28yo virgin seriously considering hiring an escort

[Marmalade]

After dissapointing encounters at Uni with civvies and a period of disability I got into this. I admit its not quite the same as being a virgin but I tell you my experience was definitely lacking.

I started with a crap punt (my fault) but since then I have enjoyed myself. The girls have been great, the services great and frankly I'm more relaxed (once settled that is) than trying to chat up birds at the local and then have to "perform." They've seen it all, they've done it all and at the end of the day they aren't expecting more from you than to give them their cash, be a decent guy and enjoy their company/services. If you turn out to be some sort of stallion in the sack all the better.

If you are emotionally invested in your "first time" then maybe hold out for somebody "special" but if your wanting to get your end away then find somebody well reviewed, you like the look of and jump that hurdle.

Sex is stupid but fun, it's not as big a deal as its made out to be.

Sounds sensible. One other minor point: As a virgin, a man relies a lot on watching porn even to know what to do. But porn is not very realistic. Wrong perhaps, but in our culture the woman is excused for not knowing what to do, whereas the man, without being a 'slut' is expected to 'know'. This is not a scientific set of circumstances for success.

Another thing is that it can feel awkward asking civvies for advice. Or worse still, she bases any such advice on her own limited experience. I realised after my first long relationship that I still knew not that much about sex, including how to approach a woman in bed or before that (to get her in bed). The second woman I fucked had done the rounds with several friends. She was a bit taken aback that I asked her advice as I nervously got in bed with her, but she was fucking brilliant. I don't mean sh was the greatest fuck on earth for me but within minutes she had shown me how to slow my breathing and tune into hers, get in her bodily wavelength.

My first prossie was an incall and after seeing her a few times asked her advice on how to masturbate a woman and how to lick a woman's cunt. She was a bit shocked at the question but delighted to include her advice, for what it was worth, in the session booking.

The easiest way to pick up civvies is to have a job that does all the desirability-portrayal for you, The next best (and the only one of the 'players' I can recommend) is to download some courses on sound files by Ross Jeffries from some file-sharing site if you have the ability to do that. (He's a bit past it these days and charges incredibly ridiculous amounts for his workshops and his books are overpriced, the tapes are better, and they use conscious cognitive psychology.)

Good luck. Don't let it become an obsession./

[Bangers and Gash]

Like the others have said: Just do it. You could be dead this time next year.

Unfortunately, I mulled it over couple of years before ditching civvies and getting stuck into punting. All that wasted time  , although back then there was no UKP, just pro$$ie run forums filled with fake reviews and bullshit topics about overnighters and expensive gifts. You got no excuse.

[stillpunting]

Hi guys,

I'm a 28 year old male, fairly confident good job and good people around me. But for some reason it just hasn't happened for me yet. I've dated a few girls over the years but never led to anything special. I've now reached a point where I think I'm prepared to pay to get laid but am still conflicted by whether it's the right thing to do.

I've been browsing around and there are plenty of WG around my region who I'd just love to spend an hour with and get my freak on but at the same time I can't help but think it's wrong and unnatural.

What do you guys reckon?
Cheers

“ I've dated a few girls over the years but never led to anything special.”

You have to made it happen. Do you expect a girl to take the lead? They are looking to you to make a move, if you got close to any girl  and got nowhere, down to you for not taking the initiative.

If you are worried about how to “do it” then book a wg for 30 minutes. You will find it one of the most natural and enjoyable things you have ever done. Good luck.
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[stokiemike]

My advice - do it.

There are so many sexy young wg's out there just waiting for you to pay them and fuck them.

I've had some great sex with wg's from early 20's to mid 50's.

Just choose one with some reviews and do it.

SM

[bod666]

I eventually lost my virginity in my early 20s to the office bike, she was an older very experienced woman which helped make it a good memorable time (for me).  I'm not sure of the wisdom of seeing an escort to lose the v. You could be way overexcited, spurt first time she touches you then not be able to get it up again in the time. Or you could find out you are a sexual god 

There's also the slight risk that when you do get with a civvy you end up talking about your respective first times, so you'll need to remember not to add in the bit about paying her 

[Belisknor]

Like some have said already there is far to much pressure on your first time and usually it ends up being a huge let down. Just pick a well reviewed girl and go have some fun she won't expect you to be a sex god !!! Just make sure your clean and friendly and your be fine and with there experience  can give you some very good tips on how to perform.

Noticed that Elicia Solis is in Nottingham next week though losing your virginity to a porn star escort probably isn't the ideal first choice.

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[BarryProudfoot]

Hi guys,

I'm a 28 year old male, fairly confident good job and good people around me. But for some reason it just hasn't happened for me yet. I've dated a few girls over the years but never led to anything special. I've now reached a point where I think I'm prepared to pay to get laid but am still conflicted by whether it's the right thing to do.

I've been browsing around and there are plenty of WG around my region who I'd just love to spend an hour with and get my freak on but at the same time I can't help but think it's wrong and unnatural.

What do you guys reckon?
Cheers

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I'm a punting virgin. My advice to you is when you're ready, throw the kitchen sink at it. That's what i'll be doing

[rathbone]

Assuming the OP's post is genuine, there's lots of good advice.  It's probably best not to ask the opinion of the internet as to whether or not you should hire an escort: I guess you've been thinking about it for a long time, so you'll know yourself when you're ready to lose your virginity.  As others have said, do your research on Adultwork and on here, draw up a little list, then have a calm think before you send a polite email to an escort you fancy seeing. 

[Belisknor]

Get on with it my son once you've lost that virgin tag your be a far happier man.

[cigano8]

Stop calling it "getting my freak on" and it will probably happen for you! 

I reckon it might be good to get it out the way and you'll probably feel better about yourself for it and exude more confidence then you'll meet someone in no time.

And speaking from experience Christmas time is great for pulling!

[Muffdiver39]

I can't wait for your first review

[howrude]

If nothing has happened for you after all this time, then don't forsake real-life dating. But while you're  ot commited, don't worry about the right or wrong of seeing a WG, as long as you keep it to yourself. Don't take it too seriously, get your nob out and have yourself some fun. It's what i did and it's been truly amazing. Left to my own devices, I don't feel ashamed but i keep it to myself because of the whole social stigma. And as long as I had a good time, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as they probably won't find out. You might feel ashamed but only you neet to know.

[Naitch88]

If nothing has happened for you after all this time, then don't forsake real-life dating. But while you're  ot commited, don't worry about the right or wrong of seeing a WG, as long as you keep it to yourself. Don't take it too seriously, get your nob out and have yourself some fun. It's what i did and it's been truly amazing. Left to my own devices, I don't feel ashamed but i keep it to myself because of the whole social stigma. And as long as I had a good time, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as they probably won't find out. You might feel ashamed but only you neet to know.

The way things stand, I'm heading down this route. I just think fuck it I want to do it and and I'll kept it to myself as it's nobody else's business. Thanks for all the help guys, I'm still searching for the right girl but will definitely review when I'm done!

[Marmalade]

The way things stand, I'm heading down this route. I just think fuck it I want to do it and and I'll kept it to myself as it's nobody else's business. Thanks for all the help guys, I'm still searching for the right girl but will definitely review when I'm done!

Honestly mate, they're all more or less the same.

[Naitch88]

Honestly mate, they're all more or less the same.

Lol I know what you're saying, but I have this urge to get with a gym toned big-chested broad, and so far have narrowed this down to CamillaRaine or Faye21.

[turkmanstan]

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[NIK]

Lol I know what you're saying, but I have this urge to get with a gym toned big-chested broad, and so far have narrowed this down to CamillaRaine or Faye21.

If you are 28 why do you write like an American or a teenager?

What's all this 'lol','heading down that route', 'I guess', 'broad', 'hiring an escort' (they are prossies, not cars  ), etc?

Don't know about others but my radar is twitching on this one.

[Marmalade]

Maybe using left hand. Not sure if it will work yet. Checking out PGs of 'potentials' ...

[Naitch88]

If you are 28 why do you write like an American or a teenager?

What's all this 'lol','heading down that route', 'I guess', 'broad', 'hiring an escort' (they are prossies, not cars  ), etc?

Don't know about others but my radar is twitching on this one.

Not really sure what to tell you here mate, I listen to a lot of rap music if that eases your radar?

[Wilson85]

I lost my virginity at 28 to a prossie. Go for it I'd say.

Choose carefully, it probably won't go as you imagine it would. And have another prossie lined up soon after your first. You don't want to get too emotionally tied up. It's addictive and costly.

I still see the prossie I popped my cherry with, really was lucky with her as I've had some awful punts since.

[JV547845]

Don't know about others but my radar is twitching on this one.

You've said the same before about me.  Maybe you're just out of touch and should cut new younger members some slack?

[Marmalade]

You've said the same before about me.  Maybe you're just out of touch and should cut new younger members some slack?

For someone to say "my radar's twitching" is hardly beating a newbie to death in a Game of Thrones blood-spattered orgy of vicious troll-baiting, is it???

[NIK]

You've said the same before about me.  Maybe you're just out of touch and should cut new younger members some slack?

Maybe so, I don't claim to get it right every time, but since we began on here I firmly believe I have been right about trolls more than I have been wrong.
Regardless of that I still get a feeling that the op's first punt somehow won't happen.
I hope I am wrong!

[MilleMiglia]

Maybe so, I don't claim to get it right every time, but since we began on here I firmly believe I have been right about trolls more than I have been wrong.
Regardless of that I still get a feeling that the op's first punt somehow won't happen.
I hope I am wrong!

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The older I get, the more I believe this one.

[Juilius_Sneezer]

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The older I get, the more I believe this one.

Always stood by that instinct is there for a reason. Your brain knows more than you think it does.

It has stood me well with exams, work, life, driving...too bad I don't have the same instincts with women! 

[jackjones10472]

your heart is racing
the first punt is the get over it point
unsure what to expect obviously the sex
Be sure the lady you want to see is legit read her details peoples feedback and look her up on here if possible
After that your hooked if your first time with a escort is amazing 

[JV547845]

I firmly believe I have been right about trolls more than I have been wrong.

If someone you suspect is a troll isn't getting anyone riled up and angry, and if there might be genuine people out there wondering about the same question, then is it really worth putting off potential new members just because:


you don't like the way they write?

[Marmalade]

If someone you suspect is a troll isn't getting anyone riled up and angry, and if there might be genuine people out there wondering about the same question, then is it really worth putting off potential new members just because:

you don't like the way they write?

Softy bollocks IMO. There's plenty of sites that cosset every fucking troll. It is only by being slightly skeptical when alarm bells go off that this site thins them down.
    "28 yr old virgin seriously thinking about fucking a prostitute" 
is a pretty standard troll line, and if in the very unlikely event that the less-than believable prick is actually a man rather than a troll, a schoolboy, or a fucking blouse, then he might also be man enough to stand up for himself, at least perhaps by fucking a prostitute, as that's his stated intention, and as an indication that he is a punter and should be on here rather than mumsnet. It's several days and 'he' is still 'thinking about it.'

So he got some 'encouragement' and has done fuck all with it. It's a punters' forum, not a prossie dusty=phone recruitment drive. You survived but now you want to whiteknight wet blouse wooses, I mean ffs man. And Nik (who in case you forget created the site with blood sweat and tears) said was that his radar twiched. Perhaps you'd like us all to take a valium and welcome all the toss-pots and prossie-pets from cunternet?

Or you could PM him with a handkerchief? Maybe he's doing an article for the Daily Knockoff to expose how 'evil perverts' of some site 'encourage young men' into corrupting innocent shagged out fucking whores?? 

[JV547845]

Or, maybe, just maybe, you over angry fucktards can just ignore the trolls?

[NIK]

If someone you suspect is a troll isn't getting anyone riled up and angry, and if there might be genuine people out there wondering about the same question, then is it really worth putting off potential new members just because:


you don't like the way they write?

Well having just looked through the op's recent posts I dislike even more the way he writes. He comes over as if he is 14, and I increasingly think he has little genuine intention of 'hiring an escort.'

I notice you joined in 2014, therefore perhaps you are unaware of the amount of bollocks we have been subjected to from jokers since we began in 2010.

[Naitch88]

FYI, I'm not still thinking about it - I'm going to do it, just trying to find the right one to do it with.

[NIK]

FYI, I'm not still thinking about it - I'm going to do it, just trying to find the right one to do it with.

Good.
It's already become an epic. 

[Clexy]

As someone who had pretty much the same mindset as you when I started (albeit I was younger than 28):

 I blame Hollywood for putting pressure on people by making the "first time" out to be some magical disney experience.

Good point. My first time was memorable only because it was the first time as it was hers. My first escort experience was, in sexual fulfillment terms, much more memorable. There are plenty of nice escorts who would probably get a thrill from taking your cherry.

[Sufaking]

The OP has decided now but I thought I'd share this with any lurkers who are also anxious about doing it, thinking it's wrong or immoral.

Listen, you might want to get laid like all your friends by hooking up with some girl on Tinder, fucking her once and then leaving. Is that moral because you're not paying for it? All cultures and religions are against promiscuous behaviour and going with someone for a one night stand is exactly that.

Alternatively you meet a girl at a bar, pay for her drinks, pay for the cab back to hers or yours and she now fucks you in thanks and also because she wants to get her leg over too but didn't want to go with a cheapskate. Still promiscuous and she's potentially the type of girl who fucks any guy her age when slightly tipsy/drunk, in other words she's a slut. You might not be fucking a escort but you're still doing it with someone who has tasted loads of dicks.

Many men have no gripes getting sex this way (I've done it this way and all my friends do it this way) and what's more, we've arrived at a point in society where you can have multiple one night stands with even your parents knowing, yet no one will care.

If you wouldn't do a one night stand, you probably won't hire a prostitute. Find a partner, as that's clearly what you want. If you're against sex without commitment then it won't make you happy when you do it and you'll end up feeling even worse.

Seriously, being a virgin isn't a bad thing. If having sex isn't constantly on your mind and you more or less want to do it just so you reach that milestone of "popping the cherry" I personally wouldn't bother.

Paying for an escort is just a means to an end if you want sex. If she's not trafficked then it's all fine. Sex is normally a given with an escort (unless she's having a bad day or you turn up smelling and unhygienic then she could refuse) and you know it's going to be better than the quickie you get from some slut on Tinder or the bar.

This is the reason I see escorts. I've hooked up with some average people on Tinder and the sex was bad. What's more, there's BS involved with getting to know the person and flirting with them. I don't have time for that, I'm happy to skip the games and pay someone for fun every one month or few months. Alternatively I'd be wasting £100 up the west end clubbing with no promise of sex at the end of it.

For £100 I can get good sex with a girl out of my league, sure we're not emotionally connected but are you with one night stands?  No, what's more, I choose wisely (thanks to the guys on here) and end up having a good laugh with the escorts I see (I personally don't like ones that are straight to sex or can't speak English)  thanks to their interesting personalities. Another £20 and I can get a meal on the way home along with a bottle of Jack Daniels. I end up having more fun than I would in central London.

In the end, it seems many westerners are hung up on our Christian morality heritage. Just a reminder, having sex with more than one woman is promiscuous behaviour according to St Paul who said "men should be men of one woman."  Most westerners condemning prostitutes and those that visit them have probably had multiple one night stands or don't oppose them (in fact one of my friends is exactly this, condemning prostitution for reducing women to meat pieces while having, I kid you not, two girlfriends on the go that he later dumped because he got bored of having sex with "the same two pussies"), these people aren't true to their own cultural morality.

In the end, I don't want a relationship right now and I see nothing immoral with visiting an escort (it's not good either, it's a neutral thing like all sex as far as I'm concerned, it's done for personal enjoyment, nothing more).

[NIK]

The OP has decided now

I wouldn't bet on it. 

[Steely Dan]

  No, what's more, I choose wisely (thanks to the guys on here) and end up having a good laugh with the escorts I see ....

Glad the site reviews have helped you.  That is why we write them.  Would encourage you to share some of your experiences, even if with a girl already reviewed. 

[bunny84]

Just go for it mate . It's not as big a deal as u would think

[Goodfellow]

The OP has decided now but I thought I'd share this with any lurkers who are also anxious about doing it, thinking it's wrong or immoral.
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+1, great post

[NIK]

So you still haven't 'hired' your escort yet?
Just one question after another from Scotland to the Midlands. 
You certainly 'look' before you 'leap'.
Then again I might have been the same had all this info been available when I started.
Problem is I would have never got round to starting!

[mf_1101]

I could not see why you wouldn't want to punt unless you are either:

a) Extremely attractive and in great physical condition / good age, so you are able to find girls easily.
b) Morally against it for whatever reason (Religion...etc) - Fair enough, you can be morally against something, just show some tolerance to those who disagree).
c) Don't feel the sexual urgency to justify it.
d) Broke
e) Get enough sex from your relationship already.

I speak only from a person with some punting experience under his belt and confident enough to do this.

If you do your research and go with well reviewed girls, you'll never have an issue.

If you feel any shame from "Society" about the stigma of paying for sex, let's face it it's a tad hypocritical of society to view it this way, considering social conventions from Dating or One Night Stands. It's not Illegal, as long as you pick the right girls, it will always be between two consenting adults and nobody is getting hurt as long as the parties involved stay within agreed parameters.

So if you want to lose your virginity to an Escort, do it - A lot of people have done it - Go in, pay, shag her, enjoy yourself and get dressed/shower and fuck off home, nobody has to know except you and the girl (And us when you do a review of your first punt) 

Otherwise this is a Punting forum, if you're not going to do it, go back to Tinder. 

[JV547845]

If you feel any shame from "Society" about the stigma of paying for sex, let's face it it's a tad hypocritical of society to view it this way, considering social conventions from Dating or One Night Stands. It's not Illegal, as long as you pick the right girls, it will always be between two consenting adults and nobody is getting hurt as long as the parties involved stay within agreed parameters.

That's a good point.  Society is bullshit and morality about punting is just your societal conditioning instilled in you from birth as you grew up,  This is not the punting utopia.  Maybe someday we can create a punter's paradise in England.  Just like in Germany today ;-) 

Treating women with respect (both WGs and civvies) is far more important.  What resolved the moral thing for me, was the Sun publishing pictures of Prince Harry in Las Vegas, after celebrating his deployments to Afghanistan.  They broke Vegas rules.  But also, so what?

If our nation expects them to be willing to die for their country, but Prince Harry or any other service person aren't allowed to have a massive harmless sexual bender in Las Vegas first, then what was the fucking point of their lives exactly?  Since when did we start sending the more puritanical philosophy graduates and religious zealots to the front lines?

And if service people can punt, but not civvies, then what the fuck are they fighting for exactly?

[Marmalade]

So you still haven't 'hired' your escort yet?
Just one question after another from Scotland to the Midlands. 
You certainly 'look' before you 'leap'.
Then again I might have been the same had all this info been available when I started.
Problem is I would have never got round to starting!

I can understand someone having a quick look on a punting forum before their first crack of the whip, but all the standing around chatting makes me suspicious in most (not all) cases. There's another one just now that's "just thinking" of going to the Philippines. I always though the "just thinking" section was called UKE or mumsnet or something ...