There are married punters on here who have been doing this for 20/30 years plus, if you are a good liar and don't feel guilty about punting I see very little danger in being caught
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Agree with the above having been married for thirty years and punting for twenty.
Back on topic: Having gone for regulars down the years I feel that there is always the danger of developing EAS and I suppose I always skate precariously around the edges of it, especially as I have what might negatively be described on UKP as fluffy tendencies, but I have never asked or expected to meet with a WG outside the paid meetings where sex is always the focus.
For me it is a parallel situation to a household where no one can be arsed to garden or to clean or to cook. In these circumstances you might employ someone to provide for you (if you can afford it). As my OH can't be arsed to have sex, I employ a sex worker by the hour to provide for this need. I am not looking for anything other than sex, but it is inevitable that after being in such close intimate contact with someone that some sort of relationship other than that of a simple sex surrogate develops. We are not friends, but we have a friendship (if that makes sense), but on the punter's side this could easily turn into EAS.
I now tend to have a few regs, however that has not always been the case and when an EE reg went back over the summer I didn't punt until she returned; we exchanged Christmas presents and she would see me on her days off. She made it obvious that she enjoyed sex with me and upon retiring she gave me her private email address and suggested to keep in touch and let her know if I'm near her home town. Inevitably if you use regulars you get to know a fair bit about each other's private lives, but only in the same way that you might get to know anyone who you employ regularly. I often thought about asking for a social meet (unpaid of course), but then I would see reality and the pointlessness of it as the whole idea of seeing WGs is to have great sex without the emotional attachment that I have in my marriage. My whole self justification for punting is that it is far less damaging than having an affair.
I am seeing a few WGs at the moment and get some fantastic service off them all (otherwise I wouldn't be returning), but recently I met one who so obviously enjoyed sex with me that I think that it really makes it hard not to suffer from EAS. In fact I came back from a punt with her so high that I really felt the need to shout out how good it was, but as we all know this hobby is for most of us our little secret, although UKP does provide some sort of outlet, and I must admit to using my reviews for this purpose from time to time.
Some people buy the most ridiculous things on EBay when drunk, and like them I guess it's not wise to go on the computer when you're still high from a punt. Acting like a dickhead I posted this in the "Best thing said to you by a WG thread" and probably should have asked Admin to remove it, however, it would still have been available to established members anyway, so why bother? Quite rightly the next poster commented that it made him cringe and I made the excuse that it was said in jest, but actually I don't think it was.
At the end of the punt. We've had some great sex, but she has quite a sense of humour:
Her: You certainly know your way around a woman's body!
Me: Yes, I think inside I must be part woman, because I seem to enjoy the same approach to sex.
Her: Believe me, you're one hundred percent man!
A short while later (and I think we're joking, but there might be a little mutual EAS going on).
Her: If I had met you at a different time and place then perhaps....
Me: Yeah, and if I were thirty years younger.
Her: No, you're in your prime.
Me: (stifling laugh) Yes, OK, but when you're in your mid-forties I'll be mid-seventies!
Her: That's OK, I'll have got rid of you by then for a younger man. Well at least I'm honest!
God, rereading it the last bit sounds like some fucking Mills and Boon novel!
Now this sort of talk dangerously strokes a man's ego, especially when it comes from a very well reviewed pretty girl thirty years younger than me (her reviews are well into double figures on UKP and all positive), although the fact that she gets such a good reaction from other clients suggests that she knows what to say as well as what to do. I know that the job of a WG is to make us feel like a king and a stud for the time that we book them, but perhaps some of them also need to be a little careful about what they say which can seriously encourage EAS.
So, those of us who like sex with regulars need to be particularly careful to guard against EAS, but equally some of the SPs need to realise that whilst we all expect some good acting, post-punt talk should perhaps keep a little professional distance, however much they have apparently enjoyed the meet themselves, because that sort of talk can seriously encourage EAS which is the last thing both the WG and the punter (particularly a married one) needs.