I will answer this from a slightly different lens.
I personally know very well, the type of body I desire sexually, I will never get from a civvie (I do not have that game and cba to even explore this). Having said that, I cannot continue this hobby indefintely, given the type of body + service I like comes at a high cost (PSE + PAWG [+MILF]). I still also get a sense of guilt from doing this hobby, given my backgroud.
Furthemore, I do eventually want to actually settle down a bit and lead a "boring life" - but I need to unlearn all these kinks I got (not sure how), because I know civvies just do not have that.
Also, I am not exactly the best looking lad on the pitch, and well below average (which has caused issues on some punts).
I also, do not want to cheat on my potential future partner, as I know if a family unit is established, it will break it (if found out), and the consequences are never great for anyone who goes down that route.