Losing Virginity in my 40s

[Ceejiq]

Hi guys,

I'm not sure if I'm writing this in the right place, so apologies if not. I'm looking to lose my virginity sometime this year at the embarrassing age of 45, and was wondering if anyone had suggestions for suitable escorts?

With it being a big occassion for me, I'd like to book an escort who'll provide a memorable experience. Ideally, I'll do a one hour social booking, then (depending on price) another one hour appointment, and finally lose my v-card on the third meeting, which would be a 3-4 hour booking. London would be ideal, but I'd be open to travelling elsewhere, even abroad, for the right person.

I'm probably willing to spend up to about £2500 for the experience, but would possibly go higher. For the sake of this discussion, let's say there's no budget.

I'm looking for the following:

(Mandatory):
An English speaker- doesn't have to be native, but needs to be completely fluent.
Someone very patient.
Someone very attractive! I usually like slim brunettes.
No tattoos or abnormal piercings.
Willing to provide full service - kissing, oral, and protected sex at least.

(Ideal):
Someone who does outcalls: I feel more comfortable in my own space.
I'd like to see someone who's smart (preferably university educated).
I like the natural look, not too much make-up.
Non-smoker, but if it's undetectable then I wouldn't mind.

(Best case scenario):
Someone who is in some way famous or memorable, like an actress (amateur or pro), model or Instagram model, dancer, singer, or even a porn star who provides GFE.
I'm especially attracted to Asian girls, but it's not a requirement.

I know I'm asking for a lot, so am willing to adjust if I need to. I'm sure there's a kind, attractive, all-natural, English-speaking model out there somewhere! I'm ugly, but I pay well, I'm clean and I'm nice.

Any suggestions, or even general advice is appreciated.

Thanks a lot!

[Silencio]

Exciting, wish I put this much though into when I lost my virginity 😂

Based on what you've said, I'd be looking at the more premium agencies perhaps, like External Link/Members Only

You can find reviews for some of the present roster by searching on here. External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only might be worth a look too.

In terms of independents, doesn't tick all your boxes but the closest I've found to someone university educated who matched with me on an intellectual level was: External Link/Members Only

Hope that's helpful, best of luck! Look forward to seeing your review of how it goes!

[lillythesavage]

I would give the pornstars and plastic insta dolls a miss first time, search reviews for the type you like and pick a well reviewed experienced SP.

Good Luck. 

[Payyourwaymate]

I'm pretty sure no one will get what I am about to say but....OP, did you gain wizard powers?



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On a serious note though, good luck. I wish you the best if you are not trolling.

[Yankee41]

One girl comes immediately to mind.  Ladymaya89.

External Link/Members Only

She is probably the best gfe experience ive had right off the bat.  Makes you feel like youve been going out for years.  She is crazy smart though i dont know her education but certainly university educated.  She is just dirty enough to try some things out as well without feeling overwhelmed, which you will be.  When you go out with all attention is on you, she is excellent at that.
The pics on her profile are certainly her.  She is a small and tight little package and can be playful if you want her to be or you can tie her up and leave her in the corner.  Whatever you want really.  Her normal personality is very witty and laughy.

[golden bull]

He’s back…..

[jamiekinkxxx]

You need the ultimate GFE IMHO... good luck and choose well...

[Ceejiq]

Can't find a way to reply individually, but thanks a lot everyone for your recommendations (looks like there are some good options there), and kind words of support. Cheers!

[MartyW]

Losing virginity in your 40s? Your arse will be aching...

[MartyW]

...mine was...

[bonapati]

One girl comes immediately to mind.  Ladymaya89.

External Link/Members Only

She is probably the best gfe experience ive had right off the bat.  Makes you feel like youve been going out for years.  She is crazy smart though i dont know her education but certainly university educated.  She is just dirty enough to try some things out as well without feeling overwhelmed, which you will be.  When you go out with all attention is on you, she is excellent at that.
The pics on her profile are certainly her.  She is a small and tight little package and can be playful if you want her to be or you can tie her up and leave her in the corner.  Whatever you want really.  Her normal personality is very witty and laughy.

Be aware she is nutter in good way.
Takes photos of you cock and come as a prize keep
Studied architecture (she claims)
Looking at her latest reviews, seems like she is losing her form.

Note. You might struggle to find a graduate but pretty sure there lots with A level qualification.

[tp69]

Can't find a way to reply individually, but thanks a lot everyone for your recommendations (looks like there are some good options there), and kind words of support. Cheers!

Can I ask why you're only planning to shag her on the 3rd meet? Are you worried about being nervous?

No need to answer as it's obviously personal, but why did you wait this long?

Good luck, hope it goes well.

[FiveKnuckles]

what's planned for the first two meets. chess? 

best to just bang one out and move on to next.  seems like you're after some kind of friendship with the prossie.  don't expect them to fall in love with you.  they just want the money.

[PLeisure]

what's planned for the first two meets. chess? 

best to just bang one out and move on to next.  seems like you're after some kind of friendship with the prossie.  don't expect them to fall in love with you.  they just want the money.

Yes - this is important.
It sounds like OP wants to build up some rapport with the WG first. Keep in mind that this is not what they’re there for. Well, some may be delighted to take your money but that’s no guarantee of scintillating company, or even a sparkling personality.
A Sugar Babe scenario may be more appropriate; esp if you’re looking for an Insta-babe.

[SpaceRaiderDave]

No need to answer as it's obviously personal, but why did you wait this long?

I think this is a very valid question which would be relevant to any suggestion that might be made.

If the op is sexually aware enough to have been a member of this punting forum since last October and yet hasn't seen anyone though does have has enough money to be considering a famous or semi famous sp then IMHO either the question is not genuine or there is some significant undisclosed underlying reason

[MrMagik]

With the kind of money you're looking to spend, you could probably get a girl on SA who fits most of your criteria for a whole month, or several overnight meets, which would be a more relaxed/less time constrained experience. Not quite as straightforward as booking a WG, as you do need an element of communication skills and charm, but I'd imagine the experience would be a whole lot better.

[Parry]

You could try this one. From the reviews has a slight Asian look.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?action=serviceprovider;id=30092

[massagepuntingfan]

Thanks for the post OP. I don't know your situation but If I were you I would lower expectations for your first time, its likely that you have spent years/decades thinking about what it might be like and the reality will be very different.

I would advise against spending vast amounts of money on your first punts. Sex is very different to porn especially when you are starting out.

I would choose a solid GFE provider - meeting a kind, gentle service provider will be more important than picking a PSE stunner especially for your first time when I'm assuming you won't have much of clue what to do and will have a certain amount of anxiety and nerves.

I would be up front and honest with the SP beforehand, let her know you're a virgin, again this might help ease anxiety. Search the threads for best GFE provider or Adultwork for escorts who list seeing virgins on their profile.

Sex is different to everyone, but with practice you'll build up confidence and get better at it. Until that time don't waste you money on expensive punts. Save that for when you think you know what you're doing.

Good luck.

[Waterhouse]

Am I the only one who thinks this is a wind-up? 

[bonapati]

Am I the only one who thinks this is a wind-up? 

Nope.

[golden bull]

Am I the only one who thinks this is a wind-up? 

Nope. I’m surprised he missed out the filming bit this time.

[tp69]

Am I the only one who thinks this is a wind-up? 

Pretty well thought out and constructed for a wind-up. Can't come up with a reason someone would waste their time thinking that up, so I'm going with that it's likely honest.

Saying that, I think the expectation and plan is far too complicated. The WG/Punter relationship 100% transactional - aiming to create a connection is setting yourself up. Be open, get the first couple shags out the way, then assess where you're at.

Good luck.

[Jayjay1]

 :timeout:Have we ever thought about losing virginity to average looking, mature (mentally) experience SP whos knows how to provide good experience in a relaxed environment.

Then once you know how your body reacts to sex in different positions , oral and how the scenery works out you then go spend big on the girl that you like?

Just in case your 1st time you freeze, get over excited cum asap or ED.

Just an idea- hope that helps

[Munter84]

For OP's sake I hope this isn't a wind-up, as trolling a punting forum for fun is surely an order of magnitude sadder than being a 45 year old virgin. Seriously, GAFL if that's the case.

Giving the benefit of the doubt though, I would echo the majority here in saying forget about engineering the perfect first time. Your first ever shag is always going to be an awkward, anxious, fumbly affair, and probably pretty crap, and I suspect that holds true whether you lose your virginity at 15, 45, or 75.

The best you can hope for is to pick a willing and friendly girl who does a great GFE, prepare for the first time to be an anticlimax, but have the attitude that you're learning and improving.

[Jayjay1]

Just to add on to my prev post- IMO losing your virginity isn't all that especially to a SP

Just choose someone comfortable and you will know what you like and once you know it go big if you like

[Payyourwaymate]

Pretty well thought out and constructed for a wind-up. Can't come up with a reason someone would waste their time thinking that up, so I'm going with that it's likely honest.

Saying that, I think the expectation and plan is far too complicated. The WG/Punter relationship 100% transactional - aiming to create a connection is setting yourself up. Be open, get the first couple shags out the way, then assess where you're at.

Good luck.

Have a look at this thread. Guy was a troll but the level of detail he gave surpassed this OP.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=309595.0

[jamiekinkxxx]

You need the ultimate GFE IMHO... good luck and choose well...

BUT as others have said.... in no way spend £2.5k on a single punt when it is your first time punt AND you are losing your virginity.

I am not saying just book only an hour with an escort.

Make it special with some social time to (just drinks need not be dinner), make it as much a 'date' as you can with a WG and then have a few hours of fun after. I would not recommend an overnight with anyone you have not met previously

 

[Payyourwaymate]

If OP is genuine, I'll bite. OP, I don't think you should spend £2500 on a single woman. Realistically the better outcome would be to split that across multiple punts so you will get some experience quickly. Once you have more EXP then you can splash big and be more comfortable with the woman you want instead of being a nervous wreck the first time round.

If you spend that much on one and she sees you as a mark you could end up with EAS and end up spending more than you want and be an emotional wreck when you realise she strung you along for the ££££££, that would not be good for you. Stay away from seeking aswell, those women will rinse you if they can tell you are inexperienced but have money to spend.

Get it out of your head you are going to get an intellectual beautiful courtesan that will be socialable and fuck you into a state of bliss, that is not happening no matter how much money you spend. You need to reset your expectations. Money is not a guarantee, especially with women, they may fuck you but it won't be like you think it will be.

Truth be told I think you should see a therapist to confront the issues which have led you to be a virgin in your 40s and what perceptions you may have of women as a result of that before then trying to lose it. Or you could do the first fast option of seeing multiple women and trying to get as much EXP as possible before splashing big on the woman you want, if you can mentally handle the change that is.

[tp69]

If OP is genuine, I'll bite. OP, I don't think you should spend £2500 on a single woman. Realistically the better outcome would be to split that across multiple punts so you will get some experience quickly. Once you have more EXP then you can splash big and be more comfortable with the woman you want instead of being a nervous wreck the first time round.

If you spend that much on one and she sees you as a mark you could end up with EAS and end up spending more than you want and be an emotional wreck when you realise she strung you along for the ££££££, that would not be good for you. Stay away from seeking aswell, those women will rinse you if they can tell you are inexperienced but have money to spend.

Get it out of your head you are going to get an intellectual beautiful courtesan that will be socialable and fuck you into a state of bliss, that is not happening no matter how much money you spend. You need to reset your expectations. Money is not a guarantee, especially with women, they may fuck you but it won't be like you think it will be.

Truth be told I think you should see a therapist to confront the issues which have led you to be a virgin in your 40s and what perceptions you may have of women as a result of that before then trying to lose it. Or you could do the first fast option of seeing multiple women and trying to get as much EXP as possible before splashing big on the woman you want, if you can mentally handle the change that is.

↑↑ This

There are so many factors in play that just won't align to your expectations, and once you're a few women further along, are you really going to dwell on the first WG experience, highly doubtful.

I would imagine most guys are nervous the first few times you're with a woman. Add to that, no matter how many women you've shagged, seeing a WG for the first few times is equally nerve-wracking - you're introducing a number of unknowns into the mix ie. safety, identity, sti's, performance, etc. It takes a while to relax and realise it's a transaction, and you can then start setting things up the way you like them, exploring things you may not otherwise get to, etc.

You've had some pretty good replies, I'd really sit down and think it through. I'd be far more inclined to hammer out a couple quick punts to get the lay of the land, and then spend £250/hr on 10 gorgeous girls to get you into your groove.

Happy days.

[scutty brown]

Which paper is the OP working for?

[golden bull]

Which paper is the OP working for?

Same paper as this guy:

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=328762.msg3422819#msg3422819

[tp69]

Have a look at this thread. Guy was a troll but the level of detail he gave surpassed this OP.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=309595.0

Utter drivel, couldn't even read it through. Surprised he managed 4 pages of replies and it wasn't just deleted.

[Waterhouse]

Which paper is the OP working for?

Precisely.

 

[Corso_cam]

Only thing I can think to add to some great responses is it might be worth considering a few sensual massages first. It will get you used to the 'environment' and adrenaline of punting as well as being naked with a stranger. This should make you more comfortable when you book for a GFE escort and you will have a better time.

There is a section on this site for providers of massages with extras along with reviews.

[Ceejiq]

Again, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. Some good tips in there, including some harsh but true advice.

Oh, and no, this isn't a wind-up (I wish it was, ha!). Golden Bull, you seem to be mixing me up with someone else, mate.

I was thinking drinks or something for the first one/two meets, just to get more comfortable with the person. I don't mind answering why I've waited this long: Firstly, I have (sometimes really bad, sometimes not so bad) social anxiety; secondly, I lived abroad for a long time in a remote part of the world where there weren't many women my age who would have been appropriate to date; thirdly, I'm not very attractive (I even have one or two slight deformities); lastly, I fell in love with someone a long time ago and just could not get over her for years and years.

I don't feel too phased by the prospect of being naked with another person, but I am generally pretty shy. I also don't feel that I have any unusual perceptions of women (I have lots of female friends). I'll try to go in with an open mind. I pride myself on being a gentleman, so hopefully that would be appreciated. Saying all that,  I understand that my fairytale view of things likely won't match up to the reality, but I'd still like to make the first time as memorable as possible... I have the money too, so I'm not too worried about that side of thing. After the first time, I'll probably be less fussy about each different experience.

Cheers, all!

[kaj314]

Again, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. Some good tips in there, including some harsh but true advice.

Oh, and no, this isn't a wind-up (I wish it was, ha!). Golden Bull, you seem to be mixing me up with someone else, mate.

I was thinking drinks or something for the first one/two meets, just to get more comfortable with the person. I don't mind answering why I've waited this long: Firstly, I have (sometimes really bad, sometimes not so bad) social anxiety; secondly, I lived abroad for a long time in a remote part of the world where there weren't many women my age who would have been appropriate to date; thirdly, I'm not very attractive (I even have one or two slight deformities); lastly, I fell in love with someone a long time ago and just could not get over her for years and years.

I don't feel too phased by the prospect of being naked with another person, but I am generally pretty shy. I also don't feel that I have any unusual perceptions of women (I have lots of female friends). I'll try to go in with an open mind. I pride myself on being a gentleman, so hopefully that would be appreciated. Saying all that,  I understand that my fairytale view of things likely won't match up to the reality, but I'd still like to make the first time as memorable as possible... I have the money too, so I'm not too worried about that side of thing. After the first time, I'll probably be less fussy about each different experience.

Cheers, all!

skip the drinking part less you really want to but from what you are describing, the risk of emotional attachment is even higher imo if you go down that route.

suggest reaching out to a few experienced wgs, id even suggest not go for the young hotties to begin with. discuss your needs and take it from there. stick to their rates, dont let on youre willing to spend thousands, they'll likely milk you dry. outside of that, heed the advice above.

good luck

[massagepuntingfan]

Again, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. Some good tips in there, including some harsh but true advice.

Oh, and no, this isn't a wind-up (I wish it was, ha!). Golden Bull, you seem to be mixing me up with someone else, mate.

I was thinking drinks or something for the first one/two meets, just to get more comfortable with the person. I don't mind answering why I've waited this long: Firstly, I have (sometimes really bad, sometimes not so bad) social anxiety; secondly, I lived abroad for a long time in a remote part of the world where there weren't many women my age who would have been appropriate to date; thirdly, I'm not very attractive (I even have one or two slight deformities); lastly, I fell in love with someone a long time ago and just could not get over her for years and years.

I don't feel too phased by the prospect of being naked with another person, but I am generally pretty shy. I also don't feel that I have any unusual perceptions of women (I have lots of female friends). I'll try to go in with an open mind. I pride myself on being a gentleman, so hopefully that would be appreciated. Saying all that,  I understand that my fairytale view of things likely won't match up to the reality, but I'd still like to make the first time as memorable as possible... I have the money too, so I'm not too worried about that side of thing. After the first time, I'll probably be less fussy about each different experience.

Cheers, all!

Thanks for clarifying. I refer to my previous post and many others like it on this thread. Sex is a bit like riding a bicycle, everyone is clueless at the beginning, but the more you do it the better you get.
Don't build it up to be some life changing moment, find someone kind, gentle, attractive and get it out the way, then rinse and repeat. You'll likely enjoy it more as your confidence and self worth improves.
Good luck.

[lillythesavage]

Thanks for clarifying. I refer to my previous post and many others like it on this thread. Sex is a bit like riding a bicycle, everyone is clueless at the beginning, but the more you do it the better you get.
Don't build it up to be some life changing moment, find someone kind, gentle, attractive and get it out the way, then rinse and repeat. You'll likely enjoy it more as your confidence and self worth improves.
Good luck.

This exactly, and don,t blow 2.5k on it, blow it over time and get lots of practice, does anyone male really make a big thing of the first time?

[Ceejiq]

Thanks, lads.

Out of interest, is there a list on here of porn stars who do escorting (here or abroad)? Probably not for my first time, but maybe one day...

[stayer]

Thanks, lads.

Out of interest, is there a list on here of porn stars who do escorting (here or abroad)? Probably not for my first time, but maybe one day...

The vast majority of so-called porn stars are not stars at all and, even worse, charge a lot just because they've been in a few porn shoots.

[lillythesavage]

Thanks, lads.

Out of interest, is there a list on here of porn stars who do escorting (here or abroad)? Probably not for my first time, but maybe one day...

Most are not worth the effort, let alone money, trading on 2 bob fame.

[longtimefan]

I can understand how this sounds like a wind up.  It seems like you are putting too much on it being a romantic situation with an emotional attachment, it won’t be with a whore and you don’t want to get attached emotionally with a lady like that, you are paying for their life back home.  You could find yourself being a simp if they sense that weakness and you mention your warchest.  People see them first time to get it out of the way, not to be a memorable moment. Pump and dump and move on till you get more comfortable and then you will get better value out of a more expensive punt.

Without trying to be insensitive, you could try the undateables dating agency from the tv show? You are more likely to find a nice lady in the same situation for a lot less cash and drama. Exhaust Tinder and Bumble locally and have no standards.  If you get lucky they don’t need to know it’s your first time, you could just be out of practice.

Try a Thai massage and progress to a Thai lady at Olinas.  They will treat you kindly and fair priced.

[Payyourwaymate]

Again, thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. Some good tips in there, including some harsh but true advice.

Oh, and no, this isn't a wind-up (I wish it was, ha!). Golden Bull, you seem to be mixing me up with someone else, mate.

I was thinking drinks or something for the first one/two meets, just to get more comfortable with the person. I don't mind answering why I've waited this long: Firstly, I have (sometimes really bad, sometimes not so bad) social anxiety; secondly, I lived abroad for a long time in a remote part of the world where there weren't many women my age who would have been appropriate to date; thirdly, I'm not very attractive (I even have one or two slight deformities); lastly, I fell in love with someone a long time ago and just could not get over her for years and years.

I don't feel too phased by the prospect of being naked with another person, but I am generally pretty shy. I also don't feel that I have any unusual perceptions of women (I have lots of female friends). I'll try to go in with an open mind. I pride myself on being a gentleman so hopefully that would be appreciated. Saying all that,  I understand that my fairytale view of things likely won't match up to the reality, but I'd still like to make the first time as memorable as possible... I have the money too, so I'm not too worried about that side of thing. After the first time, I'll probably be less fussy about each different experience.

Cheers, all!

Why have your female friends not told you what is going on in your relations with women or tried to hook you up? See, this is why I think female friends is a waste of time sometimes lol. I bet they gave you the same bullshit of don't worry you're a nice guy you will find someone eventually right?

Priding yourself on being a gentleman means nothing if they are not attracted to you in some sense unfortunately.

There is nothing I can say to undo all your years of anticipation. Good luck OP, I hope it works out. This will be the last I will say unless this thread takes a drastic turn in some way or another.

[Colston36]

This reads like total bollocks.

[bedhedred]

This reads like total bollocks.

+1
🤣

[kaj314]

more this guy responds, the more it sounds like bull shit

[tp69]

+1
🤣

Agreed. The last response makes no sense. "I pride myself on being a gentleman" Bla bla, needing 3 visits just to build up to shagging a WG, and now suddenly it's porn stars. One generally learns to walk before they sprint.

[webpunter]

Off you fuck
Edit:  ooops nearly forgot, ask your mum for some bitty & this may help get you off to sleep

Any suggestions, or even general advice is appreciated.

Suggest one of the mods closes this thread
As mentioned 'above' one of the better trolling efforts

[Ceejiq]

Thanks for the responses.

@Payyourwaymate: That's pretty much exactly what my female friends say! Good call. It's funny, though, it's something we used to talk about maybe ten years ago, but it's a topic that's become slowly ignored in social situations.

@The last few guys: Again, no this isn't a wind-up. There sure are some cynical people here! If you re-read the post where I mentioned porn stars, I think I said that I probably wasn't planning that for the first time, although I don't see why it should make me any more nervous than booking a regular escort. Going back and forth on this topic doesn't really interest me, so I won't respond to any more posts asking if I'm for real. I appreciate you reading the thread though, and I'd love to see any more recommendations anyone has for escorts or agencies.

Cheers, all.

[Ceejiq]

@webpunter: Yes, can close the thread. It's probably run its course.