Not a bad question. I don't see this exactly in the 'new to punting' part of the wiki that tesla kindly posted.
The answer is
-never use your real name on aw (nor your UKP name)
-don't believe everything that they say on AW. You were right to check here (or the Puntingwiki)
-For hotel meets, it varies between incall and outcall. For an incall (her hotel) she needs to tell you how to get to her room. Sometimes you can go right up. Sometimes she needs to meet you in reception.
-For outcall (your hotel) it is your 'duty' to create the plan. I mostly book the room in my own name. But I have never needed to give this to an escort. Nor will I. I'd rather abandon the plan. Like for an outcall, once in the hotel you should know if in fact she can just come up to the room or not. Again, meeting in lobby is fairly common. (One time, I had to meet her in waterloo. Insane, but was sort of fun. Had a nice sexy chat -off the clock- as we walked 15 minutes to my hotel. I reviewed her but left out this detail since I didn't want her to know me. Good times.)