then e-mail was best. However with e-mail and text I found that there is a disadvantage in that you cannot really tell whether the WG is genuinely interested in any complex services you want in the meet. In these circumstances, I feel now that a phone call would be best, as you could better gauge whether the WG is interested or not.

[pewpewpew]

Yeah shy is the better word here not introverted. I am both. There are times while on a punt I'll think to myself that i want to try something or do something simple like change position but it's just not me to ask. I feel i would get a whole lot more out of a punt if i were more confident

I haven't had a lot of punts and don't do it often, twice a year or something so maybe experience will improve my experience if you know what i mean 

[Jamboney]

My personal preference has always been to text as I always worried about how I would come across when phoning. If I was to book in advance, then e-mail was best.

This is how I prefer to do things too. I just don't like talking over the phone about what services I want etc, I find it odd which is odd in itself.

[willbred]

Confidence comes with experience. On my first few punts I was the same. Although by taking the lead leads to better punts in general. A working girl needs to know what you like so being communicative is important.

+1. Early doors i used to be like ..."if that's OK with you. One day, i started to get more confident...my dough, my time...and started to set the agenda. Ask any WG, they will all say, they want to know what you want. If you don't ask, don't complain if you get a so so service   

[DoberManic]

My Mrs won't let me get a dog ... I'd be fine with a dog.

I'll sort you out with a Dobe pup Fred;  She won't dare argue with you then 

[fredpunter]

I'll sort you out with a Dobe pup Fred;  She won't dare argue with you then 

I don't want one that eats a lot (either food or people).

ideal dog ... good personality, robust and strong, but small enough to pick up, short hair so doesn't need too much brushing, not a slobbery, salivery mouthed variety, appreciates a walk but is happy with just a couple of miles, doesn't expect to be running around all day.

A staffordshire bull terrier is pretty much the ideal dog except for one thing .... every oik in the country seems to own one and I don't want to be mistaken for an oik. An English bull terrier is good too but it's a bit bigger than a staff.

Any suggestions? I may be straying off topic here - started a new thread https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=84091.new#new.   

[Ivorfakename]

I normally handle being shy/introverted by being extremely polite.

Me: I'm almost too shy to ask, but do you do a spot of rimming?

Took me 4 meets just to pluck up the courage to ask. Shame it was during a GFE and she wasn't keen.

[no1idea]

This topic is actually one of the main reasons I am due to have my first punt (as soon as I can find the time) that and I've got got sackful to get rid.
Ive been a member here since God knows when and always knew which wg i want to see. Fingers crossed she is available next week!

I'll give an example of how shy I am, I was halfway through proposing to my wife that eventually got to the point she knew what I was trying to say and.... I think I got laid that night but I didn't manage to pop the question!

If the punting stars align I will review next week.

[Malvolio]

Yeah shy is the better word here not introverted. I am both. There are times while on a punt I'll think to myself that i want to try something or do something simple like change position but it's just not me to ask. I feel i would get a whole lot more out of a punt if i were more confident

I haven't had a lot of punts and don't do it often, twice a year or something so maybe experience will improve my experience if you know what i mean 

The key is that this paid-for sex, rather than sex with a civvie.  As a customer you've got the right to call the shots regarding what you want her to do, and if she's got a decent attitude she'll do it.  Bear in mind that WGs will have heard before everything you might want to ask them - it's not as if she's suddenly going to be shocked if you ask her to suck your balls.

[purple_t]

I'm an introvert too but for some reason I'm ok with WGs & have always been able to tell them what I want although I do go with the flow occasionally.

This.
I'm usually nervous at the start but relax into it once the kissing starts. It helps to know what you want to do and you need to let the girl know when you want to switch it up to the next activity / position

[Nagilum]

Curious as to how other introverts handle punting. I have a hard time getting accross what i want to the WG and i know it's my time and I've paid etc but i have a need to not offend or upset so tend to go with the flow rather than take what i want.

I see some of the romanian threads here and know they would take me for a total ride and I'd be upset about it but would never tell her to get fucked or anything.

That's why i always book via text and am very specific about what i want. Always hope that she has a good memory and gives a shit.

Just curious how many other here like me and how do you deal with punting?

It gets better in time, many punters wont admit that they felt this way at some point, but its normal and you are not isolated.

When you have punted more you will naturally ease into in and start to see it for it is - a service.

You feel you do not want to offend because you are used to civvie relationships, but this is different. You are the buying customer and you can complain or request as you see fit, provided its on offer.  Would you go into KFC and orders some breasts, would you settle because you got some leg instead? 

[anonymous1]

I wouldn't say I'm introverted but I am a bit shy and get very anxious, so trying anything new I'm a nervous wreck. But once I get used to it I am ok and the more confident I'll get.

[howrude]

I was quite shy and introverted when I first started but it's something that you move away from the more you do it. And it's great fun to see yourself become more relaxed. For instance, I would have been too nervous to ask a WG if she'd give me a titwank. The thing to remember is that you don't actually know these women. You won't be seeing them in your real life. So that would always ease things for me a bit.

[Denhamhoop]

Its weird Im supremely shy in general everyday life but when with a WG I am very confident but very polite and although I tend to go with the flow get what to do what I wanted to do.Wish I could be as easy going in more normal social situations