22 year old and Punting - Is it normal?

[jhon9697]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

[smartieshouse]

I started at 18 so no drama.

[Cuntminion]

Yes it's just sex

[Happyjose]

Seriously dude

Don't try selling weird around here

We're fully stocked....

[Marmalade]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

No. You’re completely weird, fucked-up beyond belief and almost bordering on criminally insane. Nothing to do with whether you pay prostitutes for sex, but that you are so fucked up to ask such a question on a forum like this.

Go wash your mouth out with 7-day old pig’s spunk, sell your trollboy collection of used women’s knickers online to someone who needs them and appreciates, then write out 108 times, “My fucking cock can fuck who the fuck it likes, when, where and with whom it likes, if the other party consents.

If you still have a need to be told off for your dirty little urges, find a dominatrix who will tell you what for: and charge you accordingly.


What do you think we are? A bloody charity??

[LLPunting]

TROLL

[fed24]

In todays world what is normal in the first place?

You start Punting when it is right for you no one else! I started four days after my 18th Birthday to great personal relief as I felt like I was masturbating myself to death I was so desperate to have sex! I lost my Virginity to an Escort and it was fine and nothing to be embarrassed about, if anything it had some advantages as when I got to the time I had my first sexual encounter with a Civvy there was no fumbling around.

I actually see myself having two dates when I lost my Virginity not unlike the Queen with her two Birthdays, so the first time I lost my Virginity was to a hooker and the second to a Civvy.

[JonasG]

Losing your virginity is an overrated thing anyway for a guy.

So losing it to a whore is no big deal.

[tynetunnel]

Seriously dude

Don't try selling weird around here

We're fully stocked....

[NIK]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

And furthermore don't say 'lol.'
It is one of the many indicators of a troll.

[wristjob]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

Didn't feel the need to do a review did you?

If you think sex is some amazing special precious thing that only 2 people who are truly in love can experience then you are screwed. Of course if you aren't a woman or a religious nut then sex is just something people do so what is the problem?

Losing your virginity to a prossie should be on the NHS really. If you cum in 5 seconds and are a crap shag then surely that's best with somebody you will never see again.

[Count Duckula]

the definition of "normal" is very subjective.

ask this same question on mumsnet and see the difference in the answers you will get

[django0700]

the definition of "normal" is very subjective.

ask this same question on mumsnet and see the difference in the answers you will get

 

[The Owl]

the definition of "normal" is very subjective.

ask this same question on mumsnet and see the difference in the answers you will get

Using sex to get financial favours whilst colluding with the other forum members to deceive your partner. Add in casual misandy. What a terrible and dysfunctional place Mumsnet is, someone should start a campaign to have the website taken down and the vile creatures who use it outed to their partners. 

[Ali Katt]

Question reads like it was written by a bird.

[PhelTGrik]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

You want sex, you exchange resources for sex. All relationship are transactional in nature (look up Eric Berne) and you're just cutting out the hoop jumping.

I would examine your behaviours and what you want out of these women you are friendly with. Legs don't spread just for being nice and women aren't special,if you stop treating them as such you'll quickly find which ones actually appreciate your attention Vs your utility as a doormat/source of low effort/cost ego inflation.

[wristjob]

Question reads like it was written by a bird.

I alluded to that in my answer but went the PA route cos I felt that would piss off a troll more than blatant calling out.

[tynetunnel]

Using sex to get financial favours whilst colluding with the other forum members to deceive your partner. Add in casual misandy. What a terrible and dysfunctional place Mumsnet is, someone should start a campaign to have the website taken down and the vile creatures who use it outed to their partners. 

Excellent post 

[bearcat69]

I can only wish I had started this hobby as soon as I turned 18, and if I could turn back the clocks I would. That's over a decade I wasted not fucking whores when instead I could've been enjoying fucking whores.

Anyway troll, as others have said, definitions of normal vary wildly depending on the viewpoint of the observer.

[Littlefoot]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

I'm surprised being how 'SHY' you are, you have so many female friends.

[dazzer]

"Is it normal"
I don't think it's very normal for a 22 year old to be able to afford to punt...

[CigarSmoke]

I lost my virginity to a prostitute in Amsterdam back in 2005, lol. I didn't start punting properly until 2008. Never had a relationship either. If it weren't for escort women, I'd still be a virgin now.

[monsterballz47]

I don't think it's weird at all. I'm 24 now and started punting at 19, and I haven't looked back since. In fact, I've only ever had sex a handful of times with non escorts. The only one serious relationship I had ended in disaster, so I'm not looking to try that again any time soon. For the time being I'm just happy carrying on as I am. In the end, though, it's all about what matters to you. I like my own company and my own space, but I still have sexual urges like everyone else. That's why I think punting suits me best. You, though, seem like the kind of guy who wants a relationship with a woman. If you're looking for something special then you're not going to find it on here.

My advice. Just carry on as you are. Keep using escorts... As for the future. Don't think about it. Just let the dice fall where they may.

[Saeran]

Started at 18. Just want a shag and just can't be arsed with all the dating crap? I personally think it's more sensible doing it the WG way than wasting time and £ on dates that might not lead anywhere.

[wristjob]

I like my own company and my own space, but I still have sexual urges like everyone else.

I think that sums it up quite well. At that age you basically need sex, and being forced to have a relationship where you don't want the other aspects just to get lair can't be the best option.

[GreyDave]

"Is it normal"
I don't think it's very normal for a 22 year old to be able to afford to punt...

Its cheaper to hire a WG for a shag now than its ever been 

I started like many on here in the late 70`s in soho walk ups 50p tip and £10 pound for straight at 16 years
Christ that was 2 weeks paper round money for the shag and a car wash for the trip up and sandwich 

For comparision a pint of Guiness was 49p in the pub after my first bang with a Sigaporean who did it twice for the tenner cause I came very very quickly...Those days are long gone
I went to some crappy cinema and watch a soft porn movie after only to go in loo to find old guys wanking before pissing 

[dynatron]

no dont worry if you can afford it then why not i statede seeing escorts when i was 18 or so and have continued to do so all my life on and off and im 58 now so just enjoy

[Ali Katt]

Its cheaper to hire a WG for a shag now than its ever been 

I started like many on here in the late 70`s in soho walk ups 50p tip and £10 pound for straight at 16 years
Christ that was 2 weeks paper round money for the shag and a car wash for the trip up and sandwich 

For comparision a pint of Guiness was 49p in the pub after my first bang with a Sigaporean who did it twice for the tenner cause I came very very quickly...Those days are long gone
I went to some crappy cinema and watch a soft porn movie after only to go in loo to find old guys wanking before pissing 

I worked it out, would it be around the equivalent of £80 then? Not sure what Guinness costs now, seems to be just under £4 near me.

[mr.bluesky]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

Prossies like money - punters like sex. You're both getting what you want. Whats the big deal 

[Jayf]

Better seeing a whore. Cut out all the shite and get straight to the point.

[tictacs]

Well you're not the only one to start young. I started at 24 and haven't looked back. Still haven't figured out how to pull in the civvie world and not sure I ever will but punting got rid of all my hang-ups about sex.

[wristjob]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old young shy guy who has started seeing escorts. I'm a very shy person. I do have many female friends but most of the time I get badly friend zoned. I'm very shy when it comes to flirt with girls or asking them out. I can't even start properly talking to girls I fancy lol.

I lost my virginity to an escort. Whenever I feel the urge of having sex I visit escorts. I'm not sure how to feel about it? Is it normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?

Any advice would be highly appreciated!

Well jhon, I'm surprised that after starting a thread you didn't pop in to thank people for all their useful advice and stuff. I'm just a wee bit suspicious actually.

[jesal90]

I lost it to a prossie at 18 and now 22yrs old as well. Who gives a fuck what you do? Your money, your life. Enjoy every minute of it without worrying about what any others would think.

[puntlover1]

I first had sex with a prossie when I was 17. It wasn't great and I felt dirty afterwards. Nowadays, I feel dirty if I don't shag a prossie.

[Ali Katt]

I'm surprised being how 'SHY' you are, you have so many female friends.

From my experiences there are two types of guys with a lot of female friends, i.e. more female than male friends: gay guys and party guys that they get drunk or do drugs with, but don't shag them.

[DOUGLAS56]

Dont know if OP is a troll or not. But I would advise him to definitely learn how to pickup civvie girls first before dabbling into punting.

Punt all you want but still know how to talk to women and scoop them is my advice.

[RogerBoner]

Dont know if OP is a troll or not. But I would advise him to definitely learn how to pickup civvie girls first before dabbling into punting.

Punt all you want but still know how to talk to women and scoop them is my advice.

I agree that at your age you should try to pull civvies unless you are after some unusual services. Punt when you're stuck in a relationship or if your old or ugly. Fall in love and enjoy being young.

[DOUGLAS56]

I agree that at your age you should try to pull civvies unless you are after some unusual services. Punt when you're stuck in a relationship or if your old or ugly. Fall in love and enjoy being young.

Yep. Dangerous game to because once he starts fucking Wgs especially without knowing how to handle civvies. he could start feeling like Civvies are too much hassle.

Happened to me for a while first time I dabbled into punting when I used to think if I dont pickup a girl at the end of the night in the club I would just punt. Ends up making you lazy I  had to snap out of it.   

[wristjob]

Yep. Dangerous game to because once he starts fucking Wgs especially without knowing how to handle civvies. he could start feeling like Civvies are too much hassle.

Yeah or even worse go back to hers and ask what services she offers and does she charge for extras.

[boofey]

OP I'm in the exact same boat as you.

I lost my virginity to an EE prozzy in a brothel when I was 16. I found adultwork when I went to uni and have exclusively used it for sex since. I'm 25 now and still have not had sex sober.

I understand it gets quite tempting, everytime you get the urge you have a near unlimited choice of great women to choose from. Hell I've slept with women I don't think I'd ever manage to get in real life. But to answer your question, there is nothing 'seriously wrong with you' but it is not healthy and you are most likely making matters worse for yourself.

You've mentioned you are shy, and I'm the same, I have deep feelings of resentment towards myself and find it difficult to look in the mirror. In my mind I hate myself and woman could only ever see flaws in me. This is in spite of the fact I know I relatively charming, alright looking and have no trouble holding an arms length conversation with a girl. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with large appetite for paid sex but the devil is in the detail. You have started your sex life with paid sex, alright thats fine. However, you've also said your shy and struggle around women in a more natural setting, this has become your go to for sex. Each time you visit an escort your normalising this as a response. You might learn the nature of the female anatomy through this and have a lot fun, but no matter how good the GFE provided you are not learning the finer nausces of women. It lacks real emotion.

Whatever core belief of insecurity that is holding you back is only getting stronger. How do you envision yourself meeting a partner if you can't build sexual chemistry in a natural setting. My advice would be not not to completely stop seeing escorts, you're a bloke and blokes need sex. But you must start cultivating more confidence within yourself and start challenging your insecurities. Just start with something small, give a random woman a compliment, get yourself on tinder and just talk to a few girls, read (Jordan Peterson helped me). Just start somewhere and work your way up because it gets pretty lonely after a while.

[Marmalade]

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[JonasG]

I think 22 is prob a bit young to do it regularly, it's fine that age doing here and there on holiday etc.

I started punting regularly in my late 20s, after a long term relationship ended and I literally wanted a blow out.

Which is the right time imo.

Doing it regularly in your late teens/early 20s is when your sexual experience is beginning, it's fine losing your virginity to a whore no biggie at all.

But regularly your young sexual experiences should be of real sex.

Then come your late 20s/early 30s you can then get into this world of fun. 

[itk]

Started putting myself around 21yo, (early 1990’s) one night it was recommended by a mate to drive past the streets where they stood. Saw loads and some were very pleasing on the eye, after that if a night at clubs failed it’s where we always ended going. Only took a couple of months to realise that it was far easier to walk/drive the RLD and pick which one rather than spends hours trying to pull a woman up a club, and cheaper. Fast forward 25+ years and I’m still doing it.

[smartieshouse]

Started putting myself around 21yo, (early 1990’s) one night it was recommended by a mate to drive past the streets where they stood. Saw loads and some were very pleasing on the eye, after that if a night at clubs failed it’s where we always ended going. Only took a couple of months to realise that it was far easier to walk/drive the RLD and pick which one rather than spends hours trying to pull a woman up a club, and cheaper. Fast forward 25+ years and I’m still doing it.

Sounds similar for me but in Bradford RLD. Went for a "look" with mates, but then nipped back with a view to indulge and did!! Fast forward 20 plus years and still here!:-)

[DOUGLAS56]

Yeah or even worse go back to hers and ask what services she offers and does she charge for extras.

 

[DOUGLAS56]

OP I'm in the exact same boat as you.

I lost my virginity to an EE prozzy in a brothel when I was 16. I found adultwork when I went to uni and have exclusively used it for sex since. I'm 25 now and still have not had sex sober.

I understand it gets quite tempting, everytime you get the urge you have a near unlimited choice of great women to choose from. Hell I've slept with women I don't think I'd ever manage to get in real life. But to answer your question, there is nothing 'seriously wrong with you' but it is not healthy and you are most likely making matters worse for yourself.

You've mentioned you are shy, and I'm the same, I have deep feelings of resentment towards myself and find it difficult to look in the mirror. In my mind I hate myself and woman could only ever see flaws in me. This is in spite of the fact I know I relatively charming, alright looking and have no trouble holding an arms length conversation with a girl. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with large appetite for paid sex but the devil is in the detail. You have started your sex life with paid sex, alright thats fine. However, you've also said your shy and struggle around women in a more natural setting, this has become your go to for sex. Each time you visit an escort your normalising this as a response. You might learn the nature of the female anatomy through this and have a lot fun, but no matter how good the GFE provided you are not learning the finer nausces of women. It lacks real emotion.

Whatever core belief of insecurity that is holding you back is only getting stronger. How do you envision yourself meeting a partner if you can't build sexual chemistry in a natural setting. My advice would be not not to completely stop seeing escorts, you're a bloke and blokes need sex. But you must start cultivating more confidence within yourself and start challenging your insecurities. Just start with something small, give a random woman a compliment, get yourself on tinder and just talk to a few girls, read (Jordan Peterson helped me). Just start somewhere and work your way up because it gets pretty lonely after a while.

Well written 

[horsa]

OP I'm in the exact same boat as you.

I lost my virginity to an EE prozzy in a brothel when I was 16. I found adultwork when I went to uni and have exclusively used it for sex since. I'm 25 now and still have not had sex sober.

I understand it gets quite tempting, everytime you get the urge you have a near unlimited choice of great women to choose from. Hell I've slept with women I don't think I'd ever manage to get in real life. But to answer your question, there is nothing 'seriously wrong with you' but it is not healthy and you are most likely making matters worse for yourself.

You've mentioned you are shy, and I'm the same, I have deep feelings of resentment towards myself and find it difficult to look in the mirror. In my mind I hate myself and woman could only ever see flaws in me. This is in spite of the fact I know I relatively charming, alright looking and have no trouble holding an arms length conversation with a girl. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with large appetite for paid sex but the devil is in the detail. You have started your sex life with paid sex, alright thats fine. However, you've also said your shy and struggle around women in a more natural setting, this has become your go to for sex. Each time you visit an escort your normalising this as a response. You might learn the nature of the female anatomy through this and have a lot fun, but no matter how good the GFE provided you are not learning the finer nausces of women. It lacks real emotion.

Whatever core belief of insecurity that is holding you back is only getting stronger. How do you envision yourself meeting a partner if you can't build sexual chemistry in a natural setting. My advice would be not not to completely stop seeing escorts, you're a bloke and blokes need sex. But you must start cultivating more confidence within yourself and start challenging your insecurities. Just start with something small, give a random woman a compliment, get yourself on tinder and just talk to a few girls, read (Jordan Peterson helped me). Just start somewhere and work your way up because it gets pretty lonely after a while.

do you want him to stop shagging WG's and start shagging civilian girls on tinder??

[jhon9697]

OP I'm in the exact same boat as you.

I lost my virginity to an EE prozzy in a brothel when I was 16. I found adultwork when I went to uni and have exclusively used it for sex since. I'm 25 now and still have not had sex sober.

I understand it gets quite tempting, everytime you get the urge you have a near unlimited choice of great women to choose from. Hell I've slept with women I don't think I'd ever manage to get in real life. But to answer your question, there is nothing 'seriously wrong with you' but it is not healthy and you are most likely making matters worse for yourself.

You've mentioned you are shy, and I'm the same, I have deep feelings of resentment towards myself and find it difficult to look in the mirror. In my mind I hate myself and woman could only ever see flaws in me. This is in spite of the fact I know I relatively charming, alright looking and have no trouble holding an arms length conversation with a girl. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with large appetite for paid sex but the devil is in the detail. You have started your sex life with paid sex, alright thats fine. However, you've also said your shy and struggle around women in a more natural setting, this has become your go to for sex. Each time you visit an escort your normalising this as a response. You might learn the nature of the female anatomy through this and have a lot fun, but no matter how good the GFE provided you are not learning the finer nausces of women. It lacks real emotion.

Whatever core belief of insecurity that is holding you back is only getting stronger. How do you envision yourself meeting a partner if you can't build sexual chemistry in a natural setting. My advice would be not not to completely stop seeing escorts, you're a bloke and blokes need sex. But you must start cultivating more confidence within yourself and start challenging your insecurities. Just start with something small, give a random woman a compliment, get yourself on tinder and just talk to a few girls, read (Jordan Peterson helped me). Just start somewhere and work your way up because it gets pretty lonely after a while.

Thank you for writing this mate. Finally a well written answer I was seeking 

At this young age, love is something that comes naturally. It's true for sexual desires you might turn to escorts but making it regular is certainly something not to boast or be proud of. A big part of sex is connecting with your partner, pleasing the person you love and expressing trust in each other. And that's what concerns me as I'm too shy to ask a girl out or even kiss a girl. I go clubbing and most of the times it is me standing at the corner while my friends get laid. I get tongue locked talking to girls I like. I never had a relationship either. I was madly in love with a girl for years who 'best friend zoned' me, leaving me all devastated :'(

Personally I don't like paying for it mainly because most escorts are in adult industry purely for money and deep inside I can tell that they are not happy to do this and try to fake their happiness. I mean obviously if my mother or sister becomes an escort, it's certainly not something I would be proud of. I have decided to give up this hobby.

I don't understand why people are posting harsh comments? Apart of few replies, most of you all don't seem to have any emotions or feelings x

[PhelTGrik]

An apparent lack of emotions and feelings is to be expected in a forum mainly populated by men.

A lack of punctuating sentences with 'x' is also common amongst males.

[magnetico]

I've got a gut feeling about a troll/fantasist/mumsnet invader. I hope I'm wrong.