threatening to be outed on facebook

[Outcallguy]

Hello
I am a bit worried as this girl has found my personal details and is texting saying she will post my conversation with her about paying her for porn pics on facebook unless i pay her £80. I obviously can't pay or she will just keep demanding more.

I have checked by FB security and I can't understand how she found my profile pic. As it says only friends on the FB security page.
and that only friends can tag me in posts.

Can you offer any advice?
1) Can she tag me on FB?
2) If she posts publicly I guess I need to get the police involved?

[JamesKW]

She may have found out your details if she obtained  your email address or mobile phone number (I am not sure if this can be linked via WhatsApp) then you may have come up on her facebook as a suggested friend.

Difficult situation,obviously you cannot start paying as it would be never ending,you have two options you can just ignore and hope she doesn't carry out her threats or you can either threaten or report her to the police as blackmail is a serious crime.

You may be able to pre empt the situation and tell family and friends that a work colleague has gone a bit nutty and started to stalk you.

[HarryZZ]

Is she an SP that you've seen?

[Outcallguy]

Not seem her before she sent me fake pics on whatsapp then started the threats.
I will have to ignore her and pray i dont need the police.

[SeekingtheTruth]

Might be worth naming and shaming her, she might have previous for this type of crap.

[HarryZZ]

I'm guessing she's not just picking o you, it's debatable whether, if she's done the same thing to 50 people which is likely, that she'll start trawling the internet to find all the Facebook friends of all the non payers to send messages to, although if you do send money you look like an easy target.

Even though it's only £80, it's still blackmail and extortion, plod might be interested in finding out who it is, you can speak to them although if she's not in your area it's probably not something they'd send much time on, but might just be enough to link with other blackmail attempts.

I'm not 100% up to speed with Whatsap, but won't it be linked to an actual telephone number? It might be worth doing your own research.

[brianthedog21]

How worrying,

As others have said I'm sure she is not just doing it to you.

It may be easier said than done but I would ignore.

If she keeps pushing and gets more unpleasant, you could offer to get her free food for a few years. Blackmail is considered a very serious offence in the UK and carries a maximum sentence of 14 years. I'm sure she would not get that, but depending on what else she has been up to she might get a few months free food.

Good luck OP, hope you get through this quickly!

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[Outcallguy]

thanks all
Always good to have some moral support.

[threechilliman]

Chancing her arm for me. Just tell her you've reported it to the police. You won't hear from her again.....

[Type_O_Negative]

Hello
I am a bit worried as this girl has found my personal details and is texting saying she will post my conversation with her about paying her for porn pics on facebook unless i pay her £80. I obviously can't pay or she will just keep demanding more.

I have checked by FB security and I can't understand how she found my profile pic. As it says only friends on the FB security page.
and that only friends can tag me in posts.

Can you offer any advice?
1) Can she tag me on FB?
2) If she posts publicly I guess I need to get the police involved?

Did you have a punting-only phone?

[Outcallguy]

I dont have a punting only phone
And after today i will be getting one.
Im an idiot for not doing it sooner

[mcardle464]

Get a bog-standard non-smart one.  You only need calls and texts.  That way you cannot get caught out if some app gives away details.

[JamesKW]

Don't know much about WhatsApp but it sounds like it is a bit of a liability,it maybe best to stop using it and go old school,sending texts again.

[nightrider.1234]

Do you have the same profile pic on Facebook and on whatsapp? Cos she could use tineeye or any other image finding site on the web to see what other sites you posted your pic on.


Also having a punting phone is strongly advisable. 

[mrfishyfoo]

My punting persona got outed on FaceBook a while back. 

I reported the posts to Facebook and they were removed and the outer got banned. 

I was fortunate as my real and punting personas are totally separate.

Good luck with this OP. 

[MilleMiglia]

Go to the police if she persists - the mention of blackmail/extortion is guaranteed to get their interest.

[threechilliman]

My punting persona got outed on FaceBook a while back. 

I reported the posts to Facebook and they were removed and the outer got banned. 

I was fortunate as my real and punting personas are totally separate.

Good luck with this OP. 

You have a punting facebook account?

[vw]

Chancing her arm for me. Just tell her you've reported it to the police. You won't hear from her again.....

Or just report her to the police and tell her.

and remember social media and punting don't mix and not using a punting phone can make your social media very insecure.

[Trapperjohn]

Can't offer much more than moral support but I do think reporting this to the police is a good idea. As other posters have said, it's likely you're not the only one she's trying this on with and for all we know they might already be gathering evidence. In any case I hope it all turns out well for you OP. 

[TPreston]

Get a bog-standard non-smart one.  You only need calls and texts.  That way you cannot get caught out if some app gives away details.

Presume facebooks algorithms have found you with her - this article gives a bit more scope.

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Though quite often its just a case of searching for your number on there if your settings arent as secure as you think.

When I'm researching a girl prior to meeting on SA - I'll check out a girl on all social media, and even if i only get a hit on Snapchat I can google the username or they've used a surname on there and bam I can search for the rest.

Its also worth noting that you can find people by simply searching for, example, Joseph then on the option just click the relevant city, say Preston and then its a case of looking through 100 people or so and you can find who you're looking for.

My advice;

Step 1 - get a punting phone. Basic smart phone on PAYG with no link to you at all. Set up a punting email (and social media is an option there is want to check up on people for security/verificiation) when signing up and have no link to your main phone. For anyone using AW, SA even online dating this is a no brainer - just gives you daylight between this world which can be more than murky.

Step 2 - go to your local cop shop and explain the situation. Someome in the SA thread has just had a similar scenario unfold. If youre married make this clear and hop :angelgirl:efully they'll just go to the girl and start proceedings - though later on you can drop the charges before they escalate things - just to shit the girl up and hopefully make her see the error of her ways and get her off your case.  The punter in the SA thread mentioned the police where honest and said eventually if it goes to court your details will be in the public domain, not a risk worth taking, but getting the wheels in motion and you'll be able track the case online as it progresses and then simply pull out before it escalates.

I'm not a legal eagle so the police proceedures could be bollocks but I'd at least make these steps with the police rather than burying your head in the sand and hoping it goes away - or worse paying her and then she'll only come back for more in a fortnight.

[OldAdmin]

This is a regular thing with Outcallguy.

[Happyjose]

Step 2 - go to your local cop shop and explain the situation. Someome in the SA thread has just had a similar scenario unfold. If youre married make this clear and hop :angelgirl:efully they'll just go to the girl and start proceedings - though later on you can drop the charges before they escalate things - just to shit the girl up and hopefully make her see the error of her ways and get her off your case.  The punter in the SA thread mentioned the police where honest and said eventually if it goes to court your details will be in the public domain, not a risk worth taking, but getting the wheels in motion and you'll be able track the case online as it progresses and then simply pull out before it escalates.

I'm not a legal eagle so the police proceedures could be bollocks but I'd at least make these steps with the police rather than burying your head in the sand and hoping it goes away - or worse paying her and then she'll only come back for more in a fortnight.

I would have little confidence in trusting the police to be discreet

and if their investigation uncovers other examples of attempted blackmail, then you would have no chance of pulling out.

[SeekingtheTruth]

This is a regular thing with Outcallguy.

So either he is amazingly lax with his security.

Or a fantasist.

[mikexxlong]

just tell the bitch you have contacted the police

and you gave them all the details and information also remind the cunt of the consequences of blackmailing etc
remember although it's all a bit scary and embarrassing plod can be discrete in such matters
 
and for fucks sake how many times has the collective opinion of experienced punters on this forum strongly suggested
 using a completly separate unlinked to anything in your private life punting only phone

in this case you have only yourself to blame in allowing this malicious piece of shit to cause this situation

[Happyjose]

This is a regular thing with Outcallguy.

So it is

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Hi all
Just had a bad experience with this lady. Bid on a rb of mine to whatsapp me pics of her topless for money.
She sent me her mobile and i texted her to whatsapp me to confirm she was hapoy to model for me.
She texted back her bank details. I asked her to whatsapp me before i paid.
She accused me of time wasting. When i explained that i wanted her to confirm she was happy with whatsapp before i paid she replied "i know who you are and were you work. I am going to enjoy naming and shaming you"

I have obviously changed all my privacy settings on social media already. Not sure how she found me.
But regardless i wanted to warn everyone.
As i was very willing to book her and she responded like i was a time wastet that needed to be punished.

Hello
I hired a cleaner through hassle. Com.
The cleaner they sent turns out to be lazy, texting me today to ask for more hours to clean my small flat.
I was already in a bad mood so replied to her "clean topless if you want more hours"
To which she replied "i quit"

I suspect she was aiming to be fired. But ive obviosuly done it the wrong way!
I emailed hassle saying my friend took my phone and sent the messages and i appologise for the trouble hes caused.
You guys have any advise on how not to be such a muppet?
Thanks

Help!
I got messaged by kaite kisses. To ask if id book her again. I told her id met someone and was retiring from punting.
She immeditely went mental, told me she would see the police to get them to come and take the photos i took of her.
Today she messaged to say shed seen a solicitor! And will be seeking compensation.
Obviosuly im worried, even though it all sounds like bs.
Shall i just message her to say i cant see her again and she is blocked?

Plus he was the homeless prossie guy

[Tantric_mat]

This is nearly identical to an encounter I had a couple of weeks ago.
 I saw an ad on Craigslist offering to provide custom pics for cash.

I contacted the advertiser on WhatsApp and they sent me a headless picture as a sample, asked what sort of thing I was after and said payment was to be made by circlepay.

The sample didn’t float my boat so I didn’t follow it up.

Next day I get a pissy message on WhatsApp calling me a timewaster. I respond to saying I just didn’t fancy what I saw. That’s when it went sinister as the person responded with my full name and details about a picture of me with my family and threatening to put me to my wife.

I took the decision to block them and haven’t heard anything since but it was a bit of an oh shit moment and it has made me review my online profile.

[shagmore]

This is the main issue with social media, hence why I do not use it, I have WhatsApp but not Facebook or crap like that. If you are daft enough to put all you details into the system, then sooner or later it will come and bit you on the arse

[mrfishyfoo]

You have a punting facebook account?

No !!

[TPreston]

I would have little confidence in trusting the police to be discreet

and if their investigation uncovers other examples of attempted blackmail, then you would have no chance of pulling out.

yeah i don't know much about the ins and outs, more repeating what the Punter in the sa thread has said - so if she's done this to multiple people and the police decide to build a case against her and prosecute themselves basically, you can't withdraw your 'evidence'.

Its a big risk then going to the police then. Suppose texting her links from newspapers of people being done for blackmail as well as links to the govt legislation with a 'leave me alone and stop this or I'll have no choice but to report you to the police' maybe the best initial course of action even if an empty threat.

[Happyjose]

yeah i don't know much about the ins and outs, more repeating what the Punter in the sa thread has said - so if she's done this to multiple people and the police decide to build a case against her and prosecute themselves basically, you can't withdraw your 'evidence'.

Its a big risk then going to the police then. Suppose texting her links from newspapers of people being done for blackmail as well as links to the govt legislation with a 'leave me alone and stop this or I'll have no choice but to report you to the police' maybe the best initial course of action even if an empty threat.

Personally, I would do fuck all. Keep a record of the messages, and wait it out

She/he will be casting a net and seeing who offers themselves up as the mark

The minute they out someone they lose their leverage and the chance of police involvement is almost inevitable. They're not going to do that for £80

Anyway, I suspect the OP is more than just the unluckiest punter on here. I think he might be a bullshitter

[TPreston]

The main shocker on this thread is that people pay cash for photos- you're all savy enough to use the internet and you're aware of AW/SA if you're on here.

Save the cash and actually fuck a well reviewed girl for half an hour and wank over the memory - and if you prefer wanking its not like porn is an issue to find. If you're that desperate as a photo collector join SA, I get plenty tit pics and custom vids for via text in the build up to a meet

[Outcallguy]

I am a proper idiot I know as this has happened to me before.
I have learnt my lesson this time and am going through my phone deleting and blocking everyone and will get a punting phone.

I saved all her messages so will see what happens.

[Tantric_mat]

The main shocker on this thread is that people pay cash for photos- you're all savy enough to use the internet and you're aware of AW/SA if you're on here.

Save the cash and actually fuck a well reviewed girl for half an hour and wank over the memory - and if you prefer wanking its not like porn is an issue to find. If you're that desperate as a photo collector join SA, I get plenty tit pics and custom vids for via text in the build up to a meet

The shocker is your attitude. Not everyone wants the same thing as you.

You could make the same argument for paying to have sex with a working girl rather than spending your time trawling tinder or bars to get the “real thing”.

You are entitled to your opinions but don’t presume you can judge me

[vw]

So it is

Plus he was the homeless prossie guy

thanks for that sounds like he is as shit as husqvarna.360 at punting with all his love affairs.   

[vw]

The main shocker on this thread is that people pay cash for photos- you're all savy enough to use the internet and you're aware of AW/SA if you're on here.

Save the cash and actually fuck a well reviewed girl for half an hour and wank over the memory - and if you prefer wanking its not like porn is an issue to find. If you're that desperate as a photo collector join SA, I get plenty tit pics and custom vids for via text in the build up to a meet

Punters can operate as they like, £3 is well worth it when toftting something you have never done.

[Happyjose]

I am a proper idiot I know as this has happened to me before.
I have learnt my lesson this time and am going through my phone deleting and blocking everyone and will get a punting phone.

I saved all her messages so will see what happens.

Maybe change your user nic on here, just to be extra safe

I've checked for you - Walter Mitty is available

.

[vw]

You are entitled to your opinions but don’t presume you can judge me

Maybe review some of these prossies that you purchased photos from. 

this may help.   

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[TPreston]

Punters can operate as they like, £3 is well worth it when toftting something you have never done.

each to their own. Spend your money as you please - just the logic of it seems barmy to me personally   

[Plan R]

Just seen admin's comment.
OP must be a fantasist

[vw]

each to their own. Spend your money as you please - just the logic of it seems barmy to me personally   

Not sure why using all resources at your disposal is barmy? 

Has saved me a fortune in the past from mingers.

[Yah2345]

What’s the nationality of this person?  Can you give us any clues?

[bigmc]

Just sack your facebook account off, I did, not missed it for a second.
if I google my name, I get one insignificant hit from about 5 years ago that reveals nothing about me.
Its good being a nobody 

Oh,  and definitely report the bitch to the police 

[heathen666]

yeah i don't know much about the ins and outs, more repeating what the Punter in the sa thread has said - so if she's done this to multiple people and the police decide to build a case against her and prosecute themselves basically, you can't withdraw your 'evidence'.

Its a big risk then going to the police then. Suppose texting her links from newspapers of people being done for blackmail as well as links to the govt legislation with a 'leave me alone and stop this or I'll have no choice but to report you to the police' maybe the best initial course of action even if an empty threat.

From my recent conversations with the police, this might be totally wrong as the PO I spoke to wasn't very good at explaining himself.

He gave the indication that multiple cases are opened if numerous people report someone for a crime, in this case blackmail. The cases are then linked and if the police have strong enough evidence for all the cases and the CPS decide to proceed then the accused is tried for all cases at once. This means if I did drop the charges (which I have done now) it won't impact other open cases.

But if the case does go to trial. Your chances of remaining anonymous are greatly reduced. Local papers love blackmail cases!

[myothernameis]

What’s the nationality of this person?  Can you give us any clues?

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[BlueRock]

Whatever the reality is here anyone using their main phone number for punting is asking for trouble unless you live in the dark ages.
Your real identity will be easy to find if you use any social media or have listed it on employment websites like LinkedIn. I have Facebook messenger and WhatsApp on my punting phone and it never ceases to amaze me how many WGs are using either an old or current main phone number or even a friend's old sim. They pop up as friends from phone contacts or suggestions as number was their friends once. Worse still some who have retired pop up having taken the number into civvie life. It's just laziness, phones are cheap and Sims are available everywhere.

[Happyjose]

Just sack your facebook account off, I did, not missed it for a second.
if I google my name, I get one insignificant hit from about 5 years ago that reveals nothing about me.
Its good being a nobody 

Oh,  and definitely report the bitch to the police 

So step one, take measures to preserve your anonimity

And step two, inform the police, which will likely undo anything achieved in step one

Makes sense........

[manobo]

Were you on any dating or social apps as you could've been targetted by location and cross referenced on the Facebook

[Agent W]

Not sure which FB security setting you meant, but it’s worth checking “who can look you up using the phone number you provided?”

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[Odd Job]

Name and shame.