New to punting, how to get over the nerves?

[Thomas1002345]

I am planning on meeting an escort next week, she works in a residential street. I am going late afternoon but I am getting nervous about the thought of behind spotted by neighbours. How do you cope?

[newpuntingguy]

No one cares as much as you might think. Just enjoy yourself and there isn’t likely to be anyone who will bat an eyelid unless you make them by doing something suspicious

[GingerNuts]

How did you cope when you visited Alexa_Divine in her apartment?

[Cheltclient]

I would relax. And - you’ve a useful accessory nowadays. Wear a mask. When I visit a well known apartment in Chelt, the entrance is on a busy main road. Used to hate waiting at the intercom. Now, I mask up. It’s a little more discreet

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Bright hi vis jacket and clip board!, could be any offical going about his daiily calls;)...

[PepeMAGA]

Depends on your personal circumstances... But "getting caught" going to a house by total strangers doesn't matter.
Police won't bother unless it's a exploitation situation. Relax and enjoy the luxury of being able to wander up to a house knowing you're going to have sex with an expert.

[Jayne_cobb]

Punting in the daytime is great as it’s entirely normal for people to be going into or out of properties in a residential area. So no-one bats an eye lid.

Most normal people don’t think that there is paid shagging going on in their street in the middle of the day so I wouldn’t worry about it.

[YorkshireLad]

People go to strangers houses for multiple reasons not just for paid sex. You could be buying/selling something etc. No one will bat an eyelid unless you are acting dodgy.

[YorkshireLad]

I would relax. And - you’ve a useful accessory nowadays. Wear a mask. When I visit a well known apartment in Chelt, the entrance is on a busy main road. Used to hate waiting at the intercom. Now, I mask up. It’s a little more discreet

Wearing a mask outside on a residential street will bring more attention to him lol

[Thephoenix]

How do you cope being nervous?........
Maybe you just don't!
Previous threads have shown that many punters feel pre punting nerves.
To some people it's just a case of overcoming  those feelings.
Whether it's the adrenaline rush, excitement, fear, guilt etc etc, just do it!!!!!
Many entertainers get stage fright even after years of performing.

We're all different. Just shrug your shoulders and say ''fuck it! "

[lamboman]

I would relax. And - you’ve a useful accessory nowadays. Wear a mask. When I visit a well known apartment in Chelt, the entrance is on a busy main road. Used to hate waiting at the intercom. Now, I mask up. It’s a little more discreet

  and there's always a massive queue at the lights just as you turn up.

[mr.bluesky]

and there's always a massive queue at the lights just as you turn up.

I assume you mean traffic lights lamboman and not at the sp's house/flat light, now that would be off putting 

[SeekingSteve]

Red, Busy
Amber, Punter just filed the bag
Green, Proceed to bedroom

[WelshClipper]

Yes you never get over the nerves unless you are very lucky. Mind you if you are too relaxed you may not perform as well anyway. Bit of a double edged sword in my opinion. Nerves also tell me this hobby is still exciting. As for twitching curtains, as long as it is in an unknown street full of strangers, who cares. Dont shit on your own doorstep as they say.

I saw Jessie Bee a while back. I think her whole street knows what goes on. It was a bit awkward but not a problem at all. 

On the other hand, Mya Collucci comes down to collect you. So there is this lythe 20 something preceeding an old fart up the stairwell. Now that WAS awkward. 

[ddddrrrrrr]

For me, it always helps to remember that punting is very much legal. Even if a neighbour does spot you there's not a whole lot they can actually do about it.

[signy]

Yes you never get over the nerves unless you are very lucky. Mind you if you are too relaxed you may not perform as well anyway. Bit of a double edged sword in my opinion. Nerves also tell me this hobby is still exciting.

I agree with this. I think that if I had no nerves before a punt, I would be moving into the "When punting starts to lose its appeal" thread. Nerves mean that I am excited about the experience to come.

[lamboman]

I assume you mean traffic lights lamboman and not at the sp's house/flat light, now that would be off putting 

 

[Joball87]

Although the coloured Red/amber/green light thing can sometimes be interpreted as the countdown to kick out time - on one hand you might want to wear a watch on a punt / look at a clock for pacing reasons - on the other you don't as you realise time is almost out and you haven't completed everything you'd planned that visit = makes nervey people more nervy! OP, just jump into it - nerves are a good feeling and link to the excitement of it all.

[Chazz]

Bright hi vis jacket and clip board!, could be any offical going about his daiily calls;)...

I've often considered turning up for a punt wearing hi viz. Throw in a hard hat and safety boots and you've got a ready made role play, if that floats your boat. (Building fails inspection. Attractive female tenant will do anything to avoid eviction.) 

As long as you stride purposely up to the door as if you own the place, it's unlikely that anyone will notice, let alone give a shit about who you are or what you're doing.

[Will2k]

Nerves are normal, relax, practice makes normal

[SamOmar]

I am planning on meeting an escort next week, she works in a residential street. I am going late afternoon but I am getting nervous about the thought of behind spotted by neighbours. How do you cope?

The most simple answer is also the most obvious and I can't believe it hasn't already been mentioned.. If you are worried about being seen in public but clearly you have no problem actually doing the deed then book her for an outcall. You don't need to calm your nerves, you don't need to smoke some weed , neither do you need to piss your pants due to the nerves.

Nervous about visiting an incall location? Book an outcall
Worrying about shitting on your own doorstep? Go to punt in London or Manchester where no one knows you.

Your welcome!

[Mr Sinister]

I am planning on meeting an escort next week, she works in a residential street. I am going late afternoon but I am getting nervous about the thought of behind spotted by neighbours. How do you cope?

We've all been there, late afternoon in a residential street you'll be fine. Yes you will have the feeling of someone watching you that's perfectly normal too. Of course you may run into the situation of builders doing work across the street and they'll know what you are up to as they have likely visited the WG.

Tip for residential punts -

Late afternoon is fine, day time is always the best punts imo. Just try not to book it during the school run.

When you are at the top of the street call the WG to give you the door number saves you looking lost, the wg should also be at the door by time you get there.

[Slow grinder]

Long time punting and I always approach every 'sit' in the same way, nervously expectant. As this one is in a residential street, just park up and walk to the door as if you live there or had visited many times before. I always turn round and face the street until the door opens.... it's really then that my nerves kick in, which is good because, I think it makes you more aware of what's happening inside the house, which is more important than worrying about outside, as the lads say..no one really cares about what you're up to unless you make yourself look suspicious.

[dfkfan]

A bit of adrenaline was one of the reasons I started back in the day. Haven't been around for the last couple of years, hoping to feel it again now I'm planning to get back on the horse (whores)

[Marmalade]

Don’t forget coming out again. Flies done up? T-shirt on right way round rather than inside-out?

[JAYZ]

I still get nervous 5 or 6 years on. I always seek out a venue I haven't been to before at least an hour before the appointment. This helps ease the nerves. 

[claretheart]

Masks are a real help. Also punt outside of your area if you xan. I once came out of a well known parlor in a city well away from my home and a builder was parked up, he wound down his window and started trying to embarrass me, shouting out that I had been for a shag with a prossie.  It was painful but 2 corners later I was back in my car and 5 mins later I would never see that fella again so what did it matter?

[DrGFreeman]

You should be a bit on edge - punting should be exciting
You are about to have sex with a complete stranger !

I don't think anyone will notice you parking and walking to the front door. What makes someone stand out though is looking lost, especially if your not from that area. Walking up and down a street peering at numbers looks suspicious.
If I have an address I look it up on Google maps so I know which building I'm going to and build up a picture in my head.  Then I can walk confidently directly to the right door.

I do this in hotels too - look up any interior pictures so I know where the lifts are, so I can breeze past reception and even give them a confident smile as I walk direct to the lifts.

[Sibiu]

You should be a bit on edge - punting should be exciting
You are about to have sex with a complete stranger !

I don't think anyone will notice you parking and walking to the front door. What makes someone stand out though is looking lost, especially if your not from that area. Walking up and down a street peering at numbers looks suspicious.
If I have an address I look it up on Google maps so I know which building I'm going to and build up a picture in my head.  Then I can walk confidently directly to the right door.

I do this in hotels too - look up any interior pictures so I know where the lifts are, so I can breeze past reception and even give them a confident smile as I walk direct to the lifts.

And use Google street view

[tigerbiker]

Even after many years of doing it, I get nervous in the hour leading up to the appointment - particularly if it is somewhere I have not been before (one reason why I tend to stick to regulars or at least do plenty of research on here to make sure I'm safe and going to get what I expect).
I definitely have a dose of adrenalin before each appointment. It seems to increase with age and as I have got older, this seems to affect my erection. I can get rock hard at home thinking about punts and wanking but when I get there it can end up soft and semi. I think some SPs probably thought I had ED but I definitely don't.
I don't want to use blue pills. I have found a good approach and solution to my problem is basically have a wank in front of the SP right at the start - this way, I get the perfect stimulation that works for me and get a rock hard cock as we go into the action proper and all my nerves seem to go away. I wonder if the wank and the hormones it releases actually neutralises the adrenaline? I know it seems strange to pay for a fuck and start wanking. It is a bit like kick starting a tricky motorbike, you do all the work to start but suddenly it starts and roars into action!

[bigboy]

I wouldnt try to worry as nerves is normal because all sorts starts running through your mind such as you wonder who will see you. Which in most cases people dont care and if someone see you going in a parlour or WG for incall you probaly wont see them again. Also happen to me on my first time going to a parlour and i walked around a few times while the street was quite waiting for my chance to go in so nobody can see me. Took me a few punts but i overcame it and when i do punt i have confidence going in and out without worrying, hope this helps 

[Colston36]

I agree with this. I think that if I had no nerves before a punt, I would be moving into the "When punting starts to lose its appeal" thread. Nerves mean that I am excited about the experience to come.

I am always nervous. But only in a handful of cases out of hundreds did it stop me having an orgasm.

[Mr Sinister]

. Also happen to me on my first time going to a parlour and i walked around a few times while the street was quite waiting for my chance to go in so nobody can see me.

This was me when I first did the RLD in Amsterdam, going around in circles for 30 minutes waiting for the coast to clear til I saw that no one really cares it's the whole point of the area. Whenever I return now it's always funny watching guys walking aimlessly too scared to walk up to a window.

[Thephoenix]

I was even nervous going into a chemist to buy my first condoms.
Gorgeous young shop assistant.
.....came out with a bottle of lucozade.

[Laudanum]

I was even nervous going into a chemist to buy my first condoms.
Gorgeous young shop assistant.
.....came out with a bottle of lucozade.

I remember being convinced a member of my family was about to walk into the video shop when I plucked up the courage to rent Electric Blue (softcore) in the 1980s, even though they lived in the next town.

[OakTree]

 A few years ago this pastime got out of hand with me. I realised one day as I walked through a hotel to a room number just sent to me that I had no feelings about the oncoming event what so ever. No nerves, feelings of apprehension or excitement. In-fact my mind was on something that had happened at work that day.

I could of just as well been going for a coffee. Unfortunately that state of mind meant I got careless and got caught out in the end by her indoors. That’s another story.

Even today I can’t say I get nervous. The logistics of getting there, parking up, finding the place and not being late weigh far more on my mind than the actual meet. That’s why recently I’ve tried  outcalls when I’m in hotels. That’s the way to go. Far easier.

[SamOmar]

A few years ago this pastime got out of hand with me. I realised one day as I walked through a hotel to a room number just sent to me that I had no feelings about the oncoming event what so ever. No nerves, feelings of apprehension or excitement. In-fact my mind was on something that had happened at work that day.

I could of just as well been going for a coffee. Unfortunately that state of mind meant I got careless and got caught out in the end by her indoors. That’s another story.

Even today I can’t say I get nervous. The logistics of getting there, parking up, finding the place and not being late weigh far more on my mind than the actual meet. That’s why recently I’ve tried  outcalls when I’m in hotels. That’s the way to go. Far easier.

I can relate to this, but being in London and a cheapskate at times I can't be be bothered to pay the outcall surcharge. However most of my most memorable punts have been outcalls where there has been no random thoughts going on in my head or other distractions such as delayed public transport or being made to wait outside whilst the SP gets ready.

[Thephoenix]

Unfortunately the other issue with nerves before a punt is anxiety about performance, ed & inability to climax.
Never bothered me for years, but unfortunately I've reached the stage when it's almost becoming to the norm.
Age, medical conditions and meds all contribute.

[bigboy96]

I find going in no problem, it's the coming out, especially massage parlours, which tend to be on busy streets, that I don't always like. I remember the lights changed as I left a house several years ago, and the driver and his mated saw me, slowed down, and a few comments such as '' We know where you've been, you dirty bastard'' etc were shouted out. Luckily it was on a one way system, so I  had a chance to get away in case they returned.

[Marmalade]

1.get one’s ‘act’ together — what if you bump into someone you know?  Well you are just enquiring for a friend, he’s in a wheelchair, poor lad, says he doesn’t get sex, and you figure one of these ladies might be able to help him out. What a virtuous chap you are! 

2. A little bit of nerves meeting the prossie is good, let’s you both sense the vibe on meeting, put each other at ease, and adds to the excitement.   

3. Peer round the door for making an exit while it’s quite outside. If you bump into someone you got the wrong door, though it was a legit massage or some such, stiff upper lip don’t you know!   

4. Nervous about reviewing on here? Get to fuck. Take a couple days and your Xanax till the fingers stop shaking and tell it like it is.   

[Asmodeus]

I still get nervous 5 or 6 years on. I always seek out a venue I haven't been to before at least an hour before the appointment. This helps ease the nerves.

I've been punting for coming up to 30 years now and I still get the nerves!

The difference is, I've come to love that feeling now... knowing I'm doing something a bit risque, I could get caught by my SO, meeting a complete stranger and more or less knowing that 100% of the time I'm going to be balls deep in them shortly...

So many good comments and suggestions to your post, I have very little to add... However, here is my little checklist I go through when arranging a meet. Apologies for any duplication of previous suggestions etc.

1) Do your due diligence... are they legitimate? Any good reviews of WG/escort here? UKPunting has been an invaluable tool in that respect.

2) Unless you are specifically looking for underage or trafficked WG (and if you are, fuck you! You deserve to be arrested), then you're not doing anything illegal arranging and paying for sex!. I know there is a grey area of still being potentially prosecuted even if you innocently did not know a prossie was being trafficked. But don't put yourself in that position in the first place.

3) Fire up the ole punting phone, call/message WG (first of the nerves kicking in for me!)... How do they sound? Do they reply straight away etc.

4) Once you've secured an address or postcode, go straight to Google Streetview, to check out the location and for places to park well away from punting venue.

5) Shit, piss and shower and then you're off to drain your sack and wallet! For me, the nerves are now really kicking in, but I enjoy the sensation. It makes me feel alive... I remember point 2, and I remind myself of another couple of points that calm me down a bit and make me enjoy the nerves as opposed to worrying about them:

• Worrying about what strangers will think? Well in reality, no one really gives a fuck about you! They are too caught up in their own lives. You're nothing special.
• Enjoy the reason you're doing it. If you are guilt-tripping yourself constantly, then maybe this isn't the life for you... I've come to accept I love fucking WG, it's part of who I am, and I will do it to the day I die or my bits stop working!

6) Get to your pre-worked out parking destination and final call to WG to get the full address. Again a quick check on Google Streetview to know which door you're going to be knocking on.

7) Walk up to the door, like you know where you are going and that you've been there hundreds of times before. Keep your head up, and avoid looking around nervously! Behave as you belong there. But most importantly remember to enjoy what will be happening next... 😉

Many times I've come out of a place and someone gives me a knowing smile. It used to bother me, but now I don't give a fuck. Someone will always have an opinion of you. Can't change that from happening, and it always will happen. I just turn my head and ignore them or will smile back.

[victor989]

Without the nerves, punting wouldn't be much fun for me.