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[Lou2019]

I don't doubt it but I don't get what gratification could be had from it.

No idea 🤷🏻‍♀️ Perhaps a hatred for sex workers ? god knows

[Lou2019]

On the contrary I would say it gives the punter a good sense that the punt could well turn out shit 
I do also agree with your point however that genuine enquiries and then not booking is one thing and the genuine fantasist timewasters who want to talk and wank are what spoils it for the genuine punters and also the girls 

 

[Blackpool Rock]

No idea 🤷🏻‍♀️ Perhaps a hatred for sex workers ? god knows

I wouldn't say it was due to hating sex workers though some may be that way inclined, I think for some it will be that they struggle with personal and face to face interactions.
Some of them may never actually have a proper conversation with a female and couldn't actually meet a girl for sex however they can just about cope with speaking on the phone and getting themselves off in the process

[Lou2019]

Yes I agree with you very much so

[Silver Birch]

As advice anyone using AW and this site make sure your user names are very different. For example on AW my
username is my first name followed by the year l was born in and my username on this site is my middle name followed
my the letter C which is a random letter l picked.

So sometime in the future when you forget to logout of UKP, your missus is not only going to be able to confirm it's definitely you on here, but she's also going to instantly find you on AW too 

[shed]

As advice anyone using AW and this site make sure your user names are very different. For example on AW my
username is my first name followed by the year l was born in and my username on this site is my middle name followed
my the letter C which is a random letter l picked.

With respect, you need a brain transplant if this statement is true. Best change your username asap .Just saying 

[LLPunting]

That is nonsense there are men who make a hobby out of contacting us for their amusement or to gain wank fodder. Timewasters are a thing nothing to do with out seduction/marketing.

Getting caught up in the frustration of dealing with genuine timewasters does not excuse poor comms to everyone else.  I totally understand that there are twats out there just dialling and harassing SPs BUT that does not excuse treating every punter like they're a villain.  Sure the arseholes can be crafty in messing you about but that again is between you and them.  I don't envy you the problem but if you're unable to script some choice replies for strangers that get to the point effectively, efficiently and with some personality then you need to change your script.  The parlours and indies I frequent all seem to be coping without alienating new customers.
Tell us the various tricks these timewasters are employing and perhaps we can help SPs out by changing the way we enquire, so it's easier for you and us to make genuine progress.   
Having/reviving a thread about bad punter behaviour might be a useful eye-opener for all.   

[LLPunting]

On the contrary I would say it gives the punter a good sense that the punt could well turn out shit 
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Sorry, I wasn't making myself clear,  the presumption was a punter contacting an SP who isn't bad or ill-intentioned with her service delivery but let's
herself down with a poor comms setup, whether she doesn't have the calmness to take enquiries or she has an inept call-taker.
It's a given that a genuine punter notes the way he's dealt with and may well be more inclined to cancel or not book if he's nervous or doubtful, so it's again down to the SP to make a good impression if she's genuine.

Many a good comms has still led to a shit punt because the SP misrepresents herself or is no good at delivery, intentionally or not.

[MrMatrix]

Gosh the man hating MumsNet! never ceases to amaze me. Why anyone would ask for advice from a bunch of strangers on the future of their relationship is beyond me. It’s always the mans fault too  never the frigid wife. I could go on forever about the subject lol

So right Lou. MumsNet historically isnt good for punters. They've even come out with ways to catch your man out, ie likely places he'll have his 2nd phone etc. Only once I saw them turn on a fellow MumsNetter when she said"what right does he think he has to my body". The following comment was why did you get married in the first place... fair question I thought.
There are other threads on mumsnet which are also quite a good read. I'll try and dig them out after i've got some sleep

[Private Parts]

Ladies and Gentlemen. I mistakenly posted this comment in the wrong thread.
But it’s a good read for both SPs and punters.

Kinda puts things into perspective as to how some things go wrong.
I have my ‘T’shirt already
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UK Punting / Re: Merry Christmas everyone on ukpunting!
« on: December 27, 2021, 05:46:05 pm »
Gentlemen
You may be interested in this couple of enlightened ladies.
AKA Julia David and Vicki Pepperdine.
I attach a link. The podcasts are jolly good!
 
New Years reading!
Just Google the link. You’ll be surprised

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[WAY-WARD]

AW my
username is my first name followed by the year l was born ....
Is that your PIN number too 🙄

[Marmalade]

As advice anyone using AW and this site make sure your user names are very different. For example on AW my
username is my first name followed by the year l was born in and my username on this site is my middle name followed
my the letter C which is a random letter l picked.

If anyone is interested look at the escorts site and see what you think.

No offence to the OP but the above probably qualifies as the most stupid post of the year.

Markc, now your temporary ban is probably lifted this would be a good time to get a fucking grip. Don’t include such ridiculously personal info in any of your usernames, don’t mention your AW name on this site or vice-versa. You are trying to give advice, well-meaning perhaps  but from the back of the class and dangerously incompetent. You should use names that have no connection whatsoever with your real name or any other names on any other site. If they are too hard to remember, get a free and reliable password manager such as 1Password.

[Marmalade]

This is particularly true.  If the girl's unable to make the sale from the initial interaction then she's failing in her seduction/marketing.  Shitty, dismissive and/or perfunctory comms that doesn't always answer the simple questions asked does nothing to encourage a punter's sense of how the actual meet will go.

That is nonsense there are men who make a hobby out of contacting us for their amusement or to gain wank fodder. Timewasters are a thing nothing to do with out seduction/marketing.

Oh dear, you’re going to think I’m picking on you again Lou but I’m not. You have a point to be made but not as a reply to LLPunting who also has a point.

1. I imagine there are ‘wank fodder’ creatures you are plagued with as well as, potentially, abolitionists who want to make your life hell and sickos just ‘having a laugh’. They could even be police.

1a. Part of your job is clearly weeding out the shitrags as much as possible. Do you need tips on the screening process? Stay calm. Treat everyone the same. When you detect a shitrag simply say that you don’t think you would be suited. It’s a bit like a designer store refusing entrance to an ill-dressed character. Don’t lower yourself to their level, just concentrate on improving your screening skills, no matter how good they are already. As an incentive, remember the shitrag, if you pissed it off, might go away and write something nasty: so always act like ‘royalty’.

2. Once you’ve done that then you have to switch on your marketing technique for the potentials that are left. Again, like a good store operator. Some designer stores have bouncers, others only unlock the door by remote when a client judged as a potential is standing there. Once you have decided to ‘let them in’ you can’t allow irritation from previous shitrags to cloud the welcome.

So you see LLPunting has a point, and so do you, and they are not in conflict.

As a rule of thumb, unless you want to pick arguments with people, try to see the good in what they post before leaping in with an attack or giving your reservations about what was written.