Intelligence and Social Skills in S/Ps

[jc1971]

Personally I've found if an S/P possesses the above she provides a good service and makes the whole experience more enjoyable. Was wondering how others felt about this?

[Spunky34]

I wouldn’t necessarily say intelligence/social skills correspond with good service but it may be that generally people who you like and find it easy to be around are like that (think about people in your friend group).  I have never had a really good experience with anyone if I didn’t like them and feel like there was some kind of mutual understanding, even at a really superficial level. 

For me, I feel more confident of a good meeting if people just seem friendly and have a kind of lightheartedness about them.  And those things aren’t particularly dependent on intelligence or education (although they might be classed as social skills) - makes me feel like they want to have fun as well, and in the end, isn’t that what sex is supposed to be?

[jc1971]

I think we are essentially in agreement.

[Moby Dick]

A smile goes along way.

Basic politeness and social skills (as per any customer focused / orientated jobs) are key.
Don’t want to fuck a miserable lass who can’t speak English/communicate and makes no effort to interact or please.
They don’t need to be intelligent/educated although so many have law degrees

[Naughtyboyuk]

I agree a smile and some pleasant conversation tends to make for a better experience....however I have had a few really good punts where the SP couldn’t speak much English, but took direction well and happily let me fuck her hard....so sometimes it’s fine

[ulstersubbie]

At the end of the day it is a financial transaction, you are paying for a service. It does help though if the SP smiles, appears friendly and can indulge in some kind of conversation, little eye contact and monosyllabic utterances are a real downer for most punters.

[Punterperson1971]

Definitely friendliness from the sp makes the meet more enjoyable especially if you click

[20jay]

At the end of the day it is a financial transaction, you are paying for a service. It does help though if the SP smiles, appears friendly and can indulge in some kind of conversation, little eye contact and monosyllabic utterances are a real downer for most punters.

Thats it ... she shall sell the Illusion well . No one wants medically sterile, impersonally distant service.

[DonDickDraper]

How would you gauge a SP’s intelligence? Do you make every SP have an IQ test before you exchange paperwork or book her? I don’t see how you’d be able to gauge someone’s intelligence from their profile or from the manner they talk or behave in a setting where you’re paying for their time and service.
I’ve always understood intelligence to be about how well a person learns new information, understand it, and sees how it fits into what they knew before. If you’re telling me you can gauge all of this in a 1hr booking because the bird you’re paying to fiddle with your balls - who relies on you for her income - smiled when she opened the door and spoke with a posh accent then I’d say you’re probably not that intelligent yourself (not you personally OP).

Social skills are important especially in the longer bookings, but, again, they don’t prove intelligence. At best they prove a quality upbringing that provided ample opportunities for the person to socialise and develop those necessary social skills.

I think the more intelligent working girls don’t do this job for very long. They get into it with a goal, make enough to reach it, then disappear back into the civvie world.

The best service for me comes from an enthusiastic working girl. In my punting career I haven’t had a single punt with a Native British (English/Scottish/Welsh/N.Irish) working girl as I don’t care to have a prolonged conversation with someone. I don’t do this for a ‘connection’ I do it because I want to have sex with beautiful women. The girls I see rarely, if ever, speak perfect English but I’m still able to enjoy my time with them because there’s so much more to communication than noises coming out of someone’s mouth hole.

[Moby Dick]

True, just think about how many rude doctors and medical practitioners we have.
So many have inadequate communication and social skills, they don’t even have legible hand writing.
Just as well I’m not asking them to do such an important job such as sucking my cock

[B4bcock]

True, just think about how many rude doctors and medical practitioners we have.
So many have inadequate communication and social skills, they don’t even have legible hand writing.
Just as well I’m not asking them to do such an important job such as sucking my cock

Quite right, Moby.    Such a delicate job needs to be entrusted to a "nurse"    not a doctor.

[jc1971]

Under the circumstances any appraisal of 'intelligence' has to be subjective and effectively unmeasurable. However, what made me think about posting my question was that I've had recently conversations with three different SPs that impressed me with their opinions and depths of knowledge. These conversations were unplanned and simply grew out of post punt chit chat. When combined with social skills and excellent service, it added, at least for me, a further dimension to the overall experience. I certainly didn't book an SP on the basis of a discussion about (as one of the three examples) Horthy's role in WW2.....

[B4bcock]

[quote author=jc1971 link=topic=276000.msg2824096#msg2824096 . I certainly didn't book an SP on the basis of a discussion about (as one of the three examples) Horthy's role in WW2.....
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Those Hungarian girls, eh?   What better chit chat could you have whilst sharing a post-coital cigarette???   

[WARSZAWA16]

Definitely friendliness from the sp makes the meet more enjoyable especially if you click

Yes, agree.

[Punterperson1971]

If they come across as chatty and interesting  and so do you it makes the punt more smooth and unhindered

[lewisjones23]

thankfully for 99.9% of brasses - you dont need qualifications to suck a dick 

[jesse4585]

Under the circumstances any appraisal of 'intelligence' has to be subjective and effectively unmeasurable.

True you can't measure it with precision, but it is possible to gauge IQ with reasonable accuracy just from dialogue. I.e. assess their mental quickness; originality of expression   (adjusted for age & whether it's their native language); vocabulary, coherence etc.  This is why we have IQ estimates for folk who lived well before actual IQ tests, like Plato & Shakespeare.

I'm rather jealous you got to talk about Horthy with a whore - not the sort of conversation I have with the brothel lasses I usually punt...

[Grumpy Pumpy]

Depends on what we look for in a punt.

I'm on the fluffier end of the spectrum and favour the GFE. So social skills are of importance to me

[Xtro]

True, just think about how many rude doctors and medical practitioners we have.
So many have inadequate communication and social skills, they don’t even have legible hand writing.
Just as well I’m not asking them to do such an important job such as sucking my cock

.... 1 day you may need a professionals finger up your arse.   

thankfully for 99.9% of brasses - you dont need qualifications to suck a dick 

I always thought they had to have 'O' levels!   

[Home Alone]

Definitely friendliness even if feigned from the sp makes the meet more enjoyable especially if you feel like you've clicked

Can I offer a couple of slight qualifications to your post, Punterperson? 

As a serial fluffy  - still, after all these years - who 'recovered' some years ago from EAS , I believe we need to keep reminding ourselves that, 999 times out of a thousand, a SP's selling an illusion.

[Moby Dick]

.... 1 day you may need a professionals finger up your arse.   

That day came a few years ago.
My GP is a miserable fat fuck with a beard where he keeps his breakfast.

Much prefer an anal probing from a communicative WG telling me to fill her mates mouth with hot Moby Spunk, before going in for the 3 way snowball. Yum yum

[Punterperson1971]

Can I offer a couple of slight qualifications to your post, Punterperson? 

As a serial fluffy  - still, after all these years - who 'recovered' some years ago from EAS , I believe we need to keep reminding ourselves that, 999 times out of a thousand, a SP's selling an illusion.

Yep you’re right there 

[Happylad]

Somewhat even less pleasant is a colonoscopy performed by a male technician in a hurry to get away for lunch. After my last one I was taking my socks off that night and found tucked in one a slip of paper, on which was written :-
"I hope you enjoyed that as much as I did"

[Xtro]

Somewhat even less pleasant is a colonoscopy performed by a male technician in a hurry to get away for lunch. After my last one I was taking my socks off that night and found tucked in one a slip of paper, on which was written :-
"I hope you enjoyed that as much as I did"

 

I guess that's why you're a happy lad!   

[king tarzan]

thanks heavens for dfk or some of them would never shut the fuck up!!!!!!!

[Handel2020]

Personally I've found if an S/P possesses the above she provides a good service and makes the whole experience more enjoyable. Was wondering how others felt about this?

I suppose good social skills or saying the right thing are done with the aim of getting the right reaction from the other person. She probably wants the guy to feel comfortable / a chemistry so he will feel it is more enjoyable and come back. The lack of that effort on the part of a WG might speak to her having that attitude in real life and that being something she brings to work or it might be that she doesn't like the guy or is cynical about punters in general but I agree that some bare minimum of rapport makes it a lot more enjoyable.

To put the shoe on the other foot, I don't have much confidence / social intelligence and it is difficult to create rapport if the WG doesn't make the minimum effort. I would resent trying too hard if I had paid as that would be like being in a nightclub which is not what I would have paid for.

[WASA38]

Better a girl with a friendly smile who seems apppreciative but who is not the most beautiful physically than a scowling, querulous super model.

Within reason of course. Don't fancy many of the subects on the 'most unattractive' thread. 

[20jay]

Better a girl with a friendly smile who seems apppreciative but who is not the most beautiful physically than a scowling, querulous super model.

Within reason of course. Don't fancy many of the subects on the 'most unattractive' thread.

...agree 100% . Pretty or not is often in the eye of the beholder, even average and below is acceptable if the environment, cleanliness and attitude are right. Who wants an ice cold dream woman? Such a girl ist just good for once, but this is out of the question as a regular tart.

I am also looking for a new "regular"  after my infrastructure in Luton has broken down. It is difficult and getting more and more difficult, the common attitude of girls is now ..
-Fast money for little performance
-No matter if you pay 30/60 or 80/100 for 15/30 minutes
-Many set up 3-4 fake profiles, the trick still works too often, if the punter is already there yet, he often stays because he listens to his cock instead of walking. (I sometimes too, unfortunately)

Serving regular customers means empathizing. Nobody wants that anymore, best you are quick hard, rubber over it, a little listless OW, lots of lubricant, fuck in 2 positions when you have your load in the rubber, put your cloths on and get out .. bye, paid 30 minutes, no matter if after 15 Min the bag is filled, they want to rid you out, they start to play on their phone or get dressed. But whine about bad business in these times.

Bad times ...

[GreyDave]

Somewhat even less pleasant is a colonoscopy performed by a male technician in a hurry to get away for lunch. After my last one I was taking my socks off that night and found tucked in one a slip of paper, on which was written :-
"I hope you enjoyed that as much as I did"

had that done 4 times now pollock stuff and check I all ways ask for gas and air ...then I dont care 

To be fair if you click with a WG sometimes the service is  Ive been lucky with both expensive shags and the odd soho girl who I ve treated equal...mind you they dont match the ace shags I had as a young punter with women 20 years older than me I really used to get star treatment those days well gone

[JAYZ]

I know it's already been said but I find if you treat the SP with respect, then the chances are it will be returned. This has been my experience to date anyway. I enter the space of the SP without  thinking I'm seeing an escort, but believing I'm privilidged to be in the company of a beautiful woman so I need to make the most of the short time together.

[20jay]

I hear you, and that's what I always do, I don't treat the girls differently if it would be a dating, but with a predetermined outcome, having sex. I don't demand anything, politely ask why OWO is OW suddently, for example, and say goodbye. My weapon is deprivation of income, I just come not back again.

Unfortunately there are more and more that you don't need to visit a second times.

EDIT : As I said, most girls now give a shit if you visit them a second times. Once the city has been harvested, they go with a new profile and a new telephone number to the next town. That's more n more their business model as it seems at the moment.

[Rochelle]

I know it's already been said but I find if you treat the SP with respect, then the chances are it will be returned. This has been my experience to date anyway. I enter the space of the SP without  thinking I'm seeing an escort, but believing I'm privilidged to be in the company of a beautiful woman so I need to make the most of the short time together.

[lewisjones23]

I know it's already been said but I find if you treat the SP with respect, then the chances are it will be returned. This has been my experience to date anyway. I enter the space of the SP without  thinking I'm seeing an escort, but believing I'm privilidged to be in the company of a beautiful woman so I need to make the most of the short time together.

what a daft wanker you are

any old twat with the right money can rock up and have their balls sucked so there is nothing privileged about it 

[20jay]

@Rochelle ...Okay, the privilege was paid, which puts the statement into perspective. But with " respectful" he was right

[20jay]

what a daft wanker you are

any old twat with the right money can rock up and have their balls sucked so there is nothing privileged about it 

...that's a wee bit harsh 

[thefoxman]

I always thought they had to have 'O' levels!   

That confused me for a good while when I started punting,
why did all the ads mention being educated to 'O' level or 'A' Level ?! 

[lewisjones23]

...that's a wee bit harsh 

what bit of it is wrong or harsh?

[Rochelle]

what a daft wanker you are

any old twat with the right money can rock up and have their balls sucked so there is nothing privileged about it 

Using that word was very silly of him. However, just because any old twat has the right money, it doesn't automatically mean they'll be seen. Just as you have your criteria, many escorts have theirs.

[20jay]

what bit of it is wrong or harsh?

-->what a daft wanker you are

[20jay]

Using that word was very silly of him. However, just because any old twat has the right money, it doesn't automatically mean they'll be seen. Just as you have your criteria, many escorts have theirs.

Absolutely fine, but as a provider one have to refuse the demand if the standard is not met, instead of take the money an deliver bad service. To stay fair .. no?

[JAYZ]

what a daft wanker you are

any old twat with the right money can rock up and have their balls sucked so there is nothing privileged about it 

You have given my response in your own comment. Many, many men who are in sexless relationships or no relationship, but desire female company simply do not have the money or oppertunity, so that is why it is a privllege. As you state anyone with money can, but those without it cannot.

[20jay]

You have given my response in your own comment. Many, many men who are in sexless relationships or no relationship, but desire female company simply do not have the money or oppertunity, so that is why it is a privllege. As you state anyone with money can, but those without it cannot.

Your interpretation of the condition "privilege" is a wee bit strange , but okay , don't think I want to discuss this matter further.

[lewisjones23]

-->what a daft wanker you are

how so?

[HarryZZ]

Is the school holidays?