Would you ?

[cheshireknobb]

Would you date a "retired" escort
Would you date a "working" escort

Would you date a "retired"  parlour girl
Would you date a "working" parlour girl

[Re]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.
Yes if you are after some free sex.

[Thephoenix]

Would you date a "retired" escort
Would you date a "working" escort

Would you date a "retired"  parlour girl
Would you date a "working" parlour girl

Would you?

[youngppunter7]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.
Yes if you are after some free sex.

may be free, but youre paying with your time and effort. Punters who are independantly living may have the time and effort to put in, but those with dependants may find it hard to juggle pleasing everyone in a dating aspect. For some people its pay the funds and return to family like it never happened.

[youngppunter7]

Also, if you gain some strong feelings for the woman you are dating, as a man wont you be jealous at all? Imagine she has clients over and asks you to wait for her, then hear everything...

[PaulRuff]

I've got a WG on the side currently, the FOC sex aspect of it isn't to be sniffed at - you've got to keep a tight lid on any 'feels' developing for her though, just remind yourself that for a price she will literally fuck just about ANY guy and therefore is a sweeper/sleeper and not a keeper.

I don't talk about my family life to her, she doesn't talk to me about her work, we only ever meet at hers, if out for dinner/drinks/overnight stays it's well away from where I live...just over 3 years now it's been working fairly well that way.

Go into it with a level head, stick to your well-defined boundaries and there's no reason why you can't enjoy pleasurable sex with someone who's very good at it as & when it suits the two of you.

But I'd NEVER make her my one & only, not with her fucking and sucking random guys to make money...we both accept this fact as well, we'll enjoy it for as long as it lasts...

[Chris1990mcr]

I have dabbled with WG's on the personal front when things have been good and felt natural attraction etc.

For a meal out, drink, whatever great girls, good laugh good company. Can't know the hustle either as they are money makers and can be driven, I quite like that in a girl.

But all have been a bit damaged, not sure if the job draws in the damaged ones or the job does the damage but I wouldn't want to settle build a family unit and raise kids with a WG which is the long term goal.

[RandomGuy99]

Possibly but you have to be able to separate the physical act of having sex from the emotional side of a relationship.  You don't to be getting jealous of your girlfriend shagging other men for money. That's her job.  A tough ask for most men.

[advent2016]

I've had long term arrangements with some SPs. In India I had a lady come in to clean, cook, and iron and shortly after she started staying the night and did everything I wanted. We went out to dinner a few times and visits to historic places, bit like a work wife with benefits. I had the same in Malaysia, Thailand and Phillipines.
Back in England I used to visit the same SP twice a day and later she came to my hotel in the evening, and I'd see her on the way back or home for a session. She started texting me with a shopping list bread, milk, coffee, biscuits etc.

I haven't actually tried to date a retired SP as such, but some of my GFs have been as they've been propositioned with me. Now I go after civvies who can wash, clean, cook, iron and give a passable BJ in exchange for board and lodging. Some have been ex WGs whom all my mates had shagged previously.

I guess I've answered a different question as usual

[youngppunter7]

I've had long term arrangements with some SPs. In India I had a lady come in to clean, cook, and iron and shortly after she started staying the night and did everything I wanted. We went out to dinner a few times and visits to historic places, bit like a work wife with benefits. I had the same in Malaysia, Thailand and Phillipines.
Back in England I used to visit the same SP twice a day and later she came to my hotel in the evening, and I'd see her on the way back or home for a session. She started texting me with a shopping list bread, milk, coffee, biscuits etc.

I haven't actually tried to date a retired SP as such, but some of my GFs have been as they've been propositioned with me. Now I go after civvies who can wash, clean, cook, iron and give a passable BJ in exchange for board and lodging. Some have been ex WGs whom all my mates had shagged previously.

I guess I've answered a different question as usual

Nah your answer is perfect, We get rid of that lonely feeling for them and they also want us to do little bits and bobs for them for eg I once went out for a girl and got her a second phone for her to use for viva street(she gave me the money for it I’m not that crazy)   , it’s hard not to let it get to you but there’s a certain way to think of it. In exchange you get regular free sex. The vital part is NO FEELINGS which not every man can adhere to. It’s very subjective

[Lou2019]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.

Wow

[nightbot]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.
Yes if you are after some free sex.

I suppose punters are damaged goods too then.
Two sides of the same coin and all.

Your comment is misogynistic and you need to be called out on it.

[Lou2019]

I suppose punters are damaged goods too then.
Two sides of the same coin and all.

Your comment is misogynistic and you need to be called out on it.

I doubt Re will comment further if he’s got any sense

[Strawberry]

My reaction was 'no wonder there's stigma', as if SPs are not human beings.

[RandomGuy99]

You'd probably never know if she was a retired SP or not. Well other than the fact that she lives in a castle and drives a ferrari. I would be happy to be a kept man.  We'll probably not as I'd get bored.

Would an SP date a "retired" SS? 

We don't seem to be a particularly loyal bunch, so they'd always suspect we were off shagging someone else. But maybe they'd see shagging as just a physical thing and not let it have an effect on the relationship.  However, they might be disappointed that they're not satisfying you sexually.

[Thephoenix]

But all have been a bit damaged, not sure if the job draws in the damaged ones or the job does the damage but I wouldn't want to settle build a family unit and raise kids with a WG which is the long term goal.

What do you mean by damaged?

These threads always throw up some real generalisations and this is no exception.

Many folk might say that we're the ones who are damaged.

[GorillaWarfare]

I don't think I could do it if she was an active WG. Retired maybe - it's one of those where it would depend on the girl but I suppose that's true of any relationship.

[MerlinGray]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.
Yes if you are after some free sex.

Absolute garbage. I've got kids with an ex WG, separated amicably. End of the day, it was a job. She's not damaged. And the job wasn't the reason we separated, in case you wonder, we just grew apart.

[RandomGuy99]

I suspect most retired SPs don't go around telling everyone that they used to be an SP because it is viewed negatively and they don't want to be judged.

Women decide to become SPs for a variety of reasons. Obviously they do it to make money (and have amazing sex 24x7 with gorgeous looking men). It doesn't mean they're easy or will shag anyone away from the job. They're just able to separate the act of having sex from the emotional side of things when they're working. It's probably quite different when they're in a relationship. They probably avoid having the conversation with new partners. And don't even start on body counts as the first thing they might ask you is do you mean this week or last? But again that's different from personal relationships. They'd consider the sex from the job doesn't really count as it's just an act.

[bigbilly22]

I’m currently in what I’d describe as a FWB relationship with a WG. At first I loved the fact I was getting it for free, then I went through the jealous possessive stage and now we’ve both settled into what is a great friendship that includes shagging.

She knows I still punt occasionally and I know she still works occasionally, though not her main job. We used to talk about it a lot but now it’s just the norm, unless something weird happens.

Ironically, the further you get into the FWB thing the stronger the friendship grows and the attachment to each other starts to get a bit more complicated, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.

For info, we met originally as swingers so we both knew where the other was coming from. 

[Re]

I suppose punters are damaged goods too then.
Two sides of the same coin and all.

Your comment is misogynistic and you need to be called out on it.

Punters who sees hundreds of SP a year ? Any serious woman who wants a serious life relationship should stay away.
But that is ok keep accusing men who do not follow the politically correct mainstream of misogyny, go ahead make all those misandrist feminist proud.

[Re]

I doubt Re will comment further if he’s got any sense

Having sense is taking the red pill and accept reality or you can take the blue pill and live the illusion that having sex with hundreds thousands of different people for years does not affect the ability to bond and keep a long lasting romantic relationship with one single person.

[Thephoenix]

I don't think I could do it if she was an active WG. Retired maybe - it's one of those where it would depend on the girl but I suppose that's true of any relationship.

'It depends!'
That's the key word....for both parties.

There's been many similar threads and the conclusion is always the same.

........It depends!

We're all different and have different backgrounds and needs.
Our attitudes to SPs and women in general will be influenced by our own experiences.

It depends!

[Re]

My reaction was 'no wonder there's stigma', as if SPs are not human beings.

SP and serious punters are not marriage material that does not mean they are not human beings who is creating stigma.

[Lou2019]

Having sense is taking the red pill and accept reality or you can take the blue pill and live the illusion that having sex with hundreds thousands of different people for years does not affect the ability to bond and keep a long lasting romantic relationship with one single person.

It’s not affected my ability to bond and keep a long lasting relationship, so thats blown your theory out the water.

[Lou2019]

SP and serious punters are not marriage material

  if I say anymore than that I’ll get a ban.

[Re]

What do you mean by damaged?

These threads always throw up some real generalisations and this is no exception.

Many folk might say that we're the ones who are damaged.

Emotional inability of a long lasting romantic bond.

[Thephoenix]

Emotional inability of a long lasting romantic bond.

Wow that's quite an assumption.

Would you also assume then that punters who frequently visit WGs just  for sex are incapable of maintaining a long lasting bond?
Many members on here may dispute that.
But that's another subject.

I've met a number of swinger couples who are happily bonded in long term relationships.
Also couples in long term relationships who provide sex services to others, either individually or together.
Many folk seem able to provide, or pay for sex, as a service, a business or commodity without it affecting their ability to bond with others.
Wouldn't you agree?

[lewisjones23]

My story in this field is that I started seeing an agency girl off the books, that then turned in to longer bookings and eventually free shagging

I called it off pretty quickly once I got my head straight as I knew it would be a headfuck

Shame as if I'd met her any other way, things could have turned out great.

Under no circumstances now would I consider dating or being in a relationship with a working or retired WG (assuming she'd been honest and I knew her previous job)

[nightbot]

My story is, well I met her as a client. We became friends, we dated while she was still working, and ended up living together for 2.5 years, she didn't really work in that time, except for a two weeks, but I had no issues with it even if she wanted to continue. It was also my first experience of living with a partner. She's to date the only woman I've deeply loved, and I will always love her. The connection we had, was almost transcendent as if our souls got permanently linked together to some extent. It was quite magical actually as our personalities were a perfect compliment for each other.

Naturally, I had imagined us getting married one day but alas we're no longer together because life went a different way, she went back to her home country to be with family due to health issues. Without her, I'd be less than I am today. She's doing pretty ok now, started a degree, and her health is better. So I wish nothing but the best for her, and I hope she finds someone else who loves her ss much as I do Maybe I'll see her this year when I visit her country. I do miss her somewhat everyday but, I'm showing interest in other people now and going about my life, so hope it works out for me as well.

[PD11]

My story is, well I met her as a client. We became friends, we dated while she was still working, and ended up living together for 2.5 years, she didn't really work in that time, except for a two weeks, but I had no issues with it even if she wanted to continue. It was also my first experience of living with a partner. She's to date the only woman I've deeply loved, and I will always love her. The connection we had, was almost transcendent as if our souls got permanently linked together to some extent. It was quite magical actually as our personalities were a perfect compliment for each other.

Naturally, I had imagined us getting married one day but alas we're no longer together because life went a different way, she went back to her home country to be with family due to health issues. Without her, I'd be less than I am today. She's doing pretty ok now, started a degree, and her health is better. So I wish nothing but the best for her, and I hope she finds someone else who loves her ss much as I do Maybe I'll see her this year when I visit her country. I do miss her somewhat everyday but, I'm showing interest in other people now and going about my life, so hope it works out for me as well.

That’s kinda nice dude. Sometimes a connection is a connection, and regardless of who that person is, or what that person has done, you can’t help but fall for them.

I had an ‘off the clock’ sexual relationship with a brilliant WG a few years back. It felt like the most natural thing in the world when we were together, despite her job. At the time I was juggling a lot of different plates with many different women, but she was my favourite of the lot. If I didn’t have so many distractions I’d have fell very, very hard for her.

[Trafalgarlaw17]

No if you are after a relationship, working or retired these girls are damaged good.
Yes if you are after some free sex.

You are exchanging money to receive service.
You shouldn’t be looking for relationship, everything already is transactional.
If you met her without paying for sex then she may like you who you are, but as soon as you paid for sex she will only see you as a transactional merchant.
She will never respect you, she will sees you as a cash bag, once it’s over she find another person.
They are many stories of people that fell in love with this type of workers and the results are the same.

[Trafalgarlaw17]

if I say anymore than that I’ll get a ban.

No need to get offended, everyone has to the right to voice there opinion.

[finn5555]

SP and serious punters are not marriage material

That is your opinion of course, I am sure there are plenty who have made it work

[Lou2019]

No need to get offended, everyone has to the right to voice there opinion.

And that’s all it is, your opinion, it’s not facts

(By the way it’s their, not there)

[finn5555]

You are exchanging money to receive service.
You shouldn’t be looking for relationship, everything already is transactional.
If you met her without paying for sex then she may like you who you are, but as soon as you paid for sex she will only see you as a transactional merchant.
She will never respect you, she will sees you as a cash bag, once it’s over she find another person.
They are many stories of people that fell in love with this type of workers and the results are the same.

Your as deluded as you was on the Profile red flags thread 

[nightbot]

No need to get offended, everyone has to the right to voice there opinion.

Getting offended is expressing one's opinion too ya know.

[Trafalgarlaw17]

Your as deluded as you was on the Profile red flags thread 

Please elaborate why I’m I deluded, how do you find a person to like you when you are purchasing sex LOL.
What respect will she ever give you?
Please explain I want to hear you

Actually don’t matter, I just read through your profile
Using money to go the unfortunate places in the world so you can take advantage off them,
No way I am debating with someone like that.
Have a nice day

[Lou2019]

Getting offended is expressing one's opinion too ya know.

Where did I say I’m offended?

[nightbot]

Where did I say I’m offended?

I was responding to that other poster who said "no need to get offended, he was just voicing opinion".

If it is one's right to voice opinion then the same holds true for the response to that opinion.

[finn5555]

Please elaborate why I’m I deluded, how do you find a person to like you when you are purchasing sex LOL.
What respect will she ever give you?
Please explain I want to hear you

Actually don’t matter, I just read through your profile
Using money to go the unfortunate places in the world so you can take advantage off them,
No way I am debating with someone like that.
Have a nice day

Feel free to block me  you don't debate by the way you give your opinions there is a difference

[Thephoenix]

Let's hope this one doesn't go to 32 pages like the last one.

Maybe the OP  and others claiming that WGs & punters are incapable of having a long term relationship should read through them with a large box of popcorn.

A large proportion of punters on here are in long term relationships and so are some of our Female members.
If you read through the 32 pages, there are many examples of members having successful relationships with WGs.

Making sweeping generalisations about SPs and punters is pointless.

Don't allow your prejudices to assume all SPs or punters are the same.

Successful relationships come in all shapes and sizes and depend on the people involved whatever their backgrounds.

[Lou2019]

Let's hope this one doesn't go to 32 pages like the last one.

Maybe the OP  and others claiming that WGs & punters are incapable of having a long term relationship should read through them with a large box of popcorn.

A large proportion of punters on here are in long term relationships and so are some of our Female members.
If you read through the 32 pages, there are many examples of members having successful relationships with WGs.

Making sweeping generalisations about SPs and punters is pointless.

Don't allow your prejudices to assume all SPs or punters are the same.

Successful relationships come in all shapes and sizes and depend on the people involved whatever their backgrounds.

 

[finn5555]

Successful relationships come in all shapes and sizes and depend on the people involved whatever their backgrounds.

That sums it up in one sentence 

[Doc Holliday]

Clever thread title "Would you?" ... enticing you to click on it out of curiosity, only to find it's disguising yet another SP/Punter relationship thread 

As Phoenix has posted  .. 'it depends' but as usual many have difficulty accepting that middle ground concept.

[cheshireknobb]

Let's hope this one doesn't go to 32 pages like the last one.

Maybe the OP  and others claiming that WGs & punters are incapable of having a long term relationship should read through them with a large box of popcorn.

Pardon me as the OP Ive not said WGs or punters are incapable of having a long term relationship

i just posed the question

FYI I Whole heartedly believe sex work is WORK If its the providers free choice

Ive had dinner dates with many sex worker off the clock
Ive had social event dates ( paid * unpaid ) with WGS

Ive even dated three WGs one escort who i know for a fact was making double my own income
plus strippers & cyber sex workers

so please don't write what my opinion is until ive wrote it myself
all i did was pose a question

[Blackpool Rock]

Please elaborate why I’m I deluded, how do you find a person to like you when you are purchasing sex LOL.
What respect will she ever give you?
Please explain I want to hear you

Actually don’t matter, I just read through your profile
Using money to go the unfortunate places in the world so you can take advantage off them,
No way I am debating with someone like that.
Have a nice day

What like you went to Leeds from Manchester to punt someone 

If you think that punting is taking advantage of the service provider then why are you doing it yourself but the overriding thing is perhaps this site isn't for you 
If you yourself think it's taking advantage but still do it then by default you personally must surely be doing it to take advantage 

You post like an idiot and not just on this thread, anyway my guess is your time is almost up here but let's let it play out fully eh 

[cheshireknobb]

Clever thread title "Would you?" ... enticing you to click on it out of curiosity, only to find it's disguising yet another SP/Punter relationship thread 

As Phoenix has posted  .. 'it depends' but as usual many have difficulty accepting that middle ground concept.

WOW
But you didnt need to reply

sorry if asking a question upsets you

[Trafalgarlaw17]

What like you went to Leeds from Manchester to punt someone 

If you think that punting is taking advantage of the service provider then why are you doing it yourself but the overriding thing is perhaps this site isn't for you 
If you yourself think it's taking advantage but still do it then by default you personally must surely be doing it to take advantage 

You post like an idiot and not just on this thread, anyway my guess is your time is almost up here but let's let it play out fully eh 

First off all Manchester to Leeds is 45mins I am paying UK based rates.
Second off all that person talking going to Africa, going to one of the poorest countries in the world due to there circumstances taking advantage of them, you mentally retarded prick.
Don’t call me idiot, it seems like you can’t even read and understand grasp things properly.

[Thephoenix]

Pardon me as the OP Ive not said WGs or punters are incapable of having a long term relationship

i just posed the question

FYI I Whole heartedly believe sex work is WORK If its the providers free choice

Ive had dinner dates with many sex worker off the clock
Ive had social event dates ( paid * unpaid ) with WGS

Ive even dated three WGs one escort who i know for a fact was making double my own income
plus strippers & cyber sex workers

so please don't write what my opinion is until ive wrote it myself
all i did was pose a question

Good for you chum!

From your response it appears I was wrong to make assumptions about your attitude towards this subject.
Maybe it would have better to express your views when I asked you soon after you  posed the question.
After all, as you say it was only a question.

Also I'm just wondering, as you have such a liberal attitude, what was your motivation to ask the question, particularly as a simple search would have revealed page after page on the subject.

Have the responses surprised you or altered your views?
I guess not.
So asking the question "Would you?" in such a manner in itself has connotations, and maybe that's why I jumped to conclusions.