A mate of mine caught punting

[MJ.spritzen]

I get home and my missus says “Can you believe the shit storm X has caused?!”. I had no idea but apparently she and her mates are in a WhatsApp group which includes my mates wife. He confided to another friend (female) that he and his wife have been going through a rough patch and he’s depressed and has been seeing escorts every couple of months for about a year. The friend was (so he tells me) very sympathetic and understanding then days later told his wife!
His wife has left him and taken the kids while everyone in the chat group are vilifying him making accusations that seeing an escort is basically rape, how no one does prostitution by choice and at least one of them suggesting that she bets they’re underage(?!?!). I’ve stayed out of it but had to interject there. I said that’s a very serious accusation and not to be thrown about carelessly.
Later it turned out she’d found pictures on his phone. I don’t know what of, him doing a prozzy? Adult Work screenshots? Regular porn? Needless to say, he feels his life is ruined and has spoke to me about it. Blaming his sexless marriage. I’m not getting involved. He doesn’t know I punt too.

Let this be a lesson. Don’t tell any fucker you punt. Not your mates, not even god in your prayers.

[SamOmar]

Yes that's true, I don't know what he was expecting.

He discussed his miserable state of affairs at home with his friend and now is further depressed that his wife has found out. I think the problem here is not punting but much deeper. It is no secret to my close female friends and even my family that I punt, just something people have accepted about me. Probably why I am only in the permanent friend zone with these ladies rather than something more.

[PumpDump]

Self sabotaging activity. Sub-consciously he probably wanted to be caught so he could get out of his shitty marriage. He just didn't have the balls to break up.

[FiveKnuckles]

OP you mate could very well be a member here and reads this thread.    busted?

[geostorm1]

She's not much of a friend if she exposes him to his wife like that?

[NotATrumpFan]

She's not much of a friend if she exposes him to his wife like that?

This is what i was thinking.  But he was a bit dumb telling a woman at all, friend or not. Telling a civvie is almost always going to backfire unless you have managed to confidently sound out their views on punting before hand. 

A male friend is still a risk, but much less so. Unless he is particularly close to your missus (like he was her friend first or her work colleague) hes likely to take your side and keep your confidence, but then he might talk to his mates / partner and it could leak that way.

Basically keep your bragging to anonymous online posting.

[tp69]

OP - If anyone in their whatsapp group ends up on this site and reads your post, it would be very easy to identify you. Your post is very specific. As mentioned above, your mate is also fairly likely to read your post given his hobby.

Might be worth asking an admin if you can edit your post, if such a thing is allowed/possible.

[tp69]

She's not much of a friend if she exposes him to his wife like that?

I'd imagine that revelation would test many a friendship. Very risky considering his circumstance.

[Colston36]

This is what i was thinking.  But he was a bit dumb telling a woman at all, friend or not. Telling a civvie is almost always going to backfire unless you have managed to confidently sound out their views on punting before hand. 

A male friend is still a risk, but much less so. Unless he is particularly close to your missus (like he was her friend first or her work colleague) hes likely to take your side and keep your confidence, but then he might talk to his mates / partner and it could leak that way.

Basically keep your bragging to anonymous online posting.

If I understand correctly he had a sexless marriage, which is a pain. The sufferers will be the children, as usual. I still feel guilty about that - even though my ""kids" are now all either at or over 60 and we stayed very close.

The temptation to blab to people is astonishing. I still can't believe I told my third wife's brother I was playing around. Mind you, I look back in astonishment at so many stupid things I've done"

[stevedave]

I can only echo what a couple of people have said - you're in danger of outing yourself here OP.

It only takes on of the WhatsApp group to do some research and they're here. Mumsnet are probably having a field day too.

[Dipper]

Self sabotaging activity. Sub-consciously he probably wanted to be caught so he could get out of his shitty marriage. He just didn't have the balls to break up.

This is a very interesting theory.

[SeekingSteve]

I can only echo what a couple of people have said - you're in danger of outing yourself here OP.

It only takes on of the WhatsApp group to do some research and they're here. Mumsnet are probably having a field day too.

I can almost hear the high pitched shrill from here 
As for this thread, mods, do the OP a solid and delete this before his life is outed and ruined too 

[Doc Holliday]

OP you mate could very well be a member here and reads this thread.    busted?

Don't need to be a member. The thread is publicly viewable by anyone.

[Followyourdick]

The only people who know I punt are you lot but you don’t know me, as others have said the OP has made himself pretty easily identifiable with this thread.

[Slow grinder]

I've been punting for approx 40 yrs and I would have loved, would love to sit and have a pint with a fellow punter, chatting and swapping stories about my hobby Punting.... but because of the judgmental closed minds of our population I can't. But never ever have I wanted to talk to a female about it.

[Tender.french.kiss]

Self sabotaging activity. Sub-consciously he probably wanted to be caught so he could get out of his shitty marriage. He just didn't have the balls to break up.

+1

This is a very interesting theory.

Yep, read something about it in a sort of psychological study, many many years ago

[LLPunting]

OP, I hope your missus approves of your punting, do drop an update in when the shit hits the fan in your home.  Given your slight anonymity the shit will probably be hitting the fan in all the homes tagged by the WhatsApp group.  Oh to be a divorce lawyer...

[hunkybc]

I can't but help feel that you fooked up by creating this post.
Its too easy to link you to the punter with the detail you posted. It's not that long ago this happened to someone else on here!!

[datwabbit]

Basically keep your bragging to anonymous online posting.

On a regular basis, I go to confession and tell the priest of my adultery and fornication.

I'm not after absolution, it just feels great to tell someone.

[Followyourdick]

On a regular basis, I go to confession and tell the priest of my adultery and fornication.

I'm not after absolution, it just feels great to tell someone.

He’s quite likely a member on here!!

[datwabbit]

I've been punting for approx 40 yrs and I would have loved, would love to sit and have a pint with a fellow punter, chatting and swapping stories about my hobby Punting.... but because of the judgmental closed minds of our population I can't.

A lot less time punting than you but +1

I think the problem is willy waving. This being a review site reminds us that if we pay the same then we generally get the same deal. However, such as sugar daddy, it's not that straightforward and guys can willy wave. This site clamped down on it.

I certainly think sharing stories of past great punts is something because I think it's good for the talker to do, just like sharing any good story. The listener should also be willing to listen to. We are social creatures after all.

[Punterperson1971]

He’s quite likely a member on here!!

Who the priest ?

[Followyourdick]

Who the priest ?

Yes.
It was meant to be a joke!

[LLPunting]

On a regular basis, I go to confession and tell the priest of my adultery and fornication.

I'm not after absolution, it just feels great to tell someone.

If ever I did that I'd be likely to share the telephone number and address too, in case he felt the urge to save her desperate soul.

[lamboman]

I'd never speak to anybody about my punting and don't ever feel the need to,strange thing to do.

[shed]

I'd never speak to anybody about my punting and don't ever feel the need to,strange thing to do.

Same here. Keep my punting activities totally private. Rule is never ever discuss with another human being, family member or close friends. Otherwise eventually you will be found out.

[Mr Sinister]

1. He fucked up by telling a female, what was he expecting? For her to be really sympathetic? He would have had a better chance making a pass at her, Idiot

2. Never keep the dirt out open on your devices gentlemen, put them in a folder which is hidden away on your phone and is encrypted. Or store them in the cloud and do the same.

3.Yes stay well out of it, don't get involved.

The only friends who know I punt are the ones I've punted with and got up to all sorts on lads holidays. But I don't discuss any recent punting activity with them at all.

[nodrah]

I get home and my missus says “Can you believe the shit storm X has caused?!”. I had no idea but apparently she and her mates are in a WhatsApp group which includes my mates wife. He confided to another friend (female) that he and his wife have been going through a rough patch and he’s depressed and has been seeing escorts every couple of months for about a year. The friend was (so he tells me) very sympathetic and understanding then days later told his wife!
His wife has left him and taken the kids while everyone in the chat group are vilifying him making accusations that seeing an escort is basically rape, how no one does prostitution by choice and at least one of them suggesting that she bets they’re underage(?!?!). I’ve stayed out of it but had to interject there. I said that’s a very serious accusation and not to be thrown about carelessly.
Later it turned out she’d found pictures on his phone. I don’t know what of, him doing a prozzy? Adult Work screenshots? Regular porn? Needless to say, he feels his life is ruined and has spoke to me about it. Blaming his sexless marriage. I’m not getting involved. He doesn’t know I punt too.

Let this be a lesson. Don’t tell any fucker you punt. Not your mates, not even god in your prayers.

... and certainly not on UKP with enough detail in your anecdote to make yourself identifiable to anyone reading it ... so if you know someone whose mate has just had his wife leave him after he was caught punting after he had confided in a female friend ... shhhhh, enough said, keep it to yourself.

[Thephoenix]

I've been punting for approx 40 yrs and I would have loved, would love to sit and have a pint with a fellow punter, chatting and swapping stories about my hobby Punting.... but because of the judgmental closed minds of our population I can't. But never ever have I wanted to talk to a female about it.

Thank goodness that's what this site's for.
I wouldn't dream of telling ANYONE.
Some mentioned going on punting holidays with mate!.....not on your Nelly!
Friends fall out.
Unfortunately because of how our hobby is viewed outside our circle, it's definitely a case of....

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[Mr Sinister]

Thank goodness that's what this site's for.
I wouldn't dream of telling ANYONE.
Some mentioned going on punting holidays with mate!.....not on your Nelly!
Friends fall out.

These are my closest mates all levelled headed, most now married with kids and all. We've done the dirt(not all exclusive to punting) for years, lads will be lads on holidays. We are beyond the point of falling out, stabbing each other in the back or someone spewing their dark secrets to the wife there is no benefits to come out of it. I simply have no worries whatsoever about my dirt being spewed by them.

[tp69]

For the sake of the OP, this post really needs deleting sharpish. As he hasn’t replied he probably doesn’t have access atm. Someone save him. The post will be copied and spread across places like Mumsnet for posterity.

[alabama1]

For the sake of the OP, this post really needs deleting sharpish. As he hasn’t replied he probably doesn’t have access atm. Someone save him. The post will be copied and spread across places like Mumsnet for posterity.

I may be wrong, but i thought it was impossible to delete a post. 

[tp69]

I may be wrong, but i thought it was impossible to delete a post. 

In that case, perhaps someone could edit the post and remove all the specific detail. Considering his extensive punting reviews and home situation, it could create a horrible situation.

[TDAF79]

Jesus that sounds like he's either dumb AF or, as previously mentioned, unconscious self sabotage. I was at a party recently and a single mate confessed to a group of guys and girls he punted for the first time that weekend and he got absolutely rinsed. The women in particular went for his jugular and he was single. No way I'd say a word to anyone before that but that evening hammered home the point.

[lillythesavage]

I may be wrong, but i thought it was impossible to delete a post. 

Not impossible it does happen with good reason, but it is also a good way to make you think before you post, which the Op seems to have neglected. Best he asks the question.

[PumpDump]

I would never tell anyone even close friends. Friends get girlfriends, get married and fall in to the "we have no secrets" scam. They tell their girlfriends everything including all the things their mates say and do which includes YOUR punting.

[hunkybc]

These type of posts always raise my suspicions. The OP hasn't been online for a good few hours now.

[myothernameis]

OP you mate could very well be a member here and reads this thread.    busted?

If he a member on here, he very unlikely to say, its him, but its what he does next, does he expose you to your wife, and left her know you see escorts as well

[myothernameis]

OP - If anyone in their whatsapp group ends up on this site and reads your post, it would be very easy to identify you. Your post is very specific. As mentioned above, your mate is also fairly likely to read your post given his hobby.

Might be worth asking an admin if you can edit your post, if such a thing is allowed/possible.

9 Post deletion
Not possible unless you accidentally include too much personal info.

No real personal details in thread, but the only ones who can make a connection, would be the op, and the op mate if he a member on her

[Atrueyorkie]

9 Post deletion
Not possible unless you accidentally include too much personal info.

No real personal details in thread, but the only ones who can make a connection, would be the op, and the op mate if he a member on her

So he just needs to overload the post with personal details to get it deleted? Sounds like a good loophole

[GingerNuts]

So he just needs to overload the post with personal details to get it deleted? Sounds like a good loophole

He can't overload a post he's already made. Making another post would potentially only get that post removed, not the whole thread.

[daviemac]

So he just needs to overload the post with personal details to get it deleted? Sounds like a good loophole

No, he'll get it edited to remove what's personal and a 7 day ban. Same goes for anyone trying to circumvent the rules, though the ban could be permanent in some cases.

[SeekingSteve]

Well, I guess the only thing to do then.
Beers in the fridge, popcorn on standby and wait for the inevitable 

[MJ.spritzen]

Don’t worry guys, the details were slightly modified before posting to avoid such a circumstance. But thanks for looking out for me.

[LLPunting]

Don’t worry guys, the details were slightly modified before posting to avoid such a circumstance. But thanks for looking out for me.

There's not much you could modify for this story not to be fiction as the key points make for very specific circumstances.

[lamboman]

There's not much you could modify for this story not to be fiction as the key points make for very specific circumstances.

Surely the OP is in a better position to say that.

[alabama1]

There's not much you could modify for this story not to be fiction as the key points make for very specific circumstances.

Perhaps he changed this bit, maybe it was only once a month really... has been seeing escorts every couple of months for about a year.

[tp69]

There's not much you could modify for this story not to be fiction as the key points make for very specific circumstances.

I tend to agree. There’s a level of detail present that seems way too much. But if OP is happy then great.

Could probably be summarised as “A mate confided in a female friend who then told his wife and his marriage has fallen apart”. Any detail beyond that seems dangerous.

The issue is also that if you’re discovered via UKP, the extent of your hobby is fully exposed.

[JPin]

I would never tell anyone even close friends. Friends get girlfriends, get married and fall in to the "we have no secrets" scam. They tell their girlfriends everything including all the things their mates say and do which includes YOUR punting.

100% and I was deliberating whether to tell my best mate a month or so ago and we nearly met up to have "the chat", but we both ended up too busy. In that time I had a rethink and decided I'm taking this to the grave with me. I'm single but any kind of "outing" would be too damaging.

It's a shame, I'd love to be able to chat to my mates about it... All the madness and fun I've experienced, but I just think it's too salacious for any of them to be able to contain themselves.

To the grave it is....

[Colston36]

100% and I was deliberating whether to tell my best mate a month or so ago and we nearly met up to have "the chat", but we both ended up too busy. In that time I had a rethink and decided I'm taking this to the grave with me. I'm single but any kind of "outing" would be too damaging.

It's a shame, I'd love to be able to chat to my mates about it... All the madness and fun I've experienced, but I just think it's too salacious for any of them to be able to contain themselves.

To the grave it is....

Funny how people differ. Lots of friends and family know what I get up to though not the fine details and not my prissy elder daughter. Never been secretive. Maybe runs in the family which was unconventional .My mother once said of my father "George loved the ladies and the ladies loved him."