WTF? You are serious, aren't you. Would not let me finger her, which I enjoy doing.
She had agreed over the phone to DFK and OWO, the minimum I usually seek. When I turned up, she said DFK would still be allowed, but not just mouthwash being used, but I had to brush my teeth. As I was planning to use the shower to freshen up, I said that brushing would be fine, but that I had to have a new set of toothbrush. She was not pleased with that request, but I was ready to walk out, reminding her that she had agreed to this and that she was now backing out. Hindsight, I was unlucky that she had a new toothbrush set ready.
Also, I am sure there was someone else (male?) present there, but made themselves discreet and very quiet. As she moves around a lot (Bham, Leic/Nott, Derby), I presumed she was using someone else's flat, so expected the owner to be there.