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[Tommy123]

Being a bit new to this punting lark I have tried both fbsm and fs.  Like both and tend to go back to the good ones, four in total after trying quite a few, most of which are poor. The problem is, if I  am not careful,  I am starting to get too friendly with them. How do you hardened guys keep yourself distanced. I realise you pay  you play, you go away , and a lot of you don't see the same girls twice, but for those who see regulars ,how do you keep it business only. I am also aware that as I am walking away with a smile on my face some other bloke is shagging the same girl.

[sanjman]

Nothing wrong with being friendly.  Being a decent person helps with rapport and getting a good experience.

Just don’t share too much or any personal information.  Lie or keep it vague

Don’t ask too much about their personal lives, unless to deflect a question or talk about something neutral. E.g. tv, music, films etc

Book shorter times If your spending long bookings chit chatting while you recharge

Don’t talk or text outside of arranging a booking.  No need to ask or tell them how your weekend has been.

[Tommy123]

Yep, I  am starting to do all of the things you say don't do !!!!!
Point taken

[The Owl]

It pays to shag different escorts rather than sticking to one regular if you find yourself crossing or imagining that your crossing the punter/prostitute boundary in to something more personal. A good hard shag and a bit of a laugh with another woman you pay to fuck is a good antidote to complicated feelings.

Remember that men who punt do so because they're missing something in their private lives. Sometimes it's easy sex and variety but there are those who also miss the company and connection of another human being who just happens to suck and fuck them. If it's the later then punting can get complicated if you can't separate a fantasy paid service from a genuine connection that is personal to you.

[thimble29]

Yeah nothing wrong with being friendly just don't let your guard down. Being friendly has the potential to get you extras, discounts, flexibility, better service.
There's a definite skill to being friendly without lying or revealing too much though.

[alabama1]

Yeah nothing wrong with being friendly just don't let your guard down. Being friendly has the potential to get you extras, discounts, flexibility, better service.
There's a definite skill to being friendly without lying or revealing too much though.

Really ? I consider myself friendly , but not got any extras in 4 years of punting, and neither did i expect any.

[goodtime42]

Being friendly definitely helps. I have had discounts and extras with every regular I have seen. But you are right about personal info and during chit chat it is too easy to say too much.

[alibirmingham]

As others have already said friendly is fine. Anything more then that is risky more for you then them.

A post recently shone a light on the situation and the punter suffered EAS and got taken for a ride to the tune of thousands (or so he claimed as it was never verified)

The other side is too much personal info and you could easily be blackmailed if you have a partner, family, job etc.

[petermisc]

My motto in life has always been to treat others as I would hope to be treated, and apply that to WGs as anyone else.  Make it obvious to a WG that you couldn't care less about her and you are likely to be treated the same in return.

This was brought home to me early on in my punting career when an outcall girl admitted that she felt uncomfortable with clients who wanted to get straight into the action without any kind of buildup. For the price of a cup of tea and a chat, I had a very passionate session that went long over time, that I very much doubt I would have had if I had insisted we get straight into it.

Over my punting career, I have had many extras, such as being offered services for free that would usually be charged for, extended unpaid time, had meals cooked for me, even free overnighters.  Of course, there are those who will say that there is no point in being friendly because being friendly doesn't guarantee you any extras.  That is probably true if you are only interested in a pump and dump.  And they are right that there is no guarantee. However, the opposite is surely true, if you are not friendly then you are guaranteed not to get anything extra. I also suspect that if you are only being friendly in the hope of getting something extra that you will be seen through.

There is no reason why a WG can't be a friend, anymore than you can be friends with anyone else you meet.  But the important point to remember is that if she is charging you to see her, then you are client first and friend second.  And be especially wary of those WGs who would seek to exploit your friendship.  I don't ask for anything in return for my friendship, and I don't expect to be asked for anything in return.

[vindici]

My motto in life has always been to treat others as I would hope to be treated, and apply that to WGs as anyone else.  Make it obvious to a WG that you couldn't care less about her and you are likely to be treated the same in return.

This was brought home to me early on in my punting career when an outcall girl admitted that she felt uncomfortable with clients who wanted to get straight into the action without any kind of buildup. For the price of a cup of tea and a chat, I had a very passionate session that went long over time, that I very much doubt I would have had if I had insisted we get straight into it.

Over my punting career, I have had many extras, such as being offered services for free that would usually be charged for, extended unpaid time, had meals cooked for me, even free overnighters.  Of course, there are those who will say that there is no point in being friendly because being friendly doesn't guarantee you any extras.  That is probably true if you are only interested in a pump and dump.  And they are right that there is no guarantee. However, the opposite is surely true, if you are not friendly then you are guaranteed not to get anything extra. I also suspect that if you are only being friendly in the hope of getting something extra that you will be seen through.

There is no reason why a WG can't be a friend, anymore than you can be friends with anyone else you meet.  But the important point to remember is that if she is charging you to see her, then you are client first and friend second.  And be especially wary of those WGs who would seek to exploit your friendship.  I don't ask for anything in return for my friendship, and I don't expect to be asked for anything in return.

Could not agree more.

I've enjoyed many unpaid extras over the years, kindness and decency, without the expectation of a quid pro quo, pays unlimited dividends. Some WGs have mistaken my kindness for weakness, but they learned pretty quickly the actual extent of our "relationship".

I need to keep a certain distance from WGs in order to maintain my attraction, once we become "friends" my carnal interest wanes. Maintaining this balance, while treating each other with mutual respect has been the key to some of my best regular meets.

[Tommy123]

Thanks everyone for your replies.
I like the " treat as you would expect to be treated " idea. ( petermisc and vindici ) That means, to me, being friendly and respectful, which I think I am. Not sure if I get any better treatment than anyone else, but what I get from my four favourites is good anyway.
Just need to alter my mindset a bit to keep that little bit of distance, whilst staying friendly... and having a laugh and a good time.

[JontyR]

At the end of the day Tommy it's about protecting yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.

Some guys protect themselves by detatching themselves completely from the intimacy and move it purely to a biological function. If this works for them, then great. Personally I like to have some semblance of a connection, even if it is all in my own mind, to get the most out of it.

The other thing you may want to consider is the amount of time between punting the same woman if you feel you are getting too close.

You may want a punting persona, but for god sake keep it boring. She may want to get her hooks into an F1 Driver a darn site more than a bloke who drives a van.